117 Sure Signs That Your Wife Is Cheating on You
With Someone On Facebook vs Someone She Met Online vs Someone Long Distance ... and 20 more

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Signs of infidelity in a marriage can differ from situation to situation so here are ways that she might be cheating you along with signs that she might be cheating on you with specific kinds of lovers in various circumstances.

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Facebook provides an excellent platform for people planning a secret passionate affair.

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Situation 1: With Someone On Facebook

Facebook is the one of the number one facilitators of marital infidelity in the world just simply because:

  • It is free
  • It has a convenient, private built-in chat and phone app
  • It allows women to meet new men immediately
  • It allows women to chat with lovers from the past
  • It provides a forum for women to put up sexy pictures of themselves
  • The platform can be flirtatious in nature with lots of opportunities to show off one's wit and courting skills
  • It allows women to hide their information from anyone they want by customizing their privacy setting
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Facebook provides a forum for women to show off their sexiest pictures to secret lovers.

Women who use social media apps to cheat tend to enjoy the fact that the affair is taking place secretly, yet at the same time right in front of you. It could be that your wife is turned on sexually by the idea that the affair could be discovered at any moment.

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Reasons That Women Use Facebook to Cheat

Facebook is often more about having a virtual affair than a real one, that is until the two parties agree to meet in secret behind your back. Women use Facebook to cheat because:

  • Facebook is very convenient and allows her to check up on her lover's activities and location
  • Texting on the chat provides company and attention that they may not get from you otherwise
  • There is a sense of risk of being found out that adds to the sexual excitement of hiding your affair from an entire online community; it gives her the sense of living a double life
  • She can easily text her friends and gossip about her chats with the guy, while she is actually talking to him
  • The chat and its camera can facilitate online sex

Women who cheat on FB like to gossip about it with their friends.

Signs That Your Wife Is Cheating On You On Facebook

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    She is on Facebook all of the time.
    A woman who is on Facebook constantly may be spying on a lover or trying to attract his attention with frequent witty posts or by commenting on his posts.
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    She does not have a visible Facebook relationship status.
    Women who cheat often hide their Facebook status so that nobody else can see it. They can even customize their "Married Status" so that it is only visible to you. Her Facebook status might also say something vague like "It's complicated." Either way she might be pretending to be single or letting other men that her option are open when it comes to sexual relationship
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    She shuts down her Facebook the minute you walk in the room.
    A woman who is lurking on a lover's page may not want you to catch her doing so or she might actually be chatting with the person she is cheating with.
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    The photos she is posting of herself on Facebook are sexier than usual.
    You might see her suddenly posting photos of herself looking much younger, alone or even with other males. Cheating women feel the need to always look their best and may get a makeover and post those photos.
    If her facebook photos are sexier than usual she might be trying to entertain an infidelity.
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    There are no recent pictures of the two of you as a couple on Facebook.
    Women in love have pictures of their wedding and adventures with their partner posted everywhere. If she is concealing this she might be sending the message to other men that she is not that interested in you or she might be protecting the feelings of a current lover
    If photos of you as a happy couple are missing from her Facebook page, she may be saving the feelings of a lover she is cheating with.
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    You may notice there are more pictures of her on stranger's pages.
    Part of the thrill of the secret affair on Facebook is posting messages and pics that your spouse can't see. However, you might notice untagged photos of her or random photos of her on other people's pages and in situations you were never told about
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    She posts witty or flirtatious messages a lot on other people's pages.
    If she is posting a lot she may be trying to get someone's attention. You might also feel like you are being left out of a lot of "inside jokes."
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    Postings in her Events feed show her at locations or events you have no knowledge of or those pages are hidden from you.
    If you draw down the More Menu on her page on the far right, you will see postings
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    She is on Facebook late at night when she thinks you are sleeping.
    If you wake up and she is on her cellphone peeking at Facebook, then you might have a cheater on your hands
    If she is on Facebook in the middle of the night, chatting with someone or spying she could be cheating.
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    She won't show you her last ten Facebook messages.
    If she is cheating or discussing cheating on you with her girlfriends or even with him, she is not going to show you those messages. A woman who is not cheating will show you the contents of her messages
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    Ask her to take a vacation from Facebook to spend more quality time with you.
    If she is not willing to deactivate her account for a while in the name of improving your relationship it can mean that she has an unhealthy or philandering focus with someone
    If taking selfies for someone online is more important to her than spending quality time with you then she might be cheating.
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Tips and Tricks

  • If her Facebook status is not set to a relationship with you, then ask her to do it; if she balks at the suggestion or ignores the question it can mean she is afraid of offending someone she has lied to about you online by telling the truth about her status
  • If you know her Facebook password, you can swipe her cellphone or laptop and check her messages to see for yourself if she is cheating online; many women stay logged into Facebook day and night so they can catch every single message from their lover
  • Sometimes a woman who is flirting on Facebook may only be trying to make you jealous so you will pay more attention to her an there is no cheating going on at all
  • Some women who flirt on Facebook might be competing with other women to show who is the alpha female of the social media world; this means that the flirting you are seeing has nothing to do with you
  • If you can confirm the cheating, try to avoid retaliation on Facebook through public shaming, unless you are absolutely sure you want to push her into the arms of the other man
  • There are software apps available online for spying on a cheating partner on Facebook, including [htttp://mspy.com Mspy], Flexispy, Mobile Spy and MobiStealth

Situation 2: With Someone She Met Online

Women who are looking to cheat online are usually looking deliberately to have a discreet affair on the side, without their husband finding it. That is because the married woman is more likely to be found out as a cheater if she is seen flirting with a guy in a bar. There are many ways that an online affair can be solicited for years without the husband ever finding out and it is important to watch for the signs that she is involved in a clandestine relationship.

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Women who cheat usually do so using an application or dating site that caters to adulterers. They might also place an ad in an online newspaper or join a chat application like Tinder or WhatsApp that facilitates cheating.

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Reasons Why Women Cheat Online

Many women cheat online because:

  • Online affairs tend to be very emotional and about the drama of courtship, and this is an element that turns them on
  • Women who are not extremely good-looking can excite their lover's imagination with photos and comments that trigger erotic fantasies
  • A woman can technically keep the affair virtual and never meet with her online lover, which for some people, means that they never actually cheated, even though the emotional infidelity was in place
  • Cheating online is easy, simple and its free; it is also easily concealed from a spouse
  • Women who cheat online usually are emotionally insecure and afraid of leaving their current partner, so the virtual nature of the flirting and sexual activity allows them to have an affair without actually threatening the relationship with a real emotional risk
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A woman who is always texting may be cheating with someone else online.

