Write 50 SMS for Flirting with Her

Edited by Donna, Eng, Maria Quinney

50 Flirty Text Messages to Send Her

Keep her engaged with you by sending flirtatious SMS.

Flirting is essential if you want to keep the woman you are interested in, interested in you. As you can't always see each other in person, you can keep the romance alive by sending her flirtatious texts throughout the day. Whether she is someone you are trying to meet, have dated a few times or are actually in a relationship with, here are 50 ideas for flirtatious text messages with your girl that you can use right now. Note that these loving, funny and romantic messages are not written in SMS short form as many women see that as being a disrespectful form that is written by a guy on the fly. If you do not want to be seen as a player, or like you take your long-term relationship for granted, then write your texts out in full, with proper grammar and punctuation.

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    If she is in the same room and you have yet to meet, you can try texting, "Hi there, I am suffering from separation anxiety, even though we have never met
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    Can we chat?"
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    "You're so cute, you could make a litter newborn kittens jealous!" This is ideal to use on a woman you have not met yet because the metaphor is less sexual
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    Kittens are a neutral, common reference.
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    "Honey, what are we doing today?" There are very few women who can resist the implicit sweetness of this text, which begs an answer from her, and puts the ball in her court
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    This works for building kindness and familiarity even if she is not your honey.
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    Ask her a very straight, romantic SMS question
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    "I wonder if you feel about me, the way I feel about you." This direct confession of attraction will usually elicit an equally forthright response.
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    Pretend that you saw her even if you didn't
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    Simply type "Sorry I didn't say hi when I saw you on the street earlier today." When she tells you that you don't know what you are talking about say, "Well, can I make it up to you anyway by taking you out for a bite to eat?"
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    "Every woman in here wants me
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    Wants me to (fill in the blank with your job description as in) "give them a mortgage at 11%!" or "serve them a grand latte now!") Whatever you write as the punch, line follow it up with an exclamation point and an icon. This is one flirtatious SMS that you do not want to split up into two lines, because if she only sees the first line, she might get too turned off to read the punch line.
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    "Guess who's coming to dinner later
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    That's right, it's you!" If she cannot make it, this is your cue to set another date for a meeting or for some quality time together.
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    "I want you to come with me tonight to (name the event), because there is someone I want you to get to know ..
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    me!" This one is good if you do not know her very well or if you have had a mild disagreement with a woman when you first met her. Just make sure that the event you are promising to take her is classy, well worth her time and that it also represents a great side of you.
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    "Should I call you a cab or come get you myself?" At first she will get this and be a bit confused, but undoubtedly she will be eventually compelled to ask "Why?" or "Where to?" This is your cue to tell her about her fabulous destination, such as
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    "To that Five Star restaurant and then to a Broadway show."
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    Send her a message straight from the heart such as "I would love to see you again, but I would be glad every day for the rest of my life just because I met you that once." This is an intensely, candid and romantic statement that most women fall hard for.
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    Try texting her in a foreign language, such as "Bonjour" and then let her text you back
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    She might say "Tres Bien back." Then you text, "If this is going to work then I think you and I are going to have to switch to texting in English." This will probably make her laugh. If you do not get a response in French, then try another language or two, and see if you get a response as in "Bonjour", "Che Faci" and "Aloha." The effect of the three texts in a foreign language will be humorous when she sees them on her cell phone.
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    Send her a short mysterious text "Can I help you?" If she sends you a question mark or LOL, then ask again
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    Then text, "Are you sure I can't help you." When she says no, simply go, "Good because I don't work here!" This should make her laugh.
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    "I know what you're thinking
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    He must have fallen hard for me. And you're right!" This lets the cat out of the bag with regards to how you feel about her and gives her a chance to text you back with a feeling of her own.
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    Compare her to a well-known beautiful celebrity, only better, as in "Did you know you look like Julia Roberts
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    Only better?" Women do like to be told that they could be mistaken for one o the most beautiful women in the world.
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    Fake an accidental miss post with a comment like, "I just met the greatest woman in the world and I think I am in love
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    Her name is (her name.)" Then wait a minute and type "OOPS! Mispost!" followed by a blushing icon. Then explain you were texting a friend and got her accidentally.
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    Simply text her the word "Taxi!" When she asks you what that's about, tell her "I'm calling you a taxi so you can come right over because I made you dinner
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    What's your address?" This works great with a woman you haven't known for long, but want to ask over to your home for a date.
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    Refer her to something you talked about last night
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    An example would be,"I can't stop thinking about what you told me last night. Today I was thinking...(and have an opinion.) This will please her because it shows that you listen to her and want to help her out.
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    "Do you believe in past lives
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    Because I think we have met before..." Most women are intrigued by a male who might possibly believe in the concept of soul mates who were together in a past life.
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    Play a little game with her by offering options with only pleasant outcomes
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    "Strawberries with whipped cream or Coconut Crème Brulee? Which one." Ask her to choose and then take her out for the one she chooses.
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    Contact her with a question , that seems totally out of the blue, as if you are taking a poll
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    An example would be, "So sunset person or sunrise person? Which are you?" This is a way to flirt and also open up a conversation.
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    Text "I bet I know what you're thinking." Then, answer it yourself with, "Boy, this guy must like me
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    And you're so right!"
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    To make her laugh, text "Keep calm and text (her name.)" If she likes you, she will most certainly laugh because she will identify with the sense of sexual tension that has been created.
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    Appeal to her love of shopping
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    Text "I saw a dress at a mall that reminded me of you today." Inevitably, this will open up some sort of conversation.
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    "I had a dream last night that you and I were walking hand in hand on a sandy beach beneath the stars with the sound of the waves and then..." When she responds with a question or icon, then send her a heart icon or text, "I will tell you later when ...(fill in the blank.)
