Plan Your Own Engagement Party
Edited by Shalom, Robbi, Lynn, Eng and 2 others
You're engaged and you just want the whole world to know about your new status - betrothed to someone who intends to marry you. As you settle back from cloud 9 after saying "yes" to that one big question
Will You Marry Me?
Your mind is in a flight of fancy figuring out how to plan the perfect engagement party.
- 1 Traditions and Etiquette Surrounding Engagement Parties
- 2 Planning Your Own Engagement Party=
- 3 During the Engagement Party
- 4 After the Engagement Party
- 5 Tips, Tricks and Warnings
- 6 Comments
Traditions and Etiquette Surrounding Engagement Parties
Originally engagement parties were hosted by the bride's parents to celebrate their daughter's upcoming wedding, and to allow the guests to socialize with each other and introduce both parties' extended families to each other, prior to the nuptial. The party was supposed to be an occasion to share the news by surprising the guests with the announcement. It was completely forgivable if the surprised guests had no gifts to offer.
In modern times, engagement parties are thrown to celebrate an engagement that has already been announced. Guests are, more or less, prepared with a fancy gift and a short speech to accompany the toasts for the couple. While it is not obligatory, engagement parties are commonly held before the wedding planning process commences, and are usually attended by the couple's family and close friends.
Throwing your own engagement party raises the question of propriety. It can make you look like you're using the event to call attention to yourself and a way to get a bunch of gifts. It's looks better, and a lot easier on you if a friend or relative offers to host your engagement party, but, in the absence of one, throw caution to the wind and host your own engagement party. In today's standards, there are no hard and fast rules about how a future husband and wife want the world to know they are soon getting married. If you are worried about people thinking you are only doing it for the gifts - ask that people don't bring gifts.
Planning Your Own Engagement Party=
Like any event that requires careful planning, an engagement party involves deliberate steps in three episodes: before, during and after.
Before the Engagement Party
- 2Announce the Engagement:
- 3Plan the Engagement Party:
Date and Venue
As simple as it looks, you need to consider the time frame that will allow you to organize the party without being stressed out. It will be ideal to set the date two to four months after accepting the proposal. Within that time period, you have envisioned the theme for the wedding, an important consideration on the type of party to throw.
Common Types of Engagement Party
- 1If your wedding is going to be formal, it has to be matched by an upscale lunch or brunch engagement party.Formal Lunch.
- 2Cocktail Party.
- 3Cosy Afternoon Tea.
- 6Summer Picnic.
An engagement party is typically a more intimate affair than the wedding itself so you'll definitely want to limit the guest list to the dearest and closest to you. Not to be omitted are members of both your immediate families so they can meet before the wedding. Don't invite people who live a plane trip away. It's too much to expect them to spend all that money for an engagement party...unless of course they are very wealthy. It's bad etiquette to include anyone who will not be invited to the wedding.
Registering for an engagement party gift list can answer the guests' question whether or not to bring a gift. It also guides them on what you prefer to receive. But, because the engagement party is just a prelude to the wedding, be sure to create a gift line-up in the low to middle price range. If you insist on a no gift affair, indicate your preference in the invitation.
You may personalize the engagement party invitations by creating them with your own hands with the help of family or some friends. Or you may opt to send out well-chosen designed card purchased from the local store. The invitation doesn't necessarily have to match the theme or style of your wedding invites. The means to send them out is as countless as in announcing the engagement.
During the Engagement Party
- Have Fun!
- Enjoy every moment of the party as you accept all the well wishes of family and friends you've managed to bring together in one happy occasion.
- Dress up to the nines so you'll stand out, but not in a way that will outshine yourself on your wedding day.
After the Engagement Party
Heave a sigh of relief for having successfully hosted your own engagement party. Reflect on the party's strengths and weaknesses, what you'll want to carry over onto your wedding. And while you're at it, remember all the people who helped you bring the party to a happy ending.
Thank You Cards
Still it's etiquette that dictates to send out thank-you cards or notes to people whom you would like to extend thanks for gracing the party, for the gifts, and for helping out.
Identifying these people will allow you to scribble some personal notes to thank them for their special participation.
Now the whole world knows you're engaged. It's time to plan for your wedding party.
Tips, Tricks and Warnings
- Be prepared to tell the story of how the marriage proposal was executed because everyone in the party will want to know about it.
- Use the engagement party guest list as basis to drawing up the wedding guest list.
- Requests for unusual or special gifts such as money or favors can be personally communicated to the concerned guest.
- Avoid unwrapping gifts during the party so as not to put guests without gifts in uncomfortable situation, and it take a lot of time.
Categories : Marriage
Recent edits by: Nerissa Avisado, Eng, Lynn