Get Relationship Advice for a Woman

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If you were looking for advice for men, make sure to check out our article on getting relationship advice for men.

Love is a great power. Although we sometimes cannot admit it, we all need to love and be loved. This leads us to getting involved in relationships. The beginning of these relationship is almost always beautiful. You are both under the influence of positive emotions, and you discover you and your partner falling in love more and more. Then, you come to a point where you realize you've been together for months or years. After such a long time together, problems can start to appear.

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Maybe you fight or quarrel, or you cannot find a common ground between yourselves. Each attempt to discuss your problems with your partner ends in failure. We here at VisiHow are familiar with this. We know that women are often more emotionally connected than men. Because of this, they have different needs, and the language they use to communicate those needs is often very different than that of men. Understanding these needs, we want to help you with some tips about how to get relationship advice and counseling. And even how to get your partner involved.

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Talk to your best friend

If you don't know what to do, try to talk with your best friend. He or she probably knows most of the details of your relationship, and she also knows your partner. What is more, many women are very good observers. Putting together all of these factors, your friend may already have a vision of your relationship, and at the same time, she may give you some advice on how to deal with your problem. This is, of course, the most ideal situation. Sometimes, especially if you are the kind of person that keeps the intimate sphere of life to yourself, your friend may not be so in tune with what is going on in your relationship. In this case, a friend may not be able to help you immediately. Still, talking to your friend and explaining the problem as objectively as possible will help. Maybe your friend will have a comparable experience from her life, and you'll get some advice!

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Use the help of a specialist

If talking to a friend doesn't work, consider a counselor. Some people tend to be afraid or ashamed of seeking help from a specialist. You need to remember that asking a professional for help is nothing to be ashamed of. Relationship problems are as important as any other problem you may face, especially because a relationship plays such an important role in your life. So no matter what kind of troubles you're facing now, if you cannot solve them by yourself, don't hesitate to ask for help.

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    Try to encourage your partner
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    As a woman, you will probably feel relatively open about talking to a stranger concerning your relationship problems. Your partner, however, may have a different attitude. Before you take the first step and make an appointment with a specialist, talk to your partner. Try to explain that all you want to do is to improve your relationship and get rid of the problems. Couples therapy is also aimed at identifying and understanding the source of negative and repetitive emotions. You will be taught how to listen to each other better, and also focus on "refreshing" your relationship. Of course, you may attend a session alone, but understand that in order to benefit as much as possible from going to therapy, both of you must be involved.
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    Find a counseling center or therapist
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    Once you decide on whether you're going to attend relationship counseling alone or with your partner, no matter the final decision, you need to look for a counseling center or therapist. Think of people you know -- maybe some of them have already received the same kind of help and are ready to recommend a therapist or center to you. You may also get feedback from them, such as which places or therapist should be avoided and which are worth your attention. You may also be interested in therapy options located close to where you live. Many place advertisements or web sites on the internet. Those are good because you can also find opinions posted by people who have already taken part in the same therapy you're about to start.
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    Think about the form of therapy
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    It is commonly accepted that a face-to-face conversation is the best form of communication with a therapist. Because of this it's recommended that you attend the sessions personally. However, if you don't want to or cannot visit a relationship counselor in person, don't give up! Most counseling centers and therapists offer on-line help or help via telephone. Decide which form would be the most appropriate and convenient for you or for both you and your partner, and take action. Make an appointment, call, or just send a message. Whatever it takes, get started, and get the advice you need.
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Remember, relationship problems can happen to anyone at any time. It doesn't matter what the nature of the problem is. Getting help is what matters. Don't be afraid to ask for help. Getting relationship counseling is the first step to fixing the troubles you are having. It will also help you understand where the problems come from, and teach you how to avoid those problems in the future.

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Resources:

Illinois University Counseling Center

Please check our other tutorial on how to get over a broken heart.

Questions and Answers

Is me and my boyfriend still together, or is this a way for him to leave me and never speak to me again?

So I recently went on my boyfriends phone to delete his ex-girlfriend on Facebook after I've asked him numerous times to do so. He found out about it because I didn't tell him and that was the same day he and I got into a Facebook relationship. We've been together for six months but we finally put it on Facebook because I was married to my best friend Sierra on Facebook and she's not the easiest person to deal with when it comes to doing something that doesn't include her. Anyways so my boyfriend called me on Friday and he confronted me about it and I was honest. I can understand why he was mad because I was intrusive. and I invaded his privacy but the way he blew it out of proportion is what I don't get it. He blocked me on Facebook then the next day he unblocked me but we are not friends on Facebook anymore. I think it's embarrassing because we finally just got into a relationship on Facebook at all of my friends and family can see it and he just deletes me. Even when we were talking every day he's not the easiest person to get a hold of because he is always busy at work. And he is the type of person that needs a lot of space he doesn't like talking in the morning he goes home after work and does the same thing watching TV eating and going to bed. When I was on his phone I caught him sayin a couple things that were oddly an appropriate tol even when we were talking every day he's not the easiest person to get a hold of because he is always busy at work. And he is the type of person that needs a lot of space he doesn't like talking in the morning he goes home after work and does the same thing watching TV eating and going to bed. When I was on his phone I caught him seeing a couple things that were oddly in appropriate. But I still haven't had that feeling that he has cheated on me. But the fact that he's not answering any of his calls or talking to me makes me think he actually is. How long is he going to ignore me for I know I made a mistake but I don't deserve to have my heart broken like this. This question is very specific. A lot of women go through their man's phone and a lot of the men overreact and blow things out of proportion and leave the woman curious, confused, and lost with no response coming from their partner. This is the closure that many women need Or even just the comfort of knowing that many women go through this and that they should've put their self and blame over mistakes. I just think that Everywoman deserves to hear this. I have tried: I have tried so many times. It just recently happened and we have been together for six months so I don't understand why he is not talking to me anymore. And if he is just taking a break why doesn't he just let me know. He's the type of person that will talk to me and then call me after day and then tell me that he wasn't feeling good and he was moody and that he wanted time to be alone. I have tried so many times. It just recently happened and we have been together for six months so I don't understand why he is not talking to me anymore. And if he is just taking a break why doesn't he just let me know. He's the type of person that will talk to me and then call me after day and then tell me that he wasn't feeling good and he was moody and that he wanted time to be alone. I asked him numerous times to let me know if he doesn't want to speak to me for a bit and he wants time alone because then I get worried for nothing. I think it was caused by: He drinks every single day and he lost both of his parents and his life is really hard. It ain't no he isn't in the best shape and that his mentality is it fully there but maybe his alcohol affected the way he felt because he definitely blew it out of proportion

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