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What do I do with my controlling boyfriend that chooses the days we are going to be together each week?

My boyfriend and I spend Sat, Sun to Monday morning together like clock work, and usually one day a week. When his plans fall out, he want's me to drop what I'm doing and come over, but tells me I can't stay the night. He picks the day we are together, and it's never a set day, and its frustrating to me. I need help as I don't want to be at his pick and call but I do want to be with him. We've been together for 9 months.. I have tried: Going with the flow. Understanding his situations, asking to spend an alternate day together.. I think it was caused by: He is in the entertainment business and he works a lot of nights but he also controls his schedule

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Some people who are involved in entertainment business just gather inspiration for their creativity from superfluous relationship moments, and you need to make sure that it is not happening to you. If it is in his interest to keep you, then he should explain why he does not want to see you each evening. He can be "controlling" only to eradicate extra questions that may put him in awkward situations. Come to him a couple of times when you are not invited and least expected at home or at work. Call him up and ask him to come to your place. If he refuses, ask for a reason. Find a reason, no matter how hard it is for you, and reject some days when he demands to see you to show him that you can be busy sometimes too and value your time; if you cannot find a reason, then you can just invite him, for example, for a walk in the park to talk about something: loving people will always willingly agree to any terms to see each other, and you have to feel that mood from him. You can also video-call him from time to time. Gradually, he will learn to respect your opinion and thoughts. His true intentions will be revealed, and he will know that you are not an object, that you care about him a lot, and that you need explanations too. Otherwise, you risk being used, not loved.

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He stays busy. Gives me time although but less. He doesn't expresses, but response is proper though. I don't feel loved?

Hi, my boyfriend is working. He remains busy and when he is home he gets tired. Although he calls me we talk for an hour, but he doesn't put in efforts like other guys do, appreciates me less, may be he doesn't even think about me.

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Because he is so busy, do not take too much to heart. Your boyfriend is working many hours and yet still does take the time to speak with you for one hour at night. This means that he does love you although right now that is the only way that he can show it. Send him sweet texts to remind him that you love him. Show him your appreciation for the time that he is trying to put in at work and thank him for trying to provide for a future. Making him feel loved and treat it like an investment. Relationships are hard work even in the good times. Unfortunately, Hollywood has given us unrealistic expectations for what a man is supposed to do to make us feel loved. Your boyfriend shows his love in other ways that you may be missing so appreciate what you do receive in acts of love from him.

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My (would be) husband is always busy and never calls me, what should I do?

My (would be) husband is always busy and never calls me, what should I do?

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He says, he loves, he misses me, but not able to call due to busy schedule?

We get connect on phone. It was like soulmate connection. He used to call every day. than we met after one week, It got too late to meet in the evening, but than he said, if I am not able to meet today, will be meeting 1 month after, so please meet. We spend long quality time, We felt like soulmate, we discussed our kids and at last he proposed to me on first date. But since that we could not talk, as my family came so I did not contact for a week neither he did, as I told him about my family. He text sometimes, but too busy, even did not respond to his friends for his birthday wishes, Although he replied for my wishes, and text me back but not able to talk as he is going abroad in 2 days for 2 weeks. He still says, he is missing me and all but not calling.

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