Be a Sexier Man by Changing Your Behavior

Edited by Donna, Eng

You can be an ordinary, but sexy male by changing certain behaviors.

There are plenty of subtle ways that a man can grab the attention of the opposite sex, without making much of an effort. Adjustments in your posture, attitude and Outlook on life can go a long way towards attracting the woman of your dreams. Here are some tips for adopting some simple traits and behaviors that can make you irresistible to women.

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Note that any of these tips can be used to attract a woman to you while you are single or while you are on a date, but they can also be used as ways to keep the woman that you do have in your life, in love with you.

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    When sitting alone, waiting to meet women, practice looking like a deep thinker by posing with your head slightly tilted upwards and your hand on your chin
    This makes you look "deep" and also taller than you might actually be. The pose also invites questions from inquisitive women, who might ask you why your look so pensive or what you are thinking about.
    Adopt the pose of a deep thinker.
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    When sitting alone, try reading a book rather than staring at your cell phone
    Women find this sexy because it indicates intelligence, an open mind and a possible single status. Men who are constantly texting do not seem that available to other women, whereas reading a book can provoke questions from women.
    A man reading a book is sexy.
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    Smile less, talk less and try to adopt a sullen, brooding look
    Men look more attractive to women when they seem to be preoccupied with their inner secrets. This makes you seem sexy and mysterious, like a passionate and moody poet or musician. Brooding also gives women the idea that you are deeply troubled, and therefore in need of some female company and advice. Acting a bit withdrawn and even a bit upset compels women to start up a conversation with you to find out what is wrong with you.
    A sullen brooding look is attractive to women.
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    Leave the gang behind and go alone to places where women might hang out
    The "pack of bros" that you normally surround yourself can intimidate women and prevent them from approaching you. Furthermore, any friend that you bring with you could serve as competition for her affections.
    Leave your male friends at home when you go out to a bar, as women find a gang of men intimidating.
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    Make eye contact with the woman that is talking to you
    Women respect a man that can hold their gaze and not turn away. It is sexually appealing to her to think that you are genuinely interested in what she has to say.
    Make eye contact with the woman who is talking to you.
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    Don't brag about anything, especially about how much money you make, how smart you are or your last sexual conquest
    Men who brag come off as desperate and insecure to women. You can subtly let her know who you are by handing her your business card.
    Women find men who brag to be a turn-off.
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    Be a straight player and be yourself
    Don't make it too hard for her to get to know you or she will give up. Be direct and answer her questions as honestly as you can. There is nothing sexy about a man who pretends to be someone he is not.
    Don't make it too hard for her to know you or she will give up.
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    Be true to your word and follow through on any promise you make, no matter how small
    If you tell her you are leaving for a moment to make a call, make sure to return to continue the conversation. This gives her that you are man of integrity, which most women find very sexy.
    Be a good listener because most women find that sexy.
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    Let her take the lead in conversation and be a good listener
    Let her take command of where the conversation goes and be attentive. This helps build her confidence and trust in you.
    Men who let women take the lead in the conversation are found to be very attractive.
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    Read the papers, watch the news and keep up with current events
    Knowing what is going on in the world makes you appear more intelligent and informed and these topics give you something to talk about.
    Keeping up with current events can make you sexier.
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    Women are attracted to tall men
    Whenever possible stand, or sit on a higher chair so that you appear to tower over them. If there is a level in the room, or a small step, stand on it. This is especially important if you are shorter. When having a conversation, try to urge her to sit and then lean over as if the two of you are in conference. If you need to, wear shoes with slight lifts or a bit of a heel.
    Tower over her whenever you can to appear like a sexy dominant male.
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    Pay attention to traditional dating etiquette and behave like a gentlemen
    Ask to take her coat, pull up a chair, order her a drink and pay for it and say please and thank you. A well-mannered considerate male is attractive to most women, feminists included.
    Pay attention to traditional dating etiquette.
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    Be mindful, stay off your cell phone and stay in the present
    A man who constantly checks his cell phone is sending a message to the women watching that he is unapproachable. Constantly checking your cell phone can also mean that you are too busy to have a relationship, a player, or talking to an ex.
    Men who text seem unavailable.
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    If you like a woman, compliment her
    Do so without making it too sexual. For instance, you can compliment her on her great shoes, beautiful hair or wit but stay away from being too personal. An example of getting a bit too personal would be making observations about her anatomy or the ways she smells.
    Complimenting a woman can get her attention.
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    Be reciprocal in your conversation and know how to banter back and forth with her
    Acknowledge what she is saying and follow the thread of what is being said. Reply to her and make your comments relevant. Do not sit there and be silent. Women do not like having to work too hard to get a response from a man who seems dead set on putting up a wall when it is time to have a conversation.
    Back and forth banter can help a woman feel attracted to you.
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    Call her by her name when you are talking to her
    Insert her name casually into conversation when you can to make her feel wanted and respected. This also rapidly escalates the familiarity between the two of you and helps keep intimacy in already established relationships.
    Make sure you mention her name a lot when speaking to her as it helps create intimacy.
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    Do not smoke cigarettes or anything else
    Smoking used to be the accessory of choice for male sex symbols but nowadays; most women are repulsed by the smell of the smoke lingering in your hair and clothes. You also appear a bit less intelligent if you smoke because it is well known that it causes cancer, dental problems and other health issues, and it seems like you are making a less than wise choice. It also does not help that cigarette smoke makes your breath smell.]
    Smoking is a habit that repels most women.
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    Do not sit and drink until you are drunk, especially on a first date
    Women will naturally steer away from men who are inebriated because it usually means that they are angry, impotent and lack self-control.
    Women are not sexually attracted to drunks.
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    You are kind to wait staff and you tip them twenty percent or more
    This indicates a kind and aware individual who has respect for those who serve them. This will make her more willing to get involved with you.
    Women are attracted to big tippers because it denotes generousity.
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    Move in a slow, deliberate and confident way
    Men who race around or walk too fast seem less masculine, less in control and a bit sloppy. Men who move slowly seem more mature and appear to have more bearing and stature.
    Exuding confidence and determination is sexually attractive.
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    Walk with her and do not let her stray behind you
    Slow your stride if necessary to make sure that she is with you. You can also guide her to walk with you by taking her hand or by taking your hand and placing it on the small of her back.
    Slow your stride so you can be by her side every step of the way.
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    When you are with her, always give to the homeless on the street
    Generosity and compassion for others makes you seem like a more attractive partner.
    Giving money to the homeless is attractive because it makes you seem generous.
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    Use proper grammar when you are speaking to her
    This makes you appear to be smart and well educated, which is more appealing to women
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    Do not swear during your conversation
    Peppering your speech with profanities does not make you seem hip or more authoritative, it makes you seem angry or immature. It is also gives her the impression that you do not respect her and that is why you are speaking so casually.
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    Show her that you are kind to animals
    Many women judge the character of a man of how he treats animals. When you encounter people's pets, be sure to greet them with enthusiasm. On a subliminal level, this makes the woman feel that you would be nice to any children that you would bear together, which is ultimately, very sexually attractive.
    Women like men who are kind to animals.
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    Be positive about children and speak nicely about any children that may be present
    A man that is critical, sarcastic or annoyed by children is not sexually attractive to most women.
    Women love men who are nice to children.
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    You speak in a positive way about your mother and about older women in general
    Many women abide by the rule of thumb that a woman, who is nice to his mother, will also make a great mate. Make a point of saying something nice about your mother when you first meet a woman.
    Women love men who love their mothers.
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    If another man talks to her while you are, do not display jealousy
    This makes you seem territorial and insecure. Women are not attracted to men who might potentially keep them in some kind of emotional prison that does not allow them to talk to anyone else.
    Never display jealousy as that is a turn-off for most women.
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    You let her take pictures and selfies with you, and then post them on social media, without complaint
    Being seen in a picture with a man, especially a new prospect or boyfriend means a lot to women, because it means that you truly are single and that you are more likely to put up the all-important relationship status later.
    A man who cooperates when it is time to take a selfie is very attractive to a woman.
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    Display a decisive, confident attitude at all times
    If the two of you leave one place and plan to go somewhere else, do not waffle about where you should go. Women like it when a man takes control and just says "We're doing this now."
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    Keep your place as clean as if your mom was going to pay you a visit any minute
    Make sure that your place is spotless before you bring a woman home. Be ready for anything by always having clean sheets on your bed, clean counters and a clean bathroom. Women roll their eyes at grown men who are not able to care for themselves in the most basic way.
    Women are attracted to men who keep a spotless apartment.
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    Keep your place staged for seduction at all times
    Always have a bottle of fine wine on hand, wine glasses and some quality cheese and premium crackers ready to be displayed on a platter. Make sure that your music player's work and that you have CDs with romantic music on hand. Make sure that your place also smells nice, by using a bit of room freshener. Have candles on hand that you can light to make the mood more romantic. This attention to detail will go a long way to making her feel like you are a suave and romantic individual.
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    Avoid texting women to communicate and always make a call instead
    Texting is not very romantic or respectful of her. It is more for couples that have been together a long time and need something picked up from the store.
    Woman find males who only text to be exasperating.
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Tips and Tricks

