Reject Someone Without Hurting Them
Edited by Ian Gabriel T. Tolledo, Anonymous, Eng, Lynn and 9 others
If only you could say, "I want to friend-zone you, but don't get hurt, OK?" Is it possible to reject someone without hurting them? This is a complicated question, especially if the person in question is a close friend, or your best friend. It's much easier if the person you're ending things with is merely an acquaintance or someone you've only known for a short time. Whatever the situation is, it's always hard to reject someone when you know feelings will hurt, but it is your right to be with whomever you want. Here are some useful steps you can use to reject someone without hurting them too badly.
- 1 Things to Consider
- 2 Rejecting someone without hurting them
- 3 Are you in the Friend-Zone?
- 4 Questions and Answers
- 4.1 How do you reject someone without hurting their feelings?
- 4.2 Ways to reject a guy without hurting his feelings?
- 4.3 How to leave a guy who doesn't care and love you?
- 4.4 How to bust a guy without hurting them?
- 4.5 A boy likes me but he is 22 and I am 13?
- 4.6 Chick is really pushing things and I want to be her friend but she wants a relationship?
- 4.7 I have 2 friends both are close equally but now have to remove them?
- 4.8 How do I say no to someone about a date?
- 4.9 My best friend asked me out. I rejected for no fault of his, but for a genuine reason of my own. Is there anything wrong in being friends again?
- 4.10 I AM IN LOVE WITH FOUR GIRLS AND I THINK IS HIGH TIME FOR ME TO LET GO THE 3 AND PICK ONE AS MY WIFE TO BE?
- 4.11 How can I say no to nudes without hurting my boyfriend?
- 4.12 How to say no to your employees without un-liking you as their boss?
- 5 Comments
Things to Consider
Make sure you don't want this relationship, as after you end it, it might be impossible to get it back if you change your mind. Friend-zoning a guy will ultimately hurt his feelings, no matter how brave a face he puts on in front of you. The tips here will serve to lessen the emotional hurt the guy will experience when you break the news to him. If you're having a hard time deciding if you really need to reject someone, see the checklist below for ways to reject an advancing guy - or whoever person it is you want to reject.
Rejecting someone without hurting them
- 1Honesty is the best policy.Advertisement
- Not be brutally frank. Understand that you can disagree without being disagreeable. Being honest doesn't necessarily mean that you should say, "I don't like you," or, "I can't imagine being with you," sort of thing. Simply state that you value his friendship and acknowledge his feelings for you, but you want to keep the things between you neutral.
- Explain that you're not ready to be in that situation and will not be happy to lose him as a friend, and that you don't want to taint your friendship. If he really is a good friend, or perhaps at least a good sport, then he will get the hint and stop his advances. You may even say that you're not emotionally/physically attracted to him, so it can't work.
- 2Drop hints.Advertisement
- 3Sibling-zone.This step is almost the same as friend-zone, but it can be effective in keeping him in your life, or causing him excruciating pain. You have to play your cards right on this one. Explain that you love him, although not as a lover might, but as kin…a brother, perhaps. Now if he values your friendship, he will be very happy to know this. Otherwise, if he never wants to be only a regular friend or acquaintance, follow the first step as well. Give him the time and space he needs to adjust. Being friend-zoned is hard.
- 4Distance yourself.Advertisement
This may be off topic, but we will put it here anyway. Stop beating around the bush and go tell the person up-front. When everything is said and done, there's almost no way for you not to damage your friendship after you've rejected him; there are less hurtful methods, like the ones stated above., but they are not always effective. If you already have a boyfriend, tell him that. If he doesn't alter his behavior then he isn't the kind of friend you'd want in the first place. Be cautious with this type of person, as they are most likely the type of person who turns into a stalker, or becomes obsessive. Truly, putting someone in the friend-zone in the hopes of not hurting that person is nearly impossible, unless you're dealing with an incredibly emotionless, robot-like, or at least extremely resilient person. Best case scenario - he felt the same way, and wasn't sure how to tell you.
