117 Sure Signs That Your Wife Is Cheating on You With Someone On Facebook vs Someone She Met Online vs Someone Long Distance ... and 20 more
Edited by Donna, Eng, Doug Collins, VC and 12 others
Signs of infidelity in a marriage can differ from situation to situation so here are ways that she might be cheating you along with signs that she might be cheating on you with specific kinds of lovers in various circumstances.
Situation 1: With Someone On Facebook
Facebook is the number one facilitator of marital infidelity in the world just simply because:
- It is free.
- It has a convenient, private built-in chat and phone app.
- It allows women to meet new men immediately.
- It allows women to chat with lovers from the past.
- It provides a forum for women to put up sexy pictures of themselves.
- The platform can be flirtatious in nature with lots of opportunities to show off one's wit and courting skills.
- It allows women to hide their information from anyone they want by customizing their privacy setting.
Women who use social media apps to cheat tend to enjoy the fact that the affair is taking place secretly, yet at the same time right in front of you. It could be that your wife is turned on sexually by the idea that the affair could be discovered at any moment.
- 1 Reasons That Women Use Facebook to Cheat
- 2 Signs That Your Wife Is Cheating On You On Facebook
- 3 Tips and Tricks
- 4 Reasons Why Women Cheat Online
- 5 Dating Sites and Apps That Facilitate Cheating Online for Women
- 6 Signs That Your Wife is Cheating Online
- 7 Tips and Tricks
- 8 Reasons That Women Take Part in A Long Distance Affair
- 9 Signs Your Wife Is Having A Long Distance Affair
- 10 Tips and Tricks
- 11 Tips and Tricks
- 12 Signs That She is Cheating While You Are Away
- 13 Tips and Tricks
- 14 Reasons That Married Women Cheats With Other Married Men
- 15 Signs She is Cheating With a Married Man
- 16 Tips and Tricks
- 17 Reasons a Woman Will Cheat With Her Boss
- 18 Signs She is Cheating With Her Boss
- 19 Tips and Tricks
- 20 Reasons Your Best Friend Will Cheat With Your Wife
- 21 Reasons Your Wife Will Cheat with Your Best Friend
- 22 Signs Your Wife is Cheating on You With Your Best Friend
- 23 Tips and Tricks
- 24 Reasons Women Cheat With An Ex
- 25 Signs That A Woman is Cheating With Her Ex
- 26 Tips and Tricks
- 27 Reasons That A Woman Cheats With a High School Sweetheart
- 28 Signs That A Woman is Cheating With Her High School Sweetheart
- 29 Tips and Tricks
- 30 Reasons Your Wife Might Cheat With A Neighbor
- 31 Signs That Your Wife is Cheating With Your Neighbor
- 32 Tips and Tricks
- 33 Reasons That Your Wife May Have An Affair With A Coworker
- 34 Signs Your Wife is Having An Affair With a Coworker
- 35 Tips and Tricks
- 36 Signs That Your Wife Is Having An Affair With A Chef
- 37 Reasons a Woman Will Cheat With a Chef
- 38 Signs That She is Cheating With a Chef
- 39 Tips and Tricks
- 40 Reasons Women Cheat with a Fireman, Paramedic or Cop
- 41 Signs She is Cheating With a Fireman, Paramedic or Cop
- 42 Tips and Tricks
- 43 Reasons She Might Cheat With Her Personal Trainer
- 44 Signs Your Wife is Cheating With Her Personal Trainer
- 45 Tips and Tricks
- 46 Reasons Women Cheat With Artists or Musicians
- 47 Signs That Your Wife is Cheating With An Artist or a Musician
- 48 Tips and Tricks
- 49 Reasons Women Cheat With A Photographer
- 50 Signs Your Wife is Cheating With a Photographer
- 51 Tips and Tricks
- 52 The Reasons Women Cheat With Wealthy and Powerful Men
- 53 Signs That Your Wife is Cheating With a Wealthier Man
- 54 Tips and Tricks
- 55 Reasons Women Cheat With A Younger Man
- 56 Signs Your Wife Is Cheating With a Younger Man
- 57 Tips and Tricks
- 58 Reasons Women Cheat With Other Women
- 59 Signs She is Cheating With A Woman
- 60 Tips and Tricks
- 61 Reasons That Women Change Their Appearance When Cheating
- 62 Signs She is Cheating On You According to Her Grooming
- 63 Reasons You Should Trust Gut Feelings About Cheating
- 64 Signs That She Is Cheating According to Your Gut Feelings
- 65 Tips And Tricks
- 66 Reasons She Might Be Cheating on You
- 67 Signs She is Cheating on You For Certain
- 68 Tips and Tricks For Married Men Dealing With Infidelity
69 Questions and Answers
- 69.1 Thinking there someone else because we're not loving one other the same?
- 69.2 Wife went with my best friend to see family yet she is 54 he is 46 all she talks about when she comes is half of what I have is hers she is the one cheating and I am going to get screwed why is that?
- 69.3 Is my wife having an affair with a co-worker?
- 69.4 Whats are the looks they give to each other?
- 69.5 Should I be alarmed my wife is siding with the male neighbor versus having my back?
- 69.6 How do I check if my wife is having an affair when I go out when I come back the bed is all roughed up and you know something is going on but can't prove it?
- 69.7 Is she cheating on me, I'm a little confused because I don't have enough evidence, but don't want to make the mistake of wrong marriage?
- 69.8 Thinking My wife has cheated on me with my one of my single married friends?
- 69.9 My Girlfriend I think is having an online affair with another man how can I stop her?
- 69.10 Is it possible that my wife is having an affair? I found out earlier that she is texting with her friend's husband. does this mean there is something going on between the two?
- 70 Comments
Reasons That Women Use Facebook to Cheat
Facebook is often more about having a virtual affair than a real one, that is until the two parties agree to meet in secret behind your back. Women use Facebook to cheat because:
- Facebook is very convenient and allows her to check up on her lover's activities and location.
- Texting on the chat provides company and attention that they may not get from you otherwise.
- There is a sense of risk of being found out that adds to the sexual excitement of hiding your affair from an entire online community; it gives her the sense of living a double life.
- She can easily text her friends and gossip about her chats with the guy, while she is actually talking to him
- The chat and its camera can facilitate online sex.
Signs That Your Wife Is Cheating On You On Facebook
- 1She is on Facebook all of the time. A woman who is on Facebook constantly may be checking on a lover or trying to attract his attention with frequent witty posts or by commenting on his posts.Advertisement
- 2She does not have a visible Facebook relationship status. Women who cheat often hide their Facebook status so that nobody else can see it. They can even customize their "Married Status" so that it is only visible to you. Her Facebook status might also say something vague like "It's complicated." Either way, she might be pretending to be single or letting other men that her option are open when it comes to a sexual relationship.Advertisement
- 3She shuts down her Facebook the minute you walk in the room. A woman who is lurking on a lover's page may not want you to catch her doing so or she might actually be chatting with the person she is cheating with.
- 5There are no recent pictures of the two of you as a couple on Facebook. Women in love have pictures of their wedding and adventures with their partner posted everywhere. If she is concealing this she might be sending the message to other men that she is not that interested in you or she might be protecting the feelings of a current lover.
- 6You may notice there are more pictures of her on stranger's pages. Part of the thrill of the secret affair on Facebook is posting messages and pics that your spouse can't see. However, you might notice untagged photos of her or random photos of her on other people's pages and in situations, you were never told about.
- 7She posts witty or flirtatious messages a lot on other people's pages. If she is posting a lot she may be trying to get someone's attention. You might also feel like you are being left out of a lot of "inside jokes."
- 8Postings in her Events feed show her at locations or events you have no knowledge of or those pages are hidden from you. If you draw down the More Menu on her page on the far right, you will see postings.
- 10She won't show you her last ten Facebook messages. If she is cheating or discussing cheating on you with her girlfriends or even with him, she is not going to show you those messages. A woman who is not cheating will show you the contents of her messages.
Tips and Tricks
- If her Facebook status is not set to a relationship with you, then ask her to do it; if she balks at the suggestion or ignores the question it can mean she is afraid of offending someone she has lied to about you online by telling the truth about her status.