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    "I miss you already, and you just left!" This is ideal to send her just minutes after she leaves after you meet or after a date
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    This line works because many men take the harder take of "How can I miss you if you don't leave?"
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    Text her own name followed by a period and nothing else
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    When she responds to ask you what's up, text, "Oh nothing." Then add a smiley face or a heart.
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    Text her the time that you met
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    Simply message "3:33." When she asks what you are doing, tell her "I looked at the clock the minute we met, and I promised myself I would kiss you or send a text message at that time every day for as long as I ever know you."
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    For a late night call, try, "Hi sexy
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    What am I wearing?" This should make her laugh because it is a twist on the old-fashioned "What are you wearing?" that women usually get.
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    Make her laugh by texting,"What are you wearing right now
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    I'm wearing spaghetti sauce I spilled on my shirt." Twisting around familiar pick up lines so that they are less sexist and more modern, will help her be attracted to you.
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    If she has just left you, you can text, "Alas, parting is such sweet sorrow
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    See you tomorrow?" This is the kind of flirty SMS that can help y set up a second or third date.
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    "I'll see you later
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    You supply the brains and the beauty and I'll supply the dinner and wine." This one works well whether you have actually made a date with her or not.
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    "Roses are red, violets or blue, only two more sleeps until I get to see you." This one works best if you have already made a date with her, or if you have been separated by a trip or distance
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    Of course, you supply the right number of sleeps that you have to have before you see her in the statement.
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    "Can you remember the name song that was playing when we met last night
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    Because I can't get you or that song out of my head!" This is good if the two of you truly did just meet last night.
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    "I thought about you all night and I am still thinking about you this morning
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    I can hardly wait to see you tonight." This works better if you have gone out on a few dates with her or had a passionate first encounter and want to see her again. It is also a very romantic SMS to text your wife.
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    To make her laugh, start typing out a shopping list, "eggs, milk, cheese, bread ..." She will likely send you a question mark or laughing icon
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    Then you go "Oops! How are you?"
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    "You know what I love about you
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    You're sexy and you don't even have to try." This is the kind of compliment that most women treasure, because it seems effortless.
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    "You are one in a million, and you make me feel like a million bucks." This general SMS text works because it compliments her while at the same time pointing to how she makes you feel.
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    "I bet when you walk by, rose bushes just spontaneously bloom." When you use magical imagery, it makes her feel sexy and powerful.
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    "Did the construction workers give you trouble this morning
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    I can't blame them, you're so hot!" This appeals to her vanity and the idea that all women are secretly flattered when construction workers stare at them on the street.
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    "You know what I love about you
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    You always know what to say. Unlike me!" This should make her laugh, because texts usually contain more content than this.
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    "I will supply the wine and takeout as long as you answer the door wearing nothing but (insert a fantasy here.) This one works best for someone that you already have had a sexual relationship for a while
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    Send her a text that simply says, "No words." When she sends you a question mark back, reply, "For your beauty."
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    For a long-term wife or girlfriend, you can try sending, "Love requires some sacrifice, so tonight you can have the TV remote all to yourself." This should make her laugh.
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    If she is standing in the same room as you, you can message "You look so sweet standing over there." This is more of an SMS that is in the relationship maintenance category
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    When she checks her phone, she will more than likely turn, look your way and then smile.
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    If she is standing in the same room, you can SMS "Hark, is that the sweet dulcet tones of my true love I hear from across the room." This will also make her turn and acknowledge you
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    This message is also more suitable for a partner you have been with a while.
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    If you are in the same room with her, you can text, "I can smell your sweet perfume from here." This works best with long-term relationships or if you have already been on a few dates together, as it is more personal.
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    If you are in the same room, you can text her, "Whenever I see you, my heart skips a beat
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    Every new day is the same as when we first met." This works whether or not you have known her just a day or two or for fifty years and as far as flirtatious texts go, it is also very endearing and sincere.
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    If you are in the same room, try "Congratulations, you have just been voted the most beautiful woman in this room." This one works on both brand new and long-term relationships.
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    "I love you more than yesterday." This is a very simple flirtatious remark, that expresses real admiration and a bit of commitment that works because, the recipient of the compliment feels so flattered
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    If you want to seduce a woman, try sending her this later at night.
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    There is still so much to explore
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    I hope this message from my heart is hard to ignore." This is a little rhyme you can send if you get the feeling that she might be drifting away from you somehow or if she is not returning texts.
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Tips and Tricks

Make sure your texts to her are engaging and don't bore her.

  • Before you flirt with anybody by SMS, make sure you have the right number!
  • Note that in the end, you can use old school SMS style text to contact her, as in "r you free?", but given the sophistication of today's keyboards, there is no reason to do this
  • Try not to be corny or use stale lines or she will be bored by you and delete you from her contact list
  • If she does not want you to text her during certain times of the day, for example, when she is working, then don't do it
  • If she asks you to stop sending her flirty SMS, then just do as she asks as this request rarely represents an effort to play hard to get
  • Some women find flirting using texts to be immature and the mark of a player, so if you are serious about courting her take her out on a date and flirt with her in person (unless you are separated by distance
  • Many women, especially older ones, see texting as being a bit too easy and somewhat disrespectful, and if you really want to get her attention, give her a phone call

If you have problems with any of the steps in this article, please ask a question for more help, or post in the comments section below.

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