Deal with a jealous girlfriend
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A small amount of jealousy can add a little fire to a relationship. It strengthens bonds, helps boost communication, serves as a reminder of the physical appeal of your significant other and acts as a motivator for self improvement. That's a small amount. When you are involved with a woman who is extremely jealous, the entire relationship might go up in flames. There are obvious signs when someone is overly jealous. She'll check in on you too often. She'll text you too often. She'll check your Facebook page way too often. She'll call you too often, and if she hears a female voice in the background, she will question you - nay - interrogate you. "Who is she? What are you doing with her? What are you up to?" She is constantly questioning you about any and every woman in your life. Friend, co-worker, student, even your best friend's girlfriend. This girl wants to do everything with you. She doesn't trust you. Basically, she doesn't feel safe when you are out of her sight. Jealousy reveals a person who is insecure. She is afraid. Afraid you will leave her, afraid she isn't good enough for you, afraid you might like another woman better than her. Perhaps you don't tell her enough how important she is, and how much you care for her. Perhaps her fear is more of a projection, and she's actually worried another woman might be capable of doing what she has capable of doing in the past - poaching another woman's man. The worst thing about being untrustworthy, is you never really trust anyone else. There are a few things you can do to deal with your girlfriend's jealousy-fueled behavior. There are things you can do to put her fears to rest. Then again, if she continuously exhibits these annoying traits, even after you've done everything you can, it might be time to reconsider the relationship.
What Not to Do When Dealing with a Jealous Girlfriend
- 1Stop looking at other women when she's around.
- 2Questioning her mental health is only going to make her more angry and upset. Even if you didn't do anything wrong, refrain from calling her crazy, nuts, psycho - or anything like that.Do not, under any circumstances, call her crazy.
- 3Don't be secretive.
- 4Even if you're friends and she's a really awesome person, your current girlfriend won't appreciate it in the least, and she probably won't understand why you're not just dating your ex instead.Stop hanging out with or talking about your ex.
- 5Don't neglect your girlfriend.
- 6If you're out having a good time with your friends, don't send her a message telling her you're having a terrible time and you wish you were with her (unless it's true). She's unlikely to believe it, and more likely to think you're just trying to hide something.Don't make excuses.
- 8Even suggesting something as seemingly minor as changing her hair color can have unintended consequences. This is likely to make her feel insecure. She'll think you wished she looked like someone else, or that she's not good enough the way she is.Don't suggest that she change her appearance.
How to Deal with a Jealous Girlfriend
- 2While it might feel more natural to close up when she's demonstrating jealous behavior, that's the wrong move. Avoid being secretive as much as possible. Accept her feelings and discuss them with her, without losing your temper. This will help ease her fears and avoid other problems in the future.Be more open with her.
- 3Let your girlfriend know you're thinking about her when you're apart.
- 4Discussing future plans such as vacations or goals will make her feel more comfortable about her place in your future.Include your girlfriend when talking about future plans.
- 5Avoid behavior that brings out her jealousy.
Questions and Answers
I got a ride home from a coworker and my girlfriend has been acting crazy ever since. Did I do something wrong?
I work in a place where I'm the only male clerk, I sometimes get rides home from two specific coworkers or the security guard that works with me. I recently got a ride home from a coworker that may have a crush on me, but I'm just not the cheating type. My fianceé asked about the ride and her head has been spinning off and on ever since. What did I do wrong here? Help me understand what I did.
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