Deal with your boyfriends female friend

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Are you having a hard time dealing with your boyfriend's female friends? It's common to find that your boyfriend had many female friends (especially if he's good-looking), even before you met him. There will be days when he will be with his female friends, which may cause you a pang of jealousy and emotional pain. These steps will help eliminate the problem that a female friend may be causing in your relationship.

Open the Line of Communication

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    Let your boyfriend know how you feel about the relationship he has with his female friend, and how it's affecting you in the relationship
    It's always better to be open about your feelings, rather than holding them inside. Sooner or later these feelings will erupt, causing much more trouble. Give him the opportunity to understand there is a problem, at least for you, so that he can be part of the solution. Communication is really crucial to solving this issue.
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    Explain to him you have a problem with his female friends
    Letting him know there is a problem is the first step. Then you need to explain why you have a problem, to make sure he understands where you're coming from. Make sure you do have a reason beyond being jealous. If you simply tell him, "I don't like her," he may not take you seriously.
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    Keep yourself together after you have explained everything to him about the situation
    Refrain from having a negative attitude every time he mentions the girl or sees her in person. By continuing to complain every time he mentions her, you will push him to secrecy, just to avoid your judgment. This will naturally lead to you believe he is cheating, as you'll notice his changed behavior. In reality, he may just be visiting or talking to his female friend. Make sure he feels comfortable talking about his female friend in the open, rather than hiding his relationship with her to appease you.
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    decide to either accompany him or not when he is socializing with his female friend
    By not going, you don't have to be around the other woman. If you do go with him, you will need to be on your best behavior because you decided to tag along. If you are negative with her, you'll put your boyfriend in the middle. Perhaps try to discover what he likes about her, and instead of viewing her as an enemy, you might find a new friend.
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    Continue repeating these steps until your boyfriend understands how you feel about his female companions, which will hopefully bring the two of you together and help you come to a truce
    Your goal should not be to get rid of his female friends but to reduce the amount of time he spends with them.
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Reasons Why Girls Don't Feel Comfortable With Their Boyfriend's Female Friends

  • Insecurity. Yes, this is a common among girls, especially when the female friend or friends are attractive. Women have to trust that other women won't hit on their boyfriends. Women friends have an intimacy and history she may not have with her boyfriend, which again, causes insecurity. She's often afraid he'll fall for her.
  • Instincts. As a girl, you know if your boyfriend's female friend likes him. She may not directly say it, but her actions will betray her, especially when she intentionally shows it to you. This is the case when the friend views you as a threat.
  • He likes her. Some guys do indeed fall for their female friends before or during their current relationship. Even if he tells you that they have known each other all their lives, you will know by his actions if he's interested in her more than a friend.

Things Girlfriends Shouldn't Do When They Are Jealous of Their Boyfriend's Female Friends

  • Do not make him choose. This is something that girlfriends shouldn't do. Remember they were already friends, even before you came along. While asking your boyfriend to avoid his female friend(s) is a no-no, you can maybe ask him to cut down the time he spends with them.
  • No snooping. When guys feel you do not trust them, it will make them angry. DO not grab their phones when they are exchanging SMS with their female friends or eavesdrop when they talk on the phone. Do not act like the obsessed girlfriend by stalking his social networks like Facebook. Remember that you may be a couple, but you both have the right to your own privacy. Treat his privacy with respect, as you would like him to respect yours.
  • No hostile confrontation of his friends. Let him deal with his friends regarding the issue. If you are planning to confront the girl and tell her to stay away, you are only putting your own relationship in jeopardy. How can a man love a woman who dislikes his friends? If the situation is bothering you, talk to your boyfriend and not his friends. Be very honest, but avoid undue drama.

Reasons Why Guys Spend Time With Their Female Friends Despite Being in a Relationship

  • Depth of the Friendship. Some people grow up together and the friendship remains strong until they get old. It is like an old habit that you just can't break. If you are intending to ask your boyfriend to stay away from a female friend he has known all his life, you will likely have little success.
  • Shares Common Interests. Guys love to hang out with girls who share the same interests. If he and his female friends are into the same activities, expect them to get along well. If you want to get closer to him and his friends, learn what he enjoys and join him. That way, the next time, he won't be looking any woman's company but yours.
  • Permanent Feelings. Maybe your boyfriend has always loved his friend as a friend, and that's all they can ever be. If you talk to him about your fears and let him talk to you about his relationship, there's a very good chance you can resolve the issues, and create a stronger relationship between the two of you. If he tells you he doesn't have romantic feelings for her, don't argue. The truth is, if he really wanted to be with her, he probably wouldn't have started a relationship with you.

