Cope with Being Alone at Christmas
Edited by Nerissa Avisado, Eng, sheryl hernandez, Lynn and 3 others
Why is "Home Alone" a classic favorite that people of all ages love to watch just about any day of the long Christmas season? Aside from Macaulay Culkin's boyish cuteness and savvy ways, and despite all the fun and wit of the movie, it never fails to send you a message - no one should be alone on Christmas day. After all, Christmas is all about sharing, loving, family, and traditions.
With this mindset, people tend to feel sorry for others who have to spend the day alone. This makes being alone on Christmas day seem like a big deal, even a wretched thing. What some people do not realize is that being alone can actually be something sought out or desired, and that it can be a wonderful opportunity to discover something beautiful. And even if you do not like being on your own on such a special occasion, but you can't do anything about it, remember you still have the power to make the day just as meaningful as you want it to be, regardless of the reason, one thing is clear - you must know how to cope with being alone at Christmas.
Christmas is definitely a time for traditions. Sadly, some of the common traditions are so deeply rooted that they become expectations that are sometimes hard to live up to, if not impossible, to fulfill. Traditions like gifting every person who matters in your life, or filling those stockings hanging from the mantle where Santa is supposed to enter from the chimney, are sometimes just too expensive. Traditions like being with your family on this day can mean crossing hundreds to thousands of miles; that is not only expensive, but it can be very impractical too.
If you decide you can't go home for Christmas, what are you to do? Regardless of whether you are alone and you hate it, or you are alone and you love it, you can always make it a special day. How? One way is by discovering how being alone can be a blessing. And another way, if you like to be surrounded by people, is to create opportunities and make those moments memorable.
The Bliss of Being Alone
With all the hustle and bustle going on in your life, being alone for a day or two can be bliss. This can be a good time to do the stuff you have been missing for far too long. When you have but very little time to yourself, solitude is like a gift, which is quite fitting for the occasion, don't you think?
Then the solitude can be welcomed, even enjoyed. To do this, forget about what is "supposed to be" for the day. Think of relaxation and de-stressing. Remember that a lot of people are under the weather at this time with too much stress - last minute shopping, endless cooking, entertaining friends and relatives who are dropping by, wrapping gifts, and reviewing lists of people and things to do. Whew! For a change, take advantage of being alone. Here are some things you can do to enjoy Christmas alone:
- 1Bask in Solitude.
- 2Cut your backlogs.
- 3It's your chance to reflect.
- 4It's not too late; plan ahead.
- 5Picking up where you left off.
- 6Treat yourself to a relaxing spa day at home.
- 7Usually, big movies are released around this time, and on Christmas day, the theatre isn't packed with people. Go on your own, get some excellent snack food, and enjoy the film.Go see a movie.
- 8Curl up on a comfortable sofa with a book, hot cocoa, and some baked goodies and sweets. Read a novel by the warmth of the fire burning merrily in the hearth. Surely this is a gift of wonderful solitude like no other.Be lazy.
- 9It doesn't have to be hundreds of miles away, it could just be a thirty-minute drive.With so many people away fro Christmas, maybe you could book an Air B&B for a couple of days over Christmas.
- 10It's "mind over matter".
Seek Company and Be With Others
If you have more than a day or two to be on your own, you can't spend it all isolated when the whole world is celebrating. Just when you are on the brink of feeling lonely while remembering loved ones back home, get out and seek the company of other people. No matter where you are, there must be other souls around with whom you can have meaningful Christmas moments. This is a good opportunity to feel the real spirit of giving and sharing. There are many things that you can do and places you can go. Most people are just extra caring during holidays. Here are some great Christmas ideas that will allow you to share your time with others:
- 1Can I be of help?
- You can perhaps help out in a soup kitchen for the homeless.
- Many homeless shelters cook a Christmas dinner for their guests, and because it's much more than usual, regarding work, they can always use help.
- If you like to be surrounded by kids, host a Christmas party for orphans.
- You can also buy or collect inexpensive toys for kids who are needy.
- How about joining others to give the elderly in a nursing home a warm Christmas celebration?
- 2Hang out with friends.
- 3Singles' meet ups.
- 4Say "YES" to invitations.
- 5It would be very easy for you to not tell anyone you'll be alone, and then come Christmas day, wallow in self pity. Had you told some of your friends, or co-workers, you might have been invited to share their Christmas. Don't miss the opportunity just because you want to play "Oh Poor Me", let people know you will be allow, and give them the gift of sharing theirs with you.Resist the temptation to wallow.
- 6Social media is being with others too.
- 7Call your family and friends.
If being alone is not your idea of a perfect Christmas, reach out. Wherever you are, even if you're in an airport terminal, there are other people there who also feel lonely. Talk to them, invite them for a cup of coffee, swap stories, call a family or a friend. You can go out where people go - parks, malls, restaurants, or festivals. Find a place where your spirit can be buoyed by the cheerfulness of the season.
There you have it. If you have no choice but be on your own this holiday, remember there are many ways to cope with being alone at Christmas. You can take advantage of your single blessedness and make this day a quality in the books. Or get out and find yourself a meaningful way to spend Christmas with others. Either way, have a Merry Christmas!
Categories : Holidays & Traditions
Recent edits by: VC, Julia Moliere, Lynn