117 Sure Signs That Your Wife Is Cheating on You With Someone On Facebook vs Someone She Met Online vs Someone Long Distance ... and 20 more

• Sometimes the woman is traveling to see an ex-boyfriend who she slept with when she was younger; you might be able to find clues about this by checking into her history on Facebook.
• If your wife says she is going away on a business trip, you can phone her work and ask when she will be back or to leave a message to confirm where she is.
• If she says she has gone away on holiday with friends, you can always call that friend or have a chat on Facebook to ask specific details about the trip; usually it is pretty easy to catch a friend who is covering up for a cheating woman in a lie.

The combination of sun, sand and a few drinks can be intoxicating for a woman who goes away on holiday, by herself or perhaps with good friends. Cheating like this can be accidental, but it can lead to an annual agreement. Sometimes the holiday that is taken is to see someone she met on Facebook or online.

A combination of sun, sand, and cocktails can create the perfect situation for an extra-marital fling.

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   She has trouble answering the simple question "How was your trip?" Women who cheat will avoid answering that kind of question or change the topic.

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   She seems very nervous around you like she has done something naughty behind your back

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   Women who cheat, but did not mean to, might be a bit nervous around.

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   She won't undress in front of you when she gets back from her trip

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   She might be concerned about marks left from a lovemaking session giving her secret away.

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   If she is suddenly online a lot and texting it could mean she is telling a lover how much she misses him

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   Check out the advice given in Signs That Your Wife is Having a Long Distance Affair above to see if she has any of the behaviors, such as being very possessive of computer or panicking if she can't find it.

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   If she suddenly has a very attentive new friend on Facebook it might be the adulterer from her vacation

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   Check out the advice given in 1. Signs That Your Wife is Cheating on Facebook to see if any of the changes in the behavior described fit the scenario. If there are a lot of comments from strangers on her photos or one male who frequently comments on the photos, they might be from a lover she met on holiday.

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• If you suspect she was cheating, and she uses a camera, steal it check out the photos in her gallery; the same can be done with a cell phone if you know her password
• Install a security camera or hidden camera in your home to see if your wife is entertaining visitors while you are away

If you find photos of her in a place she never told you she went then she might be having an affair with someone she met on holiday.

The mice will play while the cat is away, is the old saying. You could be at work, away for the weekend with your friends or on a business trip, which opens the window of opportunity for some hanky panky to take place, maybe in your very own marital bed.

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   Your house is as neat as a pin when you get back

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   If your home seems way cleaner than usual when you get back from your trip, it is possible your lady has had a guest over.

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   There are brand new sheets on your marital bed

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   If she has suddenly gone out and bought new bed sheets, it might be because she had had a guest over when you were not around.

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   She seems distressed if you tell her you are returning home early

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   She might make excuses that the place is a mess, or give her a couple of hours or send you on an enormous errand after work that will take you a couple of hours to do after work

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   She treats you like a King when you get back, pampering you and making your favorite meals

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   She might be feeling guilty and trying to get rid of any suspicions by being overly sweet to you.

   

   If she is excessively sweet to you when you get back from a trip she might be harboring guilty feelings.

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   She may avoid questions about what she did when she was away

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   She could change the subject or act like she didn't hear you when you ask her what she was up to while you were away.

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   She doesn't answer texts or calls while you are at work

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   Women are way too eager to answer texts from the man they love at any time of day, and if she is not responding, it could indicate that she is spending private time with someone else.

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   A man shows up at your house with flowers or a gift and says, "Sorry, wrong house"

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   If a guy shows up at the door, seems embarrassed, apologizes and leaves, it might be your wife's lover.

   

   If she lied to her lover about being married, the guy could show up at your house bearing gifts.

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   She insists on knowing your schedule way ahead of time

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   If she is going to organize a rendezvous, she has to make sure she won't be caught so she will always be trying to get you to confirm your plans

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   You suggest you go to an event or restaurant and it is evident she has been there before

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   A woman who is cheating will try to avoid being seen at the restaurant where she has been eating with her lover or seeing the same movie twice.

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    Your Netflix settings have changed

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    If it seems that your Netflix settings have changed to reflect different tastes, it is possible your wife has been watching television with her lover.

    

    There may have been a man over at your home while you were away if all of your Netflix settings have been changed.

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• If you want to shake up any routine you suspect your wife might be having with a lover, shake up your schedule and be less predictable; return early from work and surprise her with constant changes in schedule that make it difficult for the two of them to meet
• Consider hiring a private detective to follow your wife and report on her activities while you are gone

When your wife is having an affair with someone who is married, there may be a bit more discretion than usual in the relationship, especially if there are children involved in either marriage. Unless she is in love with the man, many of these affairs are casual and less affectionate.

A married woman cheats with a married man because:

• She feels she is not getting enough sex from you and feels that it is healthy to have regular intercourse
• She wants recreational sex without strings and knows that if she has sex with someone who has as much at risk as she does, that she has less of a chance of being discovered
• She wants the freedom to experiment with her sexuality without the danger of being involved emotionally
• She has a sense of rivalry or a vendetta against the married man's wife

Jealousy may drive your wife to have an affair with a married man.

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   She might be quieter than usual, sadder or be keeping to herself

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   If she is in love with the person, then she may be depressed that the two of them cannot be together.

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   She appears to be dressed up for no reason sometimes

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   If she is dressed up when you get home or just before you go to work,

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   A friend tells you that she was seen with someone else

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   If there is gossip about your wife, it is worth checking out because it might be true.

   

   The gossips in your neighborhood might have the information you are looking for with regards to any extra-marital hanky-panky.

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   She is possessive or territorial with her phone and laptop

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   If she is communicating with him, she will not want you to see any messages or a record of calls from him.

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   She insists on having her own cell phone number with her own provider

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   This is so there is no way you can see any record of her calls or texts from him.

   

   If she is always talking on her her own cell phone alone it might be to a married man

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   You find a second cell phone

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   If she owns two cellphones, one might be expressly for contacting him, and it also might be in his name.

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   You receive mysterious calls to your home

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   This could be either from the man's wife or from the man himself calling to see if the coast is clear or to check up on your wife to make sure she is not sleeping with you or anyone else.

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• Consider installing a GPS tracker on her vehicle to track her whereabouts during the day.

If she says she is going to be somewhere during the day, hold her to it, by calling and checking up on her; if she is not really at the hair salon, then she might be a hotel with her lover.

This type of affair is usually also very secretive, just because any special treatment from a boss generates much resentment from colleagues.

A woman will cheat with her boss to:

• Get favors, raises, and promotions at work.
• Establish an alpha female status with rivals and coworkers.
• Fulfill a need to feel special and not like the others where she works.
• Be paid special attention and gain the approval of a male because she has a history of being rejected by males
• Social climb to a better marital position in life.

