Tell if a Shy Guy Likes You

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How to Tell if a Shy Guy Likes You

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Shy guys can be difficult to figure out. They may keep to themselves, hang out with only the friends they feel comfortable with or just get nervous around girls. However, they are often nice guys who are true gems. All too often girls miss out on the opportunity to date a shy guy because they are unsure about his feelings or just give up trying to figure out his subtle signals altogether. Here are some tips to help you figure out if this shy guy likes you, and what cues you should be looking out for.

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    compliment him, pay him a compliment.
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    It can be something simple such as
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    "I like your haircut" or "You did a really good job on that project. The way he responds is a great way to find out if he likes you. If he replies rudely or ignores you, he probably isn't interested. If he reacts positively or even gets nervous, it could be a sign he is interested.
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    Make eye contact and smile.
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    Try looking his way until he notices and flash him a smile. He may smile back or gaze at you until you notice him and then look away. If he smiles back or looks your way after seeing you smile at him, he just might like you. Try watching him you're your peripheral vision to see if he is looking your way.
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    Be patient.
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    Just because you are fishing for signals doesn't mean you will notice them right away. Be patient because shy guys sometimes have low self-esteem or be very self-conscious. So, if you don't get signals from him right away, keep trying or try something different.
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    Listen to the way he talks to you.
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    Pay attention to his tone and choice of words or topics. Does he speak to you in a kind manner? Does he ask questions about you or your day or things you like? If so he may have a genuine interest in you. Does he remember things about you or get very quiet when you are near him. All of this may help you find out if he likes you. Try asking him a question and see if he gives you a one-word answer and is quick to dismiss you or if he engages in conversation with you.
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    Compare his behavior with others to his behavior with you.
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    Notice if he acts differently around you than his other female friends. Does he get silent, nervous or does his face light up, or turn red when he sees you? If he is quick to hold a door for you or be close by you, but not others, it may indicate he likes you. #See if he tries to hang out with your friends If he is trying to get to know you better but is too shy to be direct, he might choose to try and make friends with people in your circle. Shy guys do not like to be direct and avoid being put on the spot. He may try being friendly your friends so that he can get closer to you indirectly.
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    Ask him to do you a favor.
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    If a shy guy likes you he is probably looking for a reason to be around you but he may unable to step out of his comfort zone enough to create an opportunity. Try asking him to do you a favor or help you with something. If he likes you, he will be happy to perform the task and might even start trying to be helpful in the future without being asked. #His friends tease him when you're around. Guys will usually tease each other when their crush is around. It could be with inside jokes, subtle comments or behavior. They may even make excuses to leave you guys alone to talk. This is a good sign he likes you.
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    Try to talk to him online.
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    Shy guys are usually more open to communicate online or via text that in person. He may feel more comfortable flirting and showing his feelings without the fear of face-to-face rejection. Try sending him a Facebook friend request or try chatting with him online. If he accepts or responds to your messages, he might be more open to share his feelings with you.
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    He does random things for you.
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    Focus on the little things that he does. Shy guys often make small romantic gestures if they like you rather than extravagant ones. Try and notice when he remembers something meaningful to you or always offers to help you when you need something. He may even give you small tokens of affection if he really likes you.
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By His Body Language

Reading body language is a very important way of discovering if someone is interested in you, especially when it comes to shy guys. Without even realizing it, their body might be telling you things they won't - giving you signs that you just have to look a little closer at to decipher.

