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- 1.1 I hurt my boyfriend. He is very sensitive,stubborn and doesn't forgive if I hurt him. He takes lots of time to come back to normal. I hurt him and now he doesn't take my calls nor replies to my messages. I keep asking him for forgiveness, but he doesn't reply .what would you suggest me to do now?
- 1.2 I'm staying in Cape town and my boyfriend stays in Eastern cape and we met when I was visiting my family there and we were happy chatting on WhatsApp, also I said I will meet him when I visited my family there on June, but now my mother doesn't have money for me to go there and I've told my boyfriend, the problem is that we don't talk as much as we used to be on WhatsApp so what to do?
- 1.3 Boyfriend is very stubborn and won't forgive and says its over. I love him and I can't imagine not being with him, please help?
- 1.4 When boyfriend doesn't easily forgive, what should I do to persuade him to love me again?
- 1.5 How can my boyfriend forgive me and not leave me?
- 1.6 I got drunk and said something really hurtful to my boyfriend, which I don't even remember saying. He says he can't get past it and can't see me anymore. How do I get him to forgive me?
- 1.7 Will my boyfriend forgive me for reporting something to the police?
- 1.8 He doesn't easily forgive, I don't know what to say to make him calm ?
- 1.9 How can my boyfriend chat with me like old conversation again because now he doesn't seem like to replay my chat faster or like wise again?
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I hurt my boyfriend. He is very sensitive,stubborn and doesn't forgive if I hurt him. He takes lots of time to come back to normal. I hurt him and now he doesn't take my calls nor replies to my messages. I keep asking him for forgiveness, but he doesn't reply .what would you suggest me to do now?
I got the number of my boyfriend from one of my friend who is close friend of my boyfriend too. But I dint reveal the fact that there is a common friend between him and me as well. now he got to know . Hes not talking to me as I hide this from him . Hes not replying to my messages nor taking my calls. He doesn't forgive easily. he takes time. what should I do now?
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I'm staying in Cape town and my boyfriend stays in Eastern cape and we met when I was visiting my family there and we were happy chatting on WhatsApp, also I said I will meet him when I visited my family there on June, but now my mother doesn't have money for me to go there and I've told my boyfriend, the problem is that we don't talk as much as we used to be on WhatsApp so what to do?
I want to chat with my boyfriend as we used to be and know that we will meet again
When you are trying to start a relationship long distance it can seem like a broken promise if you can't come to see him. Since your mother can't afford to visit your family there then perhaps you should suggest that he comes to see you. This may have been too much work to keep his interest though so be prepared if he just ghosts you and you do not hear from him again. It appears that he has begun distancing himself emotionally from you. Message him frequently even if he does not respond back.
Boyfriend is very stubborn and won't forgive and says its over. I love him and I can't imagine not being with him, please help?
I have a guy friend whom my boyfriend hates because of some lewd comments he made to me once or twice. I tried to take it lightly but my boyfriend wouldn't so he made me block him. it so happened that once or twice when we fought I'd unblock that guy friend and talk to him, making sure my boyfriend knew about that (I wanted to make my boyfriend jealous). it so happened that we fought right before valentine's day and I was so angry with my boy friend because he said he needed " a break". right before valentine's day?! we had plans and it hurt. so I went out with that guy friend of mine, I asked my boyfriend if he is okay with that before going. he said yes. (I thought he really didn't care anymore to even stop me. it made me more angry) so I went out with him and I posted a picture of me and that guy friend (he had his hands on my shoulder, it didn't really mean anything. I mostly talked about my boyfriend the entire time I was with him. I needed some guy perspective). my boyfriend says he cannot forgive me, especially since I unblocked him in the past when we fought. I tried apologizing, crying, said I'd die without him, everything. When I cried, he said he needed some time to get okay.I said fine. but time seems to be making it worse. a couple of days later he said "I understand every time, every time you do something wrong,and you come crying, don't expect things to become alright". we have together for two years. he says he can't do the relationship thingy anymore. he hasn't shut me out completely as yet. he says he doesn't want to. he replies to me whenever I text him but he doesn't text me first nowadays. he says he doesn't feel like talking to anyone much. he is very sensitive and remembers each and everything in detail..all the bad stuff I ever did it said. all the good things seems to just vanish. I would give him time but he is getting angrier and more distant everyday it seems. what should I do? I really love him. it hurts to see him so hurt and it hurts that he won't let me fill the void I created. I would never repeat this kind of mistake ever. I told him that. still he is so..stubborn. he says he hates relationships. 2 years is not a exactly a new relationship. there was so much love and care. we were even thinking of a possible future together. it hurts so much that this stupid mistake would make him want to throw it all away. I have tried: I tried apologizing profusely, a close friend of mine talked to him. I think it was caused by: He left his hometown to attend college at my town so that he could be with me. he stays in a rented place whenever he is in town but since his college doesn't focus much on attendance, he lives in his home mostly. he visits only occasionally. so he brings all these things up ..and says "I compromise all the time, you never have to". I feel he somehow resents what he did for this relationship, especially when we fight. maybe he feels he is letting his parents down by being occupied with this relationship too much. he feels this is taking up too much of his time..he needs to focus on his career. and he is angry at me but he directly cannot express his anger. he is an introvert and he has just retreated into his shell.
