Deal With Your Girlfriend's Male Friend
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Some girls get along well with guys and have plenty of male friends. If your girlfriend's best friend is a guy, it is important to make him your friend and not your enemy. It's normal to feel a little jealous, but the key is to maintain your trust and confidence, and you may even gain a new friend in the process. If there are mutual trust and respect between you and your girlfriend, her male friend won't be an issue. Read the tips below to learn how to deal with your girlfriend's male friend and make the best of the situation.
- 1 How to Deal With Your Girlfriend's Male Friend
- 2 Things You May Ask Your Girlfriend's Male Friend
3 Questions and Answers
- 3.1 How to keep away girlfriend's male friends?
- 3.2 Should I be worried if my girlfriend is meeting up with a guy friend?
- 3.3 Jealousy Game. She has a lot of male friends, what should I do?
- 3.4 She has a guy best friend who's clinging a lot to her?
- 3.5 What should I say tonight? I don't want to sound jealous or insecure?
- 3.6 Her male friend is causing tension?
- 3.7 How to end friendship with mate's girlfriend?
- 3.8 How to show your boyfriend he can trust you around other guys?
- 3.9 My girl befriends guy friends and I don't know how should I act or feel about it?
- 3.10 Sir why does my girlfriend say sometimes that she has no feelings for me or she didn't deserve me, what can I do? I love her a lot, and I want to marry her?
- 3.11 Girlfriend's best guy friend often stays in her house where I am not allowed to enter! What to do?
- 3.12 I DON'T AGREE WITH INITIATING THE RELATIONSHIP WITH A FEMALE UNLESS SHE ASKS ME?
- 3.13 Why does my boyfriend get jealous easily, and always asks me who is with me when I'm sitting and calling him?
- 4 Comments
How to Deal With Your Girlfriend's Male Friend
- 1Meet your girlfriend's friend. When you and your girlfriend get together, the two of you will share a lot of information about your personal lives, and the topic of friends will come up. It is very important that you pay close attention to the things she tells you about her friends. Also, there will be a time where the option of meeting that person will come up. Most males tend to stray away and act as if we don't care to meet the other guy, but we definitely do. Meeting her friends can turn out to be a great thing for both you and your girlfriend. When you meet the friend for the first time, remember that you only get one shot at making the best impression that you can with her friend.Advertisement
- 2Communicate positively. Upon meeting this person, try to not seem as if you really do not want to meet them. Go into the meeting with positive thoughts, and do not consider him competition or an obstacle in your relationship, as he is only her platonic friend. He likely has the same position in her life as her female friends. They will notice how you act towards them, and this first impression can either make you friends or enemies. Talk to the guy, find common interests, and try your best to get in good with him. It will help your relationship a lot by being friends with him because your girlfriend will see how much you care about the people in her life, and that will score you points with her. The downside to the meeting is that if it does not go well, you two may possibly become enemies. This may cause tension between you and your girlfriend when she talks to him or talks to you about him. Another downside to messing up the meeting will be having to worry about the friend trying to mess up your relationship because he doesn't like you. Therefore, the introduction is very important in determining whether or not her guy friend will be a friend to you or an enemy.Advertisement
- 3Know your position. In your relationship, it is important to be close to your girlfriend's male friend, while not taking his friendship with her away. If you do this, it will likely cause problems between you and your significant other. Some relationships face the issue of the boyfriend not knowing their position with the male friend. They forget that the friend is not only theirs but their girlfriend's as well. You have to make sure that you pace your relationship with the male friend and ensure that you are not spending more time with the friend more than your girlfriend. If this happens, she may get jealous of the relationship and either pull you away from the friend or pull the friend away from you.
- 4Have confidence in yourself. Do not act like you are jealous of her male friend. Be secure with yourself and realize that you are the person she chose to be in a romantic relationship, not her friend. If you act very insecure or jealous, she will likely be turned off by this behavior, and it could even ruin your relationship. Trust is one of the most important aspects of a relationship, and if you act suspicious of her relationship with her male friend, she will feel that you do not trust her or doubt her integrity as a person. If your girlfriend is neglecting you or your relationship because she is spending more time with her friend than you, then you have every right to bring it up, but do not project your own insecurities onto their friendship.