Dating Sites and Apps That Facilitate Cheating Online for Women

Women who are cheating online may belong to a dating site. There are scores of dating and introduction sites and apps online that facilitate affairs directly. These include:

  • Ashley Madison specifically created to facilitate affairs
  • Cougar Life specifically designed for older women to meet younger men
  • Lava Life this top site has a category designed for unhappier spouses to meet people specifically for cheats
  • hookup Date Hookup allows people to quickly link up with others looking for secret sex
  • Flirt allows people looking for no strings and no commitments to link up for sex.
  • [1]Match has a filter designed for happily unmarried people looking for sex on the side
  • [2] - allows people to join events called Meetups and many of them are hobbies or trips geared towards having adventures or nights on the town with other single people
  • Okcupid allows you to specify that you are looking to cheat on your spouse
  • Plenty of Fish is a simple matching site that matches singles with others based on their Likes on Facebook
  • Tinder is actually a mobile app, that like a dating site allows you to fill out a profile and then presents you with a list of potential matches based on the Likes in your profile

Signs That Your Wife is Cheating Online

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    She is very physically possessive of her phone or laptop.
    This could be a sign that she does not want you to see what websites or apps she belongs to.
    If she is always on her cell phone and possessive of it she might be having an affair.
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    She panics if she can't find her phone or laptop or if they are broken.
    The texts she receives from the person she is cheating with may be a like a life-line to her and the loss of her ability to communicate with the person causes anxiety. Online cheating tends to be very dramatic and clandestine with each text being very significant.
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    She is very defensive about the amount of time she spends online.
    If you suggest that she is spending too much time online, she may retort back an accuse you of doing the same thing or have some kind of justification for doing so.
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    You discover that she belongs to a dating site that facilitates cheating.
    See the list of popular sites for cheating woman in the section above Dating Sites and Apps That Facilitate Cheating Online For Women
    Discovering that your wife has a profile on a website for cheaters can be a puzzling and upsetting experience, but it is a big indication that she is or wants to cheat.
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    You can't account for her whereabouts for hours or even overnight.
    People who cheat disappear for hours and either ignore your questions about their whereabouts, act defensive an accuse you of being nosy or lie about where they have been
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    She may get a makeover or change her physical appearance.
    A cheating woman tends to wear new clothes or different styles of make-up and hair, that is not that familiar to you, but might be to the liking of her new lover. She might also be wearing a different perfume.
    A woman who gets an extreme makeover may be cheating on you.
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    Her friends act odd and avoid interaction with you.
    A woman who is cheating may be using her friends as a "beard" and have them lie to you while they visit their secret lover
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    If she is on Facebook then see 1.
    Sure Signs She is Cheating With You on Facebook section of this article.
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Tips and Tricks

  • To see whether or not your wife is on a dating site looking for sex, all you need to do is create your own profile and then browse the profiles of married women who are looking for affairs; if her picture appears then she is either planning to cheat on you or is actively cheating on you.
  • If you suspect that she is cheating on a laptop or computer and it is unlocked you can take a look at her browser history to see if she belongs to any suspicious sites that might facilitate cheating like Tinder, Ashley Madison or Cougarlife
  • If your wife is actively seeking a secret affair online, it might be time to ask yourself why she is going to all of this trouble an if any of the common causes, such as a lack of sexual activity or loneliness might be driving her to do this

Your lover may be meeting a lover secretly because she is lonely or bored

Situation 3: With Someone Long Distance

Women who are cheating on you with someone who lives at a distance do so because it is harder for you to detect an affair if it takes place in another town. These relationships also tend to be very emotional and drama-laden because it is the idea that they can never be together that drives the sexual excitement of them.

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Reasons That Women Take Part in A Long Distance Affair

Reasons that women participate in long distance affairs are:

  • They don't really want to have an affair, but they are bored and prefer a virtual experience because it is one that doesn't really matter
  • A long-distance relationship is one that may not have a future, and if that is the case then it is tragic and very romantic, but she still doesn't have to face up to leaving you in real life
  • They are not happy in their current marriages and are looking for comfort and even a bit of therapy by conversing with a man
  • They have gone on holiday, gotten drunk and done something they regret, yet at the same time they would pursue the same opportunity again if it came up
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Your wife may have met her lover while on holiday.

Signs Your Wife Is Having A Long Distance Affair

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    She is online constantly, chatting to someone.
    Long distance relationships are heavily dependent on texting and sites and apps with chats
    A woman embroiled in a long distance affair is always texting.
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    If she is on Facebook check out 1.
    Sure Signs She is Cheating on Facebook and see if she has those behaviors. She may be hiding her marriage status, posting sexy photos of herself and shut down her Facebook when you come in the room.
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    If she is on Facebook, see if she posts lots of photos of romantic holiday destinations.
    She might be posting photos for her long-distance lovers of romantic get-a-ways for the two of them to have a clandestine meeting at in the future. Also note whether or not she posts a lot of photos that do not seem to be from the area where the two of you reside. It is possible that they are posts from where the person she is cheating with lives, especially if the locale seems far away or exotic.
    If she is always posting pictures of exotic destinations it might be for the benefit of a lover she has met while on holiday.
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    If you suspect she is cheating with a stranger, check out 2.
    Sure Signs She is Cheating Online to see if she is protective or defensive about her online activity. Women who cheat online in a long-distance affair have an excessive need for privacy
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    She seems to take out her frustrations on you.
    Women who have long-distance relationship often have insecurities and a lot of arguments with the far-away partner, simply because they often suspect the man of being a player. The result is that she transfers her pent-up emotions on you and you find her blowing up at small things or making you the scapegoat of all of her problems.
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    She talks about subjects, places and people that have nothing to do with your life together.
    If her photos and reference points suddenly seem unfamiliar or foreign then she might be seeing someone from another country.
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    You discover long distance telephone bill charges.
    A major sign of long-distance marital infidelity is long unexplained talks on the phone.
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    You discover receipts for travel and hotels that you cannot explain.
    Sometimes a cheating woman will slip up and use the wrong credit card and the expenses that she incurs to meet her lover are revealed.
    You might discover photos of her on a holiday that she has never shown you.
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    She is always going on a business trip or a trip with the girls.
    A lot of absences may mean that she is travelling far away to conduct her secret affair with her lover.
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    She dresses differently, as if from a different city or culture.
    If she changes her habits or way of dressing she might be changing her habits to fit in the lifestyle of her lover in a land far away.
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    The place where she conducts chats online looks a bit like a movie set.
    Women who use Skype Facebook chat, Google Hangout and other apps with cameras may actually set up a bit of a boudoir or set in the place where they most operate their camera so that they appear to be as sexy as possible. This is especially true if the clandestine couple are having online video chat while you are at not around.
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Tips and Tricks

  • Sometimes the woman is travelling to see an ex-boyfriend who she slept with when she was younger; you might be able to find clues about this by checking into her history on Facebook
  • If your wife says she is going away on a business trip, you can phone her work and ask when she will be back or to leave a message to confirm where she is
  • If she says she has gone away on a holiday with friends, you can always call that friend or have a chat on Facebook to ask specific details about the trip; usually it is pretty easy to catch a friend who is covering up for a cheating woman in a lie

Situation 4: With Someone She Met While Away On Holiday

The combination of sun, sand and a few drinks can be intoxicating for a woman who goes away on holiday, by herself or perhaps with a good friends. Cheating like this can be accidental, but it can lead to an annual agreement. Sometimes the holiday that is taken is to see someone she met on Facebook or online.

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A combination of sun, sand an cocktails can create the perfect situation for a extra-marital fling.
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    She has trouble answering the simple question "How was your trip?" Women who cheat will avoid answering that kind of question or change the topic.
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    She seems very nervous around you, like she has done something naughty behind your back.
    Women who cheat, but did not mean to, might be a bit nervous around
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    She won't undress in front of you when she gets back from her trip.
    She might be concerned about marks left from a lovemaking session giving her secret away.
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    If she is suddenly online a lot and texting it could mean she is telling a lover how much she misses him.
    Check out the advice given in Signs That Your Wife is Having a Long Distance Affair above to see if she has any of the behaviours, such as being very possessive of computer or panicking if she can't find it.
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    If she suddenly has a very attentive new friend on Facebook it might be the adulterer from her vacation.
    Check out the advice given in 1. Signs That Your Wife is Cheating on Facebook to see if any of the changes in behavior described fit the scenario. If there are a lot of comments from strangers on her photos or one male who comments frequently on the photos, they might be from a lover she met on holiday
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Tips and Tricks

  • If you suspect she was cheating, and she uses a camera, steal it check out the photos in her gallery; the same can be done with a cellphone if you know her password
  • Install a security camera or hidden camera in your home to see if your wife is entertaining visitors while you are away
  • You can download spying software that will allow you to see photos of her holiday as well as any texts or emails; popular ones include auto-forward.com Auto Forward Spy, highstermobile.co Highster Mobile and Easy Spy www.easyspy.net
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If you find photos of her in a place she never told you she went then she might be having an affair with someone she met on holiday.

