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- 1 Questions and Answers
- 1.1 Sweet message for my boyfriend while he is busy?
- 1.2 My boyfriend behaves weirdly, his phone is always busy especially late night?
- 1.3 My boyfriend is too busy with his school or is he making up excuses to not talk to me?
- 1.4 Hi, my boyfriend said he has been too busy lately which caused him to be cold and distant?
- 1.5 My boyfriend is too busy. What to say?
- 1.6 What to do when you boyfriend answers really late?
- 1.7 He is always busy and stressed out about money issues. We live together?
- 1.8 Is my boyfriend facing some difficulties?
- 1.9 My boyfriend doesn't want me. How do I grab his attention?
- 1.10 I broke out with my boyfriend in July last year but am not sure whether I did right?
- 1.11 How to be affected less by the fact that my boyfriend's communication has reduced a whole lot?
- 1.12 Total change in my boyfriend's character.. please help?
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Questions and Answers
Sweet message for my boyfriend while he is busy?
When your boyfriend is busy it is important that you leave him a sweet message without needing a reply to the message or expect a message to come back to you instantly. Certain messages will cause him to be angry when you send them if the message is one that needs a reply such as these messages:
"What are you doing?"
"Can you talk right now?"
"Do you love me?"
"When are you going home?"
See messages like these cause him to know that he needs to reply, but is too busy to do it so in response you may not get anything or you may get a short message which will cause you to be upset at his response.
Messages such as these are acceptable:
1. "Just saying that I love you and hope you have a good day"
2. "I love you just wanted to say that hopefully, it brightens up your day"
3. " I know you are busy but just wanted to let you know that I was thinking about you"
My boyfriend behaves weirdly, his phone is always busy especially late night?
Hi, I am in a relationship for the past 2 years and my boyfriend was never like that, now it seems he has started losing interest or probably he is cheating on me. Last week we had a fight and could not meet, otherwise, we use to meet every day. I was unwell so could not meet him. We had a few fights and issues going on between us but we do meet regularly no matter what. His life was like open book previously, now since last week whenever I try calling him his phone is busy. Previously he used to tell me he was on a call with this friend, that one, etc. I believe in giving space but late nights calls and avoiding me is creating doubts inside me. I tried asking him and clarifying with him but this time he just denied everything and told me not to control him and to focus on health issues. At the same time, he tells me he is not dating anyone less but he is not opening up about late night calls to my calls go on waiting and he is not bothered to reply back and keeps telling me I am spying on him. Please help I tried talking to him he says his life is open book but I think he is cheating on me.
Is is possible that when you were sick he reconnected with a friend or two and is speaking with them more for the time being? Perhaps he is backing off because of the turmoil that has recently been in your relationship. That week long break may have reminded him of the personal freedom which he had before the relationship.
My boyfriend is too busy with his school or is he making up excuses to not talk to me?
My boyfriend and I are all in different varsity and he's too busy with his school work. He hardly replies my SMS or if he did, he will cut our conversation short. I find it hard to SMS or call him, and all I do is wait for him to look for me which will happen once or never in a week. I feel like he's wasting my time.
When you are in school and there is the pressure of exam preparation and dorm social life, relationships can get pushed to the side. Have a conversation with him that right now it might be best if you both start seeing other people or at put your relationship on hold. It is not fair to try to hang on to a few calls or texts a month.
If your relationship is what you would consider serious then the next time you are together you should think about putting a spy app on his phone if you have any doubts that he may be meeting other girls then you will at least get your answer of just how busy he is with school work vs. social interaction.
Hi, my boyfriend said he has been too busy lately which caused him to be cold and distant?
Hi, my boyfriend said he has been too busy lately which caused him to be cold and distant. Our text conversation is becoming less and he usually replies with one or two words. Now, I try not to contact him for days and he doesn't even bother to text. I don't know what to do. His last message to me was I love you too when I said I love you. He still calls me babe, Hun and our terms of endearment but I honestly feel he is already losing interest. I have tried: Talking to him, told him how I felt, how to resolve it. I think it was caused by: Our misunderstanding last time where he didn't like my attitude
Continue to text him and be careful of that attitude. You can still get ruffled with anger but watch how you convey it. He backed off because he is avoiding conflict. Continue to send him messages of endearment and give him some time to adjust. Hopefully, he will begin to feel comfortable around you again soon.
More questions and answers on this topic can be found here: My boyfriend is so busy with his work, he is a site engineer with 6 projects to attend to and I am actually running out of nice words to make his day great and he seldom reply now. He stopped saying I love you for two days now, and he is not that sweet fo
My boyfriend is too busy. What to say?