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    He gets nervous when you're around.
    If he is always fidgeting, sweating or cracking his knuckles when you are near him, he might be interested in you but feel too intimidated to say something.
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    He avoids eye contact.
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    If a shy guy likes you he may lack the confidence to make direct eye contact with you or when he does so, it may be very brief. If you notice him staring at the floor while you talk or looking at an object or in a different direction rather than your eyes, it doesn't mean he's not interested. Rather, he probably really likes you and is just too nervous to lock eyes with you. You can smile to try and make him feel more comfortable making eye contact.
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    He blushes around you.
    It's a good sign a shy guy is interested in you when you notice him blushing around you. It may be when you speak to him, when you come into close proximity, especially if you gently caress his shoulder walking by. Regardless, pay attention to those rosy cheeks and you might have a clue if he's into you.
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    He always tries to look good when you're around.
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    This is a sign he might be interested in you but being around you makes him feel self-conscious. Does he seem compelled to look good around you? Does he fix his hair, touch his face or brush his clothing when you're around? He might be trying to impress you.
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    His speech changes around you.
    If a shy guy likes you but he gets nervous around you, it may show in his speech, He may stammer or slur his speech when you're around. If he often gets tongue-tied during your conversations, this may be a sign that he's interested in you.
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    He imitates your behavior If he is mirrors your behavior it means he is really paying attention to you.
    He may sit the way you sit, stand when you stand or lean towards you when you lean towards him. Imitating your behavior is a good sign that he's interested in you and what you have to say.
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    His feet are always pointing at you.
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    If his feet are constantly pointing towards you when you're around, it may mean he likes you. Pay close attention to where his feet are pointed when he sits or stands. Also, you can look at whether or not his head faces you and not the rest of his body when you're around.
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    His arms are open when you talk to him.
    The first sign that someone is not interested in you is they fold their arms when you speak to them. If his arms are always open when you talk it means that he is open to receiving information from you and is comfortable talking to you. This might mean he likes more than just what you are saying.
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    He stares at you.
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    If a shy guy is gazing into your eyes or watches you from across the room, it is a good sign he likes you. He may stare at you as you enter or leave a room, or stare deeply into your eyes when you are speaking. A person's eyes can tell a lot and if he is always staring at you, he might be telling you that he's interested. He's always smiling at you
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    Some guys just smile a lot but if a shy guy likes you, you will notice his constant smile gives it away. He might smile at you directly or indirectly. He may smile when you are talking or smile whenever you enter a room. Either way, if he's always smiling at you, he probably likes you a lot.
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Through Text Messaging

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Rather than communicating directly, shy guys are usually more comfortable communicating via text message. They find it less intimidating than talking in person. The following describes ways you can tell if a shy guy likes you through texting.

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    He will text you but will not talk to you in person.
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    If he likes you, he may just feel intimidated when speaking to you in person, He might be afraid he'll be awkward or mix up his words or feel on the spot if he does. Watch for if he seems perfectly comfortable texting you or even flirting over text even though he doesn't approach you or acts weird in person.
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    He uses emoticons a lot.
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    Most guys don't use emoticons the same way, or not nearly as often as girls do. So if you find him sending you smiley faces or winking faces, he might just be trying to flirt with you.
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    He responds right away.
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    He probably likes you if he always responds to your texts right away, even when he is in the middle of something important. If he responds to tell you that he is busy or tries to plan a time to get back to you, he likely doesn't want you to think that he isn't interested in talking to you. This shows that he cares what you think.
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    He asks open-ended questions.
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    He might be interested in you if he is always asking you open-ended questions. These are questions you can't answer with a simple yes or no. If you notice his questions are usually open-ended, it could mean that he genuinely wants to know more about you and your life and is not interested in cutting your conversations short.
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    He texts you at the same time each day/night.
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    If you notice a pattern in what time of day or night he texts you, it might be that he likes you and looks forward to texting during certain times. Notice if he repeatedly texts you when he wakes up in the morning or before he goes to bed at night. The same thing goes for before or after school, work or even the gym.
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    He stops texting when you mention other guys.
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    If you notice this, he might be annoyed or jealous of the fact you are talking about other guys because he likes you. He may abruptly stop responding, take longer to respond or try and shut down the conversation completely. If he constantly does this when you mention other guys, he might be interested in you.
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    He compliments you.
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    If a guy is too shy to compliment you in person but does so frequently in texts, he probably likes you.
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    If he often texts you about stuff you are interested in.
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    Whether it's food, a movie or a place, if he is always sending you pictures or telling you things just because he knows you like them, he may be subtly letting you know he likes you. He might be dropping hints that he pays attention to your likes and dislikes and remembers them.
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    He teases you through text messages.
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    If he is joking around with you or picking on you for no apparent reason but to make you laugh, he might have a crush on you and is casually letting you know. This could also be through messages he sends to brighten your day.
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    He opens up to you.
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    Shy guys don't often open up to a lot of people. If he is telling you about what's troubling him or what's weighing on his mind, he may really like you and is discovering whether or not he can trust you or depend on you for support and encouragement. It is also a sign that he feels comfortable enough with you to engage in conversations with you about his personal life.
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In High School

High School can be difficult enough without having to guess if the shy guy you have a crush on, likes you back. Here are some ways you can tell if he's into you.