- If you know her Facebook password, you can swipe her cellphone or laptop and check her messages to see for yourself if she is cheating online; many women stay logged into Facebook day and night so they can catch every single message from their lover.
- Sometimes a woman who is flirting on Facebook may only be trying to make you jealous so you will pay more attention to her and there is no cheating going on at all.
- Some women who flirt on Facebook might be competing with other women to show who is the alpha female of the social media world; this means that the flirting you are seeing has nothing to do with you.
- If you can confirm the cheating, try to avoid retaliation on Facebook through public shaming unless you are absolutely sure you want to push her into the arms of the other man.
Situation 2: With Someone She Met Online
Women who are looking to cheat online are usually looking deliberately to have a discreet affair on the side, without their husband finding it. That is because the married woman is more likely to be found out as a cheater if she is seen flirting with a guy in a bar. There are many ways that an online affair can be solicited for years without the husband ever finding out and it is important to watch for the signs that she is involved in a clandestine relationship.
Women who cheat usually do so using an application or dating site that caters to adulterers. They might also place an ad in an online newspaper or join a chat application like Tinder or WhatsApp that facilitates cheating.
Reasons Why Women Cheat Online
Many women cheat online because:
- Online affairs tend to be very emotional and about the drama of courtship, and this is an element that turns them on.
- Women who are not extremely good-looking can excite their lover's imagination with photos and comments that trigger erotic fantasies.
- A woman can technically keep the affair virtual and never meet with her online lover, which for some people, means that they never actually cheated, even though the emotional infidelity was in place.
- Cheating online is easy, simple and it's free; it is also easily concealed from a spouse.
- Women who cheat online usually are emotionally insecure and afraid of leaving their current partner, so the virtual nature of the flirting and sexual activity allows them to have an affair without actually threatening the relationship with a real emotional risk.
Dating Sites and Apps That Facilitate Cheating Online for Women
Women who are cheating online may belong to a dating site. There are scores of dating and introduction sites and apps online that facilitate affairs directly. These include:
- Ashley Madison specifically created to facilitate affairs.
- Cougar Life specifically designed for older women to meet younger men.
- Lava Life this top site has a category designed for unhappier spouses to meet people specifically for cheats.
- hookup Date Hookup allows people to quickly link up with others looking for secret sex.
- Flirt allows people looking for no strings and no commitments to link up for sex.
- Match has a filter designed for happily unmarried people looking for sex on the side.
-  - allows people to join events called Meetups and many of them are hobbies or trips geared towards having adventures or nights on the town with other single people.
- Okcupid allows you to specify that you are looking to cheat on your spouse.
- Plenty of Fish is a simple matching site that matches singles with others based on their Likes on Facebook.
- Tinder is actually a mobile app, that like a dating site allows you to fill out a profile and then presents you with a list of potential matches based on the Likes in your profile.
Signs That Your Wife is Cheating Online
- 2She panics if she can't find her phone or laptop or if they are broken. The texts she receives from the person she is cheating with may be a like a life-line to her and the loss of her ability to communicate with the person causes anxiety. Online cheating tends to be very dramatic and clandestine with each text being very significant.
- 3She is very defensive about the amount of time she spends online. If you suggest that she is spending too much time online, she may report back and accuse you of doing the same thing or have some kind of justification for doing so.
- 5You can't account for her whereabouts for hours or even overnight. People who cheat disappear for hours and either ignore your questions about their whereabouts, act defensively and accuse you of being nosy or lie about where they have been.
- 7Her friends act odd and avoid interaction with you. A woman who is cheating may be using her friends as a "beard" and have them lie to you while they visit their secret lover.
- 8If she is on Facebook then see 1. Sure Signs She is Cheating With You on Facebook section of this article.
Tips and Tricks
- To see whether or not your wife is on a dating site looking for sex, all you need to do is create your own profile and then browse the profiles of married women who are looking for affairs; if her picture appears then she is either planning to cheat on you or is actively cheating on you.
- If you suspect that she is cheating on a laptop or computer and it is unlocked you can take a look at her browser history to see if she belongs to any suspicious sites that might facilitate cheating like Tinder, Ashley Madison or Cougarlife.
- If your wife is actively seeking a secret affair online, it might be time to ask yourself why she is going to all of this trouble and if any of the common causes, such as a lack of sexual activity or loneliness might be driving her to do this.
Situation 3: With Someone Long Distance
Women who are cheating on you with someone who lives at a distance do so because it is harder for you to detect an affair if it takes place in another town. These relationships also tend to be very emotional and drama-laden because it is the idea that they can never be together that drives the sexual excitement of them.
Reasons That Women Take Part in A Long Distance Affair
Reasons that women participate in long distance affairs are:
- They don't really want to have an affair, but they are bored and prefer a virtual experience because it is one that doesn't really matter.
- A long-distance relationship is one that may not have a future, and if that is the case then it is tragic and very romantic, but she still doesn't have to face up to leaving you in real life.
- They are not happy in their current marriages and are looking for comfort and even a bit of therapy by conversing with a man.
- They have gone on holiday, gotten drunk and done something they regret, yet at the same time, they would pursue the same opportunity again if it came up.
Signs Your Wife Is Having A Long Distance Affair
- 1She is online constantly, chatting with someone. Long distance relationships are heavily dependent on texting and sites and apps with chats.
Tips and Tricks
- Sometimes the woman is traveling to see an ex-boyfriend who she slept with when she was younger; you might be able to find clues about this by checking into her history on Facebook.
- If your wife says she is going away on a business trip, you can phone her work and ask when she will be back or to leave a message to confirm where she is.
- If she says she has gone away on a holiday with friends, you can always call that friend or have a chat on Facebook to ask specific details about the trip; usually it is pretty easy to catch a friend who is covering up for a cheating woman in a lie.
Situation 4: With Someone She Met While Away On Holiday
The combination of sun, sand and a few drinks can be intoxicating for a woman who goes away on holiday, by herself or perhaps with good friends. Cheating like this can be accidental, but it can lead to an annual agreement. Sometimes the holiday that is taken is to see someone she met on Facebook or online.
- 1She has trouble answering the simple question "How was your trip?" Women who cheat will avoid answering that kind of question or change the topic.
- 2She seems very nervous around you like she has done something naughty behind your back. Women who cheat, but did not mean to, might be a bit nervous around.
- 3She won't undress in front of you when she gets back from her trip. She might be concerned about marks left from a lovemaking session giving her secret away.
- 4If she is suddenly online a lot and texting it could mean she is telling a lover how much she misses him. Check out the advice given in Signs That Your Wife is Having a Long Distance Affair above to see if she has any of the behaviors, such as being very possessive of computer or panicking if she can't find it.
- 5If she suddenly has a very attentive new friend on Facebook it might be the adulterer from her vacation. Check out the advice given in 1. Signs That Your Wife is Cheating on Facebook to see if any of the changes in the behavior described fit the scenario. If there are a lot of comments from strangers on her photos or one male who comments frequently on the photos, they might be from a lover she met on holiday.
Tips and Tricks
- If you suspect she was cheating, and she uses a camera, steal it check out the photos in her gallery; the same can be done with a cell phone if you know her password
- Install a security camera or hidden camera in your home to see if your wife is entertaining visitors while you are away
Situation 5: With Someone While You Are Away or Not Around
The mice will play while the cat is away, is the old saying. You could be at work, away for the weekend with your friends or on a business trip, which opens the window of opportunity for some hanky panky to take place, maybe in your very own marital bed.
Signs That She is Cheating While You Are Away
- 1Your house is as neat as a pin when you get back. If your house seems way cleaner than usual when you get back from your trip, it is possible your lady has had a guest over.
- 2There are brand new sheets on your marital bed. If she has suddenly gone out and bought new sheets it might be because she has had a guest over when you were not around.
- 3She seems distressed if you tell her you are returning home early. She might make excuses that the place is a mess, or give her a couple of hours or send you on an enormous errand after work that will take you a couple of hours to do after work
- 5She may avoid questions about what she did when she was away. She could change the subject or act like she didn't hear you when you ask her what she was up to while you were away.