Nobody wants to share her guy with another girl. You can fight for your guy, but keep it classy.

Questions and Answers

My partner has this woman friend for 10 years, they would go biking weekends together, now he told her, he is with me, they cannot go away together, but this weekend they have.

What can l do as he does not know l know and he did not tell me?

He did tell her that he is with you and that they could no longer go on trips together. The fact that he went on a trip afterward and did not tell you is rather sneaky and you have reason to be concerned. Do not jump to any conclusions before you speak to him and make him aware that you know about his trip with her. Do not come off as jealous but instead appear concerned that he felt that he had to hide the trip from you. The explanation may be something as simple as the trip was planned and paid for before you came into the picture however he should have informed you of this trip out of respect.

Hi, a female friend has a boyfriend that beats her up, she always calls my boyfriend to help. He then put her on his phone plan, (before we were dating) because she did not have a phone. Now since we are dating, she does not pay her share and promised the last 2 weekends to come down and pay. He is short of money, so our plans change, or he is waiting for her and she does not show up. He is trying to resolve by when she does come to pay, he said he is taking her down to the phone place to get her off his plan. She does not know this. We had plans again this weekend, but he has to wait for her. I told him today that I am done with having other people affecting our relationship, and our plans and I'm not going to put up with it. I know he thinks I am overreacting?

First of all, am I over reacting? and I know he truly loves me, and I know he is trying, will he do the right thing? or think I am being too bossy?

You are not overreacting. This friend is using your boyfriend and further, is not respecting him or your time together as she keeps flaking on her plans, and you end up changing your plans. He needs to take her off his phone plan. While it is a nice gesture, she is not showing any responsibility on paying him back and his phone plan is part of his overall credit score. At least he has said he plans on doing this.

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I am with my boyfriend on and off for 6 years. recently when things start to get better, he brings out his female friends out of nowhere and starts hanging out with them when I am not around?

Recently he took one of the female friends to a gynecologist appointment for a pep and he told me that she just called few hrs ago to go with him because her father is not well. She is the same chick he is constantly talking all the time since I moved back with him a few months ago. I am very upset because why he is taking her as he told me he never talks to her because she is crazy. I am thinking to end things with him because he doesn't want to see his mistake and thinks I am jealous and I should be OK with this. I am not OK because I haven't met this chick and now this is going too far. Please help me what should I do?

You have warning bells going off in your head and rightfully so. You have not met this person and he has not offered for you to meet her. Instead, he claims he is not contacting her then turns around and takes her to a medical appointment. Perhaps there is nothing going on and you have nothing to worry about but you should insist on meeting this person since he has so much contact with her.

Since she needs his support, offer politely to assist. If you are refused by your boyfriend then it is something to be worried about. Do not insist on meeting her but put the idea in his mind and then wait a few weeks for him to invite to you meet her. If he still keeps hiding her then it is probably time to walk away.

My boyfriend's best friend is his ex-girlfriend. I know she has ulterior motives because of her personality. How do I deal with this?

This girl is extremely jealous of other females my boyfriend associates with, and she absolutely despises me and will only hang out with him if it is only the two of them. It upsets me when my boyfriend hangs out with her, especially since they have a romantic history. I find it really hard to trust either of them together. I have less trust for her than him, but I've told him several times that it upsets me when he hangs out with her and he has said: "I'm not getting rid of her." What can I do to deal with this?

You never want to ask a person that you are in a relationship with to pick a side of friend or you. This creates problems and resentment. Since he is refusing to acknowledge that there might be something untoward in her friendship, it is time for you to walk away. Tell him politely that you are not willing to be the third person in their friendship/relationship and deserve to be the number one girl in a guy's life. This position is currently being taken by his ex-girlfriend so there is no option other than to walk away. It will save you heartache in the end. He is not willing to tell his ex-girlfriend to work on accepting you nor is he stating that you all should hang out together. He definitely has a deep emotional connection with his ex-girlfriend so walk away now before you become more emotionally invested in the relationship.

I keep checking her Facebook profile even I am not jealous of her, Why?

