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Tell if Your Boyfriend Is Obsessed with You

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Signs he is overly obsessed?


Being loved by a special person makes us feel more proud and happy, but overly loved by a special person is a different story. Being overly loved by your boyfriend is a sign of being obsessed with you. Naturally, if your boyfriend truly loves you, he will frequently calls you and always find a way to always be there with you. But this attitude of your boyfriend may sometimes lead to obsessive behavior and if it is not properly managed, it will progress to possessive-obsessive behavior which may ruin your relationship. Below are some signs your boyfriend is overly obsessed with you:

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  • Mostly spends his time with you. If your boyfriend constantly calls you or he frequently visits you, your boyfriend may be exhibiting obsessive behavior.
  • Your boyfriend frequently tells you how he really love you. Obsessive boyfriends one characteristic is to frequently tell their girlfriends how they really love them and they always say that their life would be meaningless without them or something similar.
  • Frequently tries to change you on how you look. There are other instances that obsessive boyfriends tend to control the way on how their girlfriends look by telling them how to dress, how to cut their hairs or others.
  • Frequently gives you gifts. Another sign of an overly obsessive boyfriend is he constantly gives you gifts.

The presented signs above are some of the most shown characteristics of an overly obsessive boyfriend and if your boyfriend is showing you one or more of the presented traits, it would be best to talk it out with your boyfriend as early as possible to properly correct his attitude and to save your relationship.

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Why does my boyfriend suddenly got mad about me when he noticed that I delete some of my friends messages on my Facebook especially guy messages?

This happened last night, he suddenly messaged me on Facebook, he asked who am I chatting with and I told him someone just asked me some questions and I just answered, then suddenly he said why did I delete some of my friends messages especially a guy messages, I told him it was a message that must not be read because I don't want him to laugh at me. It was last week, I change my password but then my boyfriend knew it. Then he told me that go on delete more messages, I explain again that I just deleted the message of my friend guy that must not be read because I don't want him to laugh at me about some conversation. But then my boyfriend told me he will change his password now because I'm like this, and he told me I don't have one word. So I told him if your going to do that then I will change it also. But then he just replied me with a period message. I didn't sleep well last night thinking why he is like that, he doesn't understand me and then he just sleep and didn't even try to persuade me to fix this or talk about this to become okay. Then this morning he is telling me sorry and I love you, I just don't want you to do things I don't want like deleting some messages of your friend while I'm not doing that. But I didn't reply because I feel anxious right now and I want to balance myself and I want him to realize what he just acted last night.. I have tried: Tried to persuade him last night, telling him I love him and he is the only guy I love, and no need to be jealous. I tried to explain everything but then he was still mad.. I think it was caused by: Because he know my password and he scans my messages before, he told me that I reply most especially to guys who messages me, he is telling me that I am interested and before he saw my ex messages to me, that time he doubt me and every guy who messages me, he became jealous.

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Deleting messages is a red flag for cheating. You may have done this because you did not want him to read the messages but still it raised many doubts in his head. He is not obsessed with you but rather concerned that you may be cheating on him. Put yourself in his shoes and imagine what your reaction would be if you noticed he was deleting messages from girls. It would drive you nuts to know what they were talking about that had him so concerned that you would read it that he deleted it. He was not acting out in his reaction. From this point on you need to stop deleting messages and if you do not like what this friend is messaging.

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I have a friend who came onto me very intense and my vulnerable state allowed him to bring all my past hurt up. He has stated he is helping me and it's hard for us to let go of each other. He wants me to hang on to him?

We had video chatted and did some things I regret, and I feel he's using me for his pleasures. He stated at some point he hated all women for their rejection of him. He says I need to be submissive to him because I'm a woman. I don't know if he's dangerous. He said I ought to know my place as a woman. I can't seem to let go of him because I love his affection. I think it was caused by: I confided to him the deep secrets of my past and he also did to me about his bad experiences with the women in his life. He says I need to let him help me heal. I opened up to him too much. Sometimes he withdraws and other times he's sweet and loving. I'm confused. He says he's crazy and angry and I must obey him

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If this works for you and you want to stay in this relationship then get ready for him to never change. It is not up to you to heal him but he needs to heal himself emotionally. Personally, I would not do well in this sort of relationship because for a relationship to work both people have to be on equal terms and compromise. He has already put you in a situation that you now regret and perhaps it is time to move on. Deal with an obsessive boyfriend and Deal with Obsessive Boyfriend and when to Give Up are VisiHow articles that you should read.