- 6She doesn't answer texts or calls while you are at work. Women are way too eager to answer texts from the man they love at any time of day and if she is not answering, it could indicate that she is spending private time with someone else.
- 8She insists on knowing your schedule way ahead of time. If she is going to organize a rendezvous, she has to make sure she won't be caught so she will constantly be trying to get you to confirm your plans
- 9You suggest you go to an event or restaurant and it is evident she has been there before. A woman who is cheating will try to avoid being seen at the restaurant where she has been eating with her lover or seeing the same movie twice.
Tips and Tricks
- If you want to shake up any routine you suspect your wife might be having with a lover, shake up your schedule and be less predictable; return early from work and surprise her with constant changes in schedule that make it difficult for the two of them to meet
- Consider hiring a private detective to follow your wife and report on her activities while you are gone
Situation 6: With Someone Who Is Married
When your wife is having an affair with someone who is married there may be a bit more discretion than usual in the relationship, especially if there are children involved in either marriage. Unless she is in love with the man, many of these affairs are casual and less affectionate.
Reasons That Married Women Cheats With Other Married Men
A married woman cheats with a married man because:
- She feels she is not getting enough sex from you and feels that it is healthy to have regular intercourse
- She wants recreational sex without strings and knows that if she has sex with someone who has as much at risk as she does, that she has less of a chance of being discovered
- She wants the freedom to experiment with her sexuality without the danger of being involved emotionally
- She has a sense of rivalry or a vendetta against the married man's wife
Signs She is Cheating With a Married Man
- 1She might be quieter than usual, sadder or be keeping to herself. If she is in love with the person, then she may be depressed that the two of them cannot be together.
- 2She appears to be dressed up for no reason sometimes. If she is dressed up when you get home or just before you go to work,
- 4She is possessive or territorial with her phone and laptop. If she is communicating with him, she will not want you to see any messages or a record of calls from him.
- 6You find a second cell phone. If she owns two cellphones, one might be expressly for contacting him and it also might be in his name.
- 7You receive mysterious calls to your home. This could be either from the man's wife or from the man himself calling to see if the coast is clear or to check up on your wife to make sure she is not sleeping with you or anyone else.
Tips and Tricks
- Consider installing a GPS tracker on her vehicle to track her whereabouts during the day.
If she says she is going to be somewhere during the day, hold her to it, by calling and checking up on her; if she is not really at the hair salon then she might be a hotel with her lover.
Situation 7: With Her Boss
This type of affair is usually also very secretive, simply because any special treatment from a boss generates so much resentment from colleagues.
Reasons a Woman Will Cheat With Her Boss
A woman will cheat with her boss to:
- Get favors, raises, and promotions at work.
- Establish an alpha female status with rivals and coworkers.
- Fulfill a need to feel special and not like the others where she works.
- Be paid special attention and gain the approval of a male because she has a history of being rejected by males
- Social climb to a better marital position in life.
Signs She is Cheating With Her Boss
- 3She seems to have a lot of trouble at work. She could come home complaining about the gossips at work and how they complain about her all of the time or how they are jealous of her. This might be a preemptive strike to prevent you from finding out that she is cheating with her boss.
- 4One of her colleagues tells you that she is cheating with her boss. If you are told this by one of her co-workers it might be about knocking her out the competition for a promotion or it could really be that the colleague is being truthful and is hoping to put a stop to the situation.
- 5She is suddenly looking for a new job. It could be that the affair has ended and her boss does not want her around or it could be that she needs to quit so there is less conflict from her co-workers and so that they can make plans for the future.
- 6She may be online constantly and tell you that she is working when in reality she is communicating with her boss. In this case, she might be using the excuse of working to hide the fact that she is constantly on her computer
- 7She gets a sudden big promotion or a raise. If your wife is suddenly promoted or gets a raise, it might be the result of doing her boss a few late night favors, especially if she is not qualified for the promotion.
- 8Browse through some of the other Signs of Cheating and Tips and Tricks in the above articles. Many of the behaviors describe that may apply to the situation of cheating with her boss as well including the tendency to stay online constantly, possessiveness and a reluctance to be physically affectionate with you, especially in front of her boss.
Tips and Tricks
- This is one situation where it is crucial for you to check up on her by giving her a call at work to see.
- Popping by her work on the pretense of delivering her lunch or bringing her flowers, might allow you to catch her in the act.
Situation 8: With Your Best Friend
Even though they are clearly "hurting you" by carrying on with each other behind your back, your best friend and your wife may go to great lengths to conceal an affair from you, especially if he is married too and especially if there are kids involved. However, the two of them may be very addicted to their betrayal of you and not able to stop.
Reasons Your Best Friend Will Cheat With Your Wife
It seems incredible that someone's best friend would cheat on him with his wife but here are some reasons that this happens:
- He may perceive you as neglecting her and therefore somehow think he is doing you a favor, in a twisted way, by satisfying her sexual appetite in ways that you can't.
- He is secretly resentful of you. He may have some kind of grudge against you, even a subconscious one and this is his way of showing you.
- He is very competitive with you and wants to win some kind of rivalry.
- He is a sex addict and sees all women as a conquest.
Reasons Your Wife Will Cheat with Your Best Friend
- You work a lot she misses you and you are a lot like him.
- She thinks you are cheating or have cheated and it is getting revenge by doing it with your best friend.
- She is in rivalry with his wife or an ex-girlfriend of your best friend.
Signs Your Wife is Cheating on You With Your Best Friend
- 1She may pretend to hate your best friend or not get along with him. This is a case of practicing reverse psychology. Leading you to believe she dislikes him is supposed to throw you off the scent of what is really happening behind closed doors.
- 2She avoids inviting him over for dinner or to an event at your home. She may find it unpleasant to look at his girlfriend or wife because she feels jealous of him.
Tips and Tricks
- If you suspect that your wife is cheating with your best friend, go to the trouble of putting them in the same room as often as possible. As you are already intimate with both people, you might be able to intuitively detect subtle changes in their behaviors that indicate they are cheating on you with each other.
- Remember that when people practice drastic forms of betrayal of their spouses or old friends it is usually because they are suffering from other issues such as low self-esteem, alcoholism or sex addiction.
- Take a look through some of the other Signs of Cheating and Tips and Tricks in the above articles as many of the behaviors describe that may apply to the situation of cheating with your best friend as well.
Situation 9: With An Ex
Women usually link up with exes on social media applications like Facebook, and before you know it she is back in full contact with him and they are having an affair.
Reasons Women Cheat With An Ex
Here are some of the reasons a woman will cheat with an ex:
- She is nostalgic for the good old days and wants to revisit them.
- She genuinely thinks she might have made a mistake by breaking up with him and wants to reconnect with him to see if he really the one.
- She may be trying to get even with a woman who may have stolen him from her years ago.
- She wants some variety in her sex life and knows the sex is good with him.
- The ex may have been the one for her but may have had an addiction, alcohol or money problem that now does not exist and she wants to check it out.
- She feels that he understands her better than you do.
- The ex may want to come back into her life and is making it very easy for her to do so.
Signs That A Woman is Cheating With Her Ex
- 1She is friends with him on Facebook. When a woman befriends an ex on Facebook it is usually for the purposes of chatting with him and those chats can lead to an infidelity. Refer to the section in the article called Signs That a Woman is Cheating On Facebook as that is where many reunions with exes take place
- 2She refuses to discuss him with you. If you ask questions about him, she may avoid your gaze or change the subject
- 3She may talk about him all of the time and relates stories about the past. This is more evident in a woman that is about to cheat, but she may do the same if she is actually cheating if he is on her name all the time.
- 4She may start dressing like she did when she was with him. This might be to turn him on when he sees him next.
- 5If they have kids she may use them as an excuse to visit with him. The children effectively become the beards for the illicit affair
- 6He has broken up with his current wife and she is acting as a therapist. Watch out for a woman who gives her ex too much emotional support after a break-up, chatting with him by text or phone for long periods and visiting with him frequently because that could open the door to a more intimate scenario.
