Tell if a Shy Guy Likes You
Edited by Bobby-Jo Keats, Eng, Rajarajan, Nuance and 14 others
- 1 How to Tell if a Shy Guy Likes You
- 2 By His Body Language
- 3 Through Text Messaging
- 4 In High School
- 5 Questions and Answers
- 5.1 I'm confused, could you help me with a shy guy?
- 5.2 A man who stares but doesn't approach. He is single. How to make a move without sounding desperate? He is a doctor, but I don't know more about him. How to break the ice?
- 5.3 Is he interested or not? Is what I'm working on a lost cause?
- 5.4 Does he like me, or is he just scared of me? He's not a shy guy, but when he's with me, he's really quiet?
- 5.5 Is my crush shy or rude? He ignored me so does that mean he is not interested in me?
- 5.6 Does he like me or is he shy or does he not like me?
- 5.7 He dosesn't reply, I asked him to help me in entrance exam which he has already given and scored well?
- 5.8 Quiet guy likes me or what...gives off mixed messages ( detail below)?
- 5.9 We text each other a lot.but not talked.he stares at me a lot.my best friend noticed him talking to his friend about me in a good way.I am getting mixed signals from him.is he into me?
- 5.10 I don't really know if he likes me. I have some proofs but I still don't know if I should believe them or not. I'm not good at things like this?
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How to Tell if a Shy Guy Likes You
Shy guys can be difficult to figure out. They may keep to themselves, hang out with only the friends they feel comfortable with or just get nervous around girls. However, they are often nice guys who are true gems. All too often girls miss out on the opportunity to date a shy guy because they are unsure about his feelings or just give up trying to figure out his subtle signals altogether. Here are some tips to help you figure out if this shy guy likes you, and what cues you should be looking out for.
- 1"I like your haircut" or "You did a really good job on that project. The way he responds is a great way to find out if he likes you. If he replies rudely or ignores you, he probably isn't interested. If he reacts positively or even gets nervous, it could be a sign he is interested.compliment him, pay him a compliment.:It can be something simple such as
- 2Make eye contact and smile.Try looking his way until he notices and flashes him a smile. He may smile back or gaze at you until you notice him and then look away. If he smiles back or looks your way after seeing you smile at him, he just might like you. Try watching him you're your peripheral vision to see if he is looking your way.
- 3Be patient.Just because you are fishing for signals doesn't mean you will notice them right away. Be patient because shy guys sometimes have low self-esteem or are very self-conscious. So, if you don't get signals from him right away, keep trying or try something different.
- 4Listen to the way he talks to you.Pay attention to his tone and choice of words or topics. Does he speak to you in a kind manner? Does he ask questions about you or your day or things you like? If so he may have a genuine interest in you. Does he remember things about you or get very quiet when you are near him. All of this may help you find out if he likes you. Try asking him a question and see if he gives you a one-word answer and is quick to dismiss you or if he engages in conversation with you.
- 5Compare his behavior with others to his behavior with you.Notice if he acts differently around you than his other female friends. Does he get silent, nervous or does his face light up, or turn red when he sees you? If he is quick to hold a door for you or be close to you, but not others, it may indicate he likes you. #See if he tries to hang out with your friends If he is trying to get to know you better but is too shy to be direct, he might choose to try and make friends with people in your circle. Shy guys do not like to be direct and avoid being put on the spot. He may try being friendly your friends so that he can get closer to you indirectly.
- 6Ask him to do you a favor.If a shy guy likes you he is probably looking for a reason to be around you but he may unable to step out of his comfort zone enough to create an opportunity. Try asking him to do you a favor or help you with something. If he likes you, he will be happy to perform the task and might even start trying to be helpful in the future without being asked. #His friends tease him when you're around. Guys will usually tease each other when their crush is around. It could be with inside jokes, subtle comments or behavior. They may even make excuses to leave you guys alone to talk. This is a good sign he likes you.
