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Why did my boyfriend change his behavior in a long-distance relationship?

We have been in a long-distance relationship for 12 months... For 10 months, our relationship was fantastic. He sent me a message every day, called me every day, and we met on Skype once a week. But one month ago, he changed his behavior. When he receives my messages, he replies within 4 or 5 hours; and he never calls me anymore. I am always calling him and sometimes with no response; usually, if he is busy, then he calls me back; but one month ago, everything changed. I do not know what has happened with our relationship. Next week, I am planning to meet him in Istanbul. What should I do when I meet him?

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The reasons that he stopped communicating at the previous rate can vary a lot: from his depletion of the discussed subjects, where he should be given time to replenish and expand his knowledge to start talking with you again, to him being depressed. You should, first of all, check the signs of his being attracted to another person and work on gathering knowledge and renewing or expanding your articulation and vocabulary if he is depleted of his discussion topics. This will help you start and uphold colloquies on different subjects from prose and poetry to science and world events. If he is not attempting to communicate with you or behaves absolutely disinterested, then his love might have faded (check for this by reading our article on detecting the signs of your partner not loving you anymore, he might have been overloaded with work, or he might be in depression, which is a medical state. Figure out which is the case and act accordingly either to help your partner or to solve the relationship problem.

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Long distance Relationship drama?

Hi, I sincerely feel I needed a little coach on how to handle a little situation about my long distance drama, We met through a mutual friend, and its been 3 months now since we known each other. Initially when we started talking he came up so caring, loving and delicate at the puppy stage and communication used to be very vibrant and great. He has never asked me to be his, he just treats me like I am his already... He lives in Australia and I live in France so obviously the time zone has been killing the both of us but the problem I have is he treats me like I am already his but has never made it clear to me one day with utmost assurance and those "magic words" for 3 months that we have been talking. . . We both are making efforts to closing the distance but I feel a little unsecured and discouraged these past days as he just started pulling up a little ghost mode on me recently for instance only calling up before he gets home from work and disappears during the weekends... I tried to confront him to be certain but he always comes up with he is not seeing anyone and he does not even have the time to chase anyone because of his work timing and rigorous day to day schedules. . . Recently, I noticed he only calls me up while he's at work not while he's at home and I have some stubborn assumptions already going up in my head like what if, just what if.. I have tried: I have tried speaking to him, initiating text message first, made efforts to close the distance by applying for the necessary visa proceedings. Send a word of prayer to him every day (mornings most especially or at the beginning of a new week to encourage him) but the communication just keeps sliding off the ladder, it isn't as strong as when we started initially. And to crown it all, I do not even know if I am his yet as he has never asked me to be his girlfriend yet so I'm a little confused, he only treats me like one. I think it was caused by: I am not sure there was any problem until this moment as I speak. We never argue or quarrel, but he seems so not bothered about little gesture we make recently that used to light up our conversations initially at the puppy stage.

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Long Distance Relationships are tough with the cloud of distrust. The fact that you have no real clarification regarding your status in the relationship just makes things worse. You have applied for the Visa to visit Australia. Perhaps what you should do is surprise him at his home when you get the Visa. This would clear up doubts because if he is living with someone, they will be there. When you plan your trip, make sure that you have accommodations in place and a plan to be a "tourist" just in the event that the relationship falls apart.

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It is possible that he is overwhelmed with work and this is why you feel pushed to the side. The only way you will really know if he is seeing someone or living with someone is a surprise visit. Since you met through a mutual friend, have you asked the friend if they are aware of something that would be preventing your boyfriend from contacting you?

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One thing you could do is request a weekly Skype video date so that you can get to know each other better. Leave the times and day open to him so that he feels in control with the choice. If he really wants to explore this relationship, he will make the effort to at least Skype once a week. The last thing to consider is you are at a point when most relationships that would not succeed begin to fall apart. After 3 months, most people know definitely whether they want to continue to keep the person they are seeing in their life and possible future.

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Hi, how can I make my boyfriend obsessed with me in a long distance relationship?

He has gone to a new college and seems very disinterested in me these days, please help

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Your boyfriend is at a crossroads in life. This is the first opportunity to begin his adult life. He also is adjusting to college life and studies which can be overwhelming depending on his course load. Send him care packages of his favorite candy or cookies on a regular basis. Text him in the morning and evening just to stay in the back of his mind. Be understanding if he seems to busy for you because he is facing a major adjustment.

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How can I keep my boyfriend interested in our conversations?

My boyfriend recently moved and for a month we didn't talk (because he was busy moving.) and yesterday he just came back. Today is our first day of texting only and my boyfriend seems very boring in our conversations. He doesn't seem interested, and it's scaring me. Should I confront him? Break up with him? Or give it time.

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He may be emotionally distancing himself as a protective measure. The way your conversations flow will be abnormal for some time. There will be a new adjustment period where you are living apart and not in the same social circles. You should set up a visiting schedule between the two of you such as one weekend a month and you alternate who travels. This way you can both have something to look forward to and maintain a connection.

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More questions and answers on this topic can be found here: How do I make my boyfriend love me more in a long distance relationship and also not to cheat. what should be my behaviour

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Help to convince my boyfriend to come and visit me?