Earlier I suspected that my boyfriend is cheating on me with this girl which he found on Twitter. She seemed more beautiful and smarter than me even more nice and good at heart. My boyfriend used to share all his updates with this girl and they seem like they are very close friends. They use to flirt and joke around and met a couple of times. (which I did not know at the time but later he told me that they met and this girl gave her books as presents). This girl used to ask help with my boyfriend on her study and my boyfriend do it happily. When I knew about this I felt obsessed. I did not like the way he shares his stuff with her and appear so happy while he mentions those things later to me. I don't know I was jealous or not but I was uncomfortable with this situation. But I could not mention my feeling with any of them because this girl behaved with me so nicely, became friendly with me on Facebook as well and respected me as her elder sister. But I kept stalking her, again and again, like on an hourly basis. :( Later I found that this girl was in a relationship with another guy for 7 years. . . Right now I am assured that they were not cheating me. They were very good friends. But I ruined their relationship by saying, my boyfriend, that I don't like their way of flirting around. Everything is okay now. They stopped seeing each other now. Only talk on Facebook rarely. But still, I stalk her on Facebook and Instagram. I am not jealous at all now? but why can't I stop stalking her? what is my problem? help me, please. I have tried: I talk with this girl on Facebook and tried to be nice to her. I felt she is just casually talking with me not interested as she used to be while talking with my boyfriend. But when my boyfriend said that he won't be talking with her anymore because I am uncomfortable with this then only she came to talk with me. This time she seemed much interested and talked with me like I am very close to her. She mentioned that she is getting married soon with her in this chat. I think it was caused by: I don't know at all. I am helpless

Sounds like your suspicions initially were correct. She did not contact you often until they broke off seeing each other regularly. This most likely means that guilt was holding her back when you first met. It does not mean that they ever cheated with each other but something even subconsciously was keeping her from contacting you. There is nothing wrong with maintaining contact with her but you might have to just delete her off all your social media accounts since you are becoming preoccupied with her life on social media. There is nothing wrong with curiosity or creating a meaningful friendship with her but you do not want her social media posts to interfere with your emotional health. Instead, focus on your relationship with your boyfriend. He is dating you because he likes or loves you just the way you are. Stop comparing yourself to her and move on.

Should I be worried about their friendship?

My boyfriend recently met this girl and her boyfriend out on a night out, I noticed he has been messaging her a lot and I told my boyfriend that it bothered me a little, then the following week he went out again both this time without me, I wasn't bothered as such, then he invited her and her boyfriend to come on a day trip with us on our only day off together, we had fun but I felt left out and a couple of time just went off alone, and she didn't really try to start a conversation so I did I mean there is no reason to dislike someone just because there is a girl who is my guys mate and I thought it would make it less weird that was fine, I noticed she wasn't very pleasant with her own boyfriend, the next day after my boyfriend finished work she asked him to meet up with her and her boyfriend my boyfriend had asked if I was coming after I had called saying I was meeting him from work we spent ages there and were there passed midnight considering my boyfriend had worked at 8 in the morning, then the next 2 days she went into his work he works in an arcade and there are a lot of them around I have spoken to my boyfriend again he thinks I'm paranoid and if she tries anything he will tell her to stop, but I can't help but feel uncomfortable. I have tried: Talking one on one with my boyfriend with the issues I have but allowing him to have space. I think it was caused by: Maybe the amount of time they talk and how she keeps going into his work and asking him to go out and I get left alone

Perhaps they each click with their interests and personalities but you should insist that you only hang out as a couple and not individually. You are perfectly sane to have these feelings of jealousy and concern. This girl may not be showing her intentions yet her seeking out your boyfriend alone says that she is interested in him.

Sometimes couples do not click right away when they hang out. It can be awkward especially if one person gets on with the other two and then the fourth person is left out. Perhaps you can keep trying to make a connection with her or even her boyfriend. You should also insist that your boyfriend stop where this "friendship" is heading. Sometimes we can be completely clueless when a person is hitting on us and flirting with us. It is possible your boyfriend is missing the signals but if you are concerned then he should back off communication with her. The good news is that your boyfriend is being honest about his communication with her and not trying to hide anything so I do not think that he has any other intentions with this girl but why invite temptation.

Should I be worried, my boyfriend spends more time with his female co-worker?