Are you in the Friend-Zone?
Do you, for some reason believe that you are in that wretched zone? Looking for signs that you're on the downside of your potential lover's care? Look at the list below to know if you're already in the friend-zone.
- You're looking in forums like this one for answers to that question, you are probably already in the friend-zone.
- You've never taken the opportunity to let the person know your desire, either physically or verbally.
- You've been in the same bed together, or other intimate situation, yet the other person didn't even try to make a move, or rejected yours.
- She either takes a long time, or doesn't return your texts or calls. If she wanted to return messages, she would. She's either not at all interested, or is afraid you'll assume her responses will encourage you to pursue her, when that is not what she wants.
- You've gone to several places together, and hang out with each other often, yet the person hasn't even made a single, subtle move on you.
- You find yourself listening to his/her problems and emotional issues, especially when they are about a love-interest. You may think of her/him as a potential lover, but she/he probably considers you a friend and confidant.
- She always invites her friends whenever you ask her to hang out with you.
- The person talks about having sex with other people.
- She tells you you're such a good friend and hopes that never ends.
- You're always too available to her and don't do anything romantic together.
- You find yourself always being upset whenever she goes out with another man, and she doesn't care if you know.
- She says that she likes you, but doesn't want to ruin your friendship.
- In desperation, you find yourself begging and crying her to see you as more than just a friend.
If you ever find yourself in this situation, chances you are in the friend-zone or you have already been rejected. This checklist might not be specific, but it does show a prevalent situation where rejection oftentimes happens. Be the judge.
Questions and Answers
How do you reject someone without hurting their feelings?
When it comes to a persons feeling they will feel rejection whether or not your do it the right way or he wrong way. If you want to do it in a nice way simply sit them down and explain how you feel about that person. This will allow them to see that you do care about them, just not in a romantic way. Face to face is kinder than telling them through text or having them find how you feel from someone else.
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Ways to reject a guy without hurting his feelings?
You can do this by making sure you are not too personal in your comments when turning him down. Avoid attacking his personal traits and focus instead on why you think a relationship between the two of you won't work. Also, you can offer to stay as friends so that he knows you don't have a problem with him as a person.
How to leave a guy who doesn't care and love you?
You need to find time to have a serious one-on-one conversation with that person. You have to talk about the difficulties in the relationship and you need to decide together what's good for both of you. In this conversation, keep it as calm as possible so that you both can think clearly. Also, it may be worthwhile to tell him how you feel and listen to what he has to say about it. Maintain two-way communication so that you come up to a better decision. If in the end, after this talk, you realize that you really have to part ways, at least, you're not leaving bad blood between the two of you.
How to bust a guy without hurting them?
I don't want to hurt my best friend
Informing on a best friend is a serious dilemma. If your friend is harming himself or others, committing a possible crime, involved in drugs or putting himself at risk - you need to report him. It will feel like a betrayal of trust, however you are doing what is best for him and may save his life or someone else's. An ideal way to go about this is to speak to your best friend first and let them know that what they are doing is harmful and you feel the need to report it because you care for them. If you think that your friend will react poorly, you need to report the issue first and then speak to your friend, ideally with another person present, such as their parent.
A boy likes me but he is 22 and I am 13?
Refuse the boy without hurting
Well if he is pursuing you, his actions are actually illegal in most countries. You need to avoid contact with him and inform your parents or guardian. You may feel like his peer but in reality you are still considered a minor. This is a serious issue.
Chick is really pushing things and I want to be her friend but she wants a relationship?
She is in a bad spot right now, and I like helping her, but she wants to date and I don't. I don't want to hurt her by pushing her away
Follow the suggestions in this article on how to let her down nicely. You want to remain friends so tell her that you need her as a friend more than a girlfriend and you do not want to ruin the friendship by dating.
I have 2 friends both are close equally but now have to remove them?