Situation 5: With Someone While You Are Away or Not Around

The mice will play while the cat is away, is the old saying. You could be at work, away for the weekend with your friends or on a business trip, which opens the window of opportunity for some hanky panky to take place, maybe in your very own marital bed.

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Signs That She is Cheating While You Are Away

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    Your house is as neat as pin when you get back.
    If your house seems way cleaner than usual when you get back from your trip, it is possible your lady has had a guest over.
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    There are brand new sheets on your marital bed.
    If she has suddenly gone out and bought new sheets it might be because she has had a guest over when you were not around.
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    She seems distressed if you tell her you are returning home early.
    She might make excuses that the place is a mess, or give her a couple of hours or send you on an enormous errand after work that will take you a couple of hours to do after work
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    She treats you like a King when you get back, pampering you and making your favorite meals.
    She might be feeling guilty and trying to get rid of any suspicions by being overly sweet to you.
    If she is overly nice to you when you get back from a trip she might be harboring guilty feelings.
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    She may avoid questions about what she did when she was away.
    She could change the subject or act like she didn't hear you when you ask her what she was up to while you were away.
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    She doesn't answer texts or calls while you are at work.
    Women are way too eager to answer texts from the man they love at any time of day and if she is not answering, it could indicate that she is spending private time with someone else.
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    A man shows up at your house with flowers or a gift and then says, "Sorry, wrong house".
    If a guy shows up at the door, seems embarrassed, apologizes and leaves, it might be your wife's lover.
    If she lied to her lover about being married, the guy could show up at your house bearing gifts.
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    She insists on knowing your schedule way ahead of time.
    If she is going to organize a rendez-vous, she has to make sure she won't be caught so she will constantly be trying to get you to confirm your plans
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    You suggest you go to an event or restaurant and it is evident she has been there before.
    A woman who is cheating will try to avoid being seen at the restaurant where she has been eating with her lover or seeing the same movie twice.
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    Your Netflix settings have changed.
    If it seems that your Netflix settings have changed to reflect different tastes it is possible your wife has been watching television with your lover.
    There may have been a man over at your home while you were away if all of your Netflix settings have been changed.
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Tips and Tricks

  • If you want to shake up any routine you suspect your wife might be having with a lover, shake up your schedule and be less predictable; return early from work and surprise her with constant changes in schedule that make it difficult for the two of them to meet
  • Consider hiring a private detective to follow your wife and report on her activities while you are gone
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Situation 6: With Someone Who Is Married

When your wife is having an affair with someone who is married there may be a bit more discretion than usual in the relationship, especially if there are children involved in either marriage. Unless she is in love with the man, many of these affairs are casual and less affectionate.

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Reasons That Married Women Cheats With Other Married Men

A married women cheats with a married man because:

  • She feels she is not getting enough sex from you and feels that it is healthy to have regular intercourse
  • She wants recreational sex without strings and knows that if she has sex with someone who has as much at risk as she does, that she has less of a chance of being discovered
  • She wants the freedom to experiment with her sexuality without the danger of being involved *emotionally
  • She has a sense of rivalry or a vendetta against the married man's wife
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Jealousy may drive your wife to have an affair with a married man.

Signs She is Cheating With a Married Man

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    She might be quieter than usual, sadder or be keeping to herself.
    If she is in love with the person, then she may be depressed that the two of them cannot be together.
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    She appears to be dressed up for no reason sometimes.
    If she is dressed up when you get home or just before you go to work,
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    A friend tells you that she was seen with someone else.
    If there is gossip about your wife it is worth checking out because it might be true.
    The gossips in your neighborhood might have the information you are looking for with regards to any extra-marital hanky panky.
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    She is possessive or territorial with her phone and laptop.
    If she is communicating with him, she will not want you to see any messages or a record of calls from him.
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    She insists on having her own cellphone number with her own provider.
    This is so there is no way you can see any record of her calls or texts from him.
    If she is always talking on her her own cell phone alone it might be to a married man
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    You find a second cellphone.
    If she owns two cellphones, one might be expressly for contacting him and it also might be in his name.
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    You receive mysterious calls to your home.
    This could be either from the man's wife or from the man himself calling to see if the coast is clear or to check up on your wife to make sure she is not sleeping with you or anyone else.
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Tips and Tricks

  • Consider installing a GPS tracker on her vehicle to track her whereabouts during the day

If she says she is going to be somewhere during the day, hold her to it, by calling and checking up on her; if she is not really at the hair salon then she might be a hotel with her lover

  • Consider the Tips and Tricks suggested in all previous sections of this article above such as installing spyware on her phone, hiring a private detective or being very unpredictable with your schedule

Situation 7: With Her Boss

This type of affair is usually also very secretive, simply because any special treatment from a boss generates so much resentment from colleagues.

Reasons a Woman Will Cheat With Her Boss

A woman will cheat with her boss to:

  • Get favors, raises and promotions at work
  • Establish an alpha female status with rivals and coworkers
  • Fulfill a need to feel special and not like the others where she works
  • Be paid special attention and gain the approval of a male because she has a history of being rejected by males
  • Social climb to a better marital position in life
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Signs She is Cheating With Her Boss

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    She is always working late.
    She makes the excuse of working late and may even be at work, but she might also be having sex with her boss after hours.
    She may not be meeting her boss after hours for the reasons that you think.
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    She is always taking business trips.
    She may or may not be accurate when she tells you how many people are on this trip or even neglect to mention that the boss is coming
    That business trip she is taking may be partly for pleasure.
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    She seems to have a lot of trouble at work.
    She could come home complaining about the gossips at work and how they complain about her all of the time or how they are jealous of her. This might be a preemptive strike to prevent you from finding out that she is cheating from a co-worker
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    One of her colleagues tells you that she is cheating with her boss.
    If you are told this by one of her co-workers it might be about knocking her out the competition for a promotion or it could really be that the colleague is being truthful and is hoping to put a stop to the situation
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    She is suddenly looking for a new job.
    It could be that the affair has ended and her boss does not want her around or it could be that she needs to quit so there is less conflict from her co-workers and so that they can make plans for the future.
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    She may be online constantly and tell you that she is working when in reality she is communicating with her boss.
    In this case, she might be using the excuse of working to hide the fact that she is constantly on her computer
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    She gets a sudden big promotion or raise.
    If your wife is suddenly promoted or gets a raise, it might be the result of doing her boss a few late night favors, especially if she is not qualified for the promotion
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    Browse through some of the other Signs of Cheating and Tips and Tricks in the above articles.
    Many of the behaviors describe that may apply to the situation of cheating with her boss as well including the tendency to stay online constantly, possessiveness and a reluctance to be physically affectionate with you, especially in front of her boss
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Tips and Tricks

  • This is one situation where it is crucial for you to check up on her by giving her a call at work to see
  • Popping by her work on the pretense of delivering her lunch or bringing her flowers, might allow you to catch her in the act
  • Practice surveillance by putting a GPS tracker on her car, installing spyware on her phone or computer or by hiring a private detective

Situation 8: With Your Best Friend

Even though they are clearly "hurting you" by carrying on with each other behind your back, your best friend and your wife may go to great lengths to conceal an affair with you, especially if he is married too and especially if there is kids involved. However, the two of them may be very addicted to their betrayal of you and not able to stop

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Reasons Your Best Friend Will Cheat With Your Wife

It seems incredible that someone's best friend would cheat on him with his wife but here are some reasons that this happens:

  • He may perceive you as neglecting her and therefore somehow think he is doing you a favor, in a twisted way, by satisfying her sexual appetite in ways that you can't
  • He is secretly resentful of you. He may have some kind of grudge against you, even a subconscious one and this is his way of showing you
  • He is very competitive with you and wants to win some kind of rivalry
  • He is a sex addict and sees all women as a conquest
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Is your wife having an affair with the best man at your wedding?