He is busy in his brother's wedding preparation. We don't talk, and it has been two months. what should I say to start the talk? how can I call him to meet?
Text him and offer to help him with the preparation. Let him know that you want to see him but understand that he has things to do for the wedding so you would like to help him and spend time with him at the same time. Wedding preparations usually do not take 24/7 dedication so he may be distancing himself for other reasons.
If he rejects the offer to spend time then you need to ask him why he is avoiding you. He may then give you the real reason or, at least, give you some of his time. There will be an awkward reconnecting period between you two but if you and he are willing to make the effort, things will work out.
What to do when you boyfriend answers really late?
Relationship with my boyfriend started 2 weeks ago. We both study at the same university, and he wants to see me all the time. The problem is we don't see each other every day, so the main communication item here is texting. But he answers my messages slowly, in 2-3 hours. Most of the times he is the one who writes me first, but when I write him back, it takes really long for him to answer. I told him many times about this issue, and he just told me he is busy (with his friends, or some other stuff). I really hate when he replies late, and every time I told him he seems to understand. But he keeps doing it, and I don't know what to do. Please help me with this issue. I have tried: I told him about this issue, he seems to understand but continues doing it. I think it was caused by: He tells he is busy. He says he has the stuff to do, or he is with his friends and does not have time to check for messages every minute.
If he keeps getting delayed in responding it is because he actually is busy. Instead of focusing on the time it takes him to respond, be happy that he initiates the text messaging which means that you are on his mind. He just wants to let you know he is thinking about you before he gets too busy.
He is always busy and stressed out about money issues. We live together?
He doesn't spend much time with me. Intimate moments disappeared. I have tried: Talking with him, give options... I think it was caused by: He has been on his own long time
It is not unusual for intimacy to be reduced or stop completely when a person is under an amount of stress. Financial stress can sometimes be reduced by coming up with a household budget and adhering to it. This allows the person to feel slightly in control of the situation. If he has lived alone for several years, you moving in with him is a major transition. Perhaps you should consider visiting friends or family for a week or two to give him some breathing room.
Is my boyfriend facing some difficulties?
Hi, I am in a relationship for 2 months now. At first, my boyfriend was so eager to do everything for me. He often calls and texts me, and we often meet. As time passed, I have observed that he used to call and text me only morning (good morning) and evening (goodnight). Lately, I was admitted to the hospital for half a day (stomach ache). He called me to ask how I was feeling. I was expecting that he will visit me at home, unfortunately, he never called me back for a follow-up check and never visited me at home. I spoke to him and asked so many questions regarding this issue and he just answered that he knew that I am well. Please help me, which step should I go through.
You are far more serious about the relationship than he is. He also may be a person that enjoys the chase of getting the girl but then grows bored once he succeeds. If you feel that he is not giving you the attention that you need, it is best to end this relationship now before you develop further feelings. Otherwise, just enjoy when you do spend time with him and see if it goes anywhere.
My boyfriend doesn't want me. How do I grab his attention?
I know that he loves me. He tells me whenever he gets the chance. But there are times that I try to see if he'd fight to keep me, and he doesn't. He wouldn't chase after me. I've never felt so unimportant in my whole life. I'm constantly trying to show him that I love him and he responds with moments that feel like he's saying, "Okay. That's nice but I'm busy." And that kills me. I don't know if my body's trying to play catch up because I've never kissed a guy before him, but I kind of just always want to be kissing him... But he's not the same way. He couldn't care less if I never kiss him again. I can't help but feel alone. My friends don't talk to me as much anymore... Garrett has even been hanging out with me less. He hung out with me all the time when we were just friends. A part of me can't help but wonder, If I broke up with him, would he hang out with me again? But I love him! I can't break up with him! I wouldn't be able to spend the time with him the way I wanted. You'd think that since I've got a boyfriend now, I'd feel less alone. . .... But actually... I feel even more alone. I love him, but I hate this. I have tried: I've thrown myself at him every chance I've gotten, but the response has always been a resounding, "not now"
And I've tried the "Fine, I'm not interested either" act, but, he just says, "Okay." and walks away.
I've tried confronting him about it, but then he says he doesn't want to argue or lose me and I get his attention for the rest of the evening, but the next day we're back to the way things were. I think it was caused by: I don't know. He said that he could care less about sex. Maybe I'm just insecure because the first time he kissed me and the first time I said "I love you" He started to talk about his ex. When I brought that up to him, he didn't even seem to realize he did it. Maybe it's because of our sense of sarcastic humor that he never knows when I'm being serious or not.