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Am I paranoid because of domestic violence I experienced or there is more here?

I was married to an abusive man for 11 years. I escaped with my 4 children 6 years ago. I have dated few people in that time, but always saw "red flags" that caused me to end things after a few weeks. I have currently been in a relationship with a 48 year old man for the past year. He lives at home with his parents, four doors away from me. His job provided him the freedom to be out for most of the day without needing to account for it. I am currently unemployed, so he comes to my house everyday, until it is time for me to pick up my kids. He is very clingy, always wants to go everywhere I go, whether its grocery shopping or to the laundry. He needs a lot of affirmations and attention. He lies constantly, but thinks he can convince me that he's being truthful, in spite of me questioning the illogical parts of his story and flat out telling him I believe he's lying. He knows when my bedroom light is on at 2AM, says it is easy to see directly into my bedroom. He told me yesterday that he knew I was home because a fan was on in my bedroom window. Mind you, my bedroom is on the 3rd floor of a 2-family house. He called me at 11:41, 42, & 43 AM, then texted me twice at 11:46 to say he tried calling me a few times. By 11:50, he was yelling my name out in the street like Stanley calling Blanche. I was mortified. He has lived in this town for over 40 years, has a very strong positive reputation in the community with no one ever having accused him of domestic violence or stalking. I did a criminal background check which was empty. He has displayed unwarranted jealous, passive aggressiveness and controlling behaviors, like always driving my car when we're going somewhere together. If he asks if I want anything from the store or restaurant, he'll get me something anyway. If I say I want a particular size, he'll get a different size. He's constantly denying saying things that I know he said. He will say the exact opposite or say it never happened. These things may seem small in and of themselves, but they add up to something not being right with him. He lives on my block, watches my coming and going. I want to break up with him but can't afford to right now being a single mom of four, with no family in the state we live in. My family that was here, is now in Texas. I don't know how I will be able to get away from him. Can you help me? Thanks

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You are uncomfortable with him so it is time to break up with him. He does exhibit the behavior of someone that has made you his first priority but not in good ways. Watching the light patterns of your bedroom is a red flag and the fact that he still lives with his parents suggests that he has never had a real adult relationship to gain the skills of dealing with jealousy or knowing when to worry or not. Unfortunately, he lives in your neighborhood. This will make any break up rather messy and uncomfortable because there is no clean break. Just because someone has never been accused of domestic violence or stalking in a background check does not mean that they have not done these things. On background checks, the person needs to be convicted and orders of protection may not be on the background check. Also, insisting on driving is not a red flag but yelling outside your window is. All of the lying that he has done could be because he has low self esteem and that would also indicate why he feels the need to monitor you 24/7. If you need to get away from him then you should start looking into relocation. See if you can visit your family for a vacation and break up with him right before you leave. This may give him time to process the end of the relationship without a big scene when you return. Ask that he respect your children by not causing strife or drama.

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He has made an "arrangement" with me but doesn't fulfill his part?

He has made an "arrangement" with me because he takes care of me and I live with him but that goes against his promises and word

Arrangements in a relationship rarely work. Someone always agrees to them because they want something or because they do not want to have another argument. These are not resolutions and promises regularly fall apart after time. If he is going against his word then move out or threaten to move out because he is not holding his end of the deal up.

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I have an obsessed ex, how do I get rid of him?

Hi I am a college kid at LSU and I have been having this problem with my ex, I broke up with him 4 days ago and he will not leave me alone what so ever. He says he is in love with me and never leaving me, and that I am not going to go anywhere, I belong to him. His mom is even texting me like how the hell she got my number. I just want to get rid of him before something happens. I have tried: I have tried millions of times he won't leave. I think it was caused by: He says there is something about me that he is just so in love with

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What does he want from me, although he is just an acquaintance?

I have received messages during midnight at around 3:00am from an anonymous person - greeting me. I suspect that I know who it is.

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What do I do if he doesn't seem interested AT ALL?

I am sitting at the library and he will only look over every once and a while. I have tried: Nothing, I'm nervous. I think it was caused by: ?

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