- 7Try to talk to him online.Shy guys are usually more open to communicating online or via text than in person. He may feel more comfortable flirting and showing his feelings without the fear of face-to-face rejection. Try sending him a Facebook friend request or try chatting with him online. If he accepts or responds to your messages, he might be more open to sharing his feelings with you.
- 8He does random things for you.Focus on the little things that he does. Shy guys often make small romantic gestures if they like you rather than extravagant ones. Try and notice when he remembers something meaningful to you or always offers to help you when you need something. He may even give you small tokens of affection if he genuinely likes you.
By His Body Language
Reading body language is a fundamental way of discovering if someone is interested in you, especially when it comes to shy guys. Without even realizing it, their body might be telling you things they won't - giving you signs that you just have to look a little closer at to decipher.
- 1If he is always fidgeting, sweating or cracking his knuckles when you are near him, he might be interested in you but feel too intimidated to say something.He gets nervous when you're around.
- 2He avoids eye contact.If a shy guy likes you he may lack the confidence to make direct eye contact with you or when he does so, it may be very brief. If you notice him staring at the floor while you talk or looking at an object or in a different direction rather than your eyes, it doesn't mean he's not interested. Rather, he probably really likes you and is just too nervous to lock eyes with you. You can smile to try and make him feel more comfortable making eye contact.
- 3It's a good sign a shy guy is interested in you when you notice him blushing around you. It may be when you speak to him, when you come into close proximity, especially if you gently caress his shoulder walking by. Regardless, pay attention to those rosy cheeks, and you might have a clue if he's into you.He blushes around you.
- 4He always tries to look good when you're around.This is a sign he might be interested in you but being around you makes him feel self-conscious. Does he seem compelled to look good around you? Does he fix his hair, touch his face or brush his clothing when you're around? He might be trying to impress you.
- 5If a shy guy likes you, but he gets nervous around you, it may show in his speech, and he may stammer or slur his speech when you're around. If he often gets tongue-tied during your conversations, this may be a sign that he's interested in you.His speech changes around you.
- 6He may sit the way you sit, stand when you stand or lean towards you when you lean towards him. Imitating your behavior is a good sign that he's interested in you and what you have to say.He imitates your behavior If he is mirroring your behavior, it means he is really paying attention to you.
- 7His feet are always pointing at you.If his feet are constantly pointing towards you when you're around, it may mean he likes you. Pay close attention to where his feet are pointed when he sits or stands. Also, you can look at whether or not his head faces you and not the rest of his body when you're around.
- 8The first sign that someone is not interested in you is they fold their arms when you speak to them. If his arms are always open when you talk it means that he is open to receiving information from you and is comfortable talking to you. This might mean he likes more than just what you are saying.His arms are open when you talk to him.
- 9He stares at you.If a shy guy is gazing into your eyes or watches you from across the room, it is a good sign he likes you. He may stare at you as you enter or leave a room, or stare deeply into your eyes when you are speaking. A person's eyes can tell a lot, and if he is always staring at you, he might be telling you that he's interested. He's always smiling at you
Some guys just smile a lot, but if a shy guy likes you, you will notice his constant smile gives it away. He might smile at you directly or indirectly. He may smile when you are talking or smile whenever you enter a room. Either way, if he's always smiling at you, he probably likes you a lot.
Through Text Messaging
Rather than communicating directly, shy guys are usually more comfortable communicating via text message. They find it less intimidating than talking in person. The following describes ways you can tell if a shy guy likes you through texting.
- 1He will text you but will not talk to you in person.If he likes you, he may just feel intimidated when speaking to you in person. He might be afraid and a little awkward, or mix up his words or feel on the spot if he does. Watch for if he seems perfectly comfortable texting you or even flirting over text even though he doesn't approach you or acts weird in person.
In High School
High School can be difficult enough without having to guess if the shy guy you have a crush on, likes you back. Here are some ways you can tell if he's into you.
