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Compose a Suitable Message for Your Girlfriend if You Find Out She Has Been Cheating

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Be Friends After Being Lovers is a VisiHow article with some suggestions for you. Depending on how the relationship ended and why she left you, it may take time for her to accept your friendship. When you write to her an important thing to express is that you value her place in your life and if it can't be as your girlfriend then you will accept a friendship with her. Do not sound overly obsessed when you write this letter. Understand that she may need a clean break from you and if that is the case you need to accept that and move on.

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It is not easy to fall into place as friends right away unless you were always basically friends during the relationship and made a mutual decision to end the relationship. You may experience jealousy when you find out she is dating someone else but as her friend, you will need to be happy for her.

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If you caused the break up with some action or behavior, apologize in the letter you write to her. If she left because she was interested in someone else, do not mention that in the letter or the reason for the break up if it was caused by no action of yours.

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Want the girlfriend to make efforts to gain my trust again cause she wants to be with me?

She cheated on me twice with the same guy even after getting caught the first time. The second time, she's sorry and still wants to be with me. I need her to show me loyalty and seriousness.


While you may need her to respond a certain way, people sometimes think they are already doing that. If you feel that she is not being sincere enough then perhaps you need to tell her exactly what you need from her. She may have thought she was already doing enough. Unfortunately, she has cheated on you twice. The distrust felt from this is a gaping hole in your relationship. Both of you have to be willing to make some compromise for any resolution. You should take this time to evaluate if the relationship is worth all of the pain you are feeling. No relationship is ever perfect. But if you think you will never get over her transgression and move on, then there is no point in staying in the relationship.

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My girlfriend left me without telling me about the breakup?

I want to arrange a meeting my girlfriend who broke up with me without telling me, she even didn't speak with me on the phone. She just sent me an email. She lives in Assam and I live in Kashmir. I have tried: I tried to reach her by sending her many emails and even went to her place but her parents said she's not there she is away studying outside of the State and they do not have her contact information. I even tried calling her mom. I think it was caused by: Religion. I'm a Muslim and she is Hindu.

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She sent that email because it was too painful to break up with you any other way OR her parents sent that email out of her account. Either way, it is sad that your relationship did not survive. You have done all you could do by going to her front door to speak with her in person. It seems her family is interfering because of the religious differences. Many 1st generation immigrants still have to fight the stigma with their families because of former religious restrictions that have become culture. Recently, a show in Canada called Hello, Goodbye featured a couple in your situation that met while at a University in Canada. They were flying back to their country knowing that their relationship was about to be banned in their prospective families. No one wants to feel disapproval from their family or those they love in a relationship. Being torn between the two opposing sides can cause a person to have to make a final decision. If she truly loves you, she will find a way to contact you. Should you not hear from her, then you need to move on and respect her decision.

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My girlfriend wants to leave the relationship,what should I do?

My girlfriend wants to leave the relationship,what should I do?

Ask for what her reasons are to leave the relationship. Then you can ask for a grace period to show her that you love her and want her in your life so you will make an effort. If she is asking you for major changes then she is not the right person for you. If you keep making mistakes because you are clueless at how to be in a relationship then own up to that.

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I guess that my girlfriend has another Facebook account?

When I ask my girlfriend that do you have another Facebook account?she replied no!!! but I believe that she had another Facebook account...please help

There are people that have numerous accounts on social media because they got locked out and just started a new one. Then you have the spoofers that swipe your profile photo and name for their phishing scams. Show her the proof of the second account. If she says she does not have one, then it is probably one of the two situations. Also, even I have social media accounts that are the same as others because of my name. I do not know the person, nor is the account mine but we share the same name. Even if she did have a second account, this does not mean that she is cheating. Some people have a second account for personal so that their main account stays professional. What you should do is ask yourself why you have insecurity in the relationship. Do not try to control your girlfriend because this will push her away or cause resentment towards you.

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I am asking my girlfriend for money but does not want to give me but I really need this money but I am in a different place?

I need money from my girlfriend

Money can be the root of all evil in a relationship. Many relationships fail because of money. You have asked and she has said no. If you want to still stay in the relationship then you will have to accept her answer. She said no for a reason whether it be that she does not trust you, can't spare the funds, or feels that you should economically stand on your own two feet.

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What should I tell her, she lied to me yesterday?

She lied to me yesterday that she is going to see her sick friend and later I saw her inside a boy's car. I have tried: Have not been talking to her. I think it was caused by: Nothing

Have you asked her why she was in a boy's car? Perhaps this boy brought her home from visiting the friend or is the friend's brother. There could be numerous reasons as to why she was in the car. Jumping to the fact that she lied or is cheating on you is not a