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   She is always working late

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   She makes the excuse of working late and may even be at work, but she might also be having sex with her boss after hours.

   

   She may not be meeting her boss after hours for the reasons that you think.

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   She is always taking business trips

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   She may or may not be accurate when she tells you how many people are on this trip or even neglect to mention that the boss is coming.

   

   That business trip she is taking may be partly for pleasure.

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   She seems to have a lot of trouble at work

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   She could come home complaining about the gossips at work and how they complain about her all of the time or how they are jealous of her. This might be a preemptive strike to prevent you from finding out that she is cheating with her boss.

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   One of her colleagues tell you that she is cheating with her boss

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   If you are told this by one of her co-workers, it might be about knocking her out the competition for a promotion, or it could be that the colleague is being truthful and is hoping to put a stop to the situation.

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   She is suddenly looking for a new job

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   It could be that the affair has ended and her boss does not want her around, or it could be that she needs to quit, so there is less conflict from her co-workers and so that they can make plans for the future.

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   She may be online constantly and tell you that she is working when in reality she is communicating with her boss

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   In this case, she might be using the excuse of working to hide the fact that she is always on her computer

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   She gets a sudden big promotion or a raise

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   If your wife is suddenly promoted or gets a raise, it might be the result of doing her boss a few late night favors, especially if she is not qualified for the promotion.

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   Browse through some of the other Signs of Cheating and Tips and Tricks in the above articles

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   Many of the behaviors describe that may apply to the situation of cheating with her boss as well including the tendency to stay online constantly, possessiveness and a reluctance to be physically affectionate with you, especially in front of her boss.

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• This is one situation where it is crucial for you to check up on her by giving her a call at work to see.
• Popping by her work on the pretense of delivering her lunch or bringing her flowers might allow you to catch her in the act.

Even though they are clearly "hurting you" by carrying on with each other behind your back, your best friend and your wife may go to great lengths to conceal an affair from you, especially if he is married too and especially if there are kids involved. However, the two of them may be very addicted to their betrayal of you and not able to stop.

It seems incredible that someone's best friend would cheat on him with his wife but here are some reasons that this happens:

• He may perceive you as neglecting her and therefore somehow think he is doing you a favor, in a twisted way, by satisfying her sexual appetite in ways that you can't.
• He is secretly resentful of you. He may have some grudge against you, even a subconscious one and this is his way of showing you.
• He is very competitive with you and wants to win some kind of rivalry.
• He is a sex addict and sees all women as a conquest.

Is your wife having an affair with the best man at your wedding?

• You work a lot she misses you and you are a lot like him.
• She thinks you are cheating or have cheated and it is getting revenge by doing it with your best friend.
• She is in rivalry with his wife or an ex-girlfriend of your best friend.

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   She may pretend to hate your best friend or not get along with him

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   This is a case of practicing reverse psychology. Leading you to believe she dislikes him is supposed to throw you off the scent of what is really happening behind closed doors.

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   She avoids inviting him over for dinner or to an event at your home

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   She may find it unpleasant to look at his girlfriend or wife because she feels jealous of him.

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   When she hears your best friend is coming over, she may dress up a little

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   A woman that spruces herself up or changes into a more beautiful, sexier outfit when your best friend comes over may be playing a bit of a game.

   

   If she dresses sexy when your best friend comes over to hang out, there might be something going on behind your back.

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   Take a look through some of the other Signs of Cheating and Tips and Tricks in the above articles as many of the behaviors described that might apply to the situation

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   This might be behaviors such as not being where she says she is going to be and being overly attached to her cellphone or laptop.

   

   If she is overly attached to her cellphone and secretive about using it, then she could be meeting a friend of yours on the side.

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• If you suspect that your wife is cheating with your best friend, go to the trouble of putting them in the same room as often as possible. As you are already intimate with both people, you might be able to intuitively detect subtle changes in their behaviors that indicate they are cheating on you with each other.
• Remember that when people practice extreme forms of betrayal of their spouses or old friends, it is usually because they are suffering from other issues such as low self-esteem, alcoholism or sex addiction.
• Take a look through some of the other Signs of Cheating and Tips and Tricks in the above articles as many of the behaviors describe that may apply to the situation of cheating with your best friend as well.

Sex addiction and alcoholism often go hand-in-hand when it comes to infidelity.

Women usually link up with exes on social media applications like Facebook, and before you know it she is back in full contact with him, and they are having an affair.

Here are some of the reasons a woman will cheat with an ex:

• She is nostalgic for the good old days and wants to revisit them.
• She genuinely thinks she might have made a mistake by breaking up with him and wants to reconnect with him to see if he the one.
• She may be trying to get even with a woman who may have stolen him from her years ago.
• She wants some variety in her sex life and knows the sex is good with him.
• The ex may have been the one for her but may have had an addiction, alcohol or money problem that now does not exist and she wants to check it out.
• She feels that he understands her better than you do.
• The ex may want to come back into her life and is making it very easy for her to do so.

That affair with her ex could be taking place right under her nose.

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   She is friends with him on Facebook

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   When a woman befriends an ex on Facebook, it is usually to chat with him, and those chats can lead to infidelity. Refer to the section in the article called Signs That a Woman is Cheating On Facebook as that is where many reunions with exes take place

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   She refuses to discuss him with you

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   If you ask questions about him, she may avoid your gaze or change the subject

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   She may talk about him all of the time and relates stories about the past

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   This is more evident in a woman that is about to cheat, but she may do the same if she is actually cheating if he is on her name all the time.

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   She may start dressing like she did when she was with him

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   This might be to turn him on when he sees him next.

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   If they have kids she may use them as an excuse to visit with him

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   The children effectively become the beards for the illicit affair

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   He has broken up with his current wife, and she is acting as a therapist

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   Watch out for a woman who gives her ex too much emotional support after a break-up, chatting with him by text or phone for long periods and visiting with him frequently because that could open the door to a more intimate scenario.

   

   Women who chat extensively with their exes might be cheating on you.

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• Sometimes it is a better idea to confront the ex, rather than your wife, to reestablish healthy emotional boundaries; this can stop an affair or prevent it from starting in the first place
• Set a curfew on any meetings that the two of them have or insist that you come along for fun; your presence should be enough of a deterrent to prevent an affair.

If your wife is out meeting her high school's sweetheart or an ex, set a curfew for what time she should be home.

This is another one of those situations where your wife is likely to meet up with her ex on Facebook. For some people, a reunion with a high school sweetheart can feel as sweet as it did when the two of them first discovered holding hands as mere teens.

A woman might cheat with a high school sweetheart to:

• Experience the same type of erotic charge with him that she did when she was younger.
• Get revenge on the girl who stole him in the first place.
• Prove the point to him that she still has it, especially if he left her for someone else and broke her heart
• Find out if his sexual technique has improved since high school.
• Genuinely pursue him as a replacement for you as a spouse.
• Have casual sex with someone she knows in a relationship that is already over.