Reasons Your Wife Will Cheat with Your Best Friend

  • You work a lot she misses you and you are a lot like him
  • She thinks you are cheating or have cheated and it is getting revenge by doing it with your best friend
  • She is in rivalry with his wife or an ex-girlfriend of your best friend

Signs Your Wife is Cheating on You With Your Best Friend

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    She may pretend to hate your best friend or not get along with him.
    This is a case of practicing reverse psychology. Leading you to believe she dislikes him is supposed to throw you off the scent of what is really happening behind closed doors
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    She avoids inviting him over for dinner or to an event at your home.
    She may find it unpleasant to look at his girlfriend or wife because she feels jealous of him.
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    When she hears your best friend is coming over, she may dress up a little.
    A woman that spruce herself up or changes into a nicer, sexier outfit when your best friend comes over may be playing a bit of a game.
    If she dresses sexy when your best friend comes over to hang out, there might be something going on behind your back.
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    Take a look through some of the other Signs of Cheating and Tips and Tricks in the above articles as many of the behaviors described that may apply to the situation.
    This might be behaviors such as not being where she says she is going to be and being overly attached to her cellphone or laptop.
    If she is overly attached to her cellphone and secretive about using it, then she could be meeting a friend of yours on the side.
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Tips and Tricks

  • If you suspect that your wife is cheating with your best friend, go to the trouble of putting them in the same room as often as possible. As you are already intimate with both people, you might be able to intuitively detect subtle changes in their behaviors that indicate they are cheating on you with each other
  • Remember that when people practice drastic forms of betrayal of their spouses or old friends it is usually because they are suffering from other issues such as low self-esteem, alcoholism or sex addiction
  • Take a look through some of the other Signs of Cheating and Tips and Tricks in the above articles as many of the behaviors describe that may apply to the situation of cheating with your best friend as well

Sex addiction and alcoholism often go hand-in-hand when it comes to infidelity.

Situation 9: With An Ex

Women usually link up with exes on social media applications like Facebook, and before you know it she is back in full contact with him and they are having an affair.

Reasons Women Cheat With An Ex

Here are some of the reasons a woman will cheat with an ex:

  • She is nostalgic for the good old days and wants to revisit them
  • She genuinely thinks she might have made a mistake by breaking up with him and wants to reconnect with him to see if he really the one
  • She may be trying to get even with a woman who may have stolen him from her years ago
  • She wants some variety in her sex life and knows the sex is good with him
  • The ex may have been the one for her but may have had an addiction, alcohol or money problem that now does not exist and she wants to check it out
  • She feels that he understands her better than you do
  • The ex may want to come back into her life and is making it very easy for her to do so
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That affair with her ex could be taking place right under her nose.

Signs That A Woman is Cheating With Her Ex

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    She is friends with him on Facebook.
    When a woman befriends an ex on Facebook it is usually for the purposes of chatting with him and those chats can lead to an infidelity. Refer to the section in the article called Signs That a Woman is Cheating On Facebook as that is where many reunions with exes take place
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    She refuses to discuss him with you.
    If you ask questions about him, she may avoid your gaze or change the subject
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    She may talk about him all of the time and relates stories about the past.
    This is more evident in a woman that is about to cheat, but she may do the same if she is actually cheating if he is on her name all the time.
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    She may start dressing like she did when she was with him.
    This might be to turn him on when he sees him next.
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    If they have kids she may use them as an excuse to visit with him.
    The children effectively become the beards for the illicit affair
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    He has broken up with his current wife and she is acting as a therapist.
    Watch out for a woman who gives her ex too much emotional support after a break-up, chatting with him by text or phone for long periods and visiting with him frequently because that could open the door to a more intimate scenario.
    Women who chat extensively with their exes might be cheating on you.
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Tips and Tricks

  • Sometimes it is a better idea to confront the ex, rather than your wife, to reestablish healthy emotional boundaries; this can stop an affair or prevent it from starting in the first place
  • Set a curfew on any meetings that the two of them have or insist that you come along for fun; your presence should be enough of a deterrent to prevent an affair.

If your wife is out meeting her high schools sweetheart or an ex, set a curfew for what time she should be home.

Situation 10: With A High School Sweetheart

This is another one of those situations where your wife is likely to meet up with her ex on Facebook. For some people a reunion with a high school sweetheart can feel as sweet as it did when the two of them first discovered holding hands as mere teens.

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frameA woman who feels nostalgic for the good old days may cheat with a high school sweetheart and look at pictures from their prom or a first date.

Reasons That A Woman Cheats With a High School Sweetheart

A woman might cheat with a high school sweet heart to:

  • Experience the same type of erotic charge with him that she did when she was younger
  • Get revenge on the girl who stole him in the first place
  • Prove the point to him that she still has it, especially if he left her for someone else and broke her heart
  • Find out if his sexual technique has improved since high school
  • Genuinely pursue him as a replacement for you as a spouse
  • Have casual sex with someone she knows in a relationship that is already over
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Signs That A Woman is Cheating With Her High School Sweetheart

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    You might catch her looking at old photos of the two of them as a couple.
    She might have the old high school year book out or be perusing photos she has set him.
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    You catch them flirting and reminiscing on social media.
    It might seem that they are just joshing with each other but sometimes beneath this public display of nostalgia there is a real threat of an affair
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    Check out the section of this article Signs That She is cheating on an ex, because technically that is what a high school sweet heart is.
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Tips and Tricks

  • If she insists on meeting her ex, insist that you come along or that he visits the two of you at his home
  • Jump in on any conversations you see on Facebook to remind your wife and her high school sweetheart that she is married; keep it light-hearted as sometimes displays of jealousy from a husband can fuel an affair
  • Making her jealous by flirting with your own high school sweetheart on Facebook could serve to nip this type of affair in the bud

Situation 11: With A Neighbor

Sometimes it is hard for your wife to ignore the attentive handsome neighbor next door. This is often a classic case of familiarity breeding even more familiarity.

Is your neighbour showing off his body to your wife or even having an affair with her?

Reasons Your Wife Might Cheat With A Neighbor

There are quite a few reasons why a wife might cheat with the next-door neighbor:

  • If you just have to go next door for an illicit fling, then it becomes very convenient
  • She might be getting even with his wife or girlfriend who has been giving her hassle.
  • If you are not handy around the house, she might be getting to know someone who is and then end up in an affair with him
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Signs That Your Wife is Cheating With Your Neighbor

Here are the signs that your wife has something going on with a neighbor:

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    She might be spending more time hanging out in the back yard wearing a sexy bikini.
    If she is posing around in full view of him they might be playing a flirtatious game with each other.
    If she is wearing very little while your neighbour is around she might be showing off for him.
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    She refuses to have him and his girlfriend or wife over to socialize.
    This means she doesn't want to put him in a position where she feels jealous of his relationship.
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    They seem to spend a lot of time with each other.
    Your neighbor or your wife may create all kinds of little chores or errands so that they can spend more time with each other. This tim be an excuse to have a quickie behind your back.
    If your neighbour is helping your wife with the chores or spending a lot of time with her they might be having an affair.
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    Tell her that you intend to move the both of you to a new city soon and check her reaction.
    If she seems upset, there might be something going on because it will mean she has to leave her lover.
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    Check out the behaviors described in Signs Your Best Friend is Cheating With Your Wife.
    The putting down of your neighbor or complaining about him might be a mask for the sexual activity that is really going on
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Tips and Tricks

  • If you know that your neighbor is cheating it can help to have a word with him about "good fences making good neighbors and that you expect him to respect the fact that you are married
  • If your neighbor is also married you can try to put a stop to this by telling his wife
  • You can ask your wife directly if anything is going on and ask her to dress appropriately when she is in front of the neighbors

Situation 12: With A Coworker

Infidelity is common in the work place because people end up spending a great deal of time together, which offers many chances to get to know each other better. Many women end up cheating with a coworker because they get in the habit of lunching to gather or going out for an after dinner after work. Their affairs are furtive and often meetings take place in public places.

