Make a May-December Relationship Work

Edited by Maria Sharon Ubando, Lynn, Robbi, Eng


All is fair in love and war. We often hear people say age does not matter when we fall for a person, for love knows no boundaries like in the cases of May-December love affairs. While some of these types of relationships fail, there are those that succeed.

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If you are in this situation right now or are planning to enter into one, you may want to read over some of the tips on how a May-December relationship can work.


How to Make the Relationship Work

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    Listen to Your Feelings.
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    Ask yourself why you want the relationship and if you are really ready to be in it. If you are the younger partner, you may just want to have a mother or father figure - one who can care and protect you at all times. Now, if you are the older one, ask yourself, "Do I really love this person or do I just want boost my ego?", or "Would I be able to keep up with her energy-wise and socially?" Bottom line is: If you think you are ready to be with a partner way older/younger than you are, then go for it, so long as you make clear what your feelings really are.
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    Having the Common Denominator.
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    Besides age, it is important that you two enjoy common things together. If you are active then it may hinder you from doing some activities with your older partner.
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    Be Ready for Challenges.
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    While it is true that May-December couples are becoming more socially accepted now, you can still get stares from people around you. If this would be an issue for you, then you are obviously not ready for this setup yet.
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    Don't Change or Change Your Partner.
    You belong to two different worlds, so you should accept that. Your interests may vary (lucky you if your partner shares the same interests as you). He listens to pop and you like the 80's music or she loves to watch tear-jerking soaps and you like UFC. Don't force your partner to like what you like, but try to like what they like and you will in return find that he or she will also show interest in your likes.
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    Be Healthy for Your Partner.
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    If you are with a younger partner, it is important that you keep yourself healthy, especially if he or she is active. If your partner exercises, you may want to join. If you are too anxious that people will stare at you with a younger partner, then take care of your appearance, especially your skin.
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    Get the Romance Accepted by Everyone.
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    Of course you should not expect that these relationships will be accepted immediately. At some point, even the closest people to you will discourage you to continue with it. While you should be open to what other people think about your romance, it will still be you in the end who has the final say. Do not force them to accept the situation. Just go on with it and be happy. Prove to everyone that you made the right decision and that you are happy with it. When they see that you are satisfied with your decision, then they will later on learn to accept and respect your decision.
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    Just be happy with the decision you made and make the most of it with your chosen partner.
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