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   You might catch her looking at old photos of the two of them as a couple

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   She might have the old high school yearbook out or be perusing photos she has set him.

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   You catch them flirting and reminiscing on social media

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   It might seem that they are just joshing with each other, but sometimes beneath this public display of nostalgia, there is a real threat of an affair.

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   Check out the section of this article Signs That She is cheating on an ex because technically that is what a high school sweetheart is

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• If she insists on meeting her ex, insist that you come along or that he visits the two of you at his home.
• Jump in on any conversations you see on Facebook to remind your wife and her high school sweetheart that she is married; keep it light-hearted as sometimes displays of jealousy from a husband can fuel an affair.
• Making her jealous by flirting with your high school sweetheart on Facebook could serve to nip this type of affair in the bud.

Sometimes it is hard for your wife to ignore the attentive handsome neighbor next door. This is often a classic case of familiarity breeding even more familiarity.

Is your neighbor showing off his body to your wife or even having an affair with her?

There are quite a few reasons why a wife might cheat with the next-door neighbor:

• If you just have to go next door for an illicit fling, then it becomes very convenient.
• She might be getting even with his wife or girlfriend who has been giving her hassle.
• If you are not handy around the house, she might be getting to know someone who is and then end up in an affair with him.

Here are the signs that your wife has something going on with a neighbor:

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   She might be spending more time hanging out in the backyard wearing a sexy bikini

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   If she is posing around in full view of him, they might be playing a flirtatious game with each other.

   

   If she is wearing very little while your neighbor is around she might be showing off for him.

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   She refuses to have him and his girlfriend or wife over to socialize

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   This means she doesn't want to put him in a position where she feels jealous of his relationship.

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   They seem to spend a lot of time with each other

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   Your neighbor or your wife may create all kinds of little chores or errands so that they can spend more time with each other. This time is an excuse to have a quickie behind your back.

   

   If your neighbor is helping your wife with the chores or spending a lot of time with her they might be having an affair.

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   Tell her that you intend to move the both of you to a new city soon and check her reaction

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   If she seems upset, there might be something going on because it will mean she has to leave her lover.

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   Check out the behaviors described in Signs Your Best Friend is Cheating With Your Wife

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   The putting down of your neighbor or complaining about him might be a mask for the sexual activity that is really going on.

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• If you know that your neighbor is cheating it can help to have a word with him about "good fences making good neighbors and that you expect him to respect the fact that you are married.
• If your neighbor is also married you can try to put a stop to this by telling his wife.
• You can ask your wife directly if anything is going on and ask her to dress appropriately when she is in front of the neighbors.

Infidelity is common in the workplace because people end up spending a great deal of time together, which offers many chances to get to know each other better. Many women end up cheating with a coworker because they get in the habit of having lunch to gather or going out for an after dinner after work. Their affairs are furtive, and often meetings take place in public places.

Affairs with coworkers often happen in public places.

Your wife might be having an affair with a coworker:

• To get the inside edge at work. Many women in the workplace use their sexuality as a way of getting information and promotions at work. Her cheating may have very little to do with you and more about being on the inside track and making more money.
• To make a more boring job exciting. If her job is tedious, she may find the idea of having a little romance interrupting the worked day to be an appealing idea.
• She has more in common with the coworker than you because they are in the same profession. She might naturally fall into step with him as a lover because they have so much in common.

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   She rushes off to work early in the morning and comes up late at night, and you hardly see her at all

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   She tells you she is working overtime, but it has been going on for months. This might indicate that she is trying to live a full-time life with her cheating colleague.

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   She is too busy for any sex

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   A woman in love with you is never too busy for sex with you and is likely making a lame excuse to avoid intimacy because she is getting what she needs somewhere else.

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   Tell her you are moving the two of you to another city and that she has to quit her job

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   If this sends her into a complete panic, then it might be possible that she is having an emotional relationship at work.

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   Check the Sure Signs That Your Wife is Cheating With Her Boss section of this article for more behaviors that can indicate cheating with a coworker

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   If she is possessive of her laptop or cell phone or making the entire focus of her life her work, she might be having an affair.

   

   That scarf that she is wearing might be concealing hickeys from an affair.

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• Pop by her work more often to check out the scene and how she conducts herself with male employees; you may even be able to catch the two of them in the act.
• If she says she is working late at night, ambush her office with a late night visit to check up on the situation.
• If she goes away on a business trip with the coworker make frequent calls to her hotel and hotel room to make sure she is not occupied romantically with him, by reminding her that she has a husband waiting at home.

If you pop into her work at lunch hour or at the local happy hour you might be able to catch her flirting with a coworker.

Chefs can be big celebrities, and most women have heard about how a man who can cook also is a natural at making love. This, in itself, is intriguing to a woman, especially if you have not had many exciting adventures together lately.

A chef is often a bit of a trophy catch for a woman. She might cheat with a chef because:

• If she is a sensual individual she may merely see him as being someone who can bring her the good things in life and make her feel like she is living a wonderful lifestyle.
• If she likes to drink the relationship might be based on a desire to be with someone who knows wines or who also might like to drink a lot.
• Chefs are sought after mates, and she just might be demonstrating to a rival or other women that she knows how to hook an alpha male.

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   A woman cheating with a chef will spend a lot of time at his restaurant

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   She may go there with friends or hang around and wait for him until after the restaurant closes.

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   She may become a bit more of a food snob and refuse to go out to her former favorite places you

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   She may be sarcastic about your taste in food.

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   The romantic places that you used to go out together may no longer hold an appeal for her

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   She may insist that you take her to more expensive restaurants.

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   She may post a lot of pictures of herself at his restaurant on her Facebook page

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   She might be stroking her lover's ego by helping promote his restaurant or giving a message to other women that he is special to her.

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   Her taste in food changes

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   All of a sudden she may start to like new dishes she didn't bother with before. She may take a sudden interest in cooking new dishes so pay attention to her cooking at home.

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• A wife that is fooling around with a chef, or thinking about it, probably needs a little more romance and culinary adventure in her life, so be sure to woo her by taking her out to dinner.
• Accompany your wife to the chef's restaurant often and make your presence well-known by asking to speak to the chef so you can compliment him on the meal; then note his reaction and hers when you meet each other.

Women who have affairs with members of the paramilitary or a rescue team tend to be addicted to the adrenalin rushes associated with emergencies and associate those adrenalin rushes with sexual excitement.

She might be finding a secret affair with a member of law enforcement to be exciting.