Maybe I'm just insane because I just want him to myself all the time.
If you love him, you will have to compromise on getting attention from him. You are playing games with him by trying to get him to fight with you. That is not the way a relationship should be. He is mellow and you are attention seeking. You will not get what you crave from his personality. Either be happy with the time that you get with him, or break up and find someone that can give you the attention that you want.
Stop trying to play those games or force him to participate in activities. Start hanging out with your friends more instead of chasing after your boyfriend.
I broke out with my boyfriend in July last year but am not sure whether I did right?
He is a trader, traveling a lot and really dedicated to his work. I was clear about this but he couldn't make time for me during one year. During this year he was replying to most of my texts but was always abroad or sick. In May last year, a friend of mine spotted him having a drink with a woman in a neighboring town. I texted him saying that I saw him there. He asked why I didn't stop to say hello. I answered that I found it inappropriate given the nature of his appointment. He said, "not at all". A short time after he asked me out for dinner but didn't make it didn't cancel the appointment and didn't apologize. Then, his father had an open heart surgery. I recreated a profile in the social network where we met and where he still had a profile. I had immediately invisible person visits and found out that my ex-boyfriend created a new profile of him and was being very active. I texted him saying that I was back to this social network as 1 year of never happening appointments made it clear that there was a good reason for things not to happen. He didn't react. I continue having invisible visitor's visits to my profile and strange enough at the same time when my ex-boyfriend first visited as an invisible person and then contacted a woman who I know to ask her to go out. I suspect that he keeps an eye on me. I'm wondering whether I did the right thing as it seems that I have unresolved feelings for him. What shall I do? Please advise. Thank you
Move on. You obviously had many issues in this relationship and had good reasons for ending it. Instead of being stuck in the past, look to the future. Delete that profile you have created and use other websites to avoid running back into him online. Just because he keeps tabs on you does not mean that he is interested in dating you again. If he was, he would have said so already. You also can't be sure it was him that was viewing your profile.
How to be affected less by the fact that my boyfriend's communication has reduced a whole lot?
My boyfriend works full time and he recently started a part-time MBA degree. Both of these are stressing him out. I don't completely understand what he is going through but I want to be supportive and I am sometimes but he barely texts me. I feel forgotten and not special enough and as his girlfriend, I want his attention. I know am being selfish but I don't know what to do. I am thinking maybe it's because school is closed and I haven't kept myself well occupied but at the same time I don't want our relationship to be drowning because of us both being so occupied with life and its challenges that we forget each other.. I have tried: I have tried telling him about him, I have tried remaining positive and I have tried keeping myself distracted. I think it was caused by: His work and school pressure. He has many school deadlines
Find something to keep your interests or look into a summer job. This way you will be busy and preoccupied. Give your boyfriend some slack because he is trying to work and complete a degree which will take up much of his time right now. See if you can arrange a few times a week to spend an hour or two with him and be happy with that.
Total change in my boyfriend's character.. please help?
I met my boyfriend when I went in search of a job in London ..and he too was a guy from my same country and we just got along so well ..as our native country was the same and we speak the same native language.. we lived together with few other friends and things fired up between us gradually and we made out one day ...and from then on we were like couple who always hold hands .. . initially I wasn't much emotionally connected with him but he was... he used to see me every day .. he just cannot live without seeing me and he would feel restless if he doesn't hear from me when he is at work.. . . after 4 months of our togetherness...we both decided to quit our jobs in London and planned to move back to our native country to start our career in our homeland... but ever since we got back.. he is a totally new person .. seems like to me here in his native he has much more diversions like his friends ,family, etc..and I'm given the least priority ... in fact I have to beg him to meet me. For no reason, he changed his character.. and I'm wondering if he was all that nice in London because he was alone with no family and friends,..and he had only me ..so he and I were like a couple. Its been 10days since he has called or texted me .. but he was not this type of a person back in London. (he would get really upset even if I didn't reply for 30mins, he would leave his work and come to check on me). . please help me... I want my boyfriend to change like how he was :(. I'm totally confused. When I didn't care about him, he was very caring. but it has been 3 months of wonderful love in London and I'm sure it cannot be this quick to get boring. We started dating in April 2016 our love lasted only until July, after that, it's been only me nagging how he has changed and not like before, and he always seems to have reasons and it doesn't sound all that busy!
You already have your answer. When you were in London together, you were his connection to home. He relied on you to keep him feeling loved and comforted. You were someone that he could speak with in his native language and speak with about your country. Now he is home and surrounded by his friends and family. He may come back around to you after he adjusts but do not count on it.
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