Kissing a woman's hand is considered to be a bit corny.

  • Do not be corny about introducing yourself and stay away from behaviors such as bending down on your knee to kiss her hand
  • When striking up conversations with women that you do not know, it is best to stay off of the hot topics such as religion, politics and money
  • Talking like a racist is very attractive to most women
  • Do not gossip about others when you are making small talk with women, as it makes you seem week
  • Belittling the waitress or leaving a small tip can also be a big turn off for women
  • Never ever talk about your ex or any past sexual conquests, at that indicates a male who is disrespectful
  • If you are speaking, and she is acting like she has lost interest in what you are saying, or is looking around, change the topic by asking her a question so that she feels in control of the conversation again
  • Avoid flirting with other women while focusing on just one, or she will perceive you as a player
Flirting with other women wlll only serve to drive her away.
  • Be upfront about the fact you have children, by showing her their pictures early on in your contact, as this will establish early on whether or not this is a deal-breaker for getting to know you better
  • Make it known that you are a bit of a handyman around the house or with fixing cars or appliances, as the ability to fix things is very attractive for some women
  • If a woman is at your home, avoid turning on the television, as that is too distracting to cultivate an air of romance
  • If a woman turns down your advances or suggestions, never ever show resentment or anger as other women will be watching or hear about it
  • When setting the stage for seduction, it is important that you do not go overboard by making your pad look like Hugh Hefner's mansion; avoid details like cheetah or zebra fabrics, mirrors on the ceiling and large suggestive prints
  • This should go without saying, but avoid locker room talk and public displays of flatulence when you are with a woman
  • If you are not interested in watching sports, be sure to mention this to her as many women translate that to mean that the man will have more romantic time to her, which is a desirable trait
  • If you enjoy shopping, knitting or cooking, be sure to let her know because women really appreciate males who have learned how to enjoy some of the hobbies or skills that are traditionally associated with the feminine

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