• Your woman may have a fetish for a "man in a uniform." The wardrobe of men in these professions may hold a particular type of sexual thrill for her.
• She may feel safe with a man in these professions. Women who are insecure or unsatisfied may feel more secure in every way with an authority figure with a strong personality and excellent physique.
• She wants a man who is a hero in her life. Subconsciously she may feel that she is being rescued physically or emotionally from a set of unfortunate circumstances in life by the fireman or paramedic.
• Men in these professions can be dangerous, traumatized, sex addicts or addicted to drama and this can be very sexually exciting for a woman who is also addicted to drama.

If she has a fetish for firemen she might be cheating with one.

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   She has a police radio or listens to the police radio on her computer

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   She may be doing this to keep track of her lover so that she knows if he is at a fire or handling some other kind of emergency. Also on some radio frequencies, she may be able to communicate with him.

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   If there is a charity car wash, fundraiser or ball where firemen are, she is there

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   If she continually attends events where a fireman may be, then she may be hanging out where he is in hopes of having a quickie.

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   Whenever there is news of a disaster or fire on the radio or television she is very attentive

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   She may have her eyes on the scene and wondering if her lover is at the scene.

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   She has unaccounted disappearance and at weird hours

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   Paramedics, cops, and firemen work long shifts and night shifts that make their schedule very weird, necessitating lovers to meet at odd times like three in the morning or early in the morning.

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• If you suspect that she feels rescued by a cheating relationship with a fireman, paramedic or cop you might want to sit down and take a look at the relationship with you as that is the situation she needs rescuing from and then try to fix it.
• A boring sex life might be what's driving her into the arms of a paramilitary man; liven up things in the bedroom with a bit of role-playing or wearing a uniform yourself.

When your wife works out with a personal trainer, she is already in a prime position for courtship. She is likely wearing next to nothing and is in very physical and sometimes intimate poses with him.

• Most personal trainers are life coaches who get to know their clients well and intimacy can grow between two people that are often discussing such personal matters as health, weight loss and personal problems holding them back.
• Most personal trainers are very attractive and considered to be a "good catch," so she may sleep with one just simply for the physical gratification or show herself or another woman that she still "has it".

• After having no interest in going to the gym for years, she is suddenly there all the time. Long disappearances daily to the gym may not just be about training; there may be some nookie going on as well.
• She is going to the gym but not losing weight. This indicates that she is fooling around instead of working out hard with the guy.
  

  If she is going to the gym a lot and not losing weight and always on her cell, she might be having an affair with her personal trainer.
• Your personal trainer does not seem to be charging you for all the time he is spending with your wife. If there is a discrepancy indicating a lot of free training, then that might be about having sex behind your *back because he is not billing you or his time
• She refuses to talk to you about her fitness goals. If you ask questions about her relationship with him, she becomes defensive or evasive or suggests firing him.
• She dresses provocatively when going to the gym. You might also be suspicious if she is not dressed in workout clothes to go to the gym.

• It is easy enough to pop by the gym to see if her wife is where she says she is with this trainer.
• Make her provide you with a schedule of her planned sessions with him to make sure that she is sticking to it.

If your wife is a romantic soul or a lover of different cultures, there is a chance she might become smitten with an artist or musician.

• If she is bored, she might go for a risky, dangerous person who can provide her with a thrill outside of the marriage.
• She may be a frustrated artist or musician who wants to live vicariously through an artistic triste.

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   She starts dressing a lot younger, like a groupie or a hipster

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   The outfits she wears with you may be much more casual, but when she goes up, she dresses like she is a member of a tribe. [[Image:cat woman texting.jpg|center|frame|If she is dressing a little unusual or kinky, she might be seeing an artist or hipster on the side.]

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   She comes home with gifts such as a painting or guitar pick

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   These might be mementos from her affair.

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   She comes home really late at night

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   It is well known that artists and musicians party until the wee hours of the morning but if she is gone all night, she might be having an affair.

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   Surprise your wife with the awareness of an affair with an artist by buying a piece of his art without her knowledge and hang it in the living room, then study her reaction

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   If she is cheating, she may seem aghast.

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• Make sure you go with her to any art openings or performances to make your presence well known to your rival.
• Find out about the scheduled openings or performances of your rival and schedule trips to see cultural events on the same dates to block any further contact.

Technically a photographer is an artist, but an affair with a photographer is earmarked by some extraordinary new behaviors demonstrated by your cheating wife.

Photographers are often considered to be trophy men by other women, and your wife may be trying to impress her friends:

• It is flattering to think that a photographer wants you to be his unique model.
• If he is an adventurer or landscape photographer it may be a way for her to get out of the house and have a more exciting life.
• She may be an amateur photographer thinking of advancing her career by getting to know him better.

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   She is always dressed like she is going to have her photograph taken

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   Women who are cheating with photographers look their absolute best at all time.

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   You notice she has acquired sexy new lingerie

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   If she has a lot of new provocative-looking underthings, she may be posing for pin-up shots with her new amour.

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   She is always buying new make-up

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   If the makeup line she is buying is photo ready makeup by lines such as MAC, Cinema Secrets or Smashbox she might be wearing this make-up because she is anticipating having her picture taken all of the time.

   

   If she is suddenly wearing a lot more make-up she might be dating an artist or a photographer.

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   She is posting her own arty looking photographs on Facebook

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   She may be trying to show her photographer lover that she has something in common with him.

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   She has joined www.instagram.com Instagram and is posting photos there

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   Instagram is the site where a lot of photographers hang out, and she may be communicating with her lover by posting images on there.

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   She buys a new camera

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   This is especially telling if she has absolutely no interest in photography before.

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   Her new hobby as a photographer consumes all of her time

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   She may suddenly be attending more photo exhibitions or going on short trips away to learn photography or take pictures.

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   Check out the above sections Signs That Your Wife is Cheating with an Artist or Musician as many of the behaviors are similar

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• Have a private investigator take a few pictures of her by having her followed to an exhibition or art opening where you suspect she might be meeting her lover.
• Surprise her by showing up in person at an exhibition or opening to see who she talks to and her reaction to having her there.
• Join Instagram and start liking her photos to let her know that you are watching her and post photos of the two of you together, getting married so that your rival can see them.

The old saying is that money is the best aphrodisiac and or many women, who are secretly gold-diggers, there is a financial reward for having an affair with a rich or powerful man.

A woman cheats with a wealthier man because:

• She may be looking or a Sugar Daddy. Some women are very turned on by a man who gives her shopping money or buys her ex.
• She may like the attention of being with a wealthier man. The secrecy and the scandal may be helping her career somehow or making her the focus of attention because many wealthy men are celebrities.
• She is unhappy in her marriage and status conscious. She might be wishing for a better life than the limits of your income may not be able to provide.

Signs that your wife is having an affair with a man who makes a lot of money are:

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   She starts dressing like she is a member of the upper classes

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   She might start wearing more expensive clothing, perfumes, and more formal outfits.

