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How to Handle Busy Boyfriend?

This cannot be avoided, especially if your boyfriend has a successful career. It is also just fair if you will allow him just to deal with his job. You should not try to interfere because he won't appreciate it. There has to be space left in any relationship for one to grow on his own and experience life on his own. It does not have to be about the two of you all the time.

If he is busy, just give him the space he needs. Do not bother him or act hurt that he does not have time for you. If anything, this is the time that he needs your understanding the most. You can also use this time to deal with your own personal matters.

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Boyfriend has had an operation, and we haven't met since?

Boyfriend had an operation - serious one at the beginning of Jan. Recovery hasn't been easy, but he is now back at work and driving again. However, we talk 2 to 3 times a day and text a lot, but he hasn't suggested meeting up again. We've been together 3.5 years.

Recovery from any operation can be considerably long and challenging. In this circumstance, where he has not tried to see you since the operation, it seems that there might be a little bit more of a challenge for him than you might think. It may be possible he is nervous that you might see him differently because of the operation, or he is nervous you may be "grossed out." Asking him why he hasn't wanted to see you can be a good start or trying to involve him in plans once again. Considering how long you have been together, with simple communication, this should be a small obstacle to overcome.

My boyfriend is ignoring me? What can I do?

My boyfriend is ignoring me, I say I want to end this relationship, he replies No. Please, No, but I say No, that is my last decision.

If that is what you truly feel and you are ready to end the relationship, then you should not be worried about him ignoring you. That is the ideal situation for two people to move on after ending things. So ignore his answer and inform him then that this is your final decision, you will not talk to and see him anymore as it is your choice, and he will not limit your freedom. Do not engage in conversations after that. He may say nonsense about you to your friends. Do not react to that. Just move on and take the step into the next chapter of your life.

What must I do if my boyfriend is doing this because I'm so involved with him?

We are in a long distance relationship but not that far, the problem is that when I call him, he sometimes doesn't pick up, or he will say I will call you back, but he won't return my calls, when we are sometimes chatting, he doesn't reply but his online. I'm starting to lose interest.

The best advice I could give you would be to attempt to have a serious conversation about your relationship with him. Find out if you are both on the same page in your relationship, and to see if you both want the same things. Inform him how you feel about him constantly leaving calls unanswered, and not answering your messages when you can see that he is still online. You may also want to tell him that because of this, you are beginning to lose interest. The outcome will either make him re-think his position about how he has been treating you, or it will give you the answers you were looking for. Either way a healthy relationship needs open communication.

My boyfriend ignores me always and neglects to spend time with me even on texting or call?

He is living far away from my place. So we can't regularly meet, so we keep in touch with mobile calls and SMS. But he never bothers to text me!! I have to call or text me every time, but he does not bother even to reply me!! After some days, only he answers me and talks without any feelings. I don't know whether he loves me or not, but I love him truly more and more.

Unfortunately, this happens sometimes with long distance relationships. You may have to sit back and ask yourself if this is the kind of person you want to be in a relationship with. You may want to talk to him, when it is convenient for the both of you, and try to find out if something is wrong, or if there is a simple miscommunication between you. If you do this, and there still is no change in the relationship, you may have to take measures into your hands and decide whether to leave the relationship or stay.

I have a husband (over 19 years), I married my friend's brother, but recently my husband's brother and myself got into a relationship and once we shared the bed he said he has been waiting for the past 20 years for me and he loves me since he was 16 years old till today. So I accepted his love but after sharing the bed he left me. I am unable to leave him, can you suggest a better way or what should I do? I love my husband and his brother?

I feel my husband's brother used me, after his use he left me, what will I do?

If you love your husband, you need to work on your relationship with him. A man that would sleep with his brother's wife does not have a moral compass and he absolutely did use you. Think about that and use that anger to get over him. If he had really loved you he would not have done this to you or his brother.

I want my boyfriend back in my life. I want to catch his attention again. I want to create that spark again?

Actually the problem is started after his birthday, he changed his room and didn't tell me about it. After that he started maintaining distance, whenever I ask him about this, he always says that he is tensed because of his job problems, he even didn't come to meet me. Every time he talks to me, he is like talking forcefully. Please help me!!!! I need him back

You can't make someone want to be with you. What you can do is show how much you love him, despite his recent attitude, and hopefully, he will soften towards you again.

