Avoid Awkward Conversations Without Being Mean

Edited by Angelique Siapian, Eng, Lynn


A-W-K-W-A-R-D! I'm quite sure a lot of people do their best to avoid this feeling. I, for one, would want to erase the word from my daily vocabulary, BUT it's there, it's EVERYWHERE. Have you ever been in a conversation that is clouded with AWKWARDNESS? Pretty messy, right? Good thing we can usually avoid it without being mean. The following steps will guide you to avoiding this kind of conversations. What better way than to have these A-W-K-W-A-R-D steps to avoid awkward?


  1. 1
    Make sure you AGREE
    The first thing you have to consider is how to appear interested in the conversation. To avoid it being awkward, you have to make sure that the other party doesn't feel that you are against his or her idea. Of course not everyone agrees to something, but at least think first before you speak. Besides, the last thing you want is to project a bad omen to people you are not comfortable with. The reason behind this step is to avoid another awkward conversation with the same person. Have a friendly tone that makes the conversation agreeable.
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  2. 2
    Have your WAY
    Make a way to direct a conversation's topic to something that feels like home; something that you are familiar with and something that the other party can relate to. Build a common ground so you will feel confident to answer and ask questions. Even if you have it your way, you still have to agree, or appear to agree, with the person you are having a conversation with, so that you will still have a pleasant talk.
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  3. 3
    Be KNOWLEDGEABLE, if needed
    First impressions last, right? So try analyzing the person you are speaking with (if it's the first time you have talked to that person). Is the person talkative? If yes, in what way? Is it in a knowledgeable way or just a gossiping way? If you think the person you are talking to is smart, try talking in a witty way. If it's in a gossip way, try just smiling or nodding because talking behind anybody's back will bring you trouble. You don't want to collect frenemies this way.
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    Make it WORK
    Be consistent with the topic you brought up, make it work. Don't just drop the topic when you feel that it's not going anywhere. That's rude. Remember, you have to consider the other party's feelings. If the conversation still works for the person you are talking to, at least make it worth both your time. Trust your instincts. Say what you want to say without acting cocky or insensitive.
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    ABSENCE doesn't make it better
    Focus. Don't let your mind go somewhere else. You are talking to someone, not dancing in some alternate universe. Being physically present is not enough. Absence hurts. Focus on who you are talking to and how the conversation turns out. It's all in your hands. You don't want the other person thinking that he or she is not interesting. Remember, avoiding frenemies is the goal.
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    RECAP details
    Back when you were in school, teachers would probably ask you to repeat (in your own words) the things that you were trying to tackle before you snoozed off to dreamland, so you could remember them if you listened. That's actually a good way to know if you are interested or not. Recap the things or words that came out of the-one-you-are-talking-to's mouth; that way he or she will know if you listened or not.
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    Stop DAYDREAMING and be real
    This step is actually for those who really can't withstand the idea of working through an awkward conversation. Try being real. Tell the person that you are not interested talking with him or her, but make it subtle. Say it nicely. They say truth hurts but often, FAKING INTEREST hurts more.
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  • Why not start the conversation lightly, by saying something like "Good weather," "Nice dress," or a simple "How have you been?" Then take it from there.
  • Gender counts. If you are talking to a female, be more sensitive. As stereotypical as this may sound, many females are easily withdrawn from a conversation if it's too impulsive. Keep this in mind. Also, females want to be complimented. Ask her beauty secrets or the brand of her awesome clothing. That will make her comfortable. If you are talking to a male, have a good laugh, joke around. Males aren't easily taken aback. They love talking about sports and light jokes.
  • Age counts. Of course, you don't want to talk about your problems to a child, nor talk about your cute doll collections to an old woman. You need to be sensitive about the topic you're about to discuss in regards to the other party's age. If the person you are talking to is a child, try asking about video games. If it's a teenager, well, just don't talk about school, as it might bore them (half-truth). If it's a middle age person, try talking about life and family. If you are talking to an old person, try asking about their family and how fortunate they are for having them.
  • Be a real friend. Learn to trust a person so that you'll never have to engage in an awkward conversation.


  • If you are a woman talking to a man, being flirty is okay but know your limitations if you are not into him. Don't make him think that you are an easy girl.
  • If you are a man talking to a woman, don't give her too many compliments for her looks. She might take it the wrong way. You don't want to break her heart. Be a gentleman without leading her on.
  • Listen carefully to the person's tone. You might want to know if what the person's saying is sarcastic. You don't want to be that person's laughingstock.
  • Don't be sarcastic. Always talk pleasantly so that you won't be labeled as being rude.
  • Don't be too smarty-pants. You don't need to show the person that he or she is way out of your league. Learn to give factlets without ridiculing the person's intelligence.

If you have problems with any of the steps in this article, please ask a question for more help, or post in the comments section below.


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Categories : Relationships

Recent edits by: Eng, Angelique Siapian

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