- 5Respect their friendship for what it is. You may not be happy that the male friend is "imposing" and "talking to your girl" too much. However, you must remember that this is not just some guy; he is her best friend. The friend has the right to contact your girlfriend when necessary, so handle your dislike for that aspect and understand that he was her friend before you were even in her life. Most boyfriends tend to have the "I don't care attitude" about the male friend, when in reality, you may feel that the male friend is a threat to your relationship in some way. However, if it bothers you that much, talk to your girlfriend and let her know if it makes you uncomfortable. However, realize that the friend knows everything about your girlfriend before you even knew her, making him incredibly important to her. If you have an issue with the friend in the relationship, it is important to let your girlfriend know about the issue. However, ultimatums should not be given to your girlfriend on the matter of choosing between you and the friend. Pick your battles wisely when challenging the male friend; arguing about the friend is not something that your relationship needs. As stated before, you do not want to make him the enemy. If your girlfriend wants to go out with her male friend, let her go. Do not argue about it and show complete trust. Unless, of course, if the two of you are enemies and you have a real reason to be concerned. Only in those cases is it OK to question the details of their hangouts. Even though her friend may be your enemy and should be watched carefully, it does not mean you have the right to stop them from being friends.
- 6Keep negative comments to yourself. This is one of the most important aspects of handling the male friend, especially if you and the friend do not get along. When with the friend, it is important to not complain about your girlfriend, as the friend will repeat some or everything mentioned in the conversation. This is something that is more likely to happen if you are friends with the male. So your best bet is to not say anything that she would not want to hear during conversations with him. If he has something negative to say, do not comment on the matter. However, if it is overly offensive, then it would be appreciated by your girlfriend if you defended her. At the same time, respect the friend, and do not make bad comments about him to your girlfriend. This may cause her to tell him about the comments you made, turning him into your enemy, or if he is already an enemy, he will resent you even more. Keep the conversations positive, and avoid a he-said, she-said situation.
Things You May Ask Your Girlfriend's Male Friend
- Be a friend to him, and ask him to take care of your girlfriend whenever they are together and you are not around. Let him help you to guard your girlfriend to avoid others from bullying your girlfriend.
- Ask him to inform you of your girlfriend's activities, like if he knows where she is going or who she is hanging out with. You can also ask him to notice when others are courting your girlfriend. Take care not to appear like a stalker and pry into her business too much, though. If you ask too much, he might get the wrong idea and warn her that you're being paranoid.
- You can ask him if it would be OK to contact him if you cannot reach your girlfriend.
Questions and Answers
How to keep away girlfriend's male friends?
This could be a hard boyfriend's mission especially when we are talking about longtime friends. You may want to talk to your girlfriend or your girlfriend's male friend about how you feel, and instead of keeping him away, why not befriend him too? Your girlfriend may not appreciate feeling like she has to choose between you and a friend. Unless there is something inappropriate going on between your girlfriend and her male pal, there is no need to keep them away from each other.
That is the first mistake that you can make in regards to your girlfriend's male friend. It is very important that you do your best to either balance out the situation on your own or to address the situation to your girlfriend. Do not by any means try any tricks or anything to keep them away from your girlfriend in a negative way or by acting negatively towards the friend for you can end up losing her in the act of performing such an action.
Should I be worried if my girlfriend is meeting up with a guy friend?
There is nothing to be worried about if your girlfriend only sees her guy friend as a pal and nothing more. It is when you notice that she spends more time with him and seems happier than she is around you that you should start hitting the panic button. If it is worrying you, then you may want to talk this out with your girlfriend. Tell her that you do not really feel good about her meeting up with this friend on a regular basis. If your girlfriend only meets up with her male friend occasionally, then let her. Being in a relationship should not stop you from seeing other friends, especially when the friendship between them was there even before you came around.