Tips and Tricks
- Sometimes it is a better idea to confront the ex, rather than your wife, to reestablish healthy emotional boundaries; this can stop an affair or prevent it from starting in the first place
- Set a curfew on any meetings that the two of them have or insist that you come along for fun; your presence should be enough of a deterrent to prevent an affair.
Situation 10: With A High School Sweetheart
This is another one of those situations where your wife is likely to meet up with her ex on Facebook. For some people, a reunion with a high school sweetheart can feel as sweet as it did when the two of them first discovered holding hands as mere teens.
Reasons That A Woman Cheats With a High School Sweetheart
A woman might cheat with a high school sweetheart to:
- Experience the same type of erotic charge with him that she did when she was younger.
- Get revenge on the girl who stole him in the first place.
- Prove the point to him that she still has it, especially if he left her for someone else and broke her heart
- Find out if his sexual technique has improved since high school.
- Genuinely pursue him as a replacement for you as a spouse.
- Have casual sex with someone she knows in a relationship that is already over.
Signs That A Woman is Cheating With Her High School Sweetheart
- 1You might catch her looking at old photos of the two of them as a couple. She might have the old high school yearbook out or be perusing photos she has set him.
- 2You catch them flirting and reminiscing on social media. It might seem that they are just joshing with each other but sometimes beneath this public display of nostalgia, there is a real threat of an affair.
- 3Check out the section of this article Signs That She is cheating on an ex because technically that is what a high school sweetheart is.
Tips and Tricks
- If she insists on meeting her ex, insist that you come along or that he visits the two of you at his home.
- Jump in on any conversations you see on Facebook to remind your wife and her high school sweetheart that she is married; keep it light-hearted as sometimes displays of jealousy from a husband can fuel an affair.
- Making her jealous by flirting with your own high school sweetheart on Facebook could serve to nip this type of affair in the bud.
Situation 11: With A Neighbor
Sometimes it is hard for your wife to ignore the attentive handsome neighbor next door. This is often a classic case of familiarity breeding even more familiarity.
Reasons Your Wife Might Cheat With A Neighbor
There are quite a few reasons why a wife might cheat with the next-door neighbor:
- If you just have to go next door for an illicit fling, then it becomes very convenient.
- She might be getting even with his wife or girlfriend who has been giving her hassle.
- If you are not handy around the house, she might be getting to know someone who is and then end up in an affair with him.
Signs That Your Wife is Cheating With Your Neighbor
Here are the signs that your wife has something going on with a neighbor:
- 2She refuses to have him and his girlfriend or wife over to socialize. This means she doesn't want to put him in a position where she feels jealous of his relationship.
- 4Tell her that you intend to move the both of you to a new city soon and check her reaction. If she seems upset, there might be something going on because it will mean she has to leave her lover.
- 5Check out the behaviors described in Signs Your Best Friend is Cheating With Your Wife. The putting down of your neighbor or complaining about him might be a mask for the sexual activity that is really going on.
Tips and Tricks
- If you know that your neighbor is cheating it can help to have a word with him about "good fences making good neighbors and that you expect him to respect the fact that you are married.
- If your neighbor is also married you can try to put a stop to this by telling his wife.
- You can ask your wife directly if anything is going on and ask her to dress appropriately when she is in front of the neighbors.
Situation 12: With A Coworker
Infidelity is common in the workplace because people end up spending a great deal of time together, which offers many chances to get to know each other better. Many women end up cheating with a coworker because they get in the habit of having lunch to gather or going out for an after dinner after work. Their affairs are furtive and often meetings take place in public places.
Reasons That Your Wife May Have An Affair With A Coworker
Your wife might be having an affair with a coworker:
- To get the inside edge at work. Many women in the workplace use their sexuality as a way of getting information and promotions at work. Her cheating, in fact, may have very little to do with you and more about being on the inside track and making more money.
- To make a more boring job exciting. If her job is tedious, she may find the idea of having a little romance interrupting the worked day to be an appealing idea.
- She has more in common with the coworker than you because they are in the same profession. She just might just naturally fall into step with him as a lover because they have so much in common.
Signs Your Wife is Having An Affair With a Coworker
- 1She rushes off to work early in the morning and comes up late at night and you hardly see her at all. She tells you she is working overtime, but it has been going on for months. This might indicate that she is trying to live a full-time life with her cheating colleague.
- 2She is too busy for any sex. A woman in love with you is never too busy for sex with you and is likely making a lame excuse to avoid intimacy because she is getting what she needs somewhere else.
- 3Tell her you are moving the two of you to another city and that she has to quit her job. If this sends her into a complete panic then it might be possible that she is having an emotional relationship at work.
Tips and Tricks
- Pop by her work more often to check out the scene and how she conducts herself with male employees; you may even be able to catch the two of them in the act.
- If she says she is working late at night, ambush her office with a late night visit to check up on the situation.
- If she goes away on a business trip with the coworker make frequent calls to her hotel and hotel room to make sure she is not occupied in a romantic way with him and as a reminder that she has a husband waiting for her at home.
Situation 13: With A Chef
Signs That Your Wife Is Having An Affair With A Chef
Chefs can be big celebrities and most women have heard about how a man who can cook also is a natural at making love. This, in itself, is intriguing to a woman, especially if you have not had many sensual adventures together lately.
Reasons a Woman Will Cheat With a Chef
A chef is often a bit of a trophy catch for a woman. She might cheat with a chef because:
- If she is a sensual individual she may simply see him as being someone who can bring her the good things in life and make her feel like she is living a wonderful lifestyle.
- If she likes to drink the relationship might be based on a desire to be with someone who knows wines or who also might like to drink a lot.
- Chefs are sought after mates and she just might be demonstrating to a rival or other women that she knows how to hook an alpha male.
Signs That She is Cheating With a Chef
- 1A woman cheating with a chef will spend a lot of time at his restaurant. She may go there with friends or hang around and wait for him until after the restaurant closes.
- 2She may become a bit more of a food snob and refuse to go out to her former favorite places you. She may be sarcastic about your taste in food.
- 3The romantic places that you used to go out together may no longer hold an appeal for her. She may insist that you take her to more expensive restaurants.
- 4She may post a lot of pictures of herself at his restaurant on her Facebook page. She might be stroking her lover's ego by helping promote his restaurant or giving a message to other women that he is special to him.
- 5Her taste in food changes. All of a sudden she may start to like new dishes she didn't bother with before. She may take a sudden interest in cooking new dishes so pay attention to her cooking at home.
Tips and Tricks
- A wife that is fooling around with a chef, or thinking about it, probably needs a little more romance and culinary adventure in her life, so be sure to woo her by taking her out to dinner.
- Accompany your wife to the chef's restaurant often and make your presence well-known by asking to speak to the chef so you can compliment him on the meal; then note his reaction and hers when you meet each other.
Situation 14: With A Fireman, Paramedic or Cop
Women who have affairs with members of the paramilitary or a rescue team tend to be addicted to the adrenalin rushes associated with emergencies and associate those adrenalin rushes with sexual excitement.
Reasons Women Cheat with a Fireman, Paramedic or Cop
- Your woman may simply have a fetish for a "man in a uniform." The wardrobe of men in these professions may hold a certain type of sexual thrill for her.
- She may feel safe with a man in these professions. Women who are insecure or unsatisfied may feel more secure in every way with an authority figure with a strong personality and excellent physique.
- She wants a man who is a hero in her life. Subconsciously she may feel that she is being rescued physically or emotionally from a set of bad circumstances in life by the fireman or paramedic.
- Men in these professions can be dangerous, traumatized, sex addicts or addicted to drama and this can be very sexually exciting for a woman who is also addicted to drama.
Signs She is Cheating With a Fireman, Paramedic or Cop
- 1She has a police radio or listens to the police radio on her computer. She may be doing this to keep track of her lover so that she knows if he is at a fire or handling some other kind of emergency. Also on some radio frequencies, she may be able to communicate with him.
- 2If there is a charity car wash, fundraiser or ball where firemen are, she is there. If she constantly attends events where a fireman may be, then she may be hanging out where he is in hopes of having a quickie.