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Affairs with coworkers often happen in public places.

Reasons That Your Wife May Have An Affair With A Coworker

Your wife might be having an affair with a coworker:

  • To get the inside edge at work. Many women in the workplace use their sexuality as a way of getting information and promotions at work. Her cheating in fact, may have very little to do with you and more about being on the inside track and making more money.
  • To make a more boring job exciting. If her job is tedious, she may find the idea of having a little romance interrupting the worked day to be an appealing idea
  • She has more in common with the coworker than you because they are in the same profession. She just might just naturally fall in step with him as a lover because they have so much in common
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Signs Your Wife is Having An Affair With a Coworker

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    She rushes off to work early in the morning and comes up late at night and you hardly see her at all.
    She tells you she is working overtime, but it has been going on for months. This might indicate that she is trying to live a full-time life with her cheating colleague.
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    She is too busy for any sex.
    A woman in love with you is never too busy for sex with you and is likely making a lame excuse to avoid intimacy because she is getting what she needs somewhere else.
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    Tell her you are moving the two of you to another city and that she is has to quit her job.
    If this sends her into a complete panic then it might be possible that she is having an emotional relationship at work.
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    Check the Sure Signs That Your Wife is Cheating With Her Boss section of this article for more behaviors that can indicate cheating with a coworker.
    If she is possessive of her laptop or cellphone or making the entire focus of her life her work, she might be having an affair
    That scarf that she is wearing might be concealing hickies from an affair.
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Tips and Tricks

  • Pop by her work more often to check out the scene and how she conducts herself with male employees; you may even be able to catch the two of them in the act
  • If she says she is working late at night, ambush her office with a late night visit to check up on the situation
  • If she goes away on a business trip with the coworker make frequent calls to her hotel and hotel room to make sure she is not occupied in a romantic way with him and as a reminder that she has a husband waiting for her at home

If you pop into her work at lunch hour or at the local happy hour you might be able to catch her flirting with a coworker.

Situation 13: With A Chef

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Signs That Your Wife Is Having An Affair With A Chef

Chefs can be big celebrities and most women have heard about how a man who can cook also is a natural at making love. This, in itself, is intriguing to a woman, especially if you have not had many sensual adventures together lately

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Reasons a Woman Will Cheat With a Chef

A chef is often a bit of a trophy catch for a woman. She might cheat with a chef because:

  • If she is a sensual individual she may simply see him as being someone who can bring her the good things in life and make her feel like she is living a wonderful lifestyle
  • If she likes to drink the relationship might be based on a desire to be with someone who knows wines or who also might like to drink a lot
  • Chefs are sought after mates and she just might be demonstrating to a rival or other women that she knows how to hook an alpha male
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Signs That She is Cheating With a Chef

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    A woman cheating with a chef will spend a lot of time at his restaurant.
    She may go there with friends or hang around and wait for him until after the restaurant closes
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    She may become a bit more of a food snob and refuse to go out to her former favorite places you.
    She may be sarcastic about your taste in food
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    The romantic places that you used to go out together may no longer hold an appeal for her.
    She may insist that you take her to more expensive restaurants.
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    She may post a lot of pictures of herself at his restaurant on her Facebook page.
    She might be stroking her lover's ego by helping promote his restaurant or giving a message to other women that he is special to him.
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    Her taste in food changes.
    All of a sudden she may start to like new dishes she didn't bother with before. She may take a sudden interest in cooking new dishes so pay attention to her cooking at home.
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Tips and Tricks

  • A wife that is fooling around with a chef, or thinking about it, probably needs a little more romance and culinary adventure in her life, so be sure to woo her by taking her out to dinner
  • Accompany your wife to the chef's restaurant often and make your presence well-known by asking to speak to the chef so you can compliment him on the meal; then note his reaction and hers when you meet each other

Situation 14: With A Fireman, Paramedic or Cop

Women who have affairs with members of the paramilitary or a rescue team tend to be addicted to the adrenalin rushes associated with emergencies and associate those adrenalin rushes with sexual excitement.

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She might be finding a secret affair with a member of law enforcement to be exciting.

Reasons Women Cheat with a Fireman, Paramedic or Cop

  • Your woman may simply have a fetish for a "man in a uniform." The wardrobe of men in these professions may hold a certain type of sexual thrill for her
  • She may feel safe with a man in these professions. Women who are insecure or unsatisfied may feel more secure in every way with an authority figure with a strong personality and excellent physique
  • She wants a man who is a hero in her life. Subconsciously she may feel that she is being rescued physically or emotionally from a set of bad circumstances in life by the fireman or paramedic
  • Men in these professions can be dangerous, traumatized, sex addicts or addicted to drama and this can be very sexually exciting for a woman who is also addicted to drama
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If she has a fetish for firemen she might be cheating with one.

Signs She is Cheating With a Fireman, Paramedic or Cop

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    She has a police radio or listens to the police radio on her computer.
    She may be doing this to keep track of her lover so that she knows if he is at a fire or handling some other kind of emergency. Also on some radio frequencies, she may be able to communicate with him
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    If there is a charity car wash, fundraiser or ball where firemen are, she is there.
    If she constantly attends events where a fireman may be, then she may be hanging out where he is in hopes of having a quickie
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    Whenever there is news of a disaster or fire on the radio or television she is very attentive.
    She may have her eyes on the scene and wondering if her lover is at the scene.
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    She has unaccounted disappearance and at weird hours.
    Paramedics, cops and firemen work long shifts and night shifts that make their schedule very weird, necessitating lovers to meet at odd times like three in the morning or early in the morning
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Tips and Tricks

  • If you suspect that she feels rescued by a cheating relationship with a fireman, paramedic or cop you might want to sit down and take a look at the relationship with you as that is the situation she needs rescuing from and then try to fix it
  • A boring sex life might be what's driving her into the arms of a paramilitary man; liven up things in the bedroom with a bit of role-play or wearing a uniform yourself

Situation 15: Cheating With A Personal Trainer

When your wife works out with a personal trainer she is already in a prime position for courtship as she is likely wearing next to nothing and in very physical and sometimes intimate poses with him.

Reasons She Might Cheat With Her Personal Trainer

  • Most personal trainers are life coaches who get to know their clients well and an intimacy can grow between two people that are often discussing such personal matters as health, weight loos and personal problems holding them back
  • Most personal trainers are very attractive and considered to be catches, so she may sleep with one just simply for the physical gratification or to show herself or other woman that she still "has it"
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Signs Your Wife is Cheating With Her Personal Trainer

  • After having no interest in going to the gym for years she is suddenly there all the time. Long disappearances daily to the gym may not just be about training, there may be a some nookie going on as well
  • She is going to the gym but not losing weight. This indicates that she is fooling around instead working out hard with the guy
    If she is going to the gym a lot and not losing weight and always on her cell, she might be having an affair with her personal trainer.
  • Your personal trainer does not seem to be charging you for all the time he is spending with your wife. If there is a discrepancy indicating a lot of free training, then that might be about having sex behind your *back because he is not billing you or his time
  • She refuses to talk to you about her fitness goals. If you ask questions about her relationship with him she becomes defensive or evasive or suggests firing him.
  • She dresses provocatively when going to the gym. You might also be suspicious if she is not dressed in workout clothes to go to the gym.

