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Know Your Boyfriend Is Not over His Ex Yet

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My boyfriend is still not over his past love relation, he remembers his girlfriend and that is why we can't live happy. What should I say to him?

My boyfriend is still not over his past love relation, he remembers his girlfriend and that is why we can't live happy. What should I say to him?

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You don't want to be with someone who is not over their last girlfriend. It is best for you to very kindly tell him to go sort himself out and then when he is over his grief or ready to fully respond to you emotionally with his whole heart. Tell him that when he can spend time with you and others,without bringing her name up, that you might then consider renewing your relationship, that is, if you are still available. This serves to create a strong boundary about what you expect from him in a relationship as well as propel him to possibly correct his behavior because he risks losing you.

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I want to meet my boyfriends ex?

I want to meet her, we have already set a day which is tomorrow but I don't even know why I am meeting her, not even what to say to her, but its what my heart has always been telling me to do, seems she will always be my boyfriend's best but I don't hate her, just want to meet. I have tried: Have sent her a message on WhatsApp and I asked to meet her, she agreed thou she doesn't know me. I think it was caused by: My boyfriend talks about her so much even when have done all my best for him. I just will never be good enough

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This is not an emotionally healthy situation for you. You should never settle for being second best to an ex. Her refusal to meet you is healthier than your desire to meet her. You want to meet her so you can see if your inner female radar can pick up on anything going on between them. This is under the guise of being understanding, when really this situation could turn out to be quite hurtful to you. Yet another issue at play here is the fact that she does not want to meet you. The snub to your invitation sends the message that she does not really want to move on in life and would to deny that you exist.

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Why did my guy friend call me to tell me that his Ex wife wants to come and visit him when I am just there after Thanksgiving?

My problem is he offered me to come there with him.

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Whether or not it is appropriate to have you both for Thanksgiving is a bit dependent on whether or not he has children with her. If they have kids together, he may be doing this to condition you for being with him in the long-term. He may be hoping that you will get along with her so that life can be drama-free for any kids that want to enjoy time with their divorced parents. However, if there are no kids involved, then this invitation is inappropriate as there is no real reason for you to have his ex in his life or have you meet her. It means that they still have a bond and that he still puts her feelings before yours. In general, you should not have to meet an ex of your current boyfriend's unless it is about putting kids first.

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Does my fiance still love and want his Ex?

There are times they will talk on the phone, it goes on like daily for weeks and he is withdrawing from me and seems depressed, then she may go a month or two with no contact and things seem great between us. Plus he hasn't told her or their 10 years old daughter that we are together and we have been for a year now. His daughter is supposed to spend the supper with us and he says he is waiting till closer to that time to tell them. Sorry but that seems odd. Plus we are supposed to be getting married in August. Please help. I have tried: Talking about it. Sometimes he is OK about discussing it and at other times gets irritated. I think it was caused by: She doesn't love him, only wants to play mind games because he is finally happy. They have been apart for over 5 years

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Should I be concerned when fiance' gets text message from Ex wife and he doesn't delete it?

What do you think when your fiance gets a text message from his Ex wife saying she misses him and loves him forever and he doesn't delete it for three days and only deletes when you asked him to.

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Ex boyfriend visits at home to his baby?

I DON'T WANT TO SEE HIM every time he visits the baby, is that normal?

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My boyfriend and I have been planning to move in together but he sometimes says it may not work. Should I be concerned?

My boyfriend is divorced and we have been dating for almost a year. We decided to move in together. He even had me cancel my apartment lease to do so. He always talks about how his ex cheated on him. And now he says we need to see how it goes on the next few months and if it does not work he will find me a new apartment in Dallas. I would be moving from Dallas to a small town in Kansas and I have to leave my job. Should I risk not moving and risk my relationship? Moving is a major change for me and I thought it was serious on his end but now I am not so sure.. I have tried: Talking to him about it. Telling him if he felt this way we should have kept my lease in tact. He just brushes it off.. I think it was caused by: I am not sure. One day we are talking about starting our lives together then he finds out his ex wife may be getting remarried and then it turned into come for a few months to see if it works then if not I will help you get a new apartment back in Dallas

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What Should I do about my ex and my boyfriend keeping in touch?

So I have been dating my boyfriend for two years and a half now. . He has four kids , I have none but I am two months pregnant with his kid now. . . We had a big argument last year due to the fact that I was still talking to my ex and we broke up for two months . . During this time he dated someone else - A girl I know from my past and I literally introduced them so I guess that was their connection . . So he introduced them to the kids unfortunately and the girl and his eldest daughter became good friends. . . The daughter and I really don't get along she is a teenager and she hates me trying to parent her and all that. . . So we got back together and all was well until the daughter started reaching out to the ex . . And she does ask her for stuff like to take her shopping and let's the dad know its because she does not like me. . . My boyfriend is entertaining this and I feel like he should be the one to stop it because the ex wouldn't be entertaining them if she did not want him back. . . It makes me feel really stressed out and I feel like my boyfriend is not supporting me fully with this. . . What should I do especially now that am pregnant? . . Oh p.s my relationship with the other kids is awesome they love me.

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My boyfriend says he is over with his Ex but he misses his daughter a lot. He cries and does not want her to go home. He also tells me that I am perfect but just too old for him. We are both middle aged? I feel like he is progressing financially but he does so in hopes that his Ex sees this?

My boyfriend says he is over with his Ex but he misses his daughter a lot. He cries and does not want her to go home. He also tells me that I am perfect but just too old for him. We are both middle aged? I feel like he is progressing financially but he does so in hopes that his Ex sees this. I think that after 5 years he should be over her even though they are divorced. I get the feeling that there is nothing I can do to get his attention and him to see my help. I have tried: We talk but he says that he is over her. I do not believe him. I think it was caused by: I believe that he is hurt and still hanging on.

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She always call him and he pick the call in my present and tell me that the girl is asking for his permission to date other men?

The girl is always calling him

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My boyfriend compares me negatively to others, am I wrong to be hurt?

He compares me sexually to all his exes and where he traveled with them and what they did. I have not traveled much and they traveled the world. There is one woman he always says, we learned to ski here would we be able to go there. This is what she said to me, she always wore my favorite color, why don't you. I feel uncomfortable going with him to revisit these spots because I think he will just compare how lacking it is going there with me instead of her. I am educated, intelligent and a former beauty queen however I feel degraded and angry and heart broken am I wrong?. I have tried: Bought clothing, jewelry and shoes in his favorite color. He said my breasts were small I got implants. Have worked on myself bodily to keep up my appearance. Have done activities that he requested.. I think it was caused by: It has been this way since the first day

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My boyfriend's Ex called him and he went in the other room to answer it? Is he cheating?

Okay so I was in the living room and my boyfriend left his phone on the couch. I didn't answer it cause I didn't want to start a fight but I gave him his phone, he answered it started whispering and went in the other room. I knew it was his ex, I think they are still talking on the low ? I don't want to get hurt I have a feeling they are still communicating. I have tried: I haven't tried nothing, I just left his house cause I was so angry. I think it was caused by: She is jealous because he moved on but he is saying they are not communicating, but THEY ARE!!!!

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Is it natural for boyfriend to get upset?

Is it only natural for my boyfriend who I lived with for over a year to be upset when his ex (kids mother who he had a relationship on and off for 8 years with) starts dating another man? just recently found out she is now dating his best friend and the reaction when he finds out is going to be hurtful I already know, is it that he is having trouble letting her be happy? or that she is always dating his friends circle? I have tried: Nothing I just watched him ruin her relationships. I think it was caused by: Jealousy and the fact he may still have feelings for her, but what kind?

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