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What must I say to her to show her that I am sorry for beating her?

Me and my girlfriend had a fight and I ended up beating her, I want to ask her for forgiveness and I can't lose her because she is everything to me


OK Chris Brown, if she was your everything then you would have kept your hands to yourself. If you love your car would you take it down the street and drive into a wall just because the windshield was cracked? Your actions of violence towards her need to be rectified. You are lucky that you are not in jail for domestic assault. If you keep up with not addressing your anger issues then eventually someday you may end up in jail or hurting someone and taking their life.

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Beating your girlfriend is never okay. An apology will not just magically fix the situation. If she walks away forever you can't fault her because you forced her to leave when you hit her.

What do I do, she has just met someone else?

I have just passed my 2 years anniversary with my long distance girlfriend. Only a couple of days ago she told me she had met someone and that she wanted to try to be with him because he made her feel loved which she says she has never felt before. I have tried to talk about this with her but she has decided to walk away and is now with another person.. . We have had ups and downs in the 2 years. I guess it all really started in October last year when she came to visit me, and I didn't put as much as effort as I could have to take her places. She told me she felt unloved and that I didn't care for her. That I would do or not do things at the right time or say things that I should or not say. Which made her believe that I didn't care. I honestly care for her and the only excuse I have is my naivety. I overlooked it or thought that what I chose to do was the right thing to do in a caring way.. . But the biggest mistake was only recently when we went through an abortion. She told me she had a positive test result so I called her straight away and told her we would get through this together what ever happens. I asked her what she wanted to do and she said she didn't want to keep it. I agreed as it was too early for her career. I offered to go see her if she needed me but I didn't end up going. On the day of the operation I realized how much it took out of her and I immediately regret not flying to her for the operation. I basically did nothing, which is what she feels, I didn't offer to marry her which I had every intention of if she wanted to keep the child but I didn't make it explicitly clear.. . Now I'm here trying to figure out how I lost the most important thing to me. My life has no meaning anymore. My chest hurts all the time. I can barely sleep and only sleep because I am exhausted from staying up till 4AM in the morning. I want to make this right, I know I cared for her. But I at the same time can see the pain in her point of view, I left her there at the time she needed me the most - alone. I want to give everything to make it up to her but at the same time I feel like we will never be able to recover.

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How can I get her back, despite there being someone else?

I have just passed my 2 year anniversary with my long distance girlfriend. Only a couple of days ago she told me she had met someone and that she wanted to try to be with him because he made her feel loved which she says she has never felt before. I have tried to talk about this with her but she has decided to walk away and is now with another person.. . We have had ups and downs in the 2 years. I guess it all really started in October last year when she came to visit me, and I didn't put as much as effort as I could have to take her places. She told me she felt unloved and that I didn't care for her. That I would do or not do things at the right time or say things that I should or not say. Which made her believe that I didn't care. I honestly care for her and the only excuse I have is my naivety. I overlooked it or thought that what I chose to do was the right thing to do in a caring way.. . But the biggest mistake was only recently when we went through an abortion. She told me she had a positive test result so I called her straight away and told her we would get through this together what ever happens. I asked her what she wanted to do and she said she didn't want to keep it. I agreed as it was too early for her career. I offered to go see her if she needed me but I didn't end up going. On the day of the operation I realized how much it took out of her and I immediately regret not flying to her for the operation. I basically did nothing. Which is what she feels, I didn't offer to marry her which I had every intention of if she wanted to keep the child but I didn't make it explicitly clear.. . Now I'm here trying to figure out how I lost the most important thing to me. My life has no meaning anymore. My chest hurts all the time. I can barely sleep and only sleep because I am exhausted from staying up till 4am in the morning. I want to make this right, I know I cared for her. But I at the same time can see the pain in her point of view, I left her there at the time she needed me the most - alone.. I have tried: I tried talking to her on a video call. At first she refused saying she didn't feel like talking. When I finally got a chance I asked her about this new person, how long it has been happening, how he makes her feel loved. She asked me why I didn't offer to marry her. I told her I did when I said whatever happens I had every intention to marry her if she wasn't sure if she wanted to keep it. So when I asked her what she wanted I agreed with her. I didn't say it explicitly because I just didn't want to say I would marry her but not end up going through with it if she chose not to keep it. I told her I regret not going for the operation. We ended the call on goodbye. I couldn't help by agree with her choice, I did the worst thing possible to her. Only now because I love her I want to make it up to her.. I think it was caused by: I think it was at the end of the day my stupidity. I should have gone. I should have taken up her hints. I don't know why I did those things. I had every good intention in mind. It's just that I approached it all wrong.

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" I didn't offer to marry her which I had every intention of if she wanted to keep the child". That phrase right there is your first mistake. To put conditions on the offer of marriage is not romantic. Getting married because of a pregnancy is not the reason most women want to say when they tell others about their marriage proposal. You absolutely should have been there when she went through the procedure. If you wanted this baby then you should have spoken up and at least been there in person to help her figure out the future. If you want a chance to repair this relationship, you need to take a gamble and go see her. It is also time to begin to figure out how you will be able to live in the same area and show her the plans.

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I had an argument with her and I went to a bar and grabbed few beers, when I came back she was all over my case and I punched her, what can I do to get her trust back?

I had an argument with her and I went to a bar and grabbed few beers, when I came back she was all over my case and I punched her, what can I do to get her trust back.. I love her so much though I hurt her. I have tried: Okay I told her how sorry I am and I owe her big time. I think it was caused by: Anger and jealousy

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