Edited by Ian Gabriel T. Tolledo, Lynn, Eng
Nearly all of us have experienced the pain of a broken relationship. Whether it be a friend, lover or a family member, ending a relationship with a person you used to be with is a very bad experience indeed. Some say that when bitterness finds its way into a relationship, it will never be the same. But time heals all wounds - even from broken relationships. If you think it's the right time to move on and mend your broken heart, then you must walk on thin ice. It will take time and patience to bring back what once was. Read on!
- 1Think it over.Advertisement
- 2Consider compromise.Pride has no place in an honest relationship. It only makes forgiving hard and burdensome. If both you and the person you want to mend the relationship with have done bad things to each other, you need to just forgive. Talk with the person, speak about your concerns and talk about why you got angry in the first place.Advertisement
- 4Get real.Now this is important - some people only want to mend a broken relationship just for the sake of not having someone as an enemy, or just because it's burdensome not to. The key principle in all relationships has always been honesty. Note that while using the fast lane in mending a relationship may work for a while, the time will come when this will cause you and the person more grief and potentially a more broken relationship, if the real problem wasn't ever addressed.
Preparing for the result
You should remember that not all relationships can be mended just because you want them to, and sometimes a longer time is needed for relationships to begin mending again. You can't just hurt another person's feelings one day and expect him to forgive you the next, instantly. However, if the person does go with your attempt to reconcile and is willing to make up with you at the same time. You must not waste it, bellow are two of the possible outcome you may encounter when trying to mend a broken relationship.
- 1Hopefully, your attempt has been successful.Advertisement
Tips, tricks and warnings
- Never blame the person you're trying to get along with for how he or she "made" you feel a certain way. Take responsibility for your own actions, words and emotions.
- If you say that you are willing to change, be sure you're going to.
- Love the person as you know they deserve to be loved.
- Identify what the real issue was; you'll only go circles if you don't.
- Find attainable, reasonable and mutually acceptable solutions.
- Apologize sincerely and not out of necessity.
- Listen to the Bee Gees.  :)
- If you have problems with any of these steps, ask a question for more help, or post in the comments section below.