Tell if My Long-Distance Boyfriend or Girlfriend Is Cheating on Me

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How to Tell if My Long-Distance Boyfriend or Girlfriend is Cheating on Me

When your lover is cheating, it's usually not long before you see the signs and find out. If, however, you are in a long-distance relationship, it won't be as easy to discover the deception. Here are some signs to look out for if you think your long-distance lover might be cheating.

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    They are acting strange
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    You might notice a sudden change in their behavior or they may not call or message you when you usually talk to each other. Their mood may be different, more distant or perhaps you've recently noticed they have mood swings, when they didn't previously exhibit this kind of behavior.
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    They are always busy
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    When you call them unexpectedly, they make excuses not to talk on the phone or not respond to your messages or they tell you they are busy all the time…too busy to talk, text, email.
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    They visit you but make excuses when you want to visit them
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    Pay attention to whether or not they are trying to conceal you from their friends and family. If they only visit you and don't allow you to spend time in their home, with their friends and family, it might be because they are seeing someone else.
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    They won't make your relationship public on social media
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    They may seem to be keeping their family or friends from knowing about your relationship, it might be because they are seeing someone else and their friends might know about the other person, but they don't know about you and you might be the 'other' person.
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    They start arguments with you all the time
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    Sometimes the smallest thing will make a cheater start an argument with you. They may start arguing over something silly or constantly start arguments about your relationship. This could mean that they are looking for a way out or trying to create an escape, or they might be emotionally volatile as a result of their guilt. They may even begin to accuse you of cheating.
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    They act like they don't care
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    They may act as if it doesn't matter how their day was or they've stopped asking about you and your day, If they don't seem concerned with your life or discuss anything serious, or they forget important events special to you - they might be disconnected because they are cheating.
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    They stop saying, "I love you." You can feel them pulling away from you emotionally, distancing themselves from you and your relationship
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    They may try to avoid causing further hurt feelings by continuing to lead you on and is a sign that something is wrong. In the long run, it hurts you more, and its only purpose is to make them feel better about their nefarious activities.
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    They don't want to talk to you on video message
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    They will talk to you on the phone but they avoid video calls. This might be because they don't want you to see where they are or who they're with.
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    They cancel plans
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    If they are cancelling dates or visits or have never come to see you, be wary. It's common to visit over holidays or special occasions but if they suddenly start cancelling plans, it might be because they are involved with someone else.
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    They are secretive
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    They might suddenly start behaving secretively and change passwords or hide things from you. They may dodge questions you ask or be extremely vague when you ask them something. They may even start blocking you from seeing posts on social media. These may all be signs they aren't being faithful.
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Questions and Answers

Unsure about girlfriend ...but is probably nothing?

Good morning Bobby-Jo .. .hope you're having a good week so far. Just had one question about my girlfriend .. .we met 8months ago(on social media) at 1srt we sent pictures and talked pretty often. She managed to visit last April for a few days. WE had a wonderful time .. .we even cried when we said Good Bye! We plan to see each other again in few weeks. We still talk everyday(not as often 'cause she is busy). Video message every couple days, plus we say I love you. And we ask each other how our day was. And according to her . ..her family knows about me(my family knows about her too).. my concern is she have kept out relationship a secret in social media(according to her 'cause wants her personal life private)...even if it's on my page. Though one of her guy friends Posted her picture(and My Love) underneath the picture(Never asked him to take it down) she said he's just a friend. They talk often to each other. I posted my girlfriend and me picture in another social media and her friend saw it(my girlfriend saw it too). Don't think he knew who I was or that I even existed. They both haven't talked much since. . Not sure if I did the right thing or to even mention it. Did I goofed or should I continue like it never happen. . Today she says she feeling sick but needs rest.. I have tried: Tried to bring it up but she says he's a friend and keep our relationship private in social media.. I think it was caused by: Think he was a friend before me . ..but she can't decide or wants to have both friendships at the same time. I think she loves me but not sure how she feels about the other person.

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I often catch him snooping on his phone and constantly looking at his wristwatch like he has some appointments ahead?

I woke up one early morning and caught him snooping through his phone. There were times I asked to borrow his phone, it took minutes before he hands it over. Though the password in his phone did not changed, still I can feel he's deleting some message on his phone.

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My girl is acting strange and I don't know what to do more?

I'm been in LDR for 3 month and at the beginning everything was good, she calls me my love, now she has changed the way she talks to me. We have a really open communication, so I already talked to her about it in video chat, but she haven't answered me about what we talked.. I have tried: Tell her how I feel about her change .. I think it was caused by: I don't know, I have been really honest with her.

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Long distance boyfriend how to tell if he is sincere to you?

I have a long distance relationship with a guy for almost 2 months. How can I tell the difference about me being paranoid if he is seeing someone else or he is sincere with me?

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How to know if a boy is cheating on me? On the Start of the conversation he talked a lot but now he does not, why?

Hello, I met a boy in a meeting and had eye contact with him. After one year I again met him at same place and again have eye contact with him. I don't know from where he got my number and propose to me for a friendship. I accepted his proposal. When I started talking with him I asked a question, the question was that you are a brahmin, he said yes I am brahmin. After that I started talking to him on WhatsApp. Sorry this talk was my private conversation that is why I can't reveal to you. After this, the boy said I am not a brahmin, sorry. I was lying I belong to backward class. You can't marry me, so we are just friend. Now he does not reply to me when I want to talk to him. He said I am busy, but sometimes he calls me and talk, but not as before. Tell me if he is cheating on me?

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I'm a long distance relationship and I have feelings she might be cheating but I don't know if I'm just being paranoid!

We have been together for 5 years but we don't talk as much as we used to and she told me one of her male friends stayed at her house but she didn't sleep in the same room, she's the love of my life and I'm scared to lose her. We only text each other, but in the past we used to have phone calls all the time, but I don't dare to bring it up in case I'm worrying over nothing and I don't want to push her away. I have tried: I have occasionally brought up the fact that I'm scared that one day she might leave me for somebody who is better and smarter at university, but she assures me that she would never do that, but its always on the back of my mind. I think it was caused by: It could just be me being paranoid and the long distance. We don't talk as much as we used to, and a male friend stayed in her room because he was apparently locked out of his house, but she told me she didn't stay in the same room.

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