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   She might be wearing new jewelry, and it might look expensive

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   If she is boasting diamonds, gold or silver, she might be receiving these gifts from a wealthy secret lover.

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   She is picked up by a limo

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   If a limo arrives at your home to pick her up, then she just might be seeing a rich man. If a limo drops her off at your home after an evening out, and you don't have rich friends, that is another sign she is seeing someone wealthy behind your back.

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   If he is famous you might start seeing pictures of him with her in the newspaper or on social media

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   If the paparazzi catch them cheating, then you might consider her to be guilty.

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   She leaves her house without her wedding ring

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   She might be hoping for a proposal and the chance to raise her social status in life.

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• If the wealthy man is married, contact him and tell him you know what is going or that you will tell his wife; most rich married couples are very status conscious and do not relish the idea of being embarrassed in public.
• Accept that it might be quite hard to fight a man who has a lot of money and that unless your wife is very romantic and still loves you, she may leave you.

Women meet much younger men everywhere they go. They are the sales help, the gardeners, the pool boys and the waiters that they encounter every day. Sometimes the much younger man frequents bars, looking for "cougars"; women that are eager to have sex with younger men.

Women cheat with younger men because:

• It's a cool thing to have a younger trophy boyfriend that you can talk about with your girlfriends.
• Younger men last longer in the sack and have more energy or lovemaking.
• Younger men do not usually hassle a much older woman for commitment which means that she does not have to leave you and yet, still have great sex.

Some women treat younger men as sex objects and have affairs with them.

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   She has a profile up on cougarlife.com Cougar Life

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   This is a sure sign that she is looking for young love as this is a site that caters specifically to women who want to have sexual relationships with younger men.

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   She is suddenly into skateboarding, rock climbing, and other youthful sports

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   If she is not usually up for these types of things she might be seeing someone younger.

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   She might start dressing like someone half her age

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   If she is wearing baby doll dresses, hipster clothes or clingy sportswear, she is probably hanging with a younger tribe of people who may be the friends of her new lover.

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   Her bank account seems to be a little emptier than usual

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   Older women love to take care o their younger lovers by buying them groceries, taking them clothes shopping and helping them pay their rent

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   Her taste in music changes

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   She might suddenly be listening to tunes from bands that were not even born before the day you got married.

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   She might seem stoned or a little high

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   This could be a sign that she is doing recreational drugs with a young man to loosen herself up before lovemaking sessions.

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• Rather than confront your wife about this, it might be best to wait until you have more information. She will soon get tired of talking about the New Star Trek and want to talk about watching Seinfeld with you again.
• She is likely hanging out with younger men because she is bored, in which case, you might want to take her on a few more hiking adventures or take her to see a concert.

Sometimes your romantic rival is not always another man. Sometimes it is another woman.

Sometimes the affair is with another woman.

• She feels she is getting even with you for cheating with a woman.
• She is reacting to living in a sexist world and therefore seeks relationships with women.
• She is genuinely an in-the-closet lesbian who needs to explore her sexuality.

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   She seems very, very close to one particular woman and spends all of her time with her.

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   She is very secretive socially and posts very little on social media

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   A lack of social activity on #Facebook may indicate that she is hiding a relationship, and fears others may not understand.

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   She avoids all sexual contact with you

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   This can mean she is finding sexual satisfaction elsewhere.

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   If you do have sex she seems listless and unsatisfied

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   This could mean that she wants to be in bed with her female lover and not with you.

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• Sexuality is a complicated issue for many people to address and it is best not to force a woman who is genuinely lesbian to be with you if she has decided to "come out"; it is best to accept her revelation and move on.

• Flirtation is everything for a woman who is meeting with a lover on the sly; she may be enhancing her appearance to make their rendezvous' more exciting.
• She may be considering running away with him and embarking on a whole new life, so she is creating a new physical personae to separate her new life from her old life.
• She may be grooming her nether regions for purposes of sexual hygiene.

Wearing a lot of makeup can indicate a cheating woman, especially if she never usually wears it.

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   She has got a new haircut, and it is a bit hipper and sexier looking than the 'do she has been sporting for years; that might be an attempt to keep the attention of another man.

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   She is wearing more makeup than she ever has, especially eyeshadow, mascara, and lipstick, even when she claims to be going out to do mundane errands or shopping.

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   She has lost a lot of weight and has bought a whole new wardrobe; this could mean she is changing her image to a hotter one to keep a lover interested.

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   Her skirts are shorter, and her tops are more low-cut; showing more skin is an indication she might be trying to catch the eye of someone else.

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   She is wearing higher heels, which shows off her calves, but you have known her to wear sweatpants and running shoes mostly.

   

   If she is suddenly wearing higher and sexier heels she could be cheating.

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   You look in her underwear drawer, and you see that she is the owner of all kinds of sexy lingerie that she has never worn to attract or impress you such as high cut thong panties, push up bras, garter belts, and sexy nylons.

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   She is suddenly balder in the nether regions, which expresses a desire to look better nude.

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   She has gotten plastic surgery to improve her body, but the new breasts, thinner waist or facelift she has gotten is nothing that you would ever suggest to her.

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   She seems happier, and her skin is glowing as if she has sex every day, and you are not the one having sex with her every day, then it could mean she is cheating.

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    If she is older, she might be taking bio-identical hormones, which for a menopausal or peri-menopausal partner, extends interest in sex as well as improve a woman's appearance.

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She is wearing more perfume, and you have not known her to wear a lot of fragrance in the past.

With no proof, trying to figure out if your wife is cheating can be perplexing.

• Nobody knows your wife better than you and intimacy over the years builds up an intuitive connection that sends you alarm bells when something subtly changes.
• Sometimes your conscious mind consciously ignores the obvious to protect you from getting hurt, but your other senses and subconscious mind is signaling you that something is going on by triggering suspicious feelings.
• A gut feeling occurs when something does not feel quite right, and it is there in place to make sure that you can trust your closest associates; a personal message from your gut about your wife is worth heeding.
• For a reason you cannot quite fathom, you feel monitored or spied on, and it could be that your wife and her lover are watching your every move, so they know when they can spend some quality time together behind your back.

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   You feel blown off or ignored, but you are not sure why you think like that.

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   When you are with her, you feel somehow that she is not quite there for you mentally or emotionally; she may be acknowledging you but might not be engaging with you in subtle ways.

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   She has changed the way she relates to you physically and does not hold your hand or pet or kiss you as much as she did before

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   If she resists holding your hand she might be cheating.

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   She does not seem as thoughtful, such as; not cooking your dinner.

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   You have had an argument in which she has threatened to find another guy, but you have a sinking feeling that it has already happened.

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   She tells you she is doing some baking for a friend or a charity, but you suspect she is cooking for someone else.

