Recover from a Break Up

Edited by Melvin Magadia, Lynn, Rebecca M.


You just broke up with your partner of several years. After exerting all efforts to save the relationship, it was futile. After giving almost all your life to the one you love, you just do not know how to recover from the break-up. Here are some helpful tips on recovering from such a tragic incident.

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    Cut Communication
    As much as possible, try to avoid running after or calling him or her. It is understandable that you might do this, especially if you love that person so much. However, doing so would only make you look weak and clingy. The best thing to do is get used to not having any contact with that person.
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    Forgive and Forget
    Regardless of the reason for the break-up, you must learn to let go of your former partner. It will only boost their confidence seeing you miserable or feeling down. Accept that they are already gone and then move on.
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    Let It Out
    If you feel like crying, by all means do so. It will only be a few days or weeks before you begin to feel better. If you want to listen to love songs, then do so.
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    Think Positive
    A break-up does not mean the end of the world for you. This does not make you ugly or "worthless." There are still many other people around you who want you to be happy. When your former partner sees that you have moved on, they might even feel sorry for breaking up with you. Cheer up because someone else might love you in the future when you are ready to enter into a new relationship again.
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    Move on
    After a few days of crying or letting it out, it's time to move on. As mentioned, breaking up with your partner does not mean the end of the world. Always keep your head up and think of yourself for the meantime. Do not center your life around your ex. In the future, someone else will likely treat you with respect.
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    Make yourself busy
    It's useless to keep crying over spilled milk. Crying in the night is okay, but you cannot do it forever. Find some ways to get back your confidence. Indulge in shopping, watch movies, get a new haircut, just to name a few. The important thing is to make yourself feel and look better again. Make your friends part of life once again. It's all about you at this time.
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    Consult your friends and family
    After the break-up, make friends or family a bigger part of your life. Socialize or mingle with them. Talk or cry to them if it will make you feel better. Your family can also play a huge part as you try to get yourself back on your feet.
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    Time heals all wounds
    Do not rush getting into a new relationship right away. Give it time. You are heartbroken right now, but the time will come when you will start to like other people again. You cannot wait forever for your ex. When you have recovered and are ready to love again, go out there and give it another shot.
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    Recovering from a break-up can be difficult, especially if you love the person a lot
    With a little help from friends and family, you can get over the hump of a failed relationship. Just follow these tips and you can be on your way to getting back to your old self again.
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  • Create a breakup journal. List the mistakes you made in your previous relationship so that you will not commit them again. Experience is the best teacher, so learn from your actions.
  • Don't blame yourself for the break-up. It's usually no one's fault that the break-up happened. Keep in mind that everything happens for a reason. Put it behind you and move on.

Questions and Answers

Giving up on a relationship? When is it too late?

It is never too late to give up on a relationship, there is no time limit to do this at all. Whenever you feel as if the relationship is not going any further and cannot be repaired then that is when its time to give up on the relationship. Dragging the relationship out further will not stop the inevitable which is that it will end.

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Categories : Relationships

Recent edits by: Lynn, Melvin Magadia

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