One of the basic foundation of having a strong relationship is to have a complete trust in each other. Without trust, a relationship will not prosper or even makes the relationship to break. In response to your query, if your girlfriend truly loves you and you truly loves her back, you need to completely trust her and try to dispel away the negative feeling of jealousy because it will just only make your relationship at risk for breaking up. Instead, try to be more supportive to your girlfriend and also make friends to her guy friend. In this way, you are positively making yourself more worthy to your girlfriend's eyes and making her know that you totally support all her actions and considers her friend to be one of your friends. In short, you should not worry if your girlfriend meets with her friend guy.
Jealousy Game. She has a lot of male friends, what should I do?
So my girlfriend has a lot of male friends. When her friends are around her she plays a jealousy game with me. I talked about that with her and how it is not good for our relationship, but she still acts the same way. Now, what to do sir should I deal with it or what can I do?
Since you already asked her to stop and she has not, the next step would be to inform her that you do not want to be around when she is hanging out with these friends. The jealousy game is possible because she does not feel that you care enough about her and is looking for more attention from you. Give her more positive attention and see if she stops.
She has a guy best friend who's clinging a lot to her?
She has a guy best friend, whom I don't like because he's clinging to her and also that our relationship isn't going properly. I feel aggravated if she want's to meet him. I become upset. Please help me I think he's a big flirt and I am making myself angry and furious over it. Please help me, I don't want to lose her but I am very tensed about it. Please help!
Stop viewing his as your competition. Ask to spend more time with both of them together so that you can get to know her male friend better. Spending time with them will also help you show that you are her boyfriend and not him. Obviously, she is not interested in him or she would be dating him instead. Perhaps she does not even see his flirtations and that may just be the guy's personality with everyone.
What should I say tonight? I don't want to sound jealous or insecure?
My wife has a male friend who is also married. I know him as we were all friend's in college. College was 20 years ago. This guy has moved back in town and reconnected with my wife. My wife and he have had coffee and recently he was at our house for dinner with his wife and kid. Everything sounds OK, but after reading some text messages on my wife's phone (I know bad but was curious) I have another perspective. He is having some major marital issues. I also know at one time he was in love with my wife but she chose me. I also can read his wife is now concerned that he is in love with my wife. My marriage is OK but it has its up and downs and now I'm concerned about the position he is putting my wife in and I don't really know what they are talking about. I like this article and was going to act jealous and insecure, what should I do? I told my wife today that tonight when the kids are sleeping we need to talk? I feel like throwing up and can't focus on my work worrying about what I should say. I have tried: Nothing yet.. I think it was caused by: My wife has allowed him to dump his problems on her and she has enough to deal with
Remind her that in the past she chose you over him for a reason. Ask that she remove herself from his marital issues because if she really cared about him she would want his marriage to get stronger and she currently is a big fracture to that marriage whether she means to be or not. Offer the friend your listening ear instead. He may just be venting to your wife with no ill intentions however it has had consequences for him.
Her male friend is causing tension?
My girlfriend has a male friend of 23 years and is pushing his opinion about our relationship in a very negative ways and is manipulative.
Sounds like this friend has feelings for your girlfriend that go beyond friendship. It may not be romantic but instead protective and it will take some time for him to trust you and warm up to you. If your girlfriend loves you, she will not let what her friend is telling her to break you both up. Arrange some time for all of you to hang out and work on being as nice as you can be to the friend.
How to end friendship with mate's girlfriend?
My mate's father has told him to watch me and that he doesn't trust me. I and my mate's girlfriend (7 years 2 kids) are best friends... Now my mate won't talk to me, won't invite me to stuff and ignores me when I visit. She and I remain friends, however, I feel I should end it, how?
If you wish to remain friends and not make her associate you with social tension, just ask her to meet away from her house. Speaking to the person who ignores you or his father can be done only by your friend, and it may or may not yield the results (or even cause a wave of more prohibitions), depending on the possessiveness, past experience, culture, or even family upbringing. Just remember that you are right in this situation: being a friend to the person of any gender is natural and accepted.