I don't won't them because both are truly good friends but they both don't like each other and I can't handle that at all.... and in next month my exam are there and it is very important and not only I but we all 3, we can't even study only headache or something wrong with oneself. I have tried: All this mess going in my mind. I think it was caused by: I am the cause of the problem
Lots of people have friends that do not like their other friends for whatever reason. The way to avoid your current situation is to explain to both of them at the same time that you want to be friends yet you can't all be hanging out or studying together because of friction. This may bring them to attention and actually they may work on their issues together so that you can all hang out without tension. If they do not work out their issues you will just have to do what others have done and only hang out with one of them at a time.
How do I say no to someone about a date?
I have a friend and he asked me to be his girlfriend. I don't want to date him but I don't want to ruin our relationship. I have tried: Not replying to him. I think it was caused by: I don't know honestly.
The suggestions in this article will help you on how to tell him you just want to remain friends.
My best friend asked me out. I rejected for no fault of his, but for a genuine reason of my own. Is there anything wrong in being friends again?
I rejected a very good friend of mine for a genuine reason cause I wasn't sure about it myself and didn't want to play with his feelings. But after all this, he doesn't want to be friends with me even. We have been gr8 friends but he doesn't want to continue it. Should I give him some time to get out of it? Or should I just let him go? I have tried: I have apologized to him so many times. Still he is behaving like we were never true friends even. I think it was caused by: No fault of him. I am not planning for a relationship right now as I am not ready for it and don't want uncertainty in his life too.
Tell him that the timing was not right for you to be in a dating relationship. While speaking with him be honest and explain that although this is not the right time there was a good friendship previously. He may be removing himself from your life for his own emotional protection but you could send him a note letting him know that you miss speaking with him and would like to explain yourself further. If he refuses to meet then let him go.
See more questions like this: How do I tell one of my guy friends that I don't feel the same way about him?
I AM IN LOVE WITH FOUR GIRLS AND I THINK IS HIGH TIME FOR ME TO LET GO THE 3 AND PICK ONE AS MY WIFE TO BE?
I AM SHORT OF WORDS I WANT TO LET GO AND GET ONLY ONE GIRL
Sounds like you are living the life of a contestant on The Bachelor. The reality is that you can't truly love 4 women. You may like how they make you feel or how they look but true love means that you are exclusively bound to one person no matter what. Take this time to figure out why you need the attention of so many women before deciding to settle down with one. It would be best to determine if you can remain monogamous before trying to put yourself in that situation and failing because you were not ready.
How can I say no to nudes without hurting my boyfriend?
My boyfriend is a great person and we share almost everything. I like it when he shares his nudes with me but I totally dislike the idea of me sharing my nudes with him. Exactly how can I tell him that I don't like sharing my nudes? I'm I being selfish?. TIA. I have tried: Video nudes. I think it was caused by: I don't feel right exposing my own body
You are not being selfish. Explain to him that this is a choice you make on a grander scale such as not walking around scantily clad. The fact is that so many women share these types of images only for them to eventually wind up on the internet for the whole world to see. Just let your boyfriend know that you choose to keep yourself private and wish to not share compromising images with anyone. If he respects you then he will understand. Bravo on being smart and protecting yourself from online harassment potential. In this digital age, we tend to forget that something posted in a text message can wind up as a viral post on the internet.
How to say no to your employees without un-liking you as their boss?
How can you say no to your employee without hurting them or without un liking you as their boss?. I have tried: So far I tried to talk to them in a very professional way. I tried to explained what's in it for me and what's in it for them.. I think it was caused by: It might affect their relationship to me.
Being in management means that there is no longer a popularity contest with co-workers. You are no longer their peer but their authoritative figure. As long as you keep it professional then you will be okay. Do not undermine any opinion but rather discourage diplomatically. As long as you treat them with respect then they will also respect you which is what you need to manage efficiently. If you find that you need to dole out some tough criticism then you will always want to do this privately with the employee. With your points of critique be sure to include some positives about their performance. Just remember that you are not there to gain friends. You are there to ensure the success of the company when you are in management.
- If you have problems with any of these steps, ask a question for more help, or post in the comments section below.
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