Spot a Scammer on an Online Dating Site

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Scam is a scheme done fraudulently in order to gain profit from others. Scam maybe done personally in business and most often done online- the so-called cyber scam. The aim of the scammer is to persuade others to believe in them. When the other party believes in the scammer, they will easily give money or valuable things to such scammer. Scam is the new modus of some person. It is other people way of gaining profit easily and without spending so much time. The scammer will only trick their target and they will easily profit when the other party has been persuaded.

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Scam is a scheme done fraudulently in order to gain profit from others. Scam maybe done personally in business and most often done online- the so-called cyber scam. The aim of the scammer is to persuade others to believe in them. When the other party believes in the scammer, they will easily give money or valuable things to such scammer. Scam is the new modus of some person. It is other people way of gaining profit easily and without spending so much time. The scammer will only trick their target and they will easily profit when the other party has been persuaded.

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In an online dating site, not all are registered to find a person who will love them, be with them and those who will be available for marriage. Some of the registered users are only there to scam and to persuade others. Scam is a trick in swindling. You will be tricked to give or offer something to them. Mostly in business, the owners are the target of the scammers since they have the money and capacity to give big amount of money. They also have the capability to enter into contracts which offer big amount of money. In other countries, overseas workers are also target of this modus since they can easily persuade other people to work abroad but in reality is not. The scammer has the power and ability to convince others to accept their platforms and when the party was convinced, and then it is the start of their journey in profiting themselves through bad deeds.

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Attitude of Scammers

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    Online scammers ask you to send money.
    When you are chatting with them, they will ask you to send them something like money or anything valuable in nature. They will ask you to send it through paypal, western union or any mode of sending money in a long distance manner. They will also ask you for large amount of money and persuade you to give her what she was asking you. After sending the money to them and having the money in their possession, they will no longer available in the site. You can never find them again in the site since they have earned already their intention from you. You cannot also get back what you have given them since they are nowhere to be found. After claiming the money that you have send to the scammer, they will either delete their account or change name of their account. Some also are deleting their account and making different account. This is to find their another prospect which they will do the same process as they scam others.
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    Scammers ask you for tour.
    They will convince you to meet her or with her friends in person in the place where she live. They are asking you to go to their place since they are more familiar with it and you which is not familiar with the place don't know something about the place unless you have lived there for many years. They will also ask you for a tour and ask you to give them some money personally for them to buy something expensive like phones, gadgets and other technologies. They can also get your things and left you in an instant since they know the place where they are going to hide and you cannot locate for them. They can also leave you in unfamiliar place where you will get lost. In which case, when you are already lost, you cannot locate for them while your things are with them.
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    Ask you to get her out of the country.
    Scammers also make use of their intelligence to ask you out of the country where so that they can go abroad. They will do it and when both of you are in the other country, they will immediately disappear from your sight. This is one of their styles in order to go abroad for free since they are not the one who will be paying the fair. There are instances where you don't want to get a tour, in which case, they are going to ask you for their fare so that they are the one who will go to your country but in fact, they are not going. They are just going to get the money and nothing will happen if you have finished sending the money. They will neither visit you or have a tour with you in your country.
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Target of Scammers

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    Target age is 60's in age or older or sometimes 40's and 50's.
    These are the target of the scammers since they can easily persuade persons aging 40 to 80 years old. They also believe to their chat mates when they are pretty or handsome without knowing the real identity of their chat mates. Here are the age bracket why several of them are target of scammers.
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    1. 40 to 50 years old. They are the fresh ones. They easily are inloved with young handsome men and young pretty women whom they are chatting with without knowing the background of such person. Since they are inloved with their chat mate they will do the favor of the young men and women to gain additional points or charisma. They also send money and valuable things to their chat mates such as cellphone, Laptop and other gadgets. This age usually is considered as the most exiting age.
    2. 51 to 60 years old. This are the age which is target also of the scammers since most of the online users aging 511 to 60 are those which got divorced or annulled marriage. Since their marriage has been annulled or they have divorced with their partner, they are in need of new mate. In which case, they were going to use the dating site in order for them to find their mate. They are targeted by scammers since they are easily convinced to go in a tour or to travel.
    3. 61 to 80 years old. Most common person using dating sites are those which are widowed. They need the dating site to find their partner and those who could be with them when they grow old. They need someone who will take care of them when they are old. This age is also the target sine they are easily persuaded to give something to their chat mate. Since they are old, they easily can adopt with the emotion of whom is he chatting with. They are also prone to scams since they are the ones who don't report such act when they are being victim of online dating scammers.
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    Scammers target are those who are widowed, divorced or have annulled their marriage.
    These are the targets since they are the one's looking for new partner. When the scammer spotted you to be one of them, beware of their acts. You need to base their acts from the above stated attitude of scammers not to be a victim of scam. Usually, they are the targets since they are easily being involved with somebody since they are single. They are looking for love and care but were betrayed.
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    Scammers want to target professionals.
    Professional status is a big merit for the scammers since they are the ones who can give large amount of money. Even though professionals are intelligent, there were also those which are victim of scams. They will have a deal with their chat mate then suddenly they will give money or ask their chat mate on a tour or travel. This is the case where they become victim. Where the scammer is with the professional, she will have all the means to persuade and convince him as to be scammed.
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Things To Do To Avoid Being Scammed

