Get Access to Your Husband's Facebook Chats

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"If you're concerned that your husband is cheating or keeping secrets and he won't open up to you, gaining access to his Facebook chats might be the key to discovering the truth. While spying isn't the most honest or ethical way to approach the situation, it might be the only way to prove what you've been suspecting. If you want to find out what he's up to without hacking into his account, using a spy app is the only way to gain access.

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Track Facebook Chats with Spy Apps

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There are tons of spy apps designed to monitor phone and computer activity, listen to calls, log activity and keystrokes, and track a phone's location through GPS. These are typically designed for parents who want to monitor their children, but some corporations use them for company phones and computers. *Each country and state's laws vary regarding the use of spy apps on another person's phone or computer without their knowledge, so use the software at your own risk.


As one of the industries leading spy apps, Spyera allows you to read chats and instant messages from a variety of apps such as Facebook, Skype, Viber, Snapchat, and WhatsApp. It also lets you read emails, monitor internet activities, track the phone's location, read text messages, view call history, log keystrokes and monitor the calendar and address book. It's invisible on the phone and undetectable, so once you have it properly installed on the device, you can easily monitor Facebook activity remotely through Spyera's control panel without getting caught. It's compatible with most Android, iOS, Windows and Mac devices.

Highster Mobile

Highster Mobile is said to be one of the easiest and quickest for installations of all the popular spy apps on the market. Supporting both iPhone and Android devices, Highster Mobile gives users the ability to remotely track; texts, GPS location, calls and more via the live control panel.


Phonty is a smartphone spy app that's compatible with iOS and Android devices. It allows you to monitor Facebook and other instant messaging apps, calls and browsing history. It also includes GPS location tracking and the ability to uninstall the app remotely from an online control panel. Phonty allows you to take control of the device to block the use of specific websites and receiving calls.

Signs Your Husband Is Cheating Through Facebook

If you suspect your husband is Facebook cheating, keep an eye out for some of these signs. Displaying one or two of these behaviors isn't really causing for alarm, but if he's regularly doing several of these things, it's quite possible he's having an affair.

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    He won't let go of his phone or tablet when you're around
    He's often trying to hide whatever it is he's doing on his phone or tablet when you walk in the room. If he's always closing browsers, deleting history and shielding the screen, that's a sign he's doing something that he doesn't want you to know about. He might also show irritation when you pick up his phone or ask him what he's doing.
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    He gets calls and texts late at night
    When he starts spending your bedtime hours together glued to his phone or tablet either responding or initiating conversation with someone other than a good friend or family member, he might have another relationship in the works.
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    He accuses you of bad behavior
    Guilty people often project their insecurities on others, so it's possible that if he's making unfounded accusations of your behavior, he could be the one with the problem. He might also try to avoid any questions or discussions by bringing up your online habits.
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    He seems extra close with a woman on Facebook, but he never mentioned her to you
    If they're sharing jokes and extremely friendly conversation but he's never even brought her up to you, it's a good sign that he's trying to hide the relationship.
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    He spends more time on his device than with you
    When the two of you have down time together, does he spend most of it on his phone or computer? If he completely ignores you, refuses to disconnect and won't give you what you need emotionally, it's possible he has another relationship.
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What Is Emotional Infidelity?

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Infidelity used to be described as any sexual or otherwise physical relationship outside of the marriage, but this definition has expanded to include intimate thoughts or feelings toward another person. Emotional infidelity is common among people who use the internet to cheat. If a partner devotes time and emotional investment into a relationship outside of the marriage, even without physical contact, this can still be construed as emotional infidelity. These relationships differ from casual friendship by the level of attraction present, the emotional connection involved and the lack of emotional investment in the marriage. Online infidelity is a growing problem in the U.S., with 20 to 33 percent of internet users going online for sexual purposes, and this number is expected to grow.[1] People who cheat via the internet, whether emotionally or sexually, do so because of greater accessibility, a sense of anonymity and a lowered sense of guilt. Studies suggest that online relationships often eventually lead to real-life encounters, even when started out of innocence. [2]

How to Confront Your Husband About His Infidelity

If you found out your husband is cheating on you, you're probably in shock, confused, furious and heartbroken all at once. Before you confront your husband screaming, raging and shoving your evidence in his face, it's best to express these painful emotions in a safe and calm way. Once you have control of your emotions, you should schedule a clear window of time to sit down and talk with your husband, gather information and decide where to go from there. First, try these techniques to release and process your thoughts and emotions.

