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What to tell a boyfriend who is too busy for you?


It really depends on what he's been busy with. If it's work related, then it's acceptable. Even with work, he still needs to take some time for himself and for you.

If it's non work related, or he's out with his friends, then you need to have a serious talk with him. If he's too busy for you then your relationship can't possibly work. You'll need to tell him that your relationship goes two ways, and he needs to spend time with you. Confront him, but not in an aggressive manner. Tell him to set some time in order for the two of you to get together and talk.

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Is it alright to call my boyfriend when he is busy?


No, if you know that he is busy then calling him will annoy him when he knows that he told you about him being busy at this time. Also it can slow down what he is currently doing in order for him to answer the phone to talk to you at that time. Wait until a good time in order to call him.

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My boyfriend has become very busy? Should I be worried he is losing interest or cheating?


This will depend on what he is busy doing throughout his day in order for you to be able to target whether or not he is losing interest or cheating.

If he is busy working then be patient and understanding about the fact that he is busy working. A boyfriend who is busy working is not someone whom you need to address on the lost time for there are a lot of boyfriends whom do not have jobs to be busy at.

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If he is in fact busy with unknown things then you can simply the situation by asking him about what it is that he is doing while he is busy throughout the day. If he cannot explain why it is that he is busy then this will mean that he is possibly losing interest by participating in other activities rather than spending time with you.

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Good day SMS for a man who is busy?

A text message can in fact be a good idea when it comes to getting your boyfriends attention or by letting them know that you are thinking of them without calling them during their busy day. 1. "Hi, baby just hoping you are having a good day" 2. I was thinking of you and hoping that you are OK today" 3. "I know your busy but I just wanted to take time out to say that I was thinking about you today and I love you" 4. "I am not expecting to receive a message back instantly but I just want to say I'm hoping your having a good say and I hope to hear from you soon"

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These messages will help in order to let him know you are wishing him well along with him knowing that you are thinking about him today during his busy day.

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How to be a supportive girlfriend of busy boyfriend?

Being supportive to one another as a couple often makes a good foundation of a long lasting relationship. If one of you is busy doing your own personal matters, the other one should find ways to support the other without interfering with his/her work. Too much support will make the other person feels like being watched or being monitored and being not supportive at all will only make the foundation of the relationship to crumble. Below are some tips on how to properly be a supportive girlfriend to your busy boyfriend:

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  • Know the right time. Knowing the right time when to support your busy boyfriend is imperative in strengthening your relationship. If you support your boyfriend at the wrong time, like for example, you visited his work or place during his work will only make him loss focus and have negative effects on your relationship. Mostly, the right time to support your busy boyfriend is during his break time or after his work.
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  • Avoid sending him text messages frequently. Constantly sending your boyfriend encouragement text messages is not actually a good idea because it'll only make him loss his focus. If your boyfriend is busy, only send him two or three encouraging text messages before he is going to work and after he is done in his work.
  • Give him enough time and space to do his personal things. Being supportive doesn't mean that you always make yourself available to your busy boyfriend. Giving your boyfriend enough time to do his own personal business is also a sign of being supportive because it promote a trusting relationship.

The stated tips above are some of the effective tips on how to properly support your busy boyfriend without interfering with his work and promotes a more stable relationship.

Things that guys do when their girlfriends are busy?

Guys are not always like girls which women seem to need more social interaction than men do. Some of the things guys do when their girlfriends are busy are:

  • Play their favorite Video Games
  • Catch up on a TV show
  • Watch a sporting event
  • Play on a recreational sports league
  • Cards Nights with friends and colleagues
  • Read a book
  • Take extra shifts or projects on at work
  • Enjoy their favorite hobbies
  • Go out with friends socially
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These are all general and every guy is different with their activity preferences. Just because you or your boyfriend may not do anything from this list does not mean that he or you are abnormal. It is tough to be in a relationship where the other person is super busy because we can begin to feel neglected.

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How is it possible for me to know the truth of what is happening?

This guy is a celeb. We follow each other on Twitter. He follows only 2 individuals, one of them is my account. I'm really glad although I don't know what his reasons are for doing so. I wish I knew. He hardly responds to my Direct Messages, except for those which boost his ego, noticeable though, he will appear to suit my comments on him..e.g. after I did comment positively about him..because I love those style and colors..he will do that. It is also very obvious that..when he has to fly somewhere..and I did not wish anything ..on 'safe flight'..he turned out sad and he in fact tweeted that he had reached the place. He follows my advice a lot too.. He has a clean personality, very talented, and of course, very handsome too

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He sounds borderline narcissistic. He also is probably used to girls chasing him instead of him chasing them. If you are interested in him, ask him on a date or wait and see if eventually he asks you. He probably will not though because he has had his chance already. I personally have celebrities that follow my social media accounts but I do not pander to their ego and they do not tweet me unless it is a reply. Also be aware that many celebrities have their personal assistants managing their social media accounts most of the time and this may be part of your confusion because you are talking to two different people.