Long distance relationship and lack of communication?

Hi. I met a guy 4 months back in a church we both visited. He is in Swaziland and I'm in South Africa. In the beginning, he used to call me twice a day sometimes once. He is a lawyer by profession, so I understand he is busy. He texts every time he gets a chance. But always text me every night. He doesn't call these days. He once came to South Africa to meet with me. We chose a central place and we met there. He then asked me to do a passport so that I can visit him. I did the passport request and I just got it. He says I should visit when he closes for December holidays so that we can spend quality time together. He always says " I love and adore you big time, for real." Should I be worried that he isn't calling me? If I call he answers and always happy to hear from me. He says work is hectic because they are about to close. But can't wait to see me. He sends me money all the time to get anything I need. Should I be worried?. I have tried: I have tried not to text to give him his space. And he always is the first to text me. Because it is easy to text in court but not call. I think it was caused by: He got an accident a week before he stopped calling and his office also caught fire. He was always texting and updating me with pictures of the car and the office. And he had to get a new office. So maybe relocating had been hectic

There is nothing other than he is busy right now relocating and recovering from his accident. He stated to you that he loves hearing from you and wants to see you for the holidays so look forward to that. It is tough when you are in a long distance relationship and you can't just drive over to speak in person. Relax.

I don't know whether he needs me or not. He is asking for time and creates a distance between us. Ignoring my calls and taking hours to reply me. He told me that he is fed up with his job, don't know what to do, help me

Actually, I am an orphan girl. I have no relationship and my parents are dead..so he came to my life and brightened it. He helped me move away from my ex-boyfriend who made me more troubles than love, so this guy was my everything. He feeds me cause I have no job and still I am a student. Now he doesn't make me feel better about our relationship... What should I do it's our 3rd year. Please help me, I can't live without him. He is my strength. I can't move on with my works without him. Please I am waiting your advises

Most likely he is feeling stress about his job and taking his frustrations out on your relationship. You have been together for three years so he is emotionally invested in your relationship. Ask him if there is anything you can do to take some pressure off of him. Explain to him that he has supported you in the past and now you want to support him.

How do I get my needs fulfilled?

My boyfriend is always busy at a very labor intensive job and usually too tired after he gets off. I try to be understanding and work with him but when do I get my needs met? I have a busy life too and always make time for him, when will he makes time for me?. I have tried: Giving him space. Texting him only when he texts me or before he goes to work. I think it was caused by: His new job keeps him very busy.

Making changes like a new job can be exhausting until one gets into their new routine. Give him a few weeks to get adjusted, and if things have not changed, ask him to make time for you. Sometimes guys do not even notice they are ignoring their women. Everyone has different needs and a relationship means compromising for the good of the relationship. Hopefully, you will figure out what the balance is for you to be happy.

Does he even consider me as his girlfriend?

My boyfriend is an engineering student. He doesn't give me time at all. He doesn't even consider me as someone to spend his time with. We go weeks without talking to each other. During that, he says that he's too busy and hence I must not text him. At night when I text him, that time too he says that he's busy. He has time to post kinds of stuff on Facebook and reply to the comments of people but not to talk to me? Does he really still love me. Should I leave him? Will that make him miss me? Or I must just ignore his texts even if he sends any as in going on 30 days no contact? Will that make him realize his mistake? What must I do? Please guide me. I'm so very confused and extremely hurt. I have tried: I've tried not be available much. I've tried not to bother him and not text him first. If suppose he texted me and I was unable to answer..if I text him back after few days, he says he's busy... I think it was caused by: Probably I feel that he is too confident that I'll never leave him. But I'm scared. Last time when we broke up, he approached me first after few months by apologizing. He still keeps mentioning that it was he who had come for me. So I'm scared whether his ego will allow him to come for the second time.

Be upfront with him and tell him that while you realize he is busy, his refusal to make any time for you is insulting. It sounds like your relationship is off to the side behind other obligations like school for him. While that is understandable, he should not be sitting on Facebook without making any time to also send you a quick message of hello. Some guys just do not know how to divide their time so that they can show some attention to their girlfriend. Before you break up with him again, give him the respect of at least speaking with him about how you feel neglected. If you are unhappy with his responses then perhaps it is time to end the relationship so you can find someone that makes time for you during their day.