- 1His body language.When you enter a room or a conversation with him, how does he react? Watching to see if he acts nervously or fidgets, whether his speech changes or the which direction his eyes, head or feet and facing all give clues as to whether or not he's interested. If he gets anxious around you or his body language shows his interested in you and what you say then he might be interested.
- 2Pairing up with you.It might be for a school project or a group exercise, but if you find that he is always trying to find a way you pair up with you or be on your team, he might like you and be too shy to tell you.
- 3His eye contact.If he stares at you in the classroom or on breaks he might be interested in you. Does he look at you until you notice and then quickly look away? Or does he gaze at you but not talk to you. All these may point to him liking you.
- 4He's sensitive to your feelings.If every time you have a bad day you can count on him to try and cheer you up and talk to you about the problem, he might really like you. Perhaps he is taking the opportunity to try and show you that he can be supportive and kind.
- 5He treats you differently than the other girls he knows.Is he quick to help you with an assignment but not his other female friends? Does he treat you as if you're special or share something of his with only you? If he likes you, he may give you special treatment, and it's up to you to notice.
- 6He finds ways to casually touch you.If he likes you but is too shy to tell you, he might casually find a way to be close to you and even make physical contact. He may gently touch your arm when he walks past you, caress your hand while exchanging notes or a pen or he might sit very close to you. These are all good signs that he likes you.
- 7He most likely is into you if he ignores all his other pals when you're around. Shy guys are usually most comfortable with their close friends or in certain groups, and they like to stay in their comfort zone. However, if he is constantly paying attention to you and not them, or what you say over what they want to talk about, he might really like you.He ignores his other friends when you're around.
- 8He takes up the same hobbies as you.Whether it's joining a band or playing a popular video game, if he's taking up things you like and talking about it frequently, he is probably looking for a way to connect with you through something you enjoy doing.
- 9He adds you to social media and talks to you online.A lot of people are friendly outside of school and many times through social media. However, if you notice he frequently communicates with you online, through text messaging or on other social media sites, he may just be interested in you and getting to know you better outside of school. Try making plans and see what happens.
- 10He's always where you are.If he is suddenly finding ways to be at the same places as you at the same times as you, he might really like you and be setting up opportunities to 'coincidentally' run into you. Perhaps you and your friends have plans to see a specific movie one night, and you randomly bump into him. Or maybe you and some friends decide to go to a certain restaurant on the weekend, and he shows up. It could mean that he really likes you if he is putting forth the effort to see you and make it look accidental.
Questions and Answers
I'm confused, could you help me with a shy guy?
Hey, I have a crush on a "shy guy, " and I don't know if he's interested or not because he is really sweet when we are talking face-to-face but doesn't text back as much as I am. He stares at me for a long time and smiles, even when I see him staring at me, he doesn't stop. He doesn't talk much and doesn't want to come to me when I'm near but keep staring. I don't know what to do. He doesn't do "things" for me and text back only when I ask something about his favorite game. Why is he staring and smiling at me so much, he is so sweet but seems rude sometimes? I'm confused. I have tried: I tried to talk to him when he is doing nothing, tried to invite him on a Sunday, etc. It looks like he wants to do things with me, but in the end, he just goes away. I think it was caused by: I think I'm not really his friend, He doesn't blush but looks at me in the eyes while smiling. I want to be more than a random-girl, but I don't know how!
You are going to have to be more insistent with him when inviting him to do things. He may not know how to carry on a conversation with a girl. This would stop him from answering your texts unless you ask him a question. Guys like this are fairly silent because they are afraid of saying something wrong or just do not know how to reply. Since he has told you some of his favorite things, do research on those and compile a list of things to say to him to see if you can get him to open up in a conversation.
A man who stares but doesn't approach. He is single. How to make a move without sounding desperate? He is a doctor, but I don't know more about him. How to break the ice?