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    Cry to a friend or family member
    If you have a trusted friend or family member, it's OK to reach out to them for support. If you don't have anyone else, hug your pet or even a pillow and let it all out. It may feel like the world is ending, but you will eventually accept these events and use them to advance and improve your life. At the moment, while you're freshly in shock, it's best not to make any big changes or choices.
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    Write your feelings down
    When you're feeling your worst and you don't have an outlet for your anger or sadness, grab some paper and a pen and start writing your feelings. It doesn't have to make sense. Just write down every negative thought and feeling that pops into your mind no matter how horrible, then tear up the paper without reading it. Realize that no matter what you write, you're helping yourself heal and it's OK to do it safely in this way. No one else will read it. Do this anytime your feelings build up and become overwhelming.
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    Think about what you want to do
    Once the painful emotions subside, think about whether you want to stay and work on the relationship with your husband, whether you want to go, how to tell the kids, etc. If you can't come to a decision without gathering more information, then schedule a time to meet with your husband to discuss your issues. It's best to write down what you want to talk about and any questions you need to ask to gather the information without fighting.
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    Schedule a time to confront your husband
    Pick a quiet hour or two with no distractions, and stick to what you wrote down. Bring any evidence you have, and ask him if he has something he needs to tell you, or just come right out and tell him that you know he cheated. Give him a chance to talk, and try to stick to getting the information that you wrote down. If you find yourself getting over emotional, stop the meeting and reschedule at a later date. You'll probably have to meet more than once to discuss your issues.
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  • Avoid the temptation to scream, hit, insult or berate. You'll be less likely to get information out of him since he'll be more defensive. If you're not feeling calm enough, avoid the interaction until you're ready to have a proper discussion.
  • Realize that it's not your fault. No matter what you've done or your current station in life, your partner chose to cheat and the responsibility lies with him. Even if he tries to blame you in some way, he is the only one responsible for his actions.
  • You're not responsible for healing your husband's guilt or remorse. Even if he admits his wrongdoing and apologizes for his actions, you don't have to forgive or console him.
  • Avoid self-destructive behavior. Try to take care of yourself and avoid turning to drugs or alcohol to feel better. Those will only make the situation worse in the long term.
  • Take some time away from the relationship. Even if you choose to stay and work on things together, take some time to focus on self-healing and other family matters until you feel totally ready to repair the relationship.
  • Avoid giving your kids the details. Even when you're angry or sad, tearing down or berating your partner to your children is one of the worst things you can do. If you choose to tell them that their dad had an affair, avoid giving them any details. Reassure them that what happened between you and your husband doesn't affect how much either of you love them.


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  1. Online Infidelity AAMFT. Retrieved August 27, 2015.
  2. PsychCentralOnline Cheating Usually Leads to Real Life Encounters. 2011. Retrieved on August 27, 2015

Questions and Answers

How can I get my husband's Facebook password without him knowing I have it. He uses Facebook on his iPhone 6?

I did have my husband's Facebook password but he changed it & I can't get into his account. I don't want to hit the forgot my password button so is there any other way to find out.

There is no way to get his password without him knowing about it unless you put a spy app on his phone. When your spouse changes their social media passwords and does not tell you then this is a sign that there is a huge problem in the marriage. Forget about the password and get the phone number of a marital counselor!

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My husband NEVER let his cell phone out of his sight and he never uses the computer for Facebook?

How can I get into his Facebook account if I don't know his password?. I have tried: I tried his username, I tried his g-mail but I need his have his password reset and it will only send it to his cell phone. I think it was caused by: I already know about his infidelity, I don't know what he is talking about or what he's doing when he's not home, or why sometimes he's late.

There is already an established pattern on infidelity. It seems that your husband is refusing to have contrition about his actions and allow you access to his phone for your peace of mind. People like that do not care that their actions hurt others. If you can't re-establish trust with him then it might be time to call a divorce lawyer and begin the process of moving on.

My husband lives 2000 kilometers from me and I know he is unfaithful as I caught him out with Facebook inbox chats. Although he is not close by, I would like to get someone to hack into his Facebook?

My husband cheated on me and I know he is continuing although he tried to deny everything and made me out to be a stupid fool. He deleted most of his inboxes to the other woman but because he is currently far away, he will make the most of my absence and continue with her. Can you hack into his Facebook and even his laptop's emails?

Buy him a new phone for his birthday. Install a spy app on the device before you send it to him. It appears though that you already know something is going on with your husband and another woman. Instead of wasting money on a phone, get your personal financial affairs in order and begin a marital separation. If you want this marriage to work out then demand that either you go to him or he comes home.

Is my wife cheating on me? If so, could I access her Facebook account?

Wife is cheating on me and I need help to access her Facebook.

Are you sure she is contacting this other person through Facebook? First, check the home computer to see if she logged in and left it logged in so you can check. If you are still suspicious then install a spy app on her device. Be warned that finding out the truth will help you determine what to do but it also can cause irreparable damage to the marriage. Ask her why she needs to speak to other men. Take a personal self-evaluation of your relationship to determine where this is all going wrong.

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I have my husband's password but he has set up 3 things if logging in from another computer after the password it asks for a 6 digit code which I don't have and it will send a message to email someone tried to log in and where it was. I have access to that email account though so I can not delete?

