Make Your Boss Fall in Love with You

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Beyond respecting him as a boss, you like him a lot. You don't want to pursue him brazenly because your job and professional relationship mean a lot to you, and you want him to respect you as a person. Yet, you want to find a way to make him notice you, appreciate you and eventually fall in love with you.

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Tough job! This is when the art of subtle seduction can work. Read this wiki to learn how to seduce your boss.

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Stand Out!

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    Don't be somebody you're not
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    Guys can always tell if you're not being yourself, so don't bother trying to be somebody else, especially if you're doing it to impress your boss. Once he smells you're being phony, there's a big chance you're just going to turn him off.
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    Be a head-turner
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    By this it doesn't mean you wear flimsy clothing to work! Micro-mini skirts or plunging necklines will catch his attention, yes, but may give him the wrong impression. Look chic and smart, and easy on the eyes. Learn how to do your makeup right to accentuate your best features. Also, make sure you smell nice. Make sure your perfume is not too strong though because he might end up sneezing all day long!
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    Be a good listener
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    Guys love to talk, especially when it comes to their interests (which includes talking about themselves). So just let him talk and listen intently. Nod reassuringly to show that you are also interested. When it's your turn to talk, make sure what you're about to say is substantial, something to complement the things he just said, but without sounding patronizing. Most importantly, know when to stop talking because guys don't like it when they're no longer in charge of the conversation.
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    Learn how to take his jokes
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    Guys love it when girls have a sense of humor, especially when you know how to laugh at their jokes, and it makes them feel really good about themselves. You don't have to do a laugh-your-heart-out outlandish kind of reaction; a good, soft, flirty laugh is enough to do the trick.
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    Maintain a great disposition - no matter what
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    Things aren't always perfect, especially in a corporate working environment - temperatures rise, anger flares, and you need to learn to keep your cool, no matter what. When your boss knows he can turn to you because you're cool, calm and confident under pressure, he will appreciate you more. Always stay positive, smiling and cheerful, and be genuine while doing it. If there is one thing that is attractive to a boss, it is a team member who is giving off positive energy even when everyone else is negative.
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    Be nice to everyone
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    He'll definitely notice you if you're nice to him, but he will notice you more if you are nice to everyone and he figures out what a nice gal you are, no matter whom you're dealing with. Treat the janitor the same way you treat your boss, with respect and dignity. The more you do this, the more he'll know what an awesome, gorgeous, smart girl you really are.
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    Subtle flirting works
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    Again, don't be too obvious. You want him, but not the entire company to know you like him, right? So make "your moves" in a subtle way. Smile a little, laugh a little, flip your hair a bit - you know, things only he will notice you are doing. If your boss has a good radar, he'll get the message.
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    Be unique
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    Don't expect your boss to notice you if you're like every Tom, Dick, and Harry at the office, or in the female case, every plain Jane. Find ways to stand out without being overbearing, arrogant, or stepping on other people's toes. Get your ideas and messages across without stomping on your co-workers' ideas as well. Work well and get along with everybody. Bosses love team players because they are selfless, have concern for others, and work well under pressure - important elements that are also needed for a relationship to work.
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Be the Best Employee - Ever!