There is a guy in my apartment building, and he stares at me a lot. Many times, he is the first to stare and me second. He doesn't look away when I see him immediately, but slowly he walks away without talking at all. This happened many times, and his stares haunt me. So, one day I found him on Facebook and sent a friend request. He neither accepted it nor deleted it. Neither did he try to message on Facebook. I waited for five days. He added other people from his college. He still stared at me a day after that, standing near his car in the parking lot BUT didn't smile or try to talk. I realized he would never accept me on Facebook (we do not know each other in person). Also, he will not have the courage to talk in person. I do not know how to approach either. I am shy too. Stuck in paradox, I decided to give up on him reasoning that he is a rich doctor with good looks and that I will never stand a chance anyhow. NOW almost two weeks later, I saw another guy who does almost the same, stares at me, looks at me when I am near but pretends not to notice me if I am the first to obviously stare at him. But many times, he stares at me, but when I see him, he becomes nervous (I assume since he looks away or at phone He is especially very interested in looking at me with that intense blank look when he seems to be talking to guys in our building. He seems to listen to me when I am talking with others, but I never know. THE PROBLEM IS HE IS THE ROOMMATE/FRIEND of the first guy who stared at me and rejected my Facebook request politely. Now if I try to connect or chat with this new guy will the other guy know? Will it look awkward or is it okay to try the same formula? He is a doctor and is busy, so we do not have common timings where I can see him and try to converse face to face. So again, Facebook is the better option to start with. Can I send him a message and see how he responds? I realized that this new guy is better at showing his interest (a 3rd guy who is this new guy's friend seems to know his friend is interested in me. He is always with him), I mostly see him either in the gym or the parking lot. He stares at me and waits for me to look at him before he gets into his car. When in the gym he looks at me too, and I noticed the close friend who knows his interest notices that I stare at him and him staring at me. So at least this sounds less foolish than running behind a guy who did not talk on Facebook or tell his friends if he liked me. So. Is it fine to talk to him on Facebook? I don't know what will happen, but if this guy doesn't respond too, then I will have to reevaluate the concept of guys staring at me and showing interest in me. This person is in my apartment, but we barely have common things or timings so we cannot actually talk in person unless I know I will see him on a given day. It is not easy to approach on Facebook since I already got rejected on Facebook recently (by his friend). Since he and my old crush are friends, this situation is more complicated than others.
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Is he interested or not? Is what I'm working on a lost cause?
I like this guy who goes to a different high school. We met at sports tournament through mutual friends, and he seemed fairly nice. The day after we met, we started texting and, this is when I first began to realize that this guy is a shy guy. I knew he didn't really have any other experiences with other girls, so he was new at small talk. However, from the way he texts it seems like he doesn't really care about anything I have to say. For example, ID say something about myself, and he will respond with "nice" or "cool' overall he was just really bland while texting me. This is where I started to become confused. My friends on his team would talk about me and ask him about me and, every time they did he blushed and smiled. This shy guy has already told them he thought I was attractive but too shy to tell me. A few days after texting, there was another tournament we both were at. He knew I was going to be there. I watched him warm up, and he watched me warm up. My team sat right behind his team all day. By the middle of the day, we were both out of the competition. I NOTICED he kept on staring and glancing at me from a far but never came up to me. Closer to the end of the tournament I was sitting with his team, he said "hi" to me and smiled, I replied with "hi" and that was it with the "real life" communication between us that day. I continued to talk with the rest of his team and, he never said anything, not even a peep. I NOTICED he was fidgeting with his fingers hard core the whole time. Once the tournament was over, he watched me get on the bus with my team. Once I got home, I answered a text from him the night before, that I didn't realize he had sent (from 22hrs ago). We talked for a bit, I asked him a question about one of his interests, and this was the first time he had ever sent me a long paragraph answer. I thought to myself "you know what maybe he just needs time" so we talked for a bit, and the blandness started to happen once again. I asked him another question, later on, he saw it during his lunch break and never responded yet. This has never happened before; he usually responds once he sees my text. What do I do, how do I know if he's interested when I am the one who has to be initiating conversation most of the time because he is so nervous? Is what I'm working on a lost cause? I really do like him, and I'm so confused. It's different because, it never covered what it means if he texts super bland, acts super shy in person, but when with his friends acts shy but, still communicates his feeling to them. It's a priority because I'm really struggling here. I've never felt this way about anyone in my life and, I don't know how to work with shy guys. I'm in desperate need of your help/advice. I have tried: I've tried to ask questions to get to know him better, plus simple small talk. However, I don't know what to say to him to be more relaxed and just talk. I have been taking things slow. I think it was caused by: I have no idea. My guy friends on his team, always tell him to stay calm and just text me normally, they even told him to ask me out. All the shy guy did was blush and smile.