- 3Whenever there is news of a disaster or fire on the radio or television she is very attentive. She may have her eyes on the scene and wondering if her lover is at the scene.
- 4She has unaccounted disappearance and at weird hours. Paramedics, cops, and firemen work long shifts and night shifts that make their schedule very weird, necessitating lovers to meet at odd times like three in the morning or early in the morning.
Tips and Tricks
- If you suspect that she feels rescued by a cheating relationship with a fireman, paramedic or cop you might want to sit down and take a look at the relationship with you as that is the situation she needs rescuing from and then try to fix it.
- A boring sex life might be what's driving her into the arms of a paramilitary man; liven up things in the bedroom with a bit of role-playing or wearing a uniform yourself.
Situation 15: Cheating With A Personal Trainer
When your wife works out with a personal trainer she is already in a prime position for courtship as she is likely wearing next to nothing and in very physical and sometimes intimate poses with him.
Reasons She Might Cheat With Her Personal Trainer
- Most personal trainers are life coaches who get to know their clients well and an intimacy can grow between two people that are often discussing such personal matters as health, weight loss and personal problems holding them back.
- Most personal trainers are very attractive and considered to be catches, so she may sleep with one just simply for the physical gratification or to show herself or another woman that she still "has it".
Signs Your Wife is Cheating With Her Personal Trainer
- After having no interest in going to the gym for years she is suddenly there all the time. Long disappearances daily to the gym may not just be about training, there may be some nookie going on as well.
- She is going to the gym but not losing weight. This indicates that she is fooling around instead of working out hard with the guy.
- Your personal trainer does not seem to be charging you for all the time he is spending with your wife. If there is a discrepancy indicating a lot of free training, then that might be about having sex behind your *back because he is not billing you or his time
- She refuses to talk to you about her fitness goals. If you ask questions about her relationship with him she becomes defensive or evasive or suggests firing him.
- She dresses provocatively when going to the gym. You might also be suspicious if she is not dressed in workout clothes to go to the gym.
Tips and Tricks
- It is easy enough to pop by the gym to see if her wife is where she says she is with this trainer.
- Make her provide you with a schedule of her planned sessions with him to make sure that she is sticking to it.
Situation 16: With An Artist or Musician
If your wife is at all a romantic soul or a lover of culture there is a chance that she might become smitten with an artist or musician.
Reasons Women Cheat With Artists or Musicians
- If she is bored, she might go for a risky, dangerous personality who can provide her with a thrill outside of the marriage.
- She may be a frustrated artist or musician who wants to live vicariously through an artistic triste.
Signs That Your Wife is Cheating With An Artist or a Musician
- 1She starts dressing a lot younger, like a groupie or a hipster. The outfits she wears with you may be much more casual, but when she goes up she dresses like she is a member of a tribe. [[Image:cat woman texting.jpg|center|frame|If she is dressing a little unusual or kinky, she might be seeing an artist or hipster on the side.]
- 2She comes home with gifts such as a painting or guitar pick. These might be mementos from her affair.
- 3She comes home really late at night. It is well known that artists and musicians party until the wee hours of the morning but if she is gone all night, she might be having an affair.
- 4Surprise your wife with the awareness of an affair with an artist by buying a piece of his art without her knowledge and hang it in the living room, then study her reaction. If she is cheating she may seem aghast.
Tips and Tricks
- Make sure you go with her to any art openings or performances to make your presence well known to your rival.
- Find out about the scheduled openings or performances of your rival and schedule trips to see cultural events on the same dates to block any further contact.
Situation 17: With a Photographer
Technically a photographer is an artist, but an affair with a photographer is earmarked by some very special new behaviors demonstrated by your cheating wife.
Reasons Women Cheat With A Photographer
Photographers are often considered to be trophy men by other women and your wife may be trying to impress her friends:
- It is flattering to think that a photographer wants you to be his special model.
- If he is an adventurer or landscape photographer it may be a way for her to get out of the house and have a more exciting life.
- She may be an amateur photographer thinking of advancing her career by getting to know him better.
Signs Your Wife is Cheating With a Photographer
- 1She is always dressed like she is going to have her photograph taken. Women who are cheating with photographers look their absolute best at all time.
- 2You notice she has acquired sexy new lingerie. If she has a lot of new provocative-looking underthings she may be posing for pin-up shots with her new amour.
- 4She is posting her own arty looking photographs on Facebook. She may be trying to show her photographer lover that she has something in common with him.
- 5She has joined www.instagram.com Instagram and is posting photos there. Instagram is the site where a lot of photographers hang out and she may be communicating with her lover by posting images on there.
- 6She buys a new camera. This is especially telling if she has absolutely no interest in photography before.
- 7Her new hobby as a photographer consumes all of her time. She may suddenly be attending more photo exhibitions or going on short trips away to learn photography or take pictures.
- 8Check out the above sections Signs That Your Wife is Cheating with an Artist or Musician as many of the behaviors are similar.
Tips and Tricks
- Have a private investigator take a few pictures of her by having her followed to an exhibition or art opening where you suspect she might be meeting her lover.
- Surprise her by showing up in person at an exhibition or opening to see who she talks to and her reaction to having her there.
- Join Instagram and start "hearting" her photos to let her know that you are watching her and post photos of the two of you together, getting married so that your rival can see them.
Situation 18: With Someone Much Wealthier Than You
The old saying is that money is the best aphrodisiac and or many women, who are secretly gold-diggers, there is a financial reward for having an affair with a rich or powerful man.
The Reasons Women Cheat With Wealthy and Powerful Men
A woman cheats with a wealthier man because:
- She may be looking or a Sugar Daddy. Some women are very turned on by a man who gives her shopping money or buys her ex.
- She may like the attention of being with a wealthier man. The secrecy and the scandal may be helping her career somehow or making her the focus of attention because many wealthy men are celebrities.
- She is unhappy in her marriage and status conscious. She might be wishing for a better life than the limits of your income may not be able to provide.
Signs That Your Wife is Cheating With a Wealthier Man
Signs that your wife is having an affair with a man who makes a lot of money are:
- 1She starts dressing like she is a member of the upper classes. She might start wearing more expensive clothing, perfumes, and more formal outfits.
- 2She might be wearing new jewelry and it might look expensive. If she boasting diamonds, gold or silver she might be receiving these gifts from a rich secret lover.
- 3She is picked up by a limo. If a limo arrives at your home to pick her up then she just might be seeing a rich man. If a limo drops her off at your home after an evening out, and you don't have rich friends, that is another sign she is seeing someone wealthy behind your back.
- 4If he is famous you might start seeing pictures of him with her in the newspaper or on social media. If the paparazzi catch them cheating, then you might consider her to be guilty.
- 5She leaves her house without her wedding ring. She might be hoping for a proposal and the chance to raise her social status in life.
Tips and Tricks
- If the wealthy man is married, contact him and tell him you know what is going or that you will tell his wife; most rich married couples are very status conscious and do not relish the idea of being embarrassed in public.
- Accept that it might be quite hard to fight a man who has a lot of money and that unless your wife is very romantic and still loves you, she may leave you.
Method 19: With A Much Younger Man
Women meet much younger men everywhere they go. They are the sales help, the gardeners, the pool boys and the waiters that they encounter every day. Sometimes the much younger man frequents bars, looking for "cougars"; women eager to have sex with younger men.
Reasons Women Cheat With A Younger Man
Women cheat with younger men because:
- It's a cool thing to have a younger trophy boyfriend that you can talk about with your girlfriends.
- Younger men last longer in the sack and have more energy or lovemaking.
- Younger men do not usually hassle a much older woman for commitment which means that she does not have to leave you and yet, still have great sex.
Signs Your Wife Is Cheating With a Younger Man
- 1She has a profile up on cougarlife.com Cougar Life. This is a sure sign that she is looking for young love as this is a site that caters specifically to women who want to have sexual relationships with younger men.
- 2She is suddenly into skateboarding, rock climbing, and other youthful sports. If she is not usually up for these types of things she might be seeing someone younger.