Tips and Tricks

  • It is easy enough to pop by the gym to see if her wife is wear she says she is with this trainer.
  • Make her provide you with a schedule of her planned sessions with him to make sure that she is sticking to it

Situation 16: With An Artist or Musician

If your wife is at all a romantic soul or a lover of culture there is a chance that she might become smitten with an artist or musician.

frameIf your wife is suddenly taking part in happenings or experimental art, she might be having an affair with an artist.

Reasons Women Cheat With Artists or Musicians

  • If she is bored, she might go for a risky, dangerous personality who can provide her with a thrill outside of the marriage
  • She may be a frustrated artist or musician who wants to live vicariously through an artistic triste
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Signs That Your Wife is Cheating With An Artist or a Musician

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    She starts dressing a lot younger, like a groupie or a hipster.
    The outfits she wears with you may be much more casual, but when she goes up she dresses like she is a member of a tribe [[Image:cat woman texting.jpg|center|frame|If she is dressing a little unusual or kinky, she might be seeing an artist or hipster on the side.]
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    She comes home with gifts such as a painting or guitar pick.
    These might be mementos from her affair
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    She comes home really late at night.
    It is well known that artists and musicians party until the wee hours of the morning but if she is gone all night, she might be having an affair
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    Surprise your wife with the awareness of an affair with an artist by buying a piece of his art without her knowledge and hang it in the living room, then study her reaction.
    If she is cheating she may seem aghast.
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Tips and Tricks

  • Make sure you go with her to any art openings or performances to make your presence well known to your rival
  • Find out about the scheduled openings or performances of your rival and schedule trips to see cultural events on the same dates to block any further contact

Situation 17: With a Photographer

Technically a photographer is an artist , but an affair with a photographer is earmarked by some very special new behaviors demonstrated by your cheating wife.

Reasons Women Cheat With A Photographer

Photographers are often considered to be trophy men by other women and your wife may be trying to impress her friends:

  • It is flattering to think that a photographer wants you to be his special model
  • If he is an adventurer or landscape photographer it may be a way for her to get out of the house and have a more exciting life
  • She may be an amateur photographer thinking of advancing her career by getting to know him better
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Signs Your Wife is Cheating With a Photographer

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    She is always dressed like she is going to have her photograph taken.
    Women who are cheating with photographers look their absolute best at all time
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    You notice she has acquired sexy new lingerie.
    If she has a lot of new provocative-looking underthings she may be posing for pin-up shots with her new amour.
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    She is always buying new make-up.
    If the make-up line she is buying is photo ready makeup by lines such as MAC, Cinema Secrets or Smashbox she might be wearing this make-up because she is anticipating having her picture taken all of the time.
    If she is suddenly wearing a lot more make-up she might be dating an artist or a photographer.
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    She is posting her own arty looking photographs on Facebook.
    She may be trying to show her photographer lover that she has something in common with him.
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    She has joined www.instagram.com Instagram and is posting photos on there.
    Instagram is the site where a lot of photographers hang out and she may be communicating with her lover by posting images on there
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    She buys a new camera.
    This is especially telling if she has absolutely no interest in photography before.
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    Her new hobby as a photographer consumes all of her time.
    She may suddenly be attending more photo exhibitions or going on short trips away to learn photography or take pictures.
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    Check out the above sections Signs That Your Wife is Cheating with an Artist or Musician as many of the behaviors are similar.
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Tips and Tricks

  • Have a private investigator take a few pictures of her by having her followed to an exhibition or art opening where you suspect she might be meeting her lover
  • Surprise her by showing up in person at an exhibition or opening to see who she talks to and her reaction to having her there
  • Join Instagram and start "hearting" her photos to let her know that you are watching her and post photos of the two of you together, getting married so that your rival can see them

Situation 18: With Someone Much Wealthier Than You

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The old saying is that money is the best aphrodisiac and or many women, who are secretly gold-diggers, there is a financial reward for having an affair with a rich or powerful man

The Reasons Women Cheat With Wealthy and Powerful Men

A woman cheats with a wealthier man because:

  • She may be looking or a Sugar Daddy. Some women are very turned on by a man who gives her shopping money or buys her ex
  • She may like the attention of being with a wealthier man. The secrecy and the scandal may be helping her career somehow or making her the focus of attention because many wealthy men are celebrities
  • She is unhappy in her marriage and status conscious. She might be wishing for a better life that the limits of your income may not be able to provide
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Signs That Your Wife is Cheating With a Wealthier Man

Signs that your wife is having an affair with a man who makes a lot of money are:

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    She starts dressing like she is a member of the upper classes.
    She might start wearing more expensive clothing, perfumes and more formal outfits.
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    She might be wearing new jewelry and it might look expensive.
    If she boasting diamonds, gold or silver she might be receiving these gifts from a rich secret lover
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    She is picked up by a limo.
    If a limo arrives at your home to pick her up than she just might be seeing a rich man. If a limo drops her off at your home after an evening out, and you don't have rich friends, that is another sign she is seeing someone wealthy behind your back
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    If he is famous you might start seeing pictures of him with her in the newspaper or on social media.
    If the paparazzi catches them cheating, then you might consider her to be guilty
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    She leaves her house without her wedding ring.
    She might be hoping for a proposal and the chance to raise her social status in life
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Tips and Tricks

  • If the wealthy man is married, contact him and tell him you know what is going or that you will tell his wife; most rich married couples are very status conscious and do not relish the idea of being embarrassed in public
  • Accept that it might be quite hard to fight a man who has a lot of money and that unless your wife is very romantic and still loves you, she may leave you

Method 19: With A Much Younger Man

Women meet much younger men everywhere they go. They are the sales help, the gardeners, the pool boys and the waiters that they encounter every day. Sometimes the much younger man frequents bars, looking for "cougars"; women eager to have sex with younger men.

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Reasons Women Cheat With A Younger Man

Women cheat with younger men because:

  • It's a cool thing to have a younger trophy boyfriend that you can talk about with your girlfriends
  • Younger men last longer in the sack and have more energy or lovemaking
  • Younger men do not usually hassle a much older women for commitment which means that she does not have to leave you and yet, still have great sex
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Some women treat younger men as sex objects and have affairs with them.

Signs Your Wife Is Cheating With a Younger Man

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    She has a profile up on cougarlife.com Cougar Life.
    This is a sure sign that she is looking for young love as this is a site that caters specifically to women who want to have sexual relationships with younger men.
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    She is suddenly into skateboarding, rock climbing and other youthful sports.
    If she is not usually up for these types of things she might be seeing someone younger.
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    She might start dressing like someone half her age.
    If she is wearing baby doll dresses, hipster clothes or clingy sportswear, she is probably hanging with a younger tribe of people who may be the friends of her new lover.
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    Her bank account seems to be a little emptier than usual.
    Older women love to take care o their younger lovers by buying them groceries, taking them clothes shopping and helping them pay their rent
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    Her taste in music changes.
    She might suddenly be listening to tunes from bands that were not even born before the day you got married.
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    She might seem stoned or a little high.
    This could be a sign that she is doing recreational drugs with a young man to loosen herself up before a love making session.
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Tips and Tricks

  • Rather than confront your wife about this one, it might be best to wait this one out. She will soon get tired of talking about the New Star Trek and want to talk about watching Seinfeld with you again.
  • She is likely hanging out with younger men because she is bored, in which case, you might want to take her on a few more hiking adventures or take her to see a concert

Method 20: With A Woman

Sometimes your romantic rival is not always another man. Sometimes it is another woman.

Sometimes the affair is with another woman.