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Does he like me, or is he just scared of me? He's not a shy guy, but when he's with me, he's really quiet?
There's this guy I have a crush on and I think he is scared of me. Once in P.E, I accidentally bumped into him, and he never said sorry, he sorts of just ran away... And every time I'm near him, it seems like he's trying to avoid me by looking at different directions. Although sometimes, I see him looking at me when he thinks I'm not watching. He's never talked to me before although we have the same classes! My gut instinct is telling me that he likes me, but I have some doubts. He's talked to everyone except for me. Every time I'm around him, he seems so quiet. From time to time, I see him staring at me. And when I smile, sometimes I get the feeling that he is also smiling. There was this time when the teacher asked him for an answer, so I stared at him, he stared back at me but then quickly looked at the teacher. He was really pink and would struggle to say the answer. But once he did he looked back at me, and I smiled at him. It looks like he was trying to smile but he looked down. A friend of mine once told me that my crush was smiling when he saw me, and he usually has a serious face, so hearing this made my heart scream. I really do think he likes me, but all at the same time, my mind is telling me that I'm only thinking this way because I like him. I don't know what to think anymore! It's driving me crazy! Please help! I've read a lot of articles, but the more I read them, the more I get confused. I just want to ask someone other than my friends, and see their opinion.
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Is my crush shy or rude? He ignored me so does that mean he is not interested in me?
I talked to my crush a few times and I usually at least say hi to him when I see him. I thought he liked me because he would stare from a far. But recently, one day I was sitting outside, and I gave him a small smile, but he walked right by me without making eye contact or saying hi. Is he rude and not interested or just too shy to look or talk to me? Should I give up on this crush? I haven't seen someone asking what happens when a crush ignored you in person. I like him a lot and not sure what to do!
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Does he like me or is he shy or does he not like me?
So I have a crush on a guy in my class and he often stares at me and tries to be cool when I'm around but lately this month he hasn't been staring that much or trying to be cool when I'm around, and he often tries to talk to me but lately he has been quiet all the time, and last week I tried to talk to him, I was calling his name and he heard but he didn't answer so I touched him and said his name again but he won't answer, he just ignored me, why is he doing that?? Well I do not know if he is ignoring me or if he is just shy or does not like me at all. I have tried: I have tried to look at him a lot to show him that I like him, I smile when he looks at me and I try to talk to him. I think it was caused by: I don't know I think he somehow may not like me or is too shy or maybe is ignoring me because he likes me
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He dosesn't reply, I asked him to help me in entrance exam which he has already given and scored well?
