Spot a cheating spouse

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Your spouse is behaving differently. Are you suspecting your spouse of cheating on you? Most people are living in fear of losing their spouses to someone else when they are actually not sure whether the partner is really unfaithful or not. You can spot a cheating spouse easily if you have the knowledge of their behavior. This article will give you practical ways of spotting a cheating spouse A cheating spouse normally tend to change their behavior towards their partner in different ways. They also tend to act in some weird manner that can help you realize that they are unfaithful. The following are some of the danger signs to look at when you think that your loving partner is cheating on you

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Signs that your spouse is cheating on you and how how to spot him/her

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    Hesitant to answer a call when their lover is the one on the line.
    When your spouse is behaving abnormally while answering some calls in your presence then he or she might be hiding some secrets. Moving away to answer a call when someone strange calls through the mobile is also an indication that she might be cheating on you. Have you ever been in a situation where your spouse tries to distance herself to answer a certain call because she doesn't want you to hear the conversation? You can try to find out who the caller could be and if she is unable to explain well then it is an indication that there is someone else in her life.
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    Change of tonal variation while talking to someone over the phone.
    When you realize that your partner is talking to someone else over the phone with the same tonal variation the way he or she used to talk to you when you were so much in love then you need to find out more about the person. there might be another lover who is tearing your marriage apart.
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    Avoiding being intimate.
    When your spouse suddenly becomes very cold to you when it comes to when it comes to love and intimacy then he or she might be seeing someone else. You need to find out if there might be any problem that is prompting them to behave in such manner. If there is nothing serious then he or she might be having another lover to satisfy his or her sexual needs.
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    Sudden decrease in sexual desire.
    If you have been making love four thrice a week for instance and all of a sudden your spouse no longer wants to make love to you then there might be someone else making her happy. If you don't have any other problem then you need to find out what is happening to your spouse especially if he or she comes with new methods.
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    An increase in the willingness to make love particularly for women.
    This is the opposite of the previous point and seems counter-intuitive, however, it is actually more often the case because the cheating partner is trying to avoid detection. Often men have to, shall we say, "entice" their wife to making love. However if your wife is cheating and she doesn't want you to know she will be careful to make sure she is giving you enough sex. So a sign she is cheating is that she is all of a sudden willing to make love to you whenever you want. It seems opposite to what you would expect but its true in many cases.
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    New techniques in the bedroom.
    One of the telltale signs your partner has been with someone else, especially if it has been on going for a while, is that the other person will enjoy different things than you. This will bleed through when your partner makes love to you. After years of marriage you know exactly how your partner will make love to you. If all of a sudden they start placing their hand differently, move a different way, or use a different technique pay attention. This is a big clue you have a problem and its likely been going on for a while.
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    He or she is no longer giving you attention.
    When your spouse tends to be too busy to give you any attention when there is nothing serious that he or she is busy with then it means that your spouse might be diverting his attention to someone else. This is an indication that there might be someone he or she is giving more attention.
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    Inability to explain clearly their whereabouts.
    When your spouse disappears without informing you where they are going only to come back without any clear explanation of their whereabouts then you need to be very careful. He or she might be seeing someone else during that time.
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    Being protective of their mobile phones and other personal devices that may show any evidence of infidelity - If your spouse doesn't want you to see anything in their cellphones and they are always protecting it then there might be some secrets being hidden in the cellphone that they don't want to let loose.
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    Hire a detective to get to the bottom of the matter.
    If you experienced almost all of the above reactions from your partner then you need to hire a detective to ascertain that he or she is truly cheating on you. The detective will be able to gather reliable evidence for you to confront your spouse.
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Causes of infidelity in marriages

You have realized and confirmed through a detective that your partner has been cheating on you and when you confront him, he is sincere enough to tell you the truth by confessing his wrong doing. This is happening while you have been living together and you've had a very perfect marriage.This has truly surprised you and now you are wondering why he had to cheat on you yet you have been very loving towards him. You need to know some of the reasons why spouses cheat on each other. These are the major reasons.

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    Unresolved conflicts in marriage that has drifted the couple apart over a long period of time
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    Lack of communication in marriages making the couple to ignore each other
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    When he or she is not feeling loved by the partner in a marriage
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    When an opportunity for being an unfaithful present itself and he is unable to control himself
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    When the love that the spouse once felt for the other is gone
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    Some cheat on their spouses out of curiosity.
    They just want to know how it feels to be treated by somebody else other than their partner
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    To revenge the unfaithfulness of their spouse
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    When he or she has lost hope in their marriage and the partner is not making any effort to make the marriage work
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    When the partner is no longer giving him or her any attention
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    When the partner no longer desires to snuggle or hug or be intimate
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Tips Tricks & Warnings

  • When your partner is avoiding being intimate to you, try to find out the real problem before concluding that they are unfaithful.
  • Look at your spouse in the eye when confronting him or her after finding out about their infidelity. You will be able to know the truth
  • When your spouse is cheating on you, he or she will always act in a protective manner trying to hide the truth from you

Questions and Answers

Cheating spouses' common hiding spots?

Do not expect a cheating spouse to hang out or meet his or her lover near their home's vicinity, especially if it is a small town. If they want to share intimate time, they would likely go to out-of-town private resort. Some also share their moments in their lover's home, especially when the partner lives alone. Some illicit lovers may meet is at the home of a friend who approves of the forbidden relationship. Worst of all, some cheaters have enough nerve to cheat in their own homes when their spouses are at work or out of town.

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Recent edits by: Maria Sharon Ubando, Anonymous, Lynn

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