My boyfriend has a female co-worker friend that he spends more time with than me. However, he swears up and down nothing is going on and always invites me to go with him when meeting her for drinks. He also told me he would like for us to become friends because she is new in town and doesn't have too many friends. However what I don't like is she hardly talks to me when I'm around them and she doesn't engage in conversation with me. All her and my boyfriend do is drink. Since I'm not a big drinker like them, I feel like an outsider so I stopped joining. Another thing I don't like is that he pays for all her drinks and food and she has handed her drinks for him to finish like they are a couple and I'm the 3rd wheel. I've talked to him about it and he promised so many times there is nothing going on between them and he doesn't find her attractive. I recently blew up at him because he didn't leave me a note when he was meeting her for happy hour and didn't want to have dinner with me but got up to go meet her. Should I be concerned and have blown up at him. Please advise. Thank you. I have tried: I've talked to him and he reassured me nothing is going on. I've asked him to let me know where he is going and not to leave me in the dark. He tells me where he is at, but doesn't tell me with whom. I think it was caused by: The cause is him not telling me where he is or leaving notes when I get home letting me know where he is at and with whom?

He does have some sort of emotional attachment with the female coworker. His denial now may be true because sometimes people do not see the mess they are creating until it is too late. This coworker has a bond of drinking with him. When you consider how much he has spent paying for her drinks and food when they go out, that would be a better argument to stand on initially. Point out to him that this money could be used for your future together. Be very wary of their friendship. Perhaps you should start to consider if you could remove yourself from the situation completely. Either way, this is not fair to you. Though he is telling you his comings and goings, he is still financially supporting their partying ways.

My boyfriend talks so nicely to other females and his face turns red. So today I asked him if other women turn him on?

Jealousy of boyfriend talking to other women

Attraction to the opposite sex even in a relationship is a normal thing. Don't you notice an attractive guy that you passed on the street? It is how you react to that feeling that makes the difference in a relationship. You need trust and security in the other person when you are in a relationship. Although he speaks with other females, he is not asking them out on a date or going home with them. He also may have red cheeks just because he is shy. Learning to trust in a relationship is difficult if you have been wronged before. The fair thing to do is give your boyfriend the benefit of the doubt. This is needed if you plan on having a future with him.

I am getting Depressed by thinking a lot about a girl?

Hi, I am a very shy person. There is a girl in my office, who used to stare at me. But I used to ignore her staring because of 2 reasons: 1) I was shy. 2) My colleagues used to tease me about this. But now she stopped staring at me and I miss her staring. And also she is getting frank with my friend. I am thinking a lot and getting depressed day by day by the fact that she started disliking me and liking my friend. Could this be true? I am actually not what people think of me. I have social anxiety disorder. How to overcome this. please help me and let me know as soon as possible. Thanks

If you have social anxiety, entering an office relationship is not the answer. She probably does not dislike you, instead, your friend has gained her interest now. If you really must, ask her out. The worst she can do is say no.

I don't know what to do, please could you help me out?

Basically, my crush is always talking about girls saying they are nice, what does this mean? Does this mean he is doing it to annoy me on purpose? I mean he tells me he loves me, but I don't know. My situation is different because he says he doesn't like her!

Just because he says a girl is nice, does not mean that he wants to date that girl. It is just the way that he describes people. He says he loves you so remind yourself of that whenever you begin to get annoyed.

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Just be yourself and polite. Answer any questions that she may have about you. Show her that you love her brother and want the best for him. There is always someone in the family that will view anyone he dates as not worthy. If she is that person, do not take it to heart. You and him are the only two people in the relationship where opinion matters.

How do I get my boyfriend to understand? Am I losing him?