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I'm stuck in a relationship, and I need advice?

I have no idea what to do in my situation. I asked a few of my close friends for their word of advice to help me and they all just told me to break up with him. Let's just say I'm not going to do that. The only way I'll break up with him is if he cheats. It's been nine months and I feel like if I do happen to break up with him, then those nine months will be wasted. He has been waiting until 8 PM almost every night to call and talk to me. He is not employed and is not schooling so he has no specific "schedule", and if I ask what he did he'll just tell me a few things. I tried talking to him about it, and he keeps saying he will dump everything for me, but I believe he needs a life of his own. Don't get me wrong, he's a sweetheart and will do anything for me, when he has the time, but I do not want to aggravate him and push him away even more by asking over and over again to talk to me more. I probably sound like a clingy, naive woman stressing out about a relationship too much. I'm stuck. Any other useful advice for me?

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Since he is not employed and not in school he probably does not have much to report to you about his daily activities. He seems to lack motivation, and if this bothers you, encouragement towards a future with you may give him more motivation. If all he does is play video games all day be aware that will be his favorite way to spend time for years to come. Asking for more attention from him is not an unreasonable request. You need that to feel secure in your relationship because your love language is quality time spent together/attention. Do not try to change that for him but do request more from him. After 9 months it is time to discuss future plans for the relationship so do not worry about bringing it up to him. Especially since you do not plan on breaking up with him.

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How can I wait patiently for my boyfriend to respond without worrying that he's doing something that he shouldn't be doing?

He is busy, especially now because he's getting a new job and moving away so we were planning to have a long distance relationship. But how can I properly handle him not responding to me (right now it's been 22 hours since he last spoke to me) and not worry that he could be cheating on me or going back to old bad habits? It's especially frustrating now, right before he's leaving and before we're starting a long distance relationship.

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Transitioning to a Long Distance Relationship can be a shock to the people in the relationship. He is probably focused on what he needs to do in order to relocate at this time and if you want to get his attention an offer of assisting him with relocation matters may get him to respond. Before he leaves, it would be advised that you both make up a guideline to follow for your long distance relationship. Things like scheduled Skype Date Nights and routine phone call schedule can make you both feel connected still. If you can arrange regular visit schedules with each other this will help too. It is vital to keep communication going in a Long Distance Relationship and right now it appears the relationship is already failing in follow through with communication.

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Here are some more VisiHow articles that can assist you further in starting your Long Distance Relationship:

Sharing a monitoring app like Find My Friends or a spy app may make you both feel more secure in the relationship or if you feel that there are distrust issues Secretly Spy on Someone's Cell Phone and Spy On Your Boyfriend, Girlfriend or Children's Text Messages and Emails from a Cellphone are VisiHow articles with information on apps.

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He is not texting me regularly like he used to..does he still love me?

We are in long distance relationship. His parents are visiting. He said he is super busy with work too. but shouldn't he have enough time to just send me a text that he is thinking of me?

Do not fret or worry. If his parents are visiting and he is working, it is not that he is ignoring you or not thinking about you, but he is devoting his free time to his parents. It is normal for something like this to happen in a long distance relationship. If you were there, you would be going with the flow and doing things with his parents and him but you are miles away so it is not that you are an after thought. Continue to send him occasional thoughtful messages and do not worry if he does not respond right away.

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He is always busy and does not even bother to cancel a date. He rings to apologize the day after?

He sulks when I bring it up and ignores me for days after

Either let it go or move on. He is not willing to discuss it further and probably feels that his apology was sufficient and does not want to re visit the subject again. Not taking the time to even text message a cancellation of a date could spell issues down the road in your relationship. If you have just started dating then there is nothing to worry about other than if you want to go further with someone who can't take the time to cancel properly. If you have been in this relationship for longer than 6 months, be concerned that he is getting complacent and taking you for granted without even realizing that he is doing so. Get a Busy Boyfriend's Attention has some suggestions to get his attention that you may want to consider.

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Hi! This is a surprise! I'm in a long distance relationship and I think its coming to an end?

Basically, I'm in a long distance relationship. My partner has a demanding job and two kids that live with him. We met in Dec of 2013 and the honeymoon period appears to have been over for about 6 months. I feel I am last on his list now, work, kids, house and if he has time left to speak with me on WhatsApp for 5. I feel neglected. Any advice is greatly appreciated.

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You have been in a relationship for two years now. The relationship has become stale and because you are not in his physical presence he has begun to make you last priority. It is hard enough to have a long distance relationship and when there are children involved even the strongest marriages have partners that can feel pushed aside for the interest of the children. It is time to have a conversation with him about you, at least relocating to his area if not living with him. Depending on his custodial arrangement or job situation it may not be realistic to expect him to move to your area. Before you bury the relationship make that conversation happen.

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What should I do about this situation...I don't understand?