What should I do when my boyfriend behaves like he does not care about me?

He is always complaining about my attitude and he always makes me feel guilty, but I love him so much and he knows that and he does not want to satisfy my urge. He denies my opportunity to see him and also denies me of having sex. I have tried: Have tried apologizing and also doing things that he likes. I think it was caused by: I think he has another girl and he is avoiding me because of her, but I want him back!

You should move on. He does not want to invest in the relationship with you. Saying that he does not like your personality is another red flag. Even if you try to make changes, he probably is not seeing it because he is judging you still by your past behavior. Some people have a toxic relationship in that they love each other but also hate each other. These are miserable relationships. You owe it to yourself to find someone that embraces your personality and all of that spunk and attitude you have instead of obsessing about trying to get someone back that has emotionally moved on already.

My boyfriend doesn't want sex with me anymore. Could it be because of his drinking?

I have been with my boyfriend for approximately 7 years. His drinking has increased during the past few years, and sex is virtually nonexistent. When I have discussed this with him he said to him it is just like doing the washing up, and he gets nothing from it. He has also accused me of me being the reason for him turning to drink. As I care for him so much, I have suggested I don't see him so often as I would rather he is healthy and unstressed, I do not want to be the cause of his health deteriorating. He said he doesn't see me that often and didn't agree to this. His behavior has made me feel unattractive, not a priority in his life, just used for a convenience for other things like staying over, meals and being closer to his local drinking buddies. I would appreciate some advice on this.

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What I do to know about my boyfriend's Nature? If he ignoring my "Text" & "Calls" "Busy"?"?

I am in new relationship I sometimes feels that on weekend he is not give reply of my text & calls,so I m feels unsecured... & getting angry too,Everyday we meet hence I m unable to identify weather he really loves me or do only flirts to me he always says "I love You I want to marry with you" How can I trust him? we are very closer in the relationship now so it's quite hard to come out from all these things.. I don't know how I judge his nature even we are working at the same institute....in same office too.I really care & love with him.... please give some advise to me.Thanks...

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How do I handle my boyfriend if he has to film at 5 for one of his classes?

I wanted to bring my boyfriend to my fencing party but he said he has to film at 5.

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My boyfriend has started ignoring me specially after getting a good position at work and tells me to not to call him until he calls me. What should I do?

I am in a 5 years of relationship. My boyfriend has recently got a promotion at work and tells me that he is busy and does not call me or text me.When I call him he talks very impolitely with me. Most of the time I have called him and found him on break for more than 30 minutes with his colleagues and manager. I feel very detached and alone. He has stopped caring about me and is always good to me when he is in front of me. I am not able to end the relation and I am going through depression. He also committed me to marry me but he shows no interest on that topic. I have been waiting for him since 5 years. Please help me as I am not able to take any decision. I am in a 5 years relation and my boyfriend's behavior has changed recently since last 5 months. It was not the same when we started dating. He has all of a sudden started acting busy.This kind of example has not been covered in the article. I have tried: I have tried to give him his space. I have tried to understand his work and it's importance.I tried not to call him until he calls me, but nothing seems to work. The more I understand the more it is getting unbearable. I think it was caused by: I am not exactly sure what is the cause of this problem. I am trying my best to understand the situation.

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I am in a relationship since two years but my guys is not giving me much attention because he is busy with his placements?

I trust my boyfriend, he is very busy since two months. from last week I am talking with a person daily for hours because I needed someone and the person I talk with is a person I like..

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How can I get him to pay more attention he just won't stick to his word saying he will give me attention he sticks to it for one day then goes back to nothing?

I've been in a relationship for about 5 months I'm 19 and he's 25 and he's lacking intimacy attention and affection he's always busy and when I talk to him about it he does something about it then he lacks off again I've asked for attention etc about 4 times and I just don't want to keep asking please if anyone has any good advice it would be so helpful also I do a lot for him and hardly get anything in return shall I stop doing so much for him I don't want to leave him but if that is the only option then I will but I want to try fix it he is more interested in doing his own thing then in me like PlayStation etc he drinks every night which I wish he would cut down on but just need some advice please help

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