My boyfriend and I have been together off and on for 10 years now, at the beginning of our relationship I did some very hurtful things to him because of issues that I had in my life that affected me mentally that I wish I could take back. Within the last almost 6 months he has been talking to this girl, they are very close friends at this point. They talk so much that he talks more deeply about things to her than with me and more often. First time I met her I had a great time! I have such insecurities that I would go through my boyfriends text messages (which he said I could do when feeling uncomfortable) and I noticed that they more they talked the more flirtatious she would get with him, he responded by being nice to her and not telling her that doing stuff like that is inappropriate because he said "its not a big deal" even though I was so uncomfortable with it. Later on, she tells him point blank of how she has gotten feelings for I'm even more nerve racked and my already diagnosed anxiety/paranoia has set in by a I talk to him and ask him just not to talk to her as much, he had told her that he is in a committed relationship with me and that he sees her only as a close friend (but it doesn't feel that way to me). I started noticing that once a week they would go out do stuff together and hang out for the morning before he left for work, and told me that the invite would extend to me whenever she invited him along, but when I would bring it up to him that "you didn't tell me that you guys were doing something" he gets very annoyed and seems irritated about it. I've been stalking her page constantly day and night to see what she posts, and what my boyfriend "likes" or comments on her posts especially compared to how little he does to mine.....>>FAST FORWARD<< As time went on I would notice that he would delete his messages when he got home from work whenever I would be visiting him claiming the phone was running too slow for him to play his phone games he has downloaded, one morning I woke up fairly early and as normal I grabbed his phone to get on so I could play a couple downloaded games, when I got on the phone though I noticed a couple of new messages from this girl, me being me I figured I'd answer the messages to let her know he was sleeping and he would get back to her later. But when I read the message it was a long message of her proclaiming her love for him and how she wanted them to be together and have a life together.... I, of course, started having a panic attack because there were no messages before this message of them talking. Earlier that day I saw them texting with each other, so I woke him up and asked him what they had been talking about earlier that day, he said nothing much why, and showed him the text she had sent him.... he told me the last thing they talked about was her sitting outside listening to the wildlife around her making noises... I was so upset that all I could think he was lying to me because why in gods name would she even send this message to him especially after he had told her that nothing would be between them! After he says that he rolls over and goes back to sleep, and acts as though this message was nothing.... after the day had passed and night fell again I just quickly ran through his messages to see what was in it and he had deleted them again or so I assumed but the message she had sent him that morning was just erased away so I did not know if he talked to her about that and if so what was said.... after that day he seemed to distance himself from me, hiding his phone when I was around (while he slept would keep it hidden under his pillow or on the side of him).... HELP PLEASE I just do not know how to handle this! Whenever I bring up the fact that I am uncomfortable with her for obvious reasons he gets irritated at me and claims that I'm controlling him and nothing is going on but that he has to ask me permission to hang out with friends....when that is not the case that I just asked him when he hangs out with her that I am brought along every time because I do not trust HER, but he says if I trust him then that shouldn't be an issue... he doesn't understand how I feel because it's "irrational" to him because of my paranoia and I have tried so many times to explain to him what it's like or how it feels and he just can't grasp it, I feel like I'm going to lose him if not now, maybe in the near future :(. Others were on friends their boyfriends had already had before dating, mine is a recently new friend, she has admitted to having feelings for him and wants to be with him even after he has told her far as I know.... and I can't make him understand why she bothers me

Hands down, you are right to be worried. This girl has not only interjected herself into your relationship, she is expressing her romantic feelings to your boyfriend. The fact that she texted that means that something has caused her to feel comfortable enough to express her feelings for him via a text message. Your objections are not you trying to control him but instead, trying to save your relationship from falling apart. It is time to tell him that it is either a relationship with you or a friendship with her. Stand your ground because if he keeps talking and hanging out with this girl, your relationship will end in disaster.

Am I overreacting? My boyfriend has a coworker who is his best friend and even though he has assured me that she is like his sister and he has no romantic feelings for her something always feels off?

My boyfriend and I have been together for one year. And his best friend is his coworker that has been this year just a month more. When I and he started dating we went through a rough patch but we were able to get through it. So this all starts with them getting a gym membership together.they would work out and then go get food together. Then they started going out to the movies and going to amusement parks and other stuff. Although they were never alone it still bothered me because he would always pay. One day I asked to go with him but he told me that she didn't like me. Or if she calls him and invites him to do something and I'm with him she will say something like ugh or nevermind and hang up. A few weeks ago we all went to bowling and she wouldn't even talk to me or look at me. And every time I and my boyfriend hugged or kiss she would roll her eyes. So my boyfriend ended up paying for dinner and bowling and when I asked him why he said that she agreed to come and meet me only if he would pay. Which made me dislike her even more. Also, she said that I couldn't hang out with them anymore because we show too much PDA, which I understand because I hate PDA but he loves it so we always keep it to a minimum. The last straw for me was yesterday, we were at a carnival with our friends and he saw her and went to say hi and she literally jumped into his arms, and he hugged her back, with a bear hug. They see each other at work every day there is no need for that hug. When we got home I told him how that bothered me and he said he wouldn't do it again. Also, he doesn't really hang out with her and he stopped paying for stuff. So there is that but after that hug yesterday and the fact that she just doesn't like me really bothers me, am I overreacting? How do I get him to understand how I feel? Whenever we talk it seems like he just agrees just so that I won't be mad. The relationship between my boyfriend and his coworker is different but also relatable. The article didn't really help me. I have tried: We have talked extensively about this and he has agreed that if I were doing the same thing he wouldn't like it either but he wouldn't stop until recently. I think it was caused by: I believe that the rough patch we went through during the first month of our relationship when he needed someone to talk to she was it. She knows everything that happened which is also why she doesn't like me even though she knows nothing about or has even had a conversation with me.