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   She suddenly is taking care of a friend's pet with whom she has an emotional attachment, but you have not known her to do that before.

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   You feel like she somehow personally smells different, but you are not sure why.

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   She tells you that she does not want to have sex because she has a headache, but you have a hard time believing her

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    She has excuses as to why she is not where she is supposed to be, but for some reason, you don't believe her, and you are not sure why you feel this way.

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    She is suddenly way better in bed, and although she tells you she got sex tips from a magazine, you are suspicious that it may have been taught to her by someone else.

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    She tells you she wants to go away on holiday by herself or with the girls, but you feel left out and suspect she might be going with someone else.

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    She seems very anxious and nervous around you as if she has something to say but can't say it.

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    She is very defensive, even though you are not criticizing her, and acts as if she has something to hide.

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    She seems to be more critical of you as if trying to find a reason to justify her need to find someone new.

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    You are having recurring dreams about her cheating, and they seem to stay with you; sometimes the unconscious mind recognizes the deception before you consciously do and reveals the infidelity in a dream.

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Writing in a journal can help you sort out your feelings.

• Sometimes your intuition is quite logical; make a list of evidence and write it down on paper to see if what you are thinking could add up to a real situation.
• Confessing your suspicions to a good friend or a therapist can help you figure out whether or not what you are thinking could be a legitimate betrayal of you.
• Ask yourself if you trust this person and why you have these suspicions in the first place: has she lied to you or betrayed you before?
• Is your gut feeling a legitimate fear? Is she an unreliable person who has cheated or lied to other people she has been with.
• If you are in emotional distress, you need the matter resolved; there is nothing wrong with hiring a private detective or engaging in surveillance if you need to follow that hunch that she might be cheating.

Discovering your wife is cheating on you can be shocking!

Women cheat if they feel abused.

• She may think that you do not value her in some way or don't respect her achievements or life choices; this inspires women to find a lover who truly appreciates her.
• She may feel that "the bloom is off the rose" and that she needs to find a more spirited, loving engagement with less familiarity.
• She might feel belittled by you and is seeking someone more respectful, especially if you use a lot of sarcasm or have belittled her she may have built up resentment and is getting revenge secretly.
• She is lonely and feels ignored because you are always at work or never have time for her.
• You have forgotten a vital landmark anniversary like Valentine's Day, her birthday or an anniversary and she is cheating because she resents you.
• She has found someone wealthier or more well-connected whom she feels could help her with her career
• She may have found an individual who is buying her things that you don't.
• She has had a miscarriage and is depressed and now associates your relationship with a fertility failure; this prompts some women to try and move on.
• You may have changed physically and she is not attracted to you anymore, and yet cares for you, but does not want to leave you, so she finds a secret love partner.
  

  If you have let yourself go physically, she may have fallen out of lust with you.
• She has suffered a significant setback in life, in her career or personally and is making up for it by seeking physical pleasure.
• She suffers from an addiction that you do not support, but she has found a man that will allow her to partake of her poison without criticism, or even supply it to her; this could be drug addiction, alcohol addiction or sex addiction.
• She suffers from mania, bipolar disorder or a similar mental disorder that causes her to be very impulsive and easily distracted from her family responsibilities
• You just have bad luck, and even though you are the perfect husband, somebody she likes better may have come along to spirit her away, and there is nothing you can do about it; in other words, there may not be a reason, and it may not be your fault
• Evolutionary scientists speculate that cheating may be genetically wired into some women who might have hard-wired beliefs that they will have more resources and protection in their lives if they have numerous men in their life; that way if you die, she has another male or two to depend on emotionally and financially in life.

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   She gets angry when you ask for an accounting of where she might have been lately and denies you the basic right of an explanation.

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   She ignores all special holidays and anniversaries and does not acknowledge them.

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   You notice that she has a lot more jewelry and gifts, and you have no idea who is sending it.

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   You find out that she is not wearing her wedding ring anymore

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   this is usually about making other people think she is single or not hurting a lover's feelings by wearing it when he is around.

   

   If she is removing her wedding ring to see other men you might as well remove yours.

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   You come home, and there is a strange car in your driveway, that disappears when you look out the window again, that car is gone.

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   You come home one night, and there is a man in your home, and you are not quite sure that you believe her explanation that he is the plumber or a salesman.

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   She doesn't come home at night, and you have not seen her for days, and when she does come home, she has no explanation or one that does not make sense.

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   You don't snore, and she insists on sleeping in another bedroom, and you hear her laughing on the phone with some else.

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   She suddenly is so busy, she has no time for you at all ever, and your sex life is a distant memory.

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    There are mysterious keys on her key chain.

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    She has new security and privacy measures on everything that she has online, including her social media accounts like Facebook and her credit cards.

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    Your car odometer has a lot of extra mileage on it when she has told you she was at home.

    

    Unexplained extra mileage can mean she is traveling secretly to cheat on you.

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    She avoids your family and friends and wants nothing to do with them, in case they can sense that she is cheating too.

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    In public places she never introduces you as her husband and stays away from the topic of your life together.

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    She picks fights with you in front of others to make you look like a bad guy who deserves to be left so that her cheating looks justified later.

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    She spends hours online and does not give you a single clue about who she is talking to that makes sense to you.

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    You have caught her in several lies, and she will not admit to them and tell them that your suspicions are your imagination or even dismiss or laugh at any facts presented to her as something you are making up.

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    She is telling your friends the truth, but not you, because she is scared of your reaction; sometimes it is a good idea

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    She has told you there is someone else, but you thought she wasn't serious; sometimes a confession of infidelity is not a joke, it is a reality you are not facing.

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Your male intuition may be working perfectly if you think she is being dishonest with you.

• Women who cheat tend to resent the partner they are with, so your communication with each other may be less harmonious; if this problem is insurmountable and she only speaks to you in a nagging, sarcastic or complaining manner, you may have a female cheater on your hands.
• Force her hand by asking to make you more of a priority and if she balks at spending more time with you then confront her about your suspicions.
• Women who are lying about cheating tend to answer a question with a question because they are searching their minds for a lie.
• Women who cheer no longer use the phrase "we" when talking about the two of you, so look for changes in her language when she talks to others.
• Her body language may change to reflect the fact that she no longer wants to be with you and she might stop kissing you or holding your hand.

If she is not acting like she is in love with you, it might mean she is in love with someone else.