Reasons Women Cheat With Other Women

  • She feels she is getting even with you for cheating with a woman.
  • She is reacting to living in a sexist world and therefore seeks relationships with women
  • She is genuinely an in-the-closet lesbian who needs to explore her sexuality
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Signs She is Cheating With A Woman

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    She seems very, very close to one particular woman and spends all of her time with her.
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    She is very secretive socially and posts very little on social media.
    An absence of social activity on #Facebook may indicate that she is hiding a relationship that she fears others may not understand
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    She avoids all sexual contact with you.
    This can mean she is finding sexual satisfaction elsewhere.
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    If you do have sex she seems listless and unsatisfied.
    This could mean that she wants to be in bed with her female lover and not with you.
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Tips and Tricks

  • Sexuality is a very difficult issue for many people to address and it is best not to force a woman who is truly lesbian to be with you if she has decided to "come out"; it is best to just accept her revelation and move on

Situation 21: When She Makes Big Physical Changes

Reasons That Women Change Their Appearance When Cheating

  • Flirtation is everything for a woman who is meeting with a lover on the sly; she may be enhancing her appearance in order to make their rendezvous' more exciting
  • She may be considering running away with him and embarking on a whole new life, so she is creating a new physical personae in order to separate her new life from her old life.
  • She may be grooming her nether regions for purposes of sexual hygiene
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Wearing a lot of makeup can indicate a cheating woman, especially if she never usually wears it.

Signs She is Cheating On You According to Her Grooming

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    She has got a new haircut and it is a bit hipper and sexier looking than the 'do she has been sporting for years; that might be an attempt to keep the attention of another man
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    She is wearing more makeup than she ever has, especially eye shadow, mascara and lipstick, even when she claims to be going out to do mundane errands or shopping
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    She has lost a lot of weight and has bought an entire new wardrobe; this could mean she is changing her image to a hotter one to keep a lover interested
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    Her skirts are shorter and her tops are more low-cut; showing more skin is an indication that she might be trying to catch the eye of someone else
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    She is wearing higher heels, which shows off her calves, but you have known her to mostly wear sweat pants and running shoes
    If she is suddenly wearing higher and sexier heels she could be cheating.
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    You look in her underwear drawer and you see that she is the owner of all kinds of sexy lingerie that she has never worn to attract or impress you such as high cut thong panties, push up bras, garter belts and sexy nylons
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    She is suddenly balder in the nether regions, which expresses a desire to look better nude
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    She has actually gotten plastic surgery to improve her body, but the new breasts, thinner waist or face lift she has gotten is nothing that you would ever suggest to her.
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    She just seems happier and her skin is glowing, as if she is having sex every day, and you are not the one having sex with her every day, then it could mean she is cheating
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    If she is older, she might be taking bio-identical hormones, which for a menopausal or peri-menopausal partner,extends an interest in sex as well as improve a woman's appearance
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She is wearing more perfume, and you have not known her to wear a lot of fragrance in the past

Situation 22: According to Your Gut Feeling

With no proof, trying to figure out if your wife is cheating can be perplexing.

Reasons You Should Trust Gut Feelings About Cheating

  • Nobody knows your wife better than you and intimacy over the years builds up an intuitive connection that sends you alarm bells when something subtly changes
  • Sometimes your conscious mind consciously ignores the obvious to protect you from getting hurt, but your other senses and subconscious mind is signalling you that something is going on by triggering suspicious feelings
  • A gut feeling occurs when something does not feel quite right and it is there in place to make sure that you can trust your closest associates; an inner message from your gut about your wife is worth heeding
  • For a reason you cannot quite fathom, you feel monitored or spied on, and it could be that your wife and her lover are watching your every move so they know when they can spend some quality time together behind your back
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Signs That She Is Cheating According to Your Gut Feelings

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    You feel blown off or ignored, but you are not sure quite why you feel like that
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    When you are with her, you feel somehow that she is not quite there for you mentally or emotionally; she may be acknowledging you but might not be actually engaging with you in subtle ways
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    She has changed the way she relates to you physically and does not hold your hand or pet or kiss you as much as she did before
    If she resists holding your hand she might be cheating.
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    She does not seem to be caring for your personally, by cooking your dinner
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    You have had an argument in which she has threatened to find another guy, but you have a sinking feeling that it has already happened
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    She tells you she is doing some baking for a friend or a charity, but you suspect she is cooking for someone else
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    She suddenly is taking care of a friend's pet with whom she has an emotional attachment, but you have not known her to do that before
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    You feel like she somehow personally smells different, but you are not sure why
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    She tells you that she does not want to have sex because she has a headache, but you just have a hard time believing her
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    She has excuses as to why she is not where she is supposed to be, but for some reason, you just don't believe her and you are not sure why you feel this way
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    She is suddenly way better in bed and although she tells you she got sex tips from a magazine, you are suspicious that it may have been taught to her by someone else
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    She tells you she wants to go away on a holiday by herself or with the girls, but you feel left out and suspect she might be going with someone else
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    She seems very anxious and nervous around you, as if she has something to say but can't say it
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    She is very defensive, even though you are not criticizing her, and acts as if she has something to hide
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    She seems to be more critical of you, as if trying to find a reason to justify her need to find someone new
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    You are having recurring dreams about her cheating, and they seem to stay with you; sometimes the unconcious mind recognizes the cheating before you consciously do and reveals the infidelity in a dream
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Tips And Tricks

Writing in a journal can help you sort out your feelings.
  • Sometimes your intuition is quite logical; make a list of evidence and write it down on paper to see if what you are thinking could add up to a real situation
  • Confessing your suspicions to a good friend or a therapist can help you figure out whether or not what you are thinking could be a legitimate betrayal of you
  • Ask yourself if you trust this person and why you are having these suspicions in the first place: has she lied to you or betrayed you before?
  • Is your gut feeling a logical fear? Is she an unreliable person who has cheated or lied to other people she has been with
  • If you are in emotional distress, you need the matter resolved; there is nothing wrong with hiring a private detective or engaging in surveillance if you need to follow that hunch that she might be cheating

Situation 23: For Certain

Discovering your wife is cheating on you can be shocking!

Reasons She Might Be Cheating on You

Women cheat if they feel abused.
  • She may feel that you do not value her in some way or don't respect her achievements or life choices; this inspires women to find a lover who really values her
  • She may feel that "the bloom is off the rose" and that she needs to find a more spirited, loving engagement with less familiarity
  • She might feel belittled by you and is seeking someone more respectful, especially if you use a lot of sarcasm or have belittled her she may have built up a resentment and is getting secret revenge
  • She is lonely and feels ignored, because you are always at work or never have time for her
  • You have forgotten an important landmark anniversary like Valentine's Day, her birthday or an anniversary and she is cheating because she resents you
  • She has found someone wealthier or more well-connecte whom she feels could help her with her career
  • She may have found an individual who is buying her things that you don't
  • She has had a miscarriage and is depressed and now associates your relationship with a fertility failure; this prompts some women to try and move on
  • You may have changed physically and she is not attracted to you anymore, and yet cares for you, but does not want to leave you, so she finds a secret love partner
    If you have let yourself go physically, she may have fallen out of lust with you.
  • She has suffered a major setback in life, in her career or personally and is making up for it by seeing pleasure
  • She suffers from an addiction that you do not support, but she has found a man that will allow her to partake of her poison without criticism, or even supply it to her; this could be a drug addiction, alcohol addiction or sex addiction
  • She suffers from mania, bi-polar disorder or a similar mental disorder that causes her to be very impulsive and easily distracted from her family responsibilities
  • You simply have bad luck and even though you are the perfect husband, somebody she likes better may have come along to spirit her away and there is nothing you can do about it; in other words, there may not be a reason and it may not be your fault
  • Evolutionary scientists speculated that cheating may be genetically wired into some women who might have hard-wired beliefs that they will have more resources and protection in their lives if they have numerous men in their life; that way if you die, she has another male or two to depend on emotionally and financially in life.
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Signs She is Cheating on You For Certain