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My boyfriend's girlfriend didn't invite me to an event she was holding?

My boyfriend had already RSVP'd in advance and was invited. He suggested I RSVP as well. However, I tried finding the event on Facebook. I couldn't find it. I decided to message the girlfriend about RSVPing the event. She only said "OK"... What I am wondering is, are there ulterior motives here? She and my Boyfriend have had previous romantic relations, and when she found out we were dating she demanded to know why she wasn't informed. She has even demanded having private time with my boyfriend. I am not opposed to them hanging out, and my boyfriend has made it clear that she will have to spend time as a group with all his friends since he is very busy. I try not to let anything that happens get to me, but I can't help but feel like it is a coincidence. I completely trust my boyfriend to make the right decisions concerning this girl, but I am wondering How can I not let these coincidences get to me for the sake of myself and my relationship...? Many thanks! I trust my boyfriend 100% with how to handle this girl, especially since I feel her motives are more than just friendly with him. However, I do not trust her from the way she has behaved with him. I am just wondering How can I handle it, as to preserve my own well being and my relationship.

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I'm not sure if I should even be uncomfortable with this or if I'm being a little extra?

My boyfriend has this "girl-friend" and they've been friends for 6 years but he's told me they've slept together a couple of years ago and she recently called him confessing her love to him and saying she wanted to kill herself since he didn't feel the same way. He says he has no feelings for her but I don't know I just don't like the thought of them being alone together...and I trust him I just feel like she'd try to do something which amakes me uncomfortable and I've talked to him about how I feel but he's not trying to stop seeing her

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I'm having trouble dealing with my boyfriend's best friend?

I'm in a relationship my best friend so it actually great but lately I've been having trouble dealing my boyfriend's female friend. I've notice something that seem odd to me first time I've noticed few things so here it goes it was a plan to give surprise bday party to my boyfriend so I asked for some photographs what I noticed she was giving her photos with him wasn't bother to include mine then later on I thought maybe I took that in a wrong sense then she acted like she was the gift to him okay when he entered the place where we made an arrangement for his surprise bday party he was surprised then she hand over me a camera and told me to click photos of him and her so my boyfriend cut the cake and she was standing beside him was eating the first slice of the cake while I'm being a girlfriend was clicking their photos they were posing for the camera and I continued to click their photos but I didn't said anything to this cause I thought maybe I'm making an issue over a small thing .Then after 2 months my boyfriend and I was out for date then suddenly that night when we uploaded some photos on Instagram she texted him rude messages like this is what you were doing the whole day? You didn't do my work because this stupid thing etc I don't know what was that why on our couple photograph she texted him such a rude messages . Anyway that day I react a little bit but controlled my emotions.I live in a different city my boyfriend and his female friend live in a same city so they meet on weekends and I was completely with this thing. After a while she texted him for get-together my boyfriend told me about this and I said okay go have fun . Then on day I saw story on her Instagram they were having long drives and then he texted me they and other friends having night out I didn't like that but it was getting late at night so I told him to not to go his flat as it was not safe to travel alone in midnight he kept on texting me but I was kinda off with whole night out and ride thing so I pretended I was fine but didn't talk to him whole night and when offline . Then on next day when reached his flat I thought to talk about this how these things kinda a make me jealous then he told me he kinda share the same room he was taking care of him whole night and in the morning she was making breakfast for him so I just got angry over this so instead of sharing these things with I had an argument with him and I didn't talk to him for 1 day . But he came to my city to meet me to reconcile our differences and we did sort out things it was going fine then yesterday we had a group hangout so it was going fine then we( my boyfriend ,his female friend, one more friend was there and me) were having a group photograph so while we were posing I put my arms over my boyfriend's shoulder then what I a find awkward was that when we were posing for the camera for the second his female friend hugged him from behind and this makes me uncomfortable and and I stand still there was faking a smile for the camera cause I don't want to create some issue . Then I texted my boyfriend about this that I kinda feel jealous when she do such things he told me he was also shocked when she hugged him for the photograph and being his girlfriend I was standing still in the photograph . Then started explaining it's in their city so it's not a big issue and I find that bit awkward as I live in a different city and here the environment is completely different from their city. I felt bad but didn't said anything then I saw she posted the same photograph on her Instagram where she was hugging him and I was faking smile . Now I don't know am making a drama or my reactions are fine. If things are bothering me then there must be something wrong . I'm not insecure and I completely trust my boyfriend but her female friend annoys me sometimes and I don't know how to deal with this situation because I don't want to put my boyfriend in a situation where he has to choose one and I will never ever do this to him . I try everything not to interfere in their bond but lately her behaviour is bothering me and I just get upset and totally in dilimma what to do.