• She is cold, distant and you have not had sex months, possibly because she is getting affection and sexual interaction from someone else.
• Conversely, your wife may be cheating on you if she is suddenly much better in bed and using news sex skills that may have been taught to her by someone else.
• She may suddenly be wearing sexier underwear or grooming her private parts in a way that may be pleasing but also surprising to you; this could indicate that she is sprucing herself up to have sex with another.
• Women are more fascinated by what they can't have or by what other women want so if you want to get her back, then announce your intentions to start dating others and wait until she comes to you.
• Check her banking and credit card statements. It's not always the man who pays for the hotel room or the holiday abroad.
• Your friends or a neighbor report a sighting with another man, in which case, you should investigate to see if the rumor is true; most people do not tell their friend's such things to cause trouble.
  • If you are younger and she is older. Older women have had more relationships and may cheat on a new younger spouse as a form of revenge or simply out of a desire for a change of pace or curiosity.
• You know your wife better than anyone, and there is such a thing as male intuition. If you detect a change in your wife's behaviors that make you suspicious then she very well may be cheating on you and it worth investigating.
• If you want to keep your relationship with your wife, you may want to ask yourself if it really matters whether or not your wife is cheating, especially if you no longer have a sex life; sometimes separating from your partner is not worth the emotional stress and cost, especially if you have not had sex for years.

Thinking there is someone else because we do not love one other the same?

I used to be so close but now we so far apart. She doesn't have time for me now. When she In the past made time. I have tried: Try doing things and going places but she does its like she not as happy. I think it was caused by: Well after her 18yr old son left home. It's like she just not the same person .me and she is Best of the friend as well as husband and wife. You see one you see the other. One doesn't go without the other. I talked to her about it and our sex life one time a month.

Her child has left the home which can cause what is termed "empty nest syndrome" or instead that is just a term for depression after your child leaves to become an adult. You need to consider that your wife has spent 18 years of her life with the identity of Mother. Suddenly she is finding out that she needs to come up with a new focus. Instead of pressuring your wife, pamper your wife. Leave her uplifting notes around the house. Take this opportunity to date her once again. Showing her that you are here to help her will hopefully allow her to open up to you.

Wife went with my best friend to see family yet she is 54 he is 46 all she talks about when she comes is half of what I have is hers she is the one cheating, and I am going to get screwed why is that?

Why is it she is the guilty one but she comes home and screams at me I am home not out like her. I have tried: Try to talk she screams at me. I think it was caused by: Her new job a lot more money an independent

Do you have proof that she is cheating or is this a manifestation of you feeling inadequate because she has gained financial independence? She is lashing out verbally at you and sounds extremely angry. If you would like to resolve this and keep your marriage intact, then suggest nicely that you would like to go to marriage counseling with her as one final determination effort to save the marriage. Be honest with her about how you are feeling and ask for mutual respect during the process of figuring out the best way to move forward.

Is my wife having an affair with a co-worker?

Since my wife started her new job. That's all she talked about especially when she asks me what type of car that was? She asked because her boss has the same car? 3 months into her new jobs and she came home with balloons and a birthday gift? And she gets distraught when I ask for her work schedule? She first started to get very mad at me for going inside her job?. I have tried: Asking her to print me her work schedule? I only received 2 work schedules since she started her new job. Checking her cell phone but she recently changed the password. I think it was caused by: Recently we have been arguing a lot. Because I'm not working right now and she's the only one working. She left her old job because she hated her old boss. But while searching for a new job, she took the first job she got an interview with. With hourly pay rate a lot less. Part-time... And she says yes to everything, especially when her bosses request that she "work" a little longer. Or work overnights, especially when she came home from working the graveyard shift. She came home and went straight to the bathroom to change her underwear or showered? Without even asking or telling me ahead of time. Is like my plans didn't matter anymore! Or what I got to say.

Okay, there is a valid point to her working any available overtime because she is the only one bringing in money right now to support you both. As for her showering after working all night, lots of people do that so that they can relax properly after working odd hours. Demanding her schedule needs to come with a reason. Did you consider that with her taking an extra overtime a schedule is not necessary? Perhaps she is not getting her own monthly schedule right now. As for the car that her boss drives, her questions was an innocent one.

Instead of focusing on her job performance and decisions, it is time for you to show her that you are actively looking for employment. Throw all your available energy into it because you will feel much better once you are gainfully employed again. Job hunting might also take some of the emotional pressure off your wife. One of the number one causes for divorce is financial dissolution. Try to avoid that breakdown in your own marriage by telling your wife that you appreciate what she is doing right now to support you both.

What are the looks they give to each other?

Looks they give and what kind of communication will they do if I am in the room I have an idea that they leave tips in the bathroom but what would I look for in there any ideas

There are numerous signs you should be looking for. Many are listed in the article on this page, more than 100 signs. One or two signs is not a warning. It is when there are several that are jumping out at you. Do they suddenly never leave their phone around? Have they been spending more time than usual away from home or out of their normal routine? Do they seem to be accusing you of cheating? Do they not answer your call when they are out? These are some of the signs you should be watching for. The fact that your significant other seems to have a connection with someone else is worrisome but not an outright sign that they are cheating. Ask them if they are missing something in your relationship. See if there are any issues that you may not have noticed before in the relationship. Usually, there are warning signs that the relationship is falling apart or your partner is unhappy before they cheat.

Should I be alarmed my wife is siding with the male neighbor versus having my back?

Last weekend we had couples over for a game of LCR...at one point another male friend of ours and I were talking about tickets prices being high at the airport where the other male guest is the director. (he doesn't control ticket prices) On the way out he told my wife that he didn't appreciate us talking about his airport...we were talking about the airlines. So I approached him nicely a couple of days later nicely to ask why he was upset. My wife was livid..saying " I don't want him to think I'm a tattle tale.....two things.....I wonder why she is more worried about him not liking her than how I felt about him talking to her about me versus to me directly. There have been some concerns in the past...we are in our mid-50's...he is 35...I had to get on her a couple of times about inappropriate hugging and touching...I don't consider myself jealous, but I keep seeing red flags going up....so now she is mad at me...go figure. I'm not sure at this point...just trying to understand

Your wife is demonstrating a behavior called emotional infidelity. It is a way of subtly expressing resentment towards a partner that is related more to addiction or emotional insecurity. The fact that she is expressing resentment by letting you know that she does not have your back in certain situations can indicate that she has a problem with your relationship, but it does not necessarily indicate cheating. Also, if your wife is in her fifties, she may want to appear still to be cool in front of other men, especially younger men. Then again, the other way of looking at this is that she might have felt that you betrayed her confidence by using what she told you to confront this younger guy, which in her mind, might indicate a lack of respect for her. You would need to provide further details about inappropriate hugging and touching. If it was with this younger man, then you might have a right to be suspicious. Be aware as well that inappropriate touching and hugging can also be indicative of an addicted or very insecure personality, and that there may be no real hurtful intention to follow through on what is inherently impulsive behavior.

How do I check if my wife is having an affair when I go out when I come back the bed is all roughed up, and you know something is going on but can't prove it?