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    Read messages.
    Read the shout out or the message provided by the online dating site user. Have time to read them to know whether they are scammer or not. Some of the online dating site users are only finding professionals. They are finding professionals since they can easily get a higher amount of money than those which are not. They target those who are rich and those who could give them good life and those who are easy to convince to send money and gadgets.
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    Easily say I Love you.
    Scammers easily say I love you to their chat mate even without meeting them personally. This is one technique on how to let others closer to you. They are also using this for them to get the attention of their prospect. They also use the word "Your handsome", "I like you" and the like even though it's not. It is not bad to receive those kind of messages but to think that you have never meet each other, you have to think twice before agreeing to it. These are styles which mostly used in order for their target to send money online or in any other ways.
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    Background check.
    You can check her profile and review what was provided therein. You can also have her email and check it if it is relevant to her profile information. There are only.ne dating site users which are not giving their email address and not providing their true information. You should beware of them and avoid them as much as possible to avoid being a victim of scam. You can also have their Skype accounts or Yahoo mail accounts where you can talk through them online to be sure of them. If they don't want to provide their Skype or email address or even talk to you on camera then don't bother to communicate with them. They maybe are one of the scammers.
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    Ask for a conversation.
    You may talk to her in chat or in cam to cam. You need to review her replies if she or he was not that of the scammers. One attitude of the scammers is to ask you easily to deliver money to him or her during you first conversation. You also need to check whether he or she was aggressive enough to push through collecting money or gadgets from you. There are some scammers who will act as artists so that their chat mate will be pity on them and to send money. Some also have reasons of urgency of the money. They are always asking for something that will be use for emergency. The conversation you have with them should be neat. If they are conversations like asking money for something, urgency or emergency then this is a good point to leave them.
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    Meet them personally.
    If you really love your chat mate, you can meet with him or her personally. You need to be sure whether she is a scammer or not. Also, you will have enough information with him or her. When meeting personally, there is the time to ask her the true details or whether she has provided the true information in her online dating site account. You can also find time to ask her family background as well as her background. Beware when you are meeting personally, may be she will take all your things and leave you.
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Tips

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    In meeting with your online dating site chat mate, you need not bring lot of money with you.
    Bring only enough money for both of you not to be scammed.
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    Keep your eyes with him or her or with them when they have a companion.
    This is to check whether you are secured and nothing bad will happen to you.
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    Best place to meet is in the place where there are plenty of people.
    You will be safe when there are plenty of people since you can easily ask for help when they are going to scam you.
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    Do not give money to your chat mate when it is not necessary.
    They might think that you have a lot and ask you again next time.
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Questions and Answers

Is there a male scammer in Kik app?

I met this guy in Kik, he's a USA military soldier. Lately he is asking me to send him money because he can't access his bank account where he is assigned. Is it possible that he is one of the scammer?

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This is a great question! Anyone that you have just met in person that has asked you for money would signal warning bells right away, let alone someone you have met on an online site. In order to protect yourself and your money I would suggest that you never lend money to anyone you have not met in person and do not have a personal relationship with. There have been tons of individuals who have been sucked into this terrible situation, and have been drained of all of their money. Personally, I would tell him that you are not in the right predicament to be lending money at the moment. As well as you can inform him that if he is unable to access money from where he is, he should be addressing this with his superiors. I would also make sure to report him on the site so he cannot victimize anyone else in his line of destruction.

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Ho to know if my chat-mate online is married?

I want to know his marital status. I have tried: Search online for free data. I think it was caused by: I am for serious relationship

First of all, ask the person about it. Then, a lot of countries leave a stamp in the person's local (not foreign) passport. You can ask for the passport page on the marital status. Then, ask if he had any other last names. Some people change their last names after marriage. Use the image reverse search (click the camera icon) for the person's picture and see if he is spotted on a social network or with another person. You can then find that other person with the same reverse image search and even contact him or her to find out more details. You can try to find common friends too.

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I have a friend, he told me that he is really in love with me and wants to see me in personal in the future, now he sent me a package containing gadgets and other valuable things but the company whom he sent to, asked me for a payment, and now I sent an email to him so many times until now he never replied me back, he told me that he's a seaman?

Is he a scammer? why he never replied my emails to him

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I have been chatting on Kik with someone who I believe has stolen the identity of a Naval officer?

I am most likely chatting on Kik with a Nigerian who has stolen the identity of a naval officer. I have pictures and would like to find the real one. I have tried reverse image and could not find any information. Is there any way you can help me find the real one?. I have tried: I have tried Google reverse image and tin eye. I have looked at many pictures on Romance Scam websites but have not been able to find him.. I think it was caused by: I don't have any idea why I can't find his pictures on line.

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How can I know that my chatmate is really a US military?

He gives me full name and ID number to make a request letter to send to US military deployment to take a leave so that he can visit me in my country. How will I know its true? That he is not only using me. I have tried: None. I think it was caused by: Maybe I think its a scam

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I believe I was scammed. I'm looking for answers. Is there anything I can do to find out?

It has been a long online relationship. Almost 4 months. She was supposed to come to UK yesterday but since last message (she said she is boarding) - silence.

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