I have a Facebook password but after that, it asks for a 6 digit password if you enter it wrong then it sends him an email. I have tried: Well, I tried to guess the 2nd question the 6 digit code was wrong

He has unnecessary security for Facebook. There is a reason for it and you already can probably figure out what that reason is. Request the 6 digit code. Tell him that you do not trust him and need any assurance. If he is not guilty of any wrongdoing, then he will provide the code. Maybe he got locked out of Facebook or set up security in the event that he gets hacked but he better gives you the code and a reasonable answer as to why he has his profile locked down this way.

My husband won't give me access to any of my social media accounts, and he also changed all the recovery emails and phone numbers to his, what should I do?

Oh and by the way, we have been together for 18 years with three kids and I just found out this past weekend that he is in another relationship!

After 18 years of marriage, it is devastating to learn that he is having an affair. If he wants to work on your marriage, then he needs to give you access to his cellular devices. The only way this marriage has a shred of hope on surviving is if you can rebuild trust. Both of you have to be willing to repair this marriage.

I read private messages from my husband of 26 years to ex-girlfriends, reminding them of sexual encounters they'd shared. He deleted the messages but how do I know if he's still doing it?

He always keeps his passwords secret and never wants me to read his emails or see his phone, saying privacy is vital. Should I be worried?

Privacy is vital as just an excuse to hide what he is doing. Once you get married, your privacy essentially merges into one unit. Your response to that excuse needs to be that you will just continue to assume that he is messaging ex-girlfriends. FYI, you should also be concerned about what he is doing with other current women. His reminiscing down memory lane is a red flag that he is currently engaging or wants to engage in inappropriate behavior with women.

I have my husbands Facebook username and password but can't see his Facebook messenger or chat conversations can you help?

I would like to know who my husband is chatting with or messaging on Facebook. We have been going to counseling and he gave me his face book password. but I can't see his conversations. I also gave him my password and he sees everything. Can you help?

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How can I get into his conversations and see who all he been texting?

I want to know what he is sending other people and see who all has been texting to see if he is cheating on me or not. I have no idea what the easiest way is to get into his account without a password

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I think my boyfriend is cheating on me.he is afraid when ever I hold his phone...he never used to give me his password?

He never gives me his Facebook password not even he show me his phone.

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How can access my husband Facebook page?Is there are possibility?

I think he might be cheating on me.Is there are possibility I can hack into his Facebook and I don't have any access at all. Lately we been having a problem in our marriage everyday life.And I later found out that he secretly created his own Facebook account and email account without me knowing about it. We got into a big fight and he left me . I desperately need to know how to save our marriage but I can't that is why I want to see whats hes been though so far.

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Yes he has been acting a little weird about Facebook?

Taking his phone every where he goes and he changed his password he says he is not on when it says he is active. I would like to gain access on his messenger to see what is going on. I have tried: Tried to look through his phone but he earaches his messages. I think it was caused by: I am not sure what happened all I just tired of feeling like he is doing wrong I want to see

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How can I confirm whether my counter part is only chatting with me or also with someone else at a time. When I ask my counter part are you chatting with someone else she say no but in fact delay in reply indicates she is also chatting with someone else for which she is denying is there any method to confirm her statement is true or false

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How do I get my husband Facebook password to find out?

I believe he is cheating and lying about being married. I need to know who he is talking to he hides his phone and says he forgets password

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My husband has Facebook women friends that he is emotionally connected to how do I keep track of conversations?

I suspect he is emotionally at the moment having an affair with them

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I want to see my husband chat with other people,how can I see it?

Am not satify with my husband so I want to see his so I can feel good. My husband usually check behind me for chat,so this time around am not please with he ,I want to see his own. I have tried: Hacker I try asking he , and no good answer,he has password all on his phone,that I can not access easily,and I,m not satify with that ,so I need to fine out. I think it was caused by: Because he cheating on me,that is y,and he very jealous

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Could you please help me to see my spouse Facebook messenger texts?

See the charts with Friends and know how healthy our carts are to friends. My spouse has not been received my charts.. I don't know what my spouse is doing

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My husband is receiving photos and videos from woman on Facebook, I need to know if he's paying for sex.I need to know if my husband is paying other woman forIis my husband b?

I feel like my hearts been ripped out. Why would my husband go to such great lengths to hide his betrayal. I've already caught him on Facebook receiving photos from woman, he's begged forgiveness and I've believed he just made a mistake. Now I've discovered he has another account in a different name. Please help me, I only want the truth so I can move on and be happy with someone who respect s me.

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Is this spy app completely free of any charges? I do not have any money at all?

Does this spy app actually work? Does it cost anything at all to use? Or get results? My boyfriend hides his following list, I don't know why, unless he's hiding something, he gets defensive and protective over his phone and won't leave the room without it, if I am around, he won't leave his phone there, if I'm not around, he leaves his phone laying around. I have tried: Confronting him, he gets really irritated and angry at me like I shouldn't be asking anything about his phone. I think it was caused by: The only thing I can think of is he don't want me to know what he's up to

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