For a while now, I have had that feeling that my wife is having an affair, but the trouble is that I can't prove it. There have been times I have gone to my friends during the week, and there were 2 knee marks on the bed. I have asked her if she has been having someone else, but she told me that she is having nobody around, while what I have seen is making me think otherwise. I have gone through her Facebook and deleted most of her male friends and just left the female friends and left it at that. I know something isn't right as I always listen to my instinct and I just know something isn't right.

Hi there. Sorry to hear that you are being put through like this and it is time, for the sake of your insanity, that you got a definitive answer about this, or else you are going to be living with the emotional equivalent of a toothache for many years. You can set up the camera in the bedroom, where you suspect the infidelity is taking place and then play the action back on a computer or a phone when you come home. Some cameras will also allow you to view the action through the camera on a phone or a computer. You can buy tiny pinhole cameras that are standalone, that you can hide in a vase of flowers or elsewhere yourself that are hidden inside smoke detectors, key chains, digital clocks, stuffed animals and other everyday household items. Many of these cameras can be had for $200 or less at [ https://www.amazon.com Amazon] Type wireless hidden cameras into the Amazon search engine box at the very top of the page, and you will find scores of hidden cameras that might help you finally satisfy your curiosity.

Is she cheating on me, I'm a little confused because I don't have enough evidence, but don't want to make the mistake of wrong marriage?

I met my fiance last year August, at the time we met I was broke but she had a great job, but we had to separate when she returned to the country from which she came. She supported me financially until early this year when we decided to relocate and stay together and start up a company of our own that I'm the Head. She maintains her place of work while I run the Company when I just relocated there are times she came back home by 7 PM sometimes 8 p.m. after some time it stopped. There is a coworker that she goes out with for lunch sometimes, she mentions him frequently, the other day I found a picture of the guy's mom in their chat, they are close to some extent. I'm really stressed because I have this gut feeling and funnily I want to engage her. Please help me. She earns more than I do, plus we are about to get married, I Really love her but don't want to make a mistake. I have tried: I tried some personal investigations, like reading her chats but she never hides her phone. Recently I saw a chat where they were planning to organize an office picnic, she asked him to go with his female supervisor, but he refused and replied that he couldn't go without her, she later replied by saying that "how can I go without my better half". I don't get much from her phone, but her call log is busy. I think it was caused by: I think they used to date before I came into the picture, but she had no plans of settling with him.Besides, she's 36

She would not be supporting you financially unless she loved you and saw a future with you. She also started a business with you which means even a more significant financial investment. The person she is speaking with may just be her "work husband". That does not mean that she is in love with him but rather that they have a work companionship. Perhaps she did know him in the past before the working relationship, or maybe she added his mother just to be a good friend. Either way, propose to her and start planning your wedding. If she really wanted to be with this person, she would have left you already.

Thinking, My wife, has cheated on me with my one of my single, married friends?

I think the affair is long over and happened a few years back, but suddenly one-day last year things started not to add up when I pressed her about why she was so captivated with my "friend", she wouldn't stop talking about him one day, so I pressed her on it. I remembered and documented some odd behavior, weird responses and flat out lies she deems now as acting normal back then, far from it. Now 2/3 years later she "hates" the guy probably because he dumped her after a few rounds in the sack and he had had his fun, at her and my expense. I have many more scenarios I could share but wonder how both parties could sneak behind my back, they think they got away with it, and they did because I didn't realize until it was over a few years ago what happened. All I want is to talk to someone who will listen to my other stories from her "supposed" affair and tell me if I'm acting rational or paranoid. This situation is different because we had been married for 30 years and then she decided to cheat on me without warning and did it very secretly, and now she acts she is hurt and embarrassed inside, and denies what she did and claims she was acting normally back then on the outside. I think it was a self-esteem issue for her and wanted to prove she was still sexy and wanted by a close family friend who was single. We were all good friends up until my suspicions came to light, it has been enlightening seeing them together since their fling, they seem almost like an ex-wife and ex-husband when they see each other, not the giddy friends they use to be. I guess in my ignorance I never recognized what was going on when it did because I didn't think the person I loved the most and one of my "friends" would act upon being more than friends. I have tried: I've tried talking to her directly several times and confronted my friend (he denied it very uneasily) She is in denial, and he is way past what happened and could care less, he got what he wanted. She again thinks the way she was acting towards him was perfectly normal. We have been married 30 years, and I know when she has lied to me in the past I know in my gut the affair happened. I think it was caused by: Her lack of self-esteem and to prove she could capture a man's attention with her charm/sexiness again. He is about her age, single just divorced, and so he was fair game, and she knew him as a friend 3/4 years before the affair, it just set up perfectly for the two of them to hook up with the unsuspecting me in the wings. He would never tell, and she wasn't about to admit anything happened and still denies it.

You have been married to her for 30 years. That is a big chunk of your lives for both of you. Perhaps something did happen because your friend was in a vulnerable place after his divorce and your wife was beginning to feel the youth years slip away. But she stayed with you despite this man being newly single. Then again, nothing could have happened, and she is just irritated with your friend because she does not like how he changed once he became single again.

For the sake of the marriage, put this behind you. Living with anxiety and distrust is damaging to a marriage. As for your friendship, begin to distance yourself from that friend. See if your wife's behavior changes.

My Girlfriend I think is having an online affair with another man how can I stop her?

Been dating my girlfriend for 5 months, she has been going on Facebook more than normal, also taking her iPad or a phone that I know she carries with her, and goes online on messenger, not knowing I can see her being online what can I do? I love her, and I'm trying to be hopeful that she is not doing anything wrong, but my stomach has other feelings need help, please. We have been fighting, mostly over stupid things but I had suspicions, but now they have become more evident, I've noticed her taking her iPad, phone to the bathroom just about every time she goes

Your girlfriend may be interested in a game app or social media. It is unlikely that she is on Facebook speaking with another person for dating if those are your only signs. There are fights in every relationship, and if you are fighting, that means she is comfortable enough with you to vent how she actually feels about a topic or situation.

Is it possible that my wife is having an affair? I found out earlier that she is texting with her friend's husband. Does this mean something is going on between the two?

My wife has joined Facebook, and she has blocked me on her Facebook. I went and created another account, and I discovered that she is talking with her friend's husband on Facebook. Does this mean something is going on or are they also friends?

I think you should be more concerned that your wife blocked you from Facebook. That is a pretty big line to cross in a marriage. If she is speaking with her friend's husband over messenger frequently then you should be concerned, but if your wife is innocently commenting on his social media posts for the general view, there is no need to worry.

I started to get a gut feeling when my wife and her 60 year old boss was sending private message to each other ... Hes?

I need to know if my wife is sleeping with her married boss .. My wife and her boss sometimes go out of town together. I have tried: Every time I bring it up she gets upset and mad y would she get mad when I ask her. I think it was caused by: An and flirting. They like each other post on Facebook instagram you name it

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