He likes me a lot since 8 years, but I couldn't recognize him (fully). he used stare glance smiling while glancing, showing anger, etc. he is singer too, sings and post songs dedicated to me indirectly. when I started showing interest he felt shy, happy etc I could notice. after that also posted romantic I love you song... after that many small misunderstanding happened and cleared out all indirectly on Facebook or face to face. but we haven't spoke to each other face to face. we see each other once in while in social programs. I had sent him some messages some months back to which he had replied but now one month back I asked him how are you. he didn't reply. today ask him if. We have spoken indirectly through signals or by posting something on Facebook indirectly trying to say something. he has shown me real he is interested and want to talk to me I couldn't reply with a proper gesture. I know he must be feeling shy but still I don't understand why didn't he reply anything. I asked him "are you good in quantitative aptitude, actually I am giving Atma I registered on 19 and my exam is 25 and I no one, to ask my doubts" 3:30pm "it's alright, sorry I disturbed you" he quickly sees all the messages but doesn't reply anything. is it that he doesn't like me to send him messages like this. I have tried: We looked at each other eye to eye and some times smiled with our self. as I have written above I send him messages on Facebook, he has also tried real life gesturing to talk but I realize it later. I think it was caused by: I don't know recently I told him I could notice him before because I used to think about some other person who was not very good with me as he and all other think consider him
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Quiet guy likes me or what...gives off mixed messages ( detail below)?
Met a guy visiting from the carribeans; guest to my home. Had many conversations with him. Realized I liked him. Didn't know if he was being polite or like me when interacting with me. seemed to give mixed signals. On his final day in the states asked for a way to keep in touch. I gave him my email. Which he promptly sent a little greeting. I would later learn he asked family member for a phone number. 6 days later I sent an email. No response. 4 days after, I sent another. He emailed me back 2 days later. We went back and forth. Emails are polite, talks about what he's planning to do, asked if I enjoy fellow shipping at an event. Laughs At a joke I made. At the end of his last email he writes take care. English is his 2nd language and conservative. If a guy likes a girl and I gave indications I'm interested wouldn't a guy make a move? The guy is from the carribeans. English is not his first language, and quiet. I have tried: Talking to him. Give signs that I like him like asking questions about him. Sit closer to him. I think it was caused by: He from the Caribbean I'm from the states. Slight language barrier. Maybe he is still trying to focus on finishing school.
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We text each other a lot.but not talked.he stares at me a lot.my best friend noticed him talking to his friend about me in a good way.I am getting mixed signals from him.is he into me?
I am the only girl he texts and stares.he expressed jealous towards our classmate who is a bit close to me.he compliments a lot about me.and gets nervous if I caught him looking at me.he stares at me when I am not noticing.he is a far more shy.but he started to share his personal feelings with me.I like him a lot. is he really into me? I am getting mixed signals from him.he smiles and blushes when I look at him.he notices everything I speak without letting others know that he's listening. I have tried: I tried to talk to him.he just nodded to my question and looked too nervous that his cheeks turned into light pink color. I think it was caused by: His closeness in our texts and his strange behaviour face to face got me confused
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I don't really know if he likes me. I have some proofs but I still don't know if I should believe them or not. I'm not good at things like this?
There is this guy in my class who I like and I think he likes me too but I'm not sure. he got my attention since the first time I saw him ( before we got in the same class) but when I caught him staring at me for the first time my interest in him became a crush. he is shy, has nothing to do with other girls and somehow we are both the same. same interests, hobbies, how we talk and even others say we're both the same person. he always stares at me even if I catch him, he doesn't stop. when he's talking with other I still catch him looking at me. when I texted him for the first time he was talking with his friend through the phone and he straight told his friend that I texted him and what I texted him. his friend told me that since he knows about my crush. it's kinda weird because he also send his friend a copy of the text which I send him. others caught him staring at me too. he even told my trainer that he started to dance again because of me, but he told me that he wanted to start dancing because he had to do some activities again. I am also a very shy person so I don't know how to approach or confess and I don't want to mess things up. I'm willing to make some progress but I have to be sure he likes me too, these proofs are some kind of not enough for me, maybe I'm just overthinking? I just need an explanation if it's true what I'm thinking, or if I'm just assuming wrong things. Some things in the article are helping me but some of my problems are not in here. I have tried: I tried to get closer to him but I'm just too shy to do so. I think it was caused by: My shyness and my low self esteem I don't have any confidence at all I'm always thinking about the worst things that can happen
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