How to show your boyfriend he can trust you around other guys?
I have a lot of male friends and I told him this before our relationship started. He has gotten very controlling over my friends. He tells me I let too many people in my life and he pointed out some of my guy friends. Also recently my ex apologized to me (he has a girlfriend) so he was not trying to get back together just trying to make better before he leaves off for boot camp. He wanted to meet up and talk about what happened and explain himself, and I wanted to talk with him but in a public place on my break at work (which is 15 min). My boyfriend threatens to dump me if I talked to him which I got angry at. I explained it wasn't because he didn't let me see my ex but because he was that quick to dump me. I have tried: Just talking through it. I explained I had no feelings towards me ex I just wanted to hear him out before he leaves for boot camp. For me, other guys friends I have tried to get him to meet with them (not trying to force a friendship) just thought he might feel more conformable if he knows who I hang out with. I think it was caused by: Really not sure. He is still friends with some of his exes, not that they hang out ever but sometimes catch up and talk. I am OK with that.
He felt insecure and lashed out with the breakup threat. You can't really blame him for that and even though your reasons were innocent he still feels threatened. Take some time before hanging out with other guys instead so that your boyfriend can feel more secure around you.
My girl befriends guy friends and I don't know how should I act or feel about it?
Hi, I've never seen a pop up box like this before. I'm just doing some research. My girlfriend (who I totally trust, who has never given me any indication that she is/will be unfaithful) tends to befriend guys (she always has, and she just continues to, albeit fewer, since we've been together). I'm not altogether comfortable with it, and just don't know if I should suck it in (if I didn't trust her, I'd leave her) or just acknowledge to her my feelings (we are open and honest about everything, that is a promise that we've made to each other). We have long term plans to be/stay together ... I love / value / respect / trust her. I'm just not sure if I should be honest and tell her how I feel on this one case. With thanks
Girls can have trouble accepting other girls which make it tough for friendship. The guy friends are most likely because your girlfriend finds the friendships less stressful and not as judgmental. She may also have interests that are more specific to stereotype male interests so she makes easier connections with male friends because they have similar interests. You can be honest with her and ask her why she has more male friends than female friends. There is nothing wrong with expressing to her that you feel uncomfortable about it and are looking for clarification.
Sir why does my girlfriend say sometimes that she has no feelings for me or she didn't deserve me, what can I do? I love her a lot, and I want to marry her?
Everything is going perfectly she told me that I love you so much. And after some time she instantly says that she did not have feelings for me and she didn't deserve me. Today she says when you kiss me I do not feel good
Feelings of insecurity can cause us to push away those we love as a coping mechanism. She may also be dealing with a crisis or depression. Feelings of unworthiness are common with depression. Tell her that you love her more than anything else in life and want to plan a future with her. Offer to help her solve why she feels so distant with you. Stress to her that you do not want to lose her.
Girlfriend's best guy friend often stays in her house where I am not allowed to enter! What to do?
I am from Bangalore, India. I met my girlfriend 11 months back. She used to say that sometimes she stayed with her uncle and auntie and sometimes in the rented house. She never gave me her address; she was telling if her uncle came to know about our love that will be a problem for her since we are from different religions. After 8 months I found that there is no uncle's house and she is staying in her rented house only where this male friend often visits and stays. She said he knows her sister and again sister might inform her parents about our relationship that may create issues for her. She is asking me to wait for another 2 years for the marriage. I told her that I can't continue this relationship but whenever I say that or keep space from her she comes to patch up our relationship. She is telling me that I am not having a modern attitude to accept a male friend. This drama has been going on for 4 months. She is not leaving me nor she is not allowing me to leave. She is still continuing the friendship with this guy. But I noticed that this guy rarely stays there. She was asking me for time to reduce his visit 4 months back. But still, he is there. At present, she is struggling with her career and education. Indeed there are lots of pressure on her about job and education. She is asking me to let her solve the issues related job and education then she will solve the issue of this male friend. What is the best way to solve this issue? I am trying to keep the space so that she will understand me. But the moment I keep a space or fight with her she comes to my house or meets me. Help me. I have tried: 1. I have Tried to break up many times. 2. I have Switched off mobile/ not picked calls 3. I have Argued and fought with her many times 4. I have Beaten her for not meeting me on New Year but went with this best male friend for a movie. I think it was caused by: I did not inquire about her and her stay when I met her. I believed in individual freedom. I support her financially without asking much (but now I ask and support less financially). She used to be defensive later when I used to ask about uncle and auntie. I did not take the cues from her talk about this issue since I believed in privacy and individual freedom.