- 3She might start dressing like someone half her age. If she is wearing baby doll dresses, hipster clothes or clingy sportswear, she is probably hanging with a younger tribe of people who may be the friends of her new lover.
- 4Her bank account seems to be a little emptier than usual. Older women love to take care o their younger lovers by buying them groceries, taking them clothes shopping and helping them pay their rent
- 5Her taste in music changes. She might suddenly be listening to tunes from bands that were not even born before the day you got married.
- 6She might seem stoned or a little high. This could be a sign that she is doing recreational drugs with a young man to loosen herself up before a love making session.
Tips and Tricks
- Rather than confront your wife about this one, it might be best to wait this one out. She will soon get tired of talking about the New Star Trek and want to talk about watching Seinfeld with you again.
- She is likely hanging out with younger men because she is bored, in which case, you might want to take her on a few more hiking adventures or take her to see a concert.
Method 20: With A Woman
Sometimes your romantic rival is not always another man. Sometimes it is another woman.
Reasons Women Cheat With Other Women
- She feels she is getting even with you for cheating with a woman.
- She is reacting to living in a sexist world and therefore seeks relationships with women.
- She is genuinely an in-the-closet lesbian who needs to explore her sexuality.
Signs She is Cheating With A Woman
- 1She seems very, very close to one particular woman and spends all of her time with her.
- 2She is very secretive socially and posts very little on social media. An absence of social activity on #Facebook may indicate that she is hiding a relationship that she fears others may not understand.
- 3She avoids all sexual contact with you. This can mean she is finding sexual satisfaction elsewhere.
- 4If you do have sex she seems listless and unsatisfied. This could mean that she wants to be in bed with her female lover and not with you.
Tips and Tricks
- Sexuality is a very difficult issue for many people to address and it is best not to force a woman who is truly lesbian to be with you if she has decided to "come out"; it is best to just accept her revelation and move on.
Situation 21: When She Makes Big Physical Changes
Reasons That Women Change Their Appearance When Cheating
- Flirtation is everything for a woman who is meeting with a lover on the sly; she may be enhancing her appearance in order to make their rendezvous' more exciting.
- She may be considering running away with him and embarking on a whole new life, so she is creating a new physical personae in order to separate her new life from her old life.
- She may be grooming her nether regions for purposes of sexual hygiene.
Signs She is Cheating On You According to Her Grooming
- 1She has got a new haircut and it is a bit hipper and sexier looking than the 'do she has been sporting for years; that might be an attempt to keep the attention of another man.
- 2She is wearing more makeup than she ever has, especially eyeshadow, mascara, and lipstick, even when she claims to be going out to do mundane errands or shopping.
- 3She has lost a lot of weight and has bought a whole new wardrobe; this could mean she is changing her image to a hotter one to keep a lover interested.
- 4Her skirts are shorter and her tops are more low-cut; showing more skin is an indication that she might be trying to catch the eye of someone else.
- 6You look in her underwear drawer and you see that she is the owner of all kinds of sexy lingerie that she has never worn to attract or impress you such as high cut thong panties, push up bras, garter belts, and sexy nylons.
- 7She is suddenly balder in the nether regions, which expresses a desire to look better nude.
- 8She has actually gotten plastic surgery to improve her body, but the new breasts, thinner waist or face lift she has gotten is nothing that you would ever suggest to her.
- 9She just seems happier and her skin is glowing as if she is having sex every day, and you are not the one having sex with her every day, then it could mean she is cheating.
- 10If she is older, she might be taking bio-identical hormones, which for a menopausal or peri-menopausal partner, extends an interest in sex as well as improve a woman's appearance.
She is wearing more perfume, and you have not known her to wear a lot of fragrance in the past.
Situation 22: According to Your Gut Feeling
Reasons You Should Trust Gut Feelings About Cheating
- Nobody knows your wife better than you and intimacy over the years builds up an intuitive connection that sends you alarm bells when something subtly changes.
- Sometimes your conscious mind consciously ignores the obvious to protect you from getting hurt, but your other senses and subconscious mind is signaling you that something is going on by triggering suspicious feelings.
- A gut feeling occurs when something does not feel quite right and it is there in place to make sure that you can trust your closest associates; an inner message from your gut about your wife is worth heeding.
- For a reason you cannot quite fathom, you feel monitored or spied on, and it could be that your wife and her lover are watching your every move so they know when they can spend some quality time together behind your back.
Signs That She Is Cheating According to Your Gut Feelings
- 1You feel blown off or ignored, but you are not sure quite why you feel like that.
- 2When you are with her, you feel somehow that she is not quite there for you mentally or emotionally; she may be acknowledging you but might not be actually engaging with you in subtle ways.
- 4She does not seem to be caring for your personally, by cooking your dinner.
- 5You have had an argument in which she has threatened to find another guy, but you have a sinking feeling that it has already happened.
- 6She tells you she is doing some baking for a friend or a charity, but you suspect she is cooking for someone else.
- 7She suddenly is taking care of a friend's pet with whom she has an emotional attachment, but you have not known her to do that before.
- 8You feel like she somehow personally smells different, but you are not sure why.
- 10She has excuses as to why she is not where she is supposed to be, but for some reason, you just don't believe her and you are not sure why you feel this way.
- 11She is suddenly way better in bed and although she tells you she got sex tips from a magazine, you are suspicious that it may have been taught to her by someone else.
- 12She tells you she wants to go away on a holiday by herself or with the girls, but you feel left out and suspect she might be going with someone else.
- 13She seems very anxious and nervous around you as if she has something to say but can't say it.
- 14She is very defensive, even though you are not criticizing her, and acts as if she has something to hide.
- 15She seems to be more critical of you as if trying to find a reason to justify her need to find someone new.
- 16You are having recurring dreams about her cheating, and they seem to stay with you; sometimes the unconscious mind recognizes the cheating before you consciously do and reveals the infidelity in a dream.
Tips And Tricks
- Sometimes your intuition is quite logical; make a list of evidence and write it down on paper to see if what you are thinking could add up to a real situation.
- Confessing your suspicions to a good friend or a therapist can help you figure out whether or not what you are thinking could be a legitimate betrayal of you.
- Ask yourself if you trust this person and why you are having these suspicions in the first place: has she lied to you or betrayed you before?
- Is your gut feeling a logical fear? Is she an unreliable person who has cheated or lied to other people she has been with.
- If you are in emotional distress, you need the matter resolved; there is nothing wrong with hiring a private detective or engaging in surveillance if you need to follow that hunch that she might be cheating.
Situation 23: For Certain
Reasons She Might Be Cheating on You
- She may feel that you do not value her in some way or don't respect her achievements or life choices; this inspires women to find a lover who really values her.
- She may feel that "the bloom is off the rose" and that she needs to find a more spirited, loving engagement with less familiarity.
- She might feel belittled by you and is seeking someone more respectful, especially if you use a lot of sarcasm or have belittled her she may have built up a resentment and is getting secret revenge.
- She is lonely and feels ignored because you are always at work or never have time for her.
- You have forgotten an important landmark anniversary like Valentine's Day, her birthday or an anniversary and she is cheating because she resents you.
- She has found someone wealthier or more well-connected whom she feels could help her with her career
- She may have found an individual who is buying her things that you don't.
- She has had a miscarriage and is depressed and now associates your relationship with a fertility failure; this prompts some women to try and move on.
- You may have changed physically and she is not attracted to you anymore, and yet cares for you, but does not want to leave you, so she finds a secret love partner.
- She has suffered a major setback in life, in her career or personally and is making up for it by seeking a pleasure.
- She suffers from an addiction that you do not support, but she has found a man that will allow her to partake of her poison without criticism, or even supply it to her; this could be a drug addiction, alcohol addiction or sex addiction.
- She suffers from mania, bipolar disorder or a similar mental disorder that causes her to be very impulsive and easily distracted from her family responsibilities
- You simply have bad luck and even though you are the perfect husband, somebody she likes better may have come along to spirit her away and there is nothing you can do about it; in other words, there may not be a reason and it may not be your fault
- Evolutionary scientists speculated that cheating may be genetically wired into some women who might have hard-wired beliefs that they will have more resources and protection in their lives if they have numerous men in their life; that way if you die, she has another male or two to depend on emotionally and financially in life.