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    Always keep your word
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    It doesn't matter whether you're in the rank and file or occupying a supervisory or managerial position. Once you say you're going to do something at a given time or date, you better do it. From the simplest of things, such as punctuality and replying to correspondence, to bigger responsibilities, like finishing your assigned project on or before a deadline, reaching your target quota, etc., your boss will notice these things. The more you are consistent in these things that you do, the more highly he will think of you.
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    Own up to your shortcomings
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    Nobody's perfect, and no matter how hard you try, there will be times when you will ... well, screw up. When this happens, don't be on the defensive right away; own up to it, even when it's not your fault. For instance, if you were late for a presentation because there was a vehicular accident and you were stuck in traffic, just tell them to go on and that you'll just catch up with the things they've already tackled. If your boss confronts you about why you were late, just tell him the truth; they can almost always smell it when a lie is being told.
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    Stop complaining and start suggesting
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    Complaining about something will get you nowhere. If the problem is already evident, there's no point rubbing it in. Your boss will better appreciate it if you come up with logical suggestions or solutions to the problem rather than if you continue rattling on about how ineffective your current sales and marketing strategies are.
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    Show initiative
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    Especially if you are in a huge company, don't expect your boss to notice every single thing that you do that definitely calls for a promotion. Learn to be bold yet respectful. If you want to go up the ladder, you have to make sure you know your capabilities as an employee and the type and gravity of the responsibilities you can take on. Find out which areas may need your assistance or your field of expertise, then ask your boss if you can take on the job. Sooner or later, he'll realize you deserve something bigger and better than what you're doing right now.
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    Get along with everybody
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    Of course, this is not easy, especially when there are different personalities you need to deal with, and there may even be some who you find so obnoxious you cannot stand being in the same room with them. The thing is, you have no choice, especially if you're working with this person in the same team or department. You don't need to be the best of friends; you just need to find a way to work around your differences and get things done. It will be much better, however, if you can truly manage to get on their good side because things will be faster and easier to manage. When your boss sees how good you are with interpersonal relationships and that you do everything you can to avoid personal and professional conflicts with your co-workers, that's another plus for you.
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    Don't be a suck-up
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    There are plenty of ways you can make your boss's life easier for him without being too obvious, looking like you're trying too hard to be noticed, or worse, appearing that you're being a suck-up. Always stay cool, calm, and confident, no matter what the situation is, and don't linger in his office more than necessary. When you're done discussing something, work wise, leave. Flirting in his office is never, ever, a good idea.
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Okay, say you're done with step one, being the best employee ever, and he has noticed you, has begun to think you are a wonderful employee, and wants to go a notch higher. What do you do next, without creating an awkward atmosphere for everyone inside the office?

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Handling Inter-Office Relationships

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    Don't live in a fantasy world
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    Even if he has already shown interest in you and even has asked you out, which you agreed to, don't keep your expectations too high. It may work out, or it may not. Just remember that no matter what the outcome may be, he will still be your boss and you must learn to live with that reality, as difficult as it may be.
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    Map out a plan together
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    Before things get really serious between the two of you, talk about how you will handle things in the workplace. Must everyone know, or would you rather keep things hush-hush and give each other time to adjust to the idea of the two of you becoming a couple, without having to deal with people talking behind your back? Either way, you must be prepared for the consequences of your actions, even if it means getting ready for the worst, and reviewing your work options outside the organization in case you will have to leave. Of course, it is possible that both of you can agree beforehand that nothing will change work wise, regardless of the outcome of your relationship.
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    Don't make people feel awkward around you
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    Sooner or later people will find out about the two of you, and when the time comes you may notice a couple of changes here and there. Co-workers who used to be so close to you may begin to keep their distance, if only for the reason that they fear you may be telling your boss personal things about them. You have to assure them that this will not happen and you will always be the same trustworthy person they've known. Also, avoid showing affection or even subtle flirtation while inside the office. Be the same professional employee you've always been at work.
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TIPS on How to Proceed Professionally when You Have Failed Romantically

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  • Be a good sport.This is not to make light of your broken heart.
    • A failed relationship is always hard to deal with. However, if you have accepted from the very beginning that there is a possibility that things may not work out after you decided to take the plunge, then it will be easier to deal with it in the end.
    • Stop dwelling on the past because it will certainly get you nowhere. If you play your cards right, your boss will appreciate you more now because he knows you are a true professional, no matter what.
    • Prove to him that you can still be as effective, if not more efficient in your work, and more driven than you'll ever be.
  • Avoid bringing up the past. What's done is done, and there is absolutely no point bringing it up again and again. You can still be friends, yes, but try to keep a safe distance from now on. As much as possible, look for love outside the workplace, so that the repercussions will not have any bearing on your career, just in case, your romance goes downhill.