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    His body language.
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    When you enter a room or a conversation with him, how does he react? Watching to see if he acts nervously or fidgets, whether his speech changes or the which direction his eyes, head or feet and facing all give clues as to whether or not he's interested. If he gets anxious around you or his body language shows his interested in you and what you say, than he might be interested.
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    Pairing up with you.
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    It might be for a school project or a group exercise, but if you find that he is always trying to find a way you pair up with you or be on your team, he might like you and be too shy to tell you.
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    His eye contact.
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    If he stares at you in the classroom or on breaks he might be interested in you. Does he look at you until you notice and then quickly look away? Or does he gaze at you but not talk to you. All these may point to him liking you.
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    He's sensitive to your feelings.
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    If every time you have a bad day you can count on him to try and cheer you up and talk to you about the problem, he might really like you. Perhaps he is taking the opportunity to try and show you that he can be supportive and kind.
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    He treats you differently than the other girls he knows.
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    Is he quick to help you with an assignment but not his other female friends? Does he treat you as if you're special or share something of his with only you? If he likes you, he may give you special treatment and it's up to you to notice.
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    He finds ways to casually touch you.
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    If he likes you but is too shy to tell you, he might casually find a way to be close to you and even make physical contact. He may gently touch your arm when he walks past you, caress your hand while exchanging notes or a pen or he might sit very close to you. These are all good signs that he likes you.
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    He ignores his other friends when you're around.
    He most likely is into you if he ignores all his other pals when you're around. Shy guys are usually most comfortable with their close friends or in certain groups, and they generally like to stay in their comfort zone. However, if he is constantly paying attention to you and not them, or what you say over what they want to talk about, he might really like you.
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    He takes up the same hobbies as you.
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    Whether it's joining a band or playing a popular video game, if he's taking up things you like and talking about it frequently, he is probably looking for a way to connect with you though something you enjoy doing.
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    He adds you to social media and talks to you online.
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    A lot of people are friendly outside of school and many times through social media. However, if you notice he frequently communicates with you online, through text messaging or on other social media sites, he may just be interested in you and getting to know you better outside of school. Try making plans and see what happens.
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    He's always where you are.
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    If he is suddenly finding ways to be at the same places as you at the same times as you, he might really like you and be setting up opportunities to 'coincidentally' run into you. Perhaps you and your friends have plans to see a specific movie one night and you randomly bump into him. Or maybe you and some friends decide to go to a certain restaurant on the weekend and he shows up. It could mean that he really likes you if he is putting forth effort to see you and make it look accidental.
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Questions and Answers

Is a good thing if a guy blushes when you send him a message?

I sent this guy I like a nice text message, and he blushed. I have tried: N/A. I think it was caused by: N/A

Blushing is a reaction of organism to stress, infatuation, apprehension, embarrassment, fear, anxiety, anger, and basically any other strong sentiment. One can only conclude that your message, if the person did really blush, made him emotionally active; but only he knows the susceptibilities that he has experienced.

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I'm confused, could you help me with a shy guy?

Hey, I have a crush on a "shy guy" and I don't know if he's interested or not because he is really sweet when we are talking face-to-face but doesn't text back as much as I am. He stares at me for a long time and smiles, even when I see him staring at me, he doesn't stop. He doesn't talk much and doesn't want to come to me when I'm near but keep staring. I don't know what to do. He doesn't do "things" for me, and text back only when I ask something about his favorite game. Why is he staring and smiling at me so much, he is so sweet, but seems rude sometimes? I'm confused. I have tried: I tried to talk to him when he is doing nothing, tried to invite him on a Sunday etc. It looks like he wants to do things with me, but in the end he just go away.. I think it was caused by: I think I'm not really his friend, He doesn't blush but looks at me in the eyes while smiling. I want to be more than a random-girl, but I don't know how!

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When you ask a guy if he likes you but he doesn't answer and his face gets red!

I like him and when my friend asked him if he likes me, my crush face got red and tried to avoid the question.

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