Signs She is Cheating on You For Certain
- 1She gets angry when you ask for an accounting of where she might have been lately and denies you the basic right of an explanation.
- 2She simply ignores all special holidays and anniversaries and does not acknowledge them.
- 3You notice that she has a lot more jewelry and gifts, and you have no idea where they are coming from.
- 5You come home and there is a strange car in your driveway, that disappears when you look out the window again, that car is gone.
- 6You come home one night and there is a man in your home, and you are not quite sure that you believe her explanation that he is the plumber or a salesman.
- 7She doesn't come home at night and you have not seen her for days and when she does come home she has no explanation or one that does not make sense.
- 8You don't snore and she insists on sleeping in another bedroom and you hear her laughing on the phone with some else.
- 9She suddenly is so busy, she has no time for you at all ever and your sex life is a distant memory.
- 10There are mysterious keys on her key chain.
- 11She has new security and privacy measures on everything that she has online, including her social media accounts like Facebook and her credit cards.
- 13She avoids your family and friends and wants nothing to do with them, in case they can sense that she is cheating too.
- 14In public places she never introduces you as her husband and stays away from the topic of your life together.
- 15She picks fights with you in front of others to make you look like a bad guy who deserves to be left so that her cheating looks justified later.
- 16She spends hours online, and does not give you a single clue about who she is talking to that makes sense to you.
- 17You have caught her in several lies and she will not admit to them and tell them that your suspicions are your imagination or even dismiss or laugh at any facts presented to her as something you are making up.
- 18She is telling your friends the truth, but not you, because she is scared of your reaction; sometimes it is a good idea.
- 19She has actually told you there is someone else, but you thought she wasn't serious; sometimes a confession of infidelity is not a joke, it is a reality you are not facing.
Tips and Tricks For Married Men Dealing With Infidelity
- Women who cheat tend to resent the partner they are with, so your communication with each other may be less harmonious; if this problem is insurmountable and she only speaks to you in a nagging, sarcastic or complaining manner, you may have a female cheater on your hands.
- Force her hand by asking to make you more of a priority and if she balks at spending more time with you then confront her about your suspicions.
- Women who are lying about cheating tend to answer a question with a question because they are searching their minds for a lie.
- Women who cheer no longer use the phrase "we" when talking about the two of you, so look for changes in her language when she talks to others.
- Her body language may change to reflect the fact that she no longer wants to be with you and she might stop kissing you or holding your hand.
- She is cold, distant and you have not had sex months, possibly because she is getting affection and sexual interaction from someone else.
- Conversely, your wife may be cheating on you if she is suddenly much better in bed and using news sex skills that may have been taught to her by someone else.
- She may suddenly be wearing sexier underwear or grooming her private parts in a way that may be pleasing but also surprising to you; this could indicate that she is sprucing herself up to have sex with another.
- Women are more fascinated by what they can't have or by what other women want so if you want to get her back, then announce your intentions to start dating others and wait until she comes to you.
- Check her banking and credit card statements. It's not always the man who pays for the hotel room or the holiday abroad.
- Your friends or a neighbor report a sighting with another man, in which case, you should investigate to see if the rumor is true; most people do not tell their friend's such things just to cause trouble.
- You are younger and she is older. Older women have had more relationships and may cheat on a new younger spouse as a form of revenge or simply out of a desire for a sexual change of pace or curiosity.
- You know your wife better than anyone and there is such a thing as male intuition. If you detect a change in your wife's behaviors that makes you suspicious then she very well may be cheating on you and it worth investigating.
- If you want to keep your relationship with your wife, you may want to ask yourself if it really matters whether or not your wife is cheating, especially if you no longer have a sex life; sometimes separating from your partner is not worth the emotional stress and cost, especially if you have not had sex for years.
Questions and Answers
Thinking there someone else because we're not loving one other the same?
I used to be so close but now we so far apart. She just doesn't have time for me now. when she In the past made time. I have tried: Try doing things and going places but she does its like she not as happy. I think it was caused by: Well after her 18yr old son left home.its like she just not the same person .me and she is Best of the friend as well as husband and wife. you see one you see the other. One doesn't go without the other. I talked to her about it and our sex life one time a month.
Her child has left the home which can cause what is termed "empty nest syndrome" or rather that is just a term for depression after your child leaves to become an adult. You need to consider that your wife has spent 18 years of her life with the identity of Mother. Suddenly she is finding out that she needs to come up with a new focus. Instead of pressuring your wife, pamper your wife. Leave her uplifting notes around the house. Take this opportunity to date her once again. Showing her that you are here to help her will hopefully allow her to open up to you.
Wife went with my best friend to see family yet she is 54 he is 46 all she talks about when she comes is half of what I have is hers she is the one cheating and I am going to get screwed why is that?
Why is it she is the guilty one but she comes home and screams at me I am home not out like her. I have tried: Try to talk she screams at me. I think it was caused by: Her new job a lot more money an independent
Do you have proof that she is cheating or is this a manifestation of you feeling inadequate because she has gained financial independence? She is lashing out verbally at you and sounds extremely angry. If you would like to resolve this and keep your marriage intact then suggest nicely that you would like to go to marriage counseling with her as one final determination effort to save the marriage. Be honest with her about how you are feeling and ask for mutual respect during the process of figuring out the best way to move forward.
Is my wife having an affair with a co-worker?
Since my wife started her new job. That's all she talked about especially when she asks me what type of car that was? She asked because her boss has the exact same car? 3 months into her new jobs and she came home with balloons and a birthday gift? And she gets very upset when I ask for her work schedule? She first started to got very mad at me for going inside her job?. I have tried: Asking her to print me her work schedule? I only received 2 work schedules since she started her new job. Checking her cell phone but she recently changed the password. I think it was caused by: Recently we have been arguing a lot. Because I'm not working right now and she's the only one working. She left her old job because she hated her old boss. But while searching for a new job, she took the first job she got an interview with. With hourly pay rate a lot less. Part-time... And she says yes to everything especially if her bosses ask her to stay a little longer. Or work overnights, especially when she came home from working the graveyard shift. She came home and went straight to the bathroom to change her underwear or showered? Without even asking or telling me ahead of time. Is like my plans didn't matter anymore! Or what I got to say.
Okay, there is a valid point to her working any available overtime because she is the only one bringing in money right now to support you both. As for her showering after working all night, lots of people do that so that they can relax properly after working odd hours. Demanding her schedule needs to come with a reason. Did you consider that with her taking an extra overtime a schedule is not necessary? Perhaps she is not getting her own monthly schedule right now. As for the car that her boss drives, her questions was an innocent one.
Instead of focusing on her job performance and decisions, it is time for you to show her that you are actively looking for employment. Throw all your available energy into it because you will feel much better once you are gainfully employed again. Job hunting might also take some of the emotional pressure off your wife. One of the number one causes for divorce is financial dissolution. Try to avoid that breakdown in your own marriage by telling your wife that you appreciate what she is doing right now to support you both.
Whats are the looks they give to each other?
Looks they give and what kind of communication will they do if I am in the room I have an idea that they leave tips in the bathroom but what would I look for in there any ideas
There are numerous signs you should be looking for listed in the article on this page. In fact, more than 100 signs. One or two signs is not a warning. It is when there are several that are jumping out at you. Do they suddenly never leave their phone around? Have they been spending more time than usual away from home or out of their normal routine? Do they seem to be accusing you of cheating? Do they not answer your call when they are out? These are some of the signs you should be watching for. The fact that your significant other seems to have a connection with someone else is worrisome but not an outright sign that they are cheating. Ask them if they are missing something in your relationship. See if there are any issues that you may not have noticed before in the relationship. Usually, there are warning signs that the relationship is falling apart or your partner is unhappy before they cheat.
Should I be alarmed my wife is siding with the male neighbor versus having my back?