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    She gets angry when you ask for an accounting of where she might have been lately and denies you the basic right of an explanation
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    She simply ignores all special holidays and anniversaries and does not acknowledge them
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    You notice that she has a lot more jewelry and gifts, and you have no idea where they are coming from
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    You find out that she is not wearing her wedding ring anymore:
    this is usually about making other people think she is single or not hurting a lover's feelings by wearing it when he is around
    If she is removing her wedding ring to see other men you might as well remove yours.
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    You come home and there is a strange car in your driveway, that disappears when you look out the window again, that car is gone
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    You come home one night and there is a man in your home, and you are not quite sure that you believe her explanation that he is the plumber or a salesman
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    She doesn't come home at night and you have not seen her for days and when she does come home she has no explanation or one that does not make sense
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    You don't snore and she insists on sleeping in another bedroom and you hear her laughing on the phone with some else
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    She suddenly is so busy, she has no time for you at all ever and your sex life is a distant memory
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    There are mysterious keys on her key chain
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    She has new security and privacy measures on everything that she has online, including her social media accounts like Facebook and her credit cards
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    Your car odometer has a lot of extra mileage on it, when she has told you she was at home
    Unexplained extra mileage can mean she is travelling secretly to cheat on you.
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    She avoids your family and friends and wants nothing to do with them, in case they can sense that she is cheating too
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    In public places she never introduces you as her husband and stays away from the topic of your life together
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    She picks fights with you in front of others to make you look like a bad guy who deserves to be left so that her cheating looks justified later
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    She spends hours online, and does not give you a single clue about who she is talking to that makes sense to you
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    You have caught her in several lies and she will not admit to them and tell them that your suspicions are your imagination or even dismiss or laugh at any facts presented to her as something you are making up
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    She is telling your friends the truth, but not you, because she is scared of your reaction; sometimes it is a good idea
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    She has actually told you there is someone else, but you thought she wasn't serious; sometimes a confession of infidelity is not a joke, it is a reality you are not facing
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Tips and Tricks For Married Men Dealing With Infidelity

Your male intuition may be working perfectly if you think she is being dishonest with you.

  • Women who cheat tend to resent the partner they are with, so your communication with each other may be less harmonious; if this problem is insurmountable and she only speaks to you in a nagging, sarcastic or complaining manner, you may have a female cheater on your hands
  • Force her hand by asking to make you more of a priority and if she balks at spending more time with you then confront her about your suspicions
  • Women who are lying about cheating tend to answer a question with a question, because they are searching their minds for a lie
  • Women who cheer no longer use the phrase "we" when talking about the two of you, so look for changes in her language when she talks to others
  • Her body language may change to reflect the fact that she no longer wants to be with you and she might stop kissing you or holding your hand

If she is not acting like she is in love with you it might mean she is in love with someone else.

  • She is cold, distant and you have not had sex months, possibly because she is getting affection and sexual interaction from someone else
  • Conversely, your wife may be cheating on you if she is suddenly much better in bed and using news sex skills that may have been taught to her by someone else
  • She may suddenly wearing sexier underwear or grooming her private parts in a way that may be pleasing but also surprising to you; this could indicate that she is sprucing herself up to have sex with another
  • Women are more fascinated by what they can't have or by what other women want so if you want to get her back, then announce your intentions to start dating others and wait until she comes to you
  • Check her banking and credit card statements. It's not always the man who pays for the hotel room or the holiday abroad.
  • Your friends or a neighbor report a sighting with another man, in which case, you should investigate to see if the rumor is true; most people do not tell their friends such things just to cause trouble
    • You are younger and she is older. Older women have had more relationships and may cheat on a new younger spouse as a form of revenge or simply out of a desire for a sexual change of pace or curiosity
  • You know your wife better than anyone and there is such a thing as male intuition. If you detect a change in your wife's behaviors that makes you suspicious then she very well may be cheating on you and it worth investigating
  • If you want to keep your relationship with your wife, you may want to ask yourself if it really matters whether or not your wife is cheating, especially if you no longer have a sex life; sometimes separating from your partner is not worth the emotional stress and cost, especially if you have not had sex for years

Questions and Answers

Thinking there someone else because we're not loving one other the same?

I used to be so close but now we so far apart. She just don't have time for me now. when she In the pass made time.. I have tried: Try doing things and going places.but if she do its like she not as happy.. I think it was caused by: Well after her 18yr old son left home.its like she just not the same person .me and her is Best of friend as well as husband and wife . you see one you see the other. One don't go without the other. I talked to her about it and our sex life one time a month .

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Her child has left the home which can cause what is termed "empty nest syndrome" or rather that is just a term for depression after your child leaves to become an adult. You need to consider that your wife has spent 18 years of her life with the identity of Mother. Suddenly she is finding out that she needs to come up with a new focus. Instead of pressuring your wife, pamper your wife. Leave her uplifting notes around the house. Take this opportunity to date her once again. Showing her that you are here to help her will hopefully allow her to open up to you.

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Wife went with my best friend to see family yet she is 54 he is 46 all she talks about when she comes is half of what I have is hers she is the one cheating and I am going to get screwed why is that?

Why is it she is the guilty one but she comes home and screams at me I am home not out like her. I have tried: Try to talk she screams at me. I think it was caused by: Her new job a lot more money an independent

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Do you have proof that she is cheating or is this a manifestation of you feeling inadequate because she has gained financial independence? She is lashing out verbally at you and sounds extremely angry. If you would like to resolve this and keep your marriage intact then suggest nicely that you would like to go to marriage counseling with her as one final determination effort to save the marriage. Be honest with her about how you are feeling and ask for mutual respect during the process of figuring out the best way to move forward.

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Is my wife having an affair with a co-worker?

Since my wife started her new job. That's all she talked about especially when she asks me what type of car that was? She asked because her boss has the exact same car? 3 months into her new jobs and she came home with balloons and a birthday gift? And she gets very upset when I ask for her work schedule? She first started to got very mad at me for going inside her job?. I have tried: Asking her to print me her work schedule? I only received 2 work schedules since she started her new job. Checking her cellphone but she recently changed the password.. I think it was caused by: Recently we have been arguing a lot. Because I'm not working right now and she's the only one working. She left her old job because she hated her old boss. But while searching for a new job, she took the first job she got an interview with. With hourly pay rate a lot less. Part time... And she says yes to everything especially if her bosses ask her to stay a little longer. Or work overnights, especially when she came home from working graveyard shift. She came home and went straight to the bathroom to change her underwear or showered? Without even asking or telling me ahead of time. Is like my plans didn't matter anymore! Or what I got to say..

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Okay, there is a valid point to her working any available overtime because she is the only one bringing in money right now to support you both. As for her showering after working all night, lots of people do that so that they can relax properly after working odd hours. Demanding her schedule needs to come with a reason. Did you consider that with her taking an extra overtime a schedule is not necessary? Perhaps she is not getting her own monthly schedule right now. As for the car that her boss drives, her questions was an innocent one.

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Instead of focusing on her job performance and decisions, it is time for you to show her that you are actively looking for employment. Throw all your available energy into it because you will feel much better once you are gainfully employed again. Job hunting might also take some of the emotional pressure off your wife. One of the number one causes for divorce is financial dissolution. Try to avoid that breakdown in your own marriage by telling your wife that you appreciate what she is doing right now to support you both.

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Looks they give and what kind of communication will they do if I am in the room I have an idea that they leave tips in the bathroom but what would I look for in there any ideas

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