Deal with my drug addict child
Edited by Ryan, Lynn, Charmed, Maria Quinney and 4 others
What is drug addiction? Drug addiction is a mental illness. It's characterized by compulsive, uncontrollable, drug craving, seeking, and use that persist even in the face of extremely negative consequences. Factors that can
What is drug addiction? Drug addiction is a mental illness. It's characterized by a compulsive, uncontrollable, drug craving, seeking, and use that persists even in the face of extreme negative consequences. Factors that can contribute to making a person more vulnerable to drug addiction are family history of addiction, abuse, neglect, traumatic experiences in their childhood, mental disorders like depression and anxiety, and early use of drugs. The methods used to administer the drugs, such as smoking, snorting or injecting a drug, may increase its addictive potential. Your genes, mental health, family and social environment play a vital role in drug addiction, and rehabilitation.
Each one of us wants to give our child the best life possible, and hopefully, a far better life than what we have. We love them, nurture them, and do our best to protect them from harm. We send then to school because we dream that someday they will be successful and make wonderful changes in the world. We pray that our child can finish college, get a good paying job, have his own family and children and live a normal, happy life. But this wonderful dream a parent has for his or her child can be wiped out in the blink of an eye if your child develops a drug addiction. What would you do if you found out your child was addicted to drugs? Would you still hope for a miracle for them, before your life on earth ends? How can you give your child a fighting chance? This article will answer these questions. And hopefully, it will help you deal with your addicted child.
Ways to Deal with Addict Child
- 1Find support. Help your child by getting someone to intervene. Family members, close friends, a therapist, healthcare provider, people from your faith community, or a counsellor. You need these people to hear and help with your situation -- people who will give you good advice. You need to plan an intervention very carefully, and you need as much help as possible to do this.Advertisement
- 2Talk to your child. Let him or her feel that you are willing to offer support and help.Advertisement
- Be careful not to be judgmental with your child.
- It's best if addiction is treated early. Don't wait for an addict to hit rock bottom before taking action.
- Make a list of the denials and excuses of your child and be prepared to deal with them.
- 3Don't attempt to punish, threaten, bribe or preach to your child. They don't need a preacher to tell them what's right or wrong. Don't threaten your child by saying that you will turn your back on him or her if the drug use doesn't stop. It will just make the child feel sorry for him or herself, and they'll turn to more drugs to deal with the negative feelings. Don't try to bribe them. For example, you may think you're helping by telling your child you'll give them money, or an expensive gift if they give up using drugs. It won't work. Most of the addicts are great liars. They can make you believe that they're already clean just for the sake of the bribe you've offered, and then they'll buy more drugs.
- 4Don't take on their responsibilities.
- 5Don't make them feel that they have no sense of importance or dignity. Let them know a lot of people around him are still counting on him. This will remain his mind - that he is still needed by other people especially his family.
- 6Never cover up or make excuses for drug abusers. Never shield them from the negative consequences or problems resulting from their behavior.
- 7Never argue with a person when they are high. If they are high, they are not themselves. They are focused elsewhere, and you may feel as if they don't even recognize you. It's the same as someone who's inebriated. Not only will you be talking to someone who isn't in their right mind, it's unlikely they'll even remember the conversation.
- 8Don't take drugs around drug addict. It's like you are tempting them to use it with your permission. This includes prescription drugs. If you life with an addict, hide them carefully, and never take them in their presence.
- 9Sadly, you can't believe anything a drug addict says. They are lost to drugs, and will do anything for more drugs, or money to buy drugs. This not only includes lying, but stealing your precious things and selling them for drug money. Later in this article, we will discuss how to recognize when a person is using drugs.
How to Deal with a Teenager Drug Addict Child
- 1Set rules and consequences. Inform your child of the consequences of using drugs. Be sure that you and your spouse can enforce the rules you set. Be prepared to follow through with these rules.Advertisement
- 2Teens' activities should be monitored.
- Be sure that you know who your child is with, and where they hang out.
- Check your child's belongings. They might hide drugs inside their backpacks, make-up cases, DVD cases, and even between books on a bookshelf.
- Inform your child that a lack of privacy is a consequence of him or her being caught using drugs.
- 3Involve your child in social activities. Encourage your child to join an outside activity like sports or other healthy hobbies. Your child might also enjoy using his or her extra time to learn new skills like crafting or cooking.
- 4Speak to your child. Ask your child what is the real issue behind him or her taking drugs. A major life change could result when you know the reason. Your child might have trouble fitting in to her or his new environment, or other family issues such as divorce is causing him or her so much stress. The reason may be something awful that happened to them as a young child, something you might be shocked to know, but you should remain calm and understanding. Your child may not have a reason. They were at a party, tried the drug, and like a black claw; it reached out and grabbed them, and won't let go.
- 5Seek help. Teenagers are sometimes likely to turn their back on their parents, but there are other people who can give them advice or information about drug addiction. Sports coaches, drug counsellors, family doctors, or therapists may be good people in authority to discuss the pros and cons of drugs. You child might listen to them.
Signs That a Person is Using Drugs
There are often physical signs that a person is using drugs.
- 1Physically. There are many physical changes that happen to a person's body when they are addicted to drugs.
- Eyes. Often their eyes are bloodshot eyes, and the pupils are larger or smaller than the normal size.
Weight. Take note of their weight. There is often a fluctuation in their weight, depending on what drugs they're doing.
- They might look puffier, especially in the face.
- They might look thin and emaciated, the way someone looks when they have cancer.
- Because the may not be eating or sleeping properly, often the person looks haggard, and suddenly much older. If they look like a mess, and there is a deterioration of their physical appearance,
- Grooming and cleanliness are less important to someone who's addicted to drugs.
- The smell of the breath, body and clothes may be unusual, and/or offensive. ##Impaired coordination.
- Slurred speech.
- Noticeable tremors may also be noticeable.
- There may be a great drop in attendance at school or at work.
- They may be frequently involved with trouble such as fights, illegal activities or accidents.
- They have started hanging out with a different set of friends, and the places they frequent.
- If your child keeps asking you for money, is having financial problems, or you find them stealing or borrowing money, then their money may be going to buy drugs.
- If their personality and attitude has changed without any obvious reason - other than drug use.
- He or she appears to be paranoid, anxious or fearful, these can be signs of drug use.
- They seem to be spaced out, or they are lethargic and lack motivation.
- Mood swings are usually present in drug users. They become irritable and tend to have angry outbursts, and then there are times when they are hyperactive, giddy, and agitated.
Questions and Answers
My son, 20 years old, is on drugs.
My son, 20 years old, has been on drugs for past 3 years. We have taken him to 3 different rehabs, and nothing helped. He had a job, but lost it because of stealing. He is now sitting at home and stealing all different things at home. About 6 mouths back we got him arrested for stealing money and tools from my garage. He was locked up for two weeks but this also did not help. What to do?
All I suggest, is you did the right thing calling the police. No one is above the law. Just consider that he will be safer in prison, than he will be on the streets. I'm so sorry you have to go through this. I can't imagine how heart-breaking it must be. Love him more, but be strong.