I had one date with him in January. He set up two other dates at that time and canceled both. One for a cold, and one because the roads were icy and he did not want to drive. He emailed me every day but did not like to talk one the phone because he does want that at work. He told me that he was going to Miami for a few days and would contact me on his return, He contacted me in July, 6 months later. I was hesitant but decided to give him a second chance because I liked him. He told me that his brother had a heart attack and was upset by this and this is why it took him 6 months to get back to me. We went out 2 times in July. Then suddenly his company is being fined by the SEC. He is a broker. Again, very little contact and no date for one week so far. I have no idea when he will be free of his work problem. He is always polite and apologetic when he writes scarcely. We are not kids, in fact, we are in our sixties.

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Currently, you are in a relationship as if you were an item that he plays with when he has time. He seems to be interested but does not know how to properly manage his time for a relationship. Because you are both mature adults you should take this relationship as more of a friendship and casual dating experience.

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Give him a chance but do not put too much emphasis on the relationship. If you want to meet other people then do so if there has not been a discussion of exclusivity.

Need to talk to you about my boyfriend, we were on Skype and having a romantic time. He ended the call because his brother called him?

Need to talk to you about my boyfriend, we were on Skype and having a romantic time. He ended the call because his brother called him. I have tried: I did everything to make him feel better. I think it was caused by: He doesn't love me that much

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Family takes precedence over relationships with many people. You are reading way to much into how he feels about you just because he ended your call to take the one from his brother.

Breaking up because he acts like he doesn't care but says he care?

I guess he just writes to me when he can see me. Once every three to four days. Sometimes once a week. He lives like three blocks from me. So walking it only takes 10 min to get to my home.

Many guys do not require the attention that women do in a relationship. It is possible that he does care about you and he obviously makes time for you throughout his week. He has told you that he cares about you so give him time to ease into a relationship with you. The option to break up with him is up to you but he is trying to tell you to wait because he cares.

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Why is he acting like this? He is being very mean?

I am confused, when we started seeing each other, he was really into it calling and texting every day. We had a great time last Saturday and he hasn't called since. I texted him twice this week and each time they were short answers and he's too busy.

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Something probably happened on that date to turn him off towards you. It is completely possible that he is very busy but what changed in his schedule that is different from the previous weeks and if you can't think of anything then he is politely brushing you off. Wait a week before you message him or call him again and see if he tries to reach out to you. If he does not then after a week you should message him that you are moving on unless he can make more time for you to at least give you a text message back from time to time. That is not too much to ask in a relationship. Try to think back on that Saturday that you spent together if you may have said something that could cause him to back off like this. Even an off hand comment can make a person evaluate the relationship.

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In the verge of breaking up. Why is he acting this way?

When we started dating, we often text and call. But it is always me who initiated the call and text. . . He has been really busy these few weeks due to lessons, work, and exams. I really understand how busy he is but can't he just send me a text like how is he doing or like how much he miss me or even a emoji? I mean a text does not take much time and he will definitely use phone right? I really do miss him a lot and have not seen him for weeks due to his schedule. But it is really tiring to keep initiating the call and text, moreover, I do not want to disturb him or irritate him by doing that too often. I am a girl who always feels insecure especially in THIS relationship. . . There was once he told me I can meet him after his exam (9.00pm), but he then went out to eat dinner with his friends after his paper and have totally forgotten about me. I waited till very late (12.00am) at night and have tried calling and texting him. But no reply. Then when he finally replied, he told me he silent his phone because of the exam and did not mention anything about our planned meeting. I asked him if we are still meeting and he said it is very late already. I feel foolish for waiting till so late and hoping that he will still meet me. I feel I am ignored or taken for granted. Please help me.. . My parents happen to know about this matter and told me that he does not love me. They are advising me to break up. I do not want to because I love him and I feel that everyone deserves a second chance. He does not know how I feel because I am afraid of telling him. My question is regarding on how I should react and not worry. I really need advice on how should I move on to keep this relationship going. I have tried: I have not tried anything major so far. The only thing I tried was texting him to reply my message as soon as possible. He just said sorry, he will. I tried texting him like a periodical message. Eg in the morning I am the one who initiates the "morning" text and he will just reply. In the afternoon I will text him " have you taken your lunch" and he will just reply "yes". I think it was caused by: Miscommunication. I am overthinking. I am not trusting him enough? But I really feel insecure.

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Some people are not big text/phone communicators. When you are face to face with him, does he hold a conversation? For instance, I can text my husband three or four times and never get a response because he is just not a texter. It also seems that you take this relationship more seriously than he does. Since you have such angst over whether he messages you back or begins a conversation, you may want to rethink this relationship as your parents have stated. This is a characteristic that he won't change without really trying. You do not want to be with someone who really has to try to make you feel secure. It is troubling that your parents are telling you to walk away from this relationship. While parents are not always right, they ultimately want what is best for you. Remember they have made life mistakes and learned from them so that they can help their children avoid making the same mistake.

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