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My boyfriend has his female friend since childhood.they hangout together, go for lunch, and talk everyday and even they flirt with each other. But he says that she is just a friend

My boyfriend and I have been in relationship since 1 year and he has a lot of female friends. And also these days he's getting closer with his childhood female friend. They video chat at night. They spend time together. They flirts too and when I talked about her with my boyfriend he said that she us just a friend and nothing to worry about it but my instinct say that they're dating. What should I do? Should I trust him? Or should I talk to him directly and say I don't like her? He always says not to worry about his female friends. But these days I feel like he getting closer with another girl who is his childhood female friend and I have seen them flirting and also I talked about her with him but he said that I should worry about her. I have tried: I have tried talking to him about her. But he said that she's just a friend. But in social media's I can see them flirting and I saw while I was stalking her profile. I think it was caused by: Maybe because he has lots of female friend. She is beautiful than me. He always loved her. He is planning to get into relationship with her.

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In a Relationship with best friend but no one knows it. So feeling insecure with his female friends?

Hi,. I am a girl and in a relationship with my best friend but our other common frnds don't know the case. So as he behaves nice with his female friends, I feel like jealousy, just because I am there and he is just talking with her. Sometimes there is one girl and sometimes another and I know these all girls. they are my friends too. But we are in secret relationship so they don't know about us. They just know that we are best friends like my boyfriend and they are in reality. So I feel insecure and jealousy and I want to let. Go this thing. I want me to ignore such things but it hurts me more. My situation is different because I am in a secret relationship with my boyfriend and his female friends are my friends too. So when he talks with them, they don't feel that it will affect me. But it does. Because When he talks with them I feel like he is not giving his time to me. And if he will give me time in front of our female common friends then they will think like we are in relationship. So to avoid this drama, he acts like all female friends including me are equally close to him. And this hurts me a lot. I tried to talk with him. Tried to tell him that I don't like this things and all. He told me that he has to act like that to pretend that we are not in relationship and all girls are his friends. N ow I just hate this all so I want to ignore this things. But it hurts me very much. I don't know, it's my problem or what goes wrong. First of all our relationship is a secret in our friends group and college and friend circle. So this is all because I care too much. If I will ignore him with his female friends, this will not hurt me. But Ignoring this case is even painful. And Now I can't tell him. I Don't want to tell him that what it feels like

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All his Friends are chicks, Mean ALL(he's still evenness friends with his ex crazy skank stalker woman on Facebook) should I trust him?

I've been dating this guy for a year and a half n we just got it off from the start/sparks flew, and is one of them meant to meet and meant to be relationships, well he has all female friends (which I still haven't met btw) I've even asked him about doing stuff together with his chick friends and he says sure yeah good idea etc but hasn't happened n he has put no effort into setting up a hang out at all, plus I told him when we met that I can be jealous because of my previous marriage/insecure etc n I'm not used to being being with a guy who has all female friends and that I will do whatever it takes to subdue my jealousy fits, which I've done AMAZINGLY btw mean I have little tiffs here there which he says are "cute" etc, n now he goes to nursing school n isn't making a lot more female friends after I told him to please give. ME time to get used to other chicks first n he agreed then n then he comes home all excited saying how cool it is that him and his new female friend/classmate both think on the sameness level etc (which is the kind of connection me and him also have, I want to trust him bit just need some one to give me advice that'll b truthful, lmk what you think. Thanks and oh I deleted a lot of my guy friends off my Facebook because well after I met my man I felt he's all the Man I need plus didn't want to make him jealous, so told him what I did with my guy friends n made it very clear how I felt about him keeping contact with his ex crazy skank n after what she put him through he couldn't even muster up the man parts to take her off his Facebook , not even for me

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