Plan Your Own Engagement Party
Edited by Shalom, Robbi, Lynn, Eng and 2 others
You're engaged and you just want the whole world to know about your new status as betrothed to someone who intends to marry you. As you settle back from cloud 9 after saying "yes" to that one big question "Will You Marry Me?" your mind is now busy fiddling on how to plan the engagement party.
- 1 Traditions and Etiquette Surrounding Engagement Parties
- 2 Before the Engagement Party
- 3 Common Types of Engagement Party
- 4 During the Engagement Party
- 5 After the Engagement Party
- 6 Tips, Tricks and Warnings
- 7 Comments
Traditions and Etiquette Surrounding Engagement Parties
Originally, engagement parties are hosted by the bride's parents to celebrate their daughter's forthcoming wedding and to allow the guests to socialize with each other prior to the nuptial. The party was supposed to be an occasion to share the news by surprising the guests with the announcement. It is completely forgivable if the surprised guests had no gifts to offer.
In modern times, engagement parties are thrown to celebrate an engagement that has already been announced. Guests are, more or less, prepared with a fancy gift and a short speech to accompany the toasts for the couple. While it is not obligatory, engagement parties are a common practice held before the wedding planning process commences and are usually attended by the couple's family and close friends.
Throwing your own engagement party raises the question of propriety. It can make you look like you're using the event to call attention upon yourself and to seek out gifts. It will be wonderful if a friend or relative offers to host. But, in the absence of none, you may throw your own engagement party for all the cares in the world. In today's standards, there are no hard and fast rules about how a future husband and wife want the world to know they are soon getting married.
Like any event that requires careful planning, an engagement party involves deliberate steps in three episodes: before, during and after.
Before the Engagement Party
- 2Announce the Engagement:Advertisement
- 3Plan the Engagement Party:
Date and Venue
As simple as it looks, you need to consider the time frame that will allow you to organize the party without being stressed out. It will be ideal to set the date two to four months after accepting the proposal. Within that time period, you have envisioned the theme for the wedding, an important consideration on the type of party to throw.
Common Types of Engagement Party
- 1Formal Lunch.If your wedding is going to be formal, it has to be matched by an upscale lunch or brunch engagement party.Advertisement
- 2Cocktail Party.
- 3Cosy Afternoon Tea.
- 6Summer Picnic.Advertisement
An engagement party is typically a more intimate affair than the wedding itself so you'll definitely want to limit the guest list to the dearest and closest to you. Not to be omitted are members of your two families so they can meet before the wedding. Guests from far flung areas need not make it to the list to preserve their time, money, and effort for the big day. However, it's bad etiquette to include anyone who will not be invited to the wedding.
Registering for an engagement party gift list can answer the guests' question whether or not to bring a gift. It also guides them on what you prefer to receive. But, because the engagement party is just a prelude to the wedding, be sure to create a gift line-up in the low to middle price range. If you insist for a no gift affair, indicate your preference in the invitation.
You may personalize the engagement party invitations by creating them with your own hands with the help of family or some friends. Or you may opt to send out well-chosen designed card purchased from the local store. The invitation doesn't necessarily have to match the theme or style of your wedding invites. The means to send them out is as countless as in announcing the engagement.
During the Engagement Party
- Have Fun.
- Enjoy every moment of the party as you accept all the well wishes of family and friends you've managed to put together in one happy occasion.
- Dress up to the nines so you'll stand out, but not in a way that will outshine yourself on your wedding day.
After the Engagement Party
- Be relieved.
Thank You Card
Still it's etiquette that dictates to send out thank-you cards or notes to people whom you would like to extend thanks for gracing the party, for the gifts, and for helping out.
Identifying these people will allow you to scribble some personal notes to thank them for their special participation.
Now the whole world knows you're engaged. It's time to plan for your wedding party.
Tips, Tricks and Warnings
- Be prepared to tell the story of how the marriage proposal was popped up because everyone in the party will want to know about it.
- Use the engagement party guest list as basis in drawing up the wedding guest list.
- Requests for unusual or special gifts such as money or favors can be personally communicated to the concerned guest.
- Avoid unwrapping gifts during the party so as not to put guests without gifts in uncomfortable situation.
- If you have problems with any of these steps, ask a question for more help, or post in the comments section below.
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