Don't try too hard to make your boss fall in love with you because it can be a real turn off. Try not to make the first move, and always be subtle in your ways. First and foremost, be an awesome employee, because that's the one step you can be sure will really make him notice you. Do this, and the rest will likely follow.

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Questions and Answers

How to overcome my feelings of love for my boss?

I fell in love with my boss and we have not talked about it with each other. I don't want to carry on with this relationship so how can I move end the relationship and not negatively affect my job? Do I have to quit my job now?

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The only way out without hurting your work relationship with your boss is to make him stop liking you. One way to do get someone to stop liking you is to make yourself less attractive. If that doesn't work you can try smothering him with so much attention it turns him off. Don't give him any space. Be over the top crazy about him. Guys don't like it if you are over the top and don't give them any space. He will soon drop you, and you are free. Plus this method will allow you to "get him out of your system" too :)

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Ways to see your boss is in love with you?

How can I tell if my boss is really in love with me?

You will know by how he interacts with others. Watch how close he stands to other people, and then see how close he comes to you in comparison when he's leaning over to help you with something, or just standing near you. You can also look for these signs:

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    Does he avoid eye contact with you, but look others in the eye
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    This is a sure sign that he's uncomfortable looking in your eyes for too long because he knows he might show his emotions.
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    Does he fidget when he's alone with you
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    For example, see how he interacts with others, and then look to see if he shifts from one foot to the other, or changes his hand positions, perhaps fiddling with his fingers in the process. This is a sign that his mind is on more than just what you're talking about.
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    Does he stand up when you come in
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    For example, many times a person will bring something to the boss, such as documents, or papers. He will usually remain seated, and take the documents, while the person talks and remains standing. Does he ask you to sit, or stand up himself and come around the desk as an excuse to be near you? This is a sure sign that he likes you, and he is showing you physical signs that others don't receive.
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Just be careful, because others may notice some of these things too.

If you want to reel him in, leave your keys in the office one Friday night, and call him to help you. Let him know that you're locked out of your car, and you aren't sure what to do. When he shows up, thank him, and stand close to him. Tell him, "I'm so glad you came. I was so scared that I wouldn't be able to get anyone to help me, but I thought of you first. You're always so in control, and know what to do. I just feel so silly now. Have you ever forgotten your keys before? Now you've complimented him but asked him to answer something that wasn't a compliment. This will relax him, and make him more comfortable.

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Ask if you can take him out, since it's Friday, and you want to thank him. Alternatively, when he gets to your home, insist that he comes in for a cup of coffee or a drink. You can have a conveniently hidden spare key to get in your house or apartment. When you're making the coffee, tell him that you're starved, and ask if he'd like some food. Then you can break out a bottle of wine, or something else he might like. The rest is up to you.

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You can later remember that you think you have a spare set of keys on your desk.

What is wrong with me? I'm falling in love with my boss?

What is wrong with me? I'm falling in love with my boss.

If you have fallen in love with your boss it does not necessarily mean that there is something wrong with you. Many people experience either reciprocated or unreciprocated affections from a boss for whom they have developed feelings. This only becomes a problem if you act upon feelings that have no basis in reality. Having a crush on someone who is unavailable is one thing but to obsess about your boss or believe that he has feelings for you without being asked out by him, dating him or having a conversation with him is a symptom of a disorder called erotomania. If you have approached your boss and expressed your feelings for him and he has told you to back off, then you need to take him at his word that he means no. If you are monitoring his emails, stalking him on social media or even in person, then you have issues. If you believe that he loves you back but does not want to move forward with you romantically because he is "in denial", "is keeping your relationship secret from his ex" or "needs to be nurtured" then it is possible that you are the one in denial, suffering from unrequited love obsession or erotomania.

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Can I make my boss totally fall in love with me?