If you believe in individual freedom, you are contradicting yourself by imposing physical violence towards her. There are a few things you are up against:
- Different religions. Even in progressive countries, differences in religion can break a relationship. Especially if you plan on having children. One of you will either have to convert to the other's religion or make it clear which one you will raise future children in.
- This male friend. Perhaps this person is actually someone her family is pushing her towards. She may be caught between heeding to their wishes and following her heart with you. Back off on pressuring her about this man. She will do what is best for her in the end. Pressuring her will make the struggle far more excruciating.
- You feel trapped. Toxic relationships can cause someone to feel trapped. You can break up with her if you are unhappy. Whatever you decide, you need to sit down with her and make a plan. She needs to focus on her job and education but you can still plan together for the future. This means that you will have to have those difficult discussions about religion, children and the possibility that her family may disown her for being with you.
I DON'T AGREE WITH INITIATING THE RELATIONSHIP WITH A FEMALE UNLESS SHE ASKS ME?
YOU DON'T ASK A GIRL TO BE YOUR GIRLFRIEND, YOU LET HER ASK YOU. I have tried: I'M NOT IN A RELATIONSHIP AND AS I SAID BEFORE YOU DO GO INTO A RELATIONSHIP BOTH YOU AND HER CAN'T HAVE NO BOYFRIENDS OR GIRLFRIENDS OTHER THAN YOU BECAUSE FRIENDSHIP BETWEEN A MAN AND A WOMAN DOESN'T EXIST ONE IS ALWAYS HIDING FROM THE OTHER THE TRUE INTENTIONS
Waiting for a girl to ask you out may keep you single forever. It is the law of the jungle that in nature the male is dominant. Instinctively women expect that a guy will ask her out if he is interested. Sitting back and waiting for a girl to ask you means that you may be waiting for a very long time.
Many people have friends of the opposite sex. This does not mean that there are other intentions present. Some people have a connection of friendship that will never develop into a romance. If you are both mature and recognize that you have common interests but are not attracted to each other, you absolutely can be friends.
Jealousy and control can make someone see things that are not there. Such as if your girlfriend had a male friend and you automatically assumed that they were hiding behind your back. Just because you can't have a girl as a friend does not mean that others can't make that work.
Why does my boyfriend get jealous easily, and always asks me who is with me when I'm sitting and calling him?
Because we are in a long distance relationship. I have tried: No I don't want to try the LDR. we are long distance its because he is starting (OJT) on the job training
He is feeling insecure with the physical/geographical separation due to his job training. To keep him from constantly monitoring you, it is advised to make him feel secure in your relationship. If you put up an emotional fight about him leaving then this could be the cause of his monitoring. He feels that he has let you down on some level and could also feel that his life is up in the air. Reassure him that you will be waiting for him to return. He also could be feeling suddenly left out of your life. Take a pic of what you are doing and send it to him before he asks. Perhaps set up a schedule of when you both have time to talk and stick to that schedule.
I don't know what to do. But I don't want my girlfriend to have a male friend.because I left her to school and I did not stop calling her yet she slept with one of her guy friends,and I did not stop her from having male friends before this thing happened. Now am afraid she cried she was very sorry.what to do
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