I am ready to compromise and show him that I really care. I just don't know how.
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When boyfriend doesn't easily forgive, what should I do to persuade him to love me again?
Men do not like it when they are being constantly forced to do things they are not yet ready to do. Therefore, if you keep on pushing your boyfriend to forgive you, the more his resentment towards you will grow. Give him the space he needs to reflect about the situation. Allow him to come to a resolution on his own. In the meantime, while he is taking his time off from you, keep yourself busy in making yourself better. When you boyfriend sees the positive changes in you, the more he will be motivated to forgive you and love you again. This process certainly takes a lot of time.
How can my boyfriend forgive me and not leave me?
We quarreled awhile ago, and then he got angry with me :(
Communication skills are vital for a healthy relationship. In order to have your boyfriend's forgiveness, you may have to swallow all of your angst and apologize for the argument. This is not an easy thing to do but there needs to be an open dialogue between the both of you. Write him a letter expressing your regrets for the argument and list all the reasons that make him important in your life. Leave this letter where he will find it like on the windshield of his car before he comes out of work but do not be there. Let him read the letter and contact you.
I got drunk and said something really hurtful to my boyfriend, which I don't even remember saying. He says he can't get past it and can't see me anymore. How do I get him to forgive me?
We were out with his friends and I got way too drunk and apparently I told him that his "cons outweigh his pros" and that I "hate his friends" among other things. I don't remember any of this. The night ended well and he didn't tell me he had a problem with it until several days later when he said it had been weighing on his mind and we talked about it and he said he had some thinking to do and told me today he could not get past it and did not want to see me anymore.. I have tried: I tried to explain I did not mean what I said and that I would prove with time that it would not happen again.. I think it was caused by: Me being drunk and his friend said something that upset me that set me off.
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Will my boyfriend forgive me for reporting something to the police?
I reported my boyfriend illegal apartment to the police department last night because I was so upset with him and got a little drunk with my cousin. He will be evicted. I want to throw up every time I think about what I've done.
Personally, that would be a breakup decision maker. You made one foolish phone call and now he has to find somewhere to live. It is unforgivable to many people that you have done this. You attacked his sanctuary just because you were upset with him. He may forgive you if you offer to help him in finding a new place to live and promise to not drink for a while until you can learn to control your behavior when you are drinking. It may work but be prepared if he still refuses to stay with this relationship.
He doesn't easily forgive, I don't know what to say to make him calm ?
He loves me very much yet for five months now, I can't seem to find a way to calm him down when he's mad at me. No matter what was the origin of the fight, usually something silly I say or do. Once he goes ballistic I can never make it go away. Everything I say makes matters worse to the point I cannot talk to him.
I know it is my personality, he is very focused on details and nothing I do matters when he's mad. He turns to other people to calm him down and hates me for making him do that sometimes. He assures me he doesn't want to leave but I'm tired of feeling inadequate.
Everything I say makes matters worse he's very sensitive and I'm very non thinker speaker. Or I shut down all together and he gets really upset
Can you help? What can I do or say to make him forget/forgive fast?
He has anger issues that have nothing to do with what you say or do because even when you try to not say anything to upset him it backfires. Most likely something else is bothering him but he expresses all of his frustration in the form of picking fights with you. The fact that you can't calm him down suggests that he does not have the necessary coping skills of dealing with stress and agitation. There is nothing that you can do to fix this because he needs to do this all on your own. It is tough because you have spent 5 months with him but you need to make the determination if you want to be like this with him for the next 5 months because nothing will change unless he wants it to change. This is not fair to you. Sometimes in a relationship we can like the person but our personalities clash. A relationship like this can't have a future.
How can my boyfriend chat with me like old conversation again because now he doesn't seem like to replay my chat faster or like wise again?
I told my friend and it was a guy, I already treat that guy like my brother and worst thing is I just know that my boyfriend hate that guy who I call as my bro. He is mad at me because I told that guy how our relationship start and told him about my changing personality to that guy. I just want a consider from that guy and suddenly that guy tells my boyfriend about what we talk about and my boyfriend is very angry at me and until now he treat me like nothing.. I have tried: I already asked him for apologies, already told the truth by talking to each other but it seems my boyfriend doesn't accept It.. I think it was caused by: Because I chatting with that guy who he hates the most. I just know he hates that guy, I call as brother and now I already lost contact with that guy and deleted his contact and blocked him in social media.
He did not like your male friend. Guys see male friends as threats to their relationship and your discussions with your friend confirmed to him that you have crossed boundaries. You have apologized and blocked your friend from contacting you so the only thing you can do now is allow your boyfriend time to process what happened.
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