I'm still an experiential, he has been helping me financially and once asked me to come for lunch at his home, but I refused because I was shy but now I can't stop thinking about him

Invite him for lunch by stating that since you had to refuse his offer, you would like to make it up to him. Send him a thank you note for the extra help he has given you recently. Look for opportunities to have conversations with him throughout the day without obviously hurting your productivity.

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How to know if your boss is attracted to you?

It would most likely result in an awkward situation if you ask your boss if he's attracted to you, but there are a few ways to tell how he's feeling by his body language. Learn how to Tell by a Man's Body Language if He Likes You, and if he's displaying several signs of attraction, you can decide whether or not to confront him.

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What should you do if your director is in love with you and you are not sure you like him but you do want to get promoted?

If you are qualified for the promotion and you have concrete proof that he did not promote you because of your rejection towards his romantic advances, you can file a law suit of sexual harassment in the workplace. Do not risk your career for a relationship with him. If you feel a risk you will always wonder if you got the promotion because you were dating him or if perhaps he did not give the promotion to you so that he appeared impartial to others.

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How to seduce your boss?

  • Every time you are in close contact with your boss try to quickly brush up against his upper arm.
  • Flirt yet at the same time make him laugh. People gravitate towards happiness subconsciously. Also, you should avoid being too obvious, which could turn him off right away.
  • Make the fact that you are single visible to him.
  • Find ways to be alone with your boss. Offer to stay late for example.
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Before you do any of these tips, evaluate if you need your job or not. Your advances towards your boss or a resulting relationship with your boss could mean the end of your job, and quite possibly you will lose more than you thought you would.

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How do I flirt with a friend who is the president of a club?

I asked my club's president out on a date, she said she is not interested and prefers to keep our relationship professional

You don't flirt with your Club President as she has requested you keep your relationship professional. Keep it professional out of respect for her and her position.

I have a crush on my boss. She is married and a few years older than me. It has been driving me crazy. Should I just come clean and let her know how I feel?

I have a crush on my boss. She is married and a few years older than me. It has been driving me crazy. Should I just come clean and let her know how I feel?

No, you should not reveal your feelings to your married boss. What would you expect to gain from telling her that you have a crush on her? What most likely will happen is she will feel uncomfortable around you which will then have her evaluating your work performance looking for a reason to fire you.

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How can I attract a female with a higher position than me to be my girlfriend?

We have a new female Program Manager with our Organization, and I feel like I am attracted to her, but feeling afraid to tell her, because she is in a higher position than me as well we are in different departments. What shall I do??. I have tried: Nothing, except I asked her about her nationality and told her that I have worked with some people from her country, they were very nice people and her country also is a very beautiful country and everyone like It.. I think it was caused by: Rules of the organization, also we are from different backgrounds as well she is in a higher position than me.

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If there are rules in the organization that you can't romantically socialize. it is best that you do not let her know unless you are willing to find another job. You have left hints to her already and she is not responding back with her own hints. Take that as a sign that she does not feel the same way or that she is not willing to go against the organization rules.

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I am taking a new position as sales manager. I would like to impress my boss and become his blue eyed boy?

My problem is I do not know what to talk to my boss and carry a long interesting and meaningful conversation. Could you help.. I have tried: Limit my discussion to the point. I think it was caused by: Don't know. can't get too personal with him.

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Look for clues around his office of what he has a personal interest in. It may be something as simple as a sports team logo on his coffee mug that can allow you to open a more meaningful conversation with him.

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See if he always orders a food item and one day bring that in for him before he has a chance to order it. Say something like you were picking up a similar item and got his while you were there. He may feel obligated to speak with you further after that.

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Ask him to look over a work document that you created and let him know you value his wisdom and would like his opinion on improvements. This will make him feel like a hero without even realizing what you are actually doing.

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If you have problems with any of the steps in this article, please ask a question for more help, or post in the comments section below.

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