I'm in a relationship with a guy and he never visits me, it is always me traveling to go meet him at his place, we don't even go out and I want a change

Some people are homebodies. He will not change as this is just his personality. Especially if you visit him and he does not take you out. You could make a request that he put forth more of an effort but you should not force it. Perhaps maybe you should consider breaking up with him if his minuses outweigh the positives. Whenever you make a decision to stay or end the relationship, try to imagine being this way with him for the next 50 years. If it seems unbearable then you should call the relationship off.

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My boyfriend thinks I'm too needy?

My boyfriend and I, have been in a relationship for 2/3 months but he is already feeling as if I depend on him only but he is wrong and I am trying to justify that but how should I ?. I have tried: No contact for a week. I think it was caused by: We talk every day and he is the only person I talk too

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You need to start spending more time with friends and family. What you boyfriend is telling you is that he feels like the only person you have to entertain you and support you emotionally. Start telling him that you are spending time with friends. Even if you are not and instead binge watching one of your favorite shows. You are pushing him away by making him feel like he is your only person. Some people like that while others feel stifled and trapped. Your boyfriend feels trapped.

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My long distance boyfriend is acting up! He constantly wants to know what I'm doing all the times, any help on how to tell him that it's a little overwhelming?

He constantly wants to know what I am doing all the times, any help on how to tell him that it is a little overwhelming!

You should consider using a sharing location app with him. Many of these are free and just show general location but it may help him feel better connected. What you are experiencing is common in a Long Distance Relationship. If he can't see you on a daily basis and feel that you love him through a hug or holding his hand, doubts begin to creep in. You should tell him that he is overwhelming but you are willing to make a compromise and share your phone's location with him. Perhaps text him selfies throughout the day before he asks. Flood him with information before he gets the chance to ask and he may just stop.

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I don't know if my long distance boyfriend loves me anymore?

I met this guy in Korea when he was stationed here and we had an amazing one year relationship and we have always planned our future together but since he returned back to the states after 2 months things changed and he didn't talk to me for 4 days straight and I went insane and actually forced him to break up but then I reversed and begged myself back into his life. The problem now is when we were together he would text me all day every day and call if I didn't answer or something but after and a little before our fight he stopped and I started panicking and now our goal is to meet on his birthday even though I don't know if I can go see him for real, and he says he has to have me with him and that LDR is very hard and he doesn't like the thought of us not being able to stay together because I'm going to the states with holiday visa. So now what should I do is my relationship over or should I still hang in there and also should I set him free from communications. It is different because I already pushed him into breaking up with me and I begged my way back so did he say okay because he loves me even though he told me so many times or is he just saying okay because he doesn't want to deal with me, and I am also wondering is he slowly making the disappearing move or is he just being out of sight out of mind type of guy? I have tried: Well since our fight 2 days later was Christmas so I wished him a Merry Christmas and I wrote him a long text telling him I love him so much and I want him in my life but if he wants to be free he can because his happiness come first for him and he should be happy even with me not agreeing with it. He said he loves me too. I think it was caused by: Well first the distance and how dependent I became on him and maybe I pushed so hard with the text and I got mad at him for not texting me and accused him of having another girl and the fact I am not American and maybe I can't stay in America for a long time so we don't know how long we can be together, and maybe the fact I always imagine my life somewhere else as a coping method for me because I am scared I might not be with him and I tell him about it all the time maybe that scares him too and the fact with all our fights I tend to run to the exit all the time even though we had like only 3 or 4 big fights.

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When he came back from being stationed overseas, there is a small debrief time. He should have explained that to you which is why you did not hear from him for four days. Even if he flew directly home, you should have understood that he was reconnecting with friends and family that he has not see for a long time. He is right that Long Distance Relationships are very tough. Especially when he was stationed where you live and you were his lifeline for connection during that time. Basically, he was dating you in a "bubble". Now the bubble has burst and he is back in the US.

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Be prepared that he may call the relationship off. Not because of you but because the complications with dating a foreign national come to a head if he wants to marry you. Then he would need to file extra paperwork and ask for permission from his commanding officer. You would then have to pass a Security Background Check and Medical Examination. After that, he could then apply for immigration for you. This is the end goal if you want to live together. He would need to get permission and then file either the K1 Fiance Visa or the CR Marriage Visa to allow you to live legally in the US. One more thing to consider is that you would be living where ever he was stationed. If he gets stationed overseas, you may not be able to be with him which would mean that you would reside by the home base he is stationed to. I am not going to sugar coat it, being a military wife is super tough. Isolation, stress during war deployment, parenting alone for long lengths of time, and financial burdens are all facts of being a military wife. You two really need to discuss this to determine if this is what you both want because the immigration wait is brutal in a relationship. He would also have to make a certain amount of income or get a co-sponsor to financially say they would be responsible for you.

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I need to know how to keep my long distance relationship spicy and my partner interested?

We used to communicate daily but now our communications are few. I want to encourage him to come to Jamaica but he wants me to come and see him first in England. What are some of the things I can do to capture his mind and interest?

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