Last weekend we had couples over for a game of LCR...at one point another male friend of ours and I were talking about tickets prices being high at the airport where the other male guest is the director. (he doesn't control ticket prices) On the way out he told my wife that he didn't appreciate us talking about his airport...we were talking about the airlines. So I approached him nicely a couple of days later nicely to ask why he was upset. My wife was livid..saying " I don't want him to think I'm a tattle tale.....two things.....I wonder why she is more worried about him not liking her than how I felt about him talking to her about me versus to me directly. There have been some concerns in the past...we are in our mid-50's...he is 35....I had to get on her a couple of times about inappropriate hugging and touching....I don't consider myself jealous, but I keep seeing red flags going up....so now she is mad at me....go figure. I'm not sure at this point...just trying to understand
Your wife is demonstrating a behavior called emotional infidelity. It is a way of subtly expressing resentment towards a partner that is related more to addiction or emotional insecurity. The fact that she is expressing resentment by letting you know that she does not have your back in certain situations can indicate that she has a problem with your relationship, but it does not necessarily indicate cheating. Also, if your wife is in her fifties, she may want to still appear to be cool in front of other men, especially younger men. Then again, the other way of looking at this is that she might have felt that you betrayed her confidence by using what she told you to confront this younger guy, which in her mind, might indicate a lack of respect for her. You would need to provide further details about inappropriate hugging and touching. If it was with this younger man, then you might have a right to be suspicious. Be aware as well that inappropriate touching and hugging can also be indicative of an addicted or very insecure personality, and that there may be no real hurtful intention to follow through on what is basically impulsive behavior.
How do I check if my wife is having an affair when I go out when I come back the bed is all roughed up and you know something is going on but can't prove it?
For awhile now, I have had that feeling that my wife is having an affair but the trouble is that I can't prove it. There have been times I have gone to my friends during the week and there were 2 knee marks on the bed. I have asked her if she has been having someone else but she told me that she is having nobody around, while what I have seen is making me think otherwise. I have gone through her Facebook and deleted most of her male friends and just left the female friends and left it at that. I know something isn't right as I always listen to my instinct and I just know something isn't right.
Hi there. Sorry to hear that you are being put through like this and it is time, for the sake of your insanity, that you got a definitive answer about this, or else you are going to be living with the emotional equivalent of a toothache for many years. You can set up the camera in the bedroom, where you suspect the infidelity is taking place and then play the action back on a computer or a phone when you come home. Some cameras will also allow you to view the action through the camera on a phone or a computer. You can buy very small pinhole cameras that are stand alone, that you can hide in a vase of flowers or elsewhere yourself that are hidden inside smoke detectors, key chains, digital clocks, stuffed animals and other common household items. Many of these cameras can be had for $200. or less at [ https://www.amazon.com Amazon] Type wireless hidden cameras into the Amazon search engine box at the very top of the page and you will find scores of hidden cameras that might help you finally satisfy your curiosity.
Is she cheating on me, I'm a little confused because I don't have enough evidence, but don't want to make the mistake of wrong marriage?
I met my fiance last year August, at the time we met I was broke but she had a great job, but we had to separate when she was returned back to the country where she came from, she supported me financially until early this year when we decided to relocate and stay together and startup a company of our own that I'm the Head. She maintains her place of work while I run the Company, when I just relocated there are times she came back home by 7PM sometimes 8PM at night after some time it stopped .There is coworker that she goes out with for lunch sometimes, she mentions him frequently, the other day I found a picture of the guys mom in their chat, they are close to some extent. I'm really stressed because I have this gut feeling and funnily I want to engage her, please help me. She earns more than I do, plus we are about to get married, I Really love her but don't want to make a mistake. I have tried: I tries some personal investigations, like reading her chats but she never hides her phone. Recently I saw a chat where they were planning to organize an office picnic, she asked him to go with his female supervisor but he refused and replied that he can't go without her, she later replied by saying that "how can I go without my better half". I don't get much from her phone but her call log is busy. I think it was caused by: I think they used to date before I came into the picture but she had no plans of settling with him .Besides she's 36
She would not be supporting you financially unless she loved you and saw a future with you. She also started a business with you which means even bigger financial investment. The person she is speaking with may just be her "work husband". That does not mean that she is in love with him but rather that they have a work companionship. Perhaps she did know him in the past before the work relationship or maybe she added his mother just to be a good friend. Either way, propose to her and start planning your wedding. If she really wanted to be with this person, she would have left you already.
Thinking My wife has cheated on me with my one of my single married friends?
I think the affair is long over and happened a few years back, but suddenly one day last year things started to not add up when I pressed her about why she was so captivated with my "friend", she wouldn't stop talking about him one day so I pressed her on it. I remembered and documented some odd behavior, weird responses and flat out lies she deems now as acting normal back then, far from it. Now 2/3 years later she "hates" the guy probably because he dumped her after a few rounds in the sack and he had had his fun at her and my expense. I have many more scenarios I could share but wonder how both parties could sneak behind my back, they think they got away with it and they did because I didn't realize until it was over a few years ago what happened. All I want is to talk to someone who will listen to my other stories from her "supposed" affair and tell me if I'm acting rational or paranoid. This situation is different because we had been married for 30 years and then she decided to cheat on me without warning and did it very secretly, and now she acts she is hurt and embarrassed inside, and denies what she did and claims she was acting normally back then on the outside. I think it was a self esteem issue for her and wanted to prove she was still sexy and wanted by a close family friend who was single. We were all good friends up until my suspicions came to light, its been enlightening seeing them together since their fling, they seem very matter of fact almost like a ex wife and ex husband when they see each other, not the giddy friends they use to be. I guess in my ignorance I never recognized what was going on when it did because I didn't think the person I loved the most and one of my "friends" would act upon being more than friends apparently. I have tried: I've tried talking to her directly several times and confronted my friend (he denied it very uneasily) She is in denial and he is way past what happened and could care less, he got what he wanted. She again thinks the way she was acting towards him was perfectly normal. We have been married 30 years and I know when she has lied to me in the past I know in my gut the affair happened. I think it was caused by: Her lack of self esteem and to prove she could capture a man's attention with her charm/sexiness again. He is about her age, single just divorced, and so he was fair game and she knew him as a friend 3/4 years prior to the affair, it just set up perfectly for the two of them to hook up with the unsuspecting me in the wings. He would never tell and she wasn't about to admit anything happened and still denies it.
You have been married to her for 30 years. That is a big chunk of your lives for both of you. Perhaps something did happen because your friend was in a vulnerable place after his divorce and your wife was beginning to feel the youth years slip away. But she stayed with you despite this man being newly single. Then again, nothing could have happened and she is just irritated with your friend because she does not like how he changed once he became single again.
For the sake of the marriage, put this behind you. Living with anxiety and distrust is damaging to a marriage. As for your friendship, begin to distance yourself from that friend. See if your wife's behavior changes.
My Girlfriend I think is having an online affair with another man how can I stop her?
Been dating my girlfriend for 5 months, she has been going on Facebook more than normal, also taking her iPad or a phone that I know she carries with her, and goes online on messenger, not knowing I can see her being online what can I do? I love her and I'm trying to be hopeful that she is not doing anything wrong but my stomach has other feelings need help please. We have been fighting, mostly over stupid things but I had suspicions, but now they have become more evident, I've noticed her taking her iPad, phone to the bathroom just about every time she goes
Your girlfriend may just be interested in a game app or social media. It is unlikely that she is on Facebook speaking with another person for the purpose of dating if those are your only signs. There are fights in every relationship and if you are fighting that means she is comfortable enough with you to vent how she actually feels about a topic or situation.
Is it possible that my wife is having an affair? I found out earlier that she is texting with her friend's husband. does this mean there is something going on between the two?
My wife has joined face book and she has blocked me on her Facebook. I went and created another account and I discovered that she is talking with her friend's husband on Facebook. does this mean there is something going on or are they also friends?
I think you should be more concerned that your wife blocked you from Facebook. That is a pretty big line to cross in a marriage. If she is speaking with her friend's husband over messenger frequently then you should be concerned but if your wife is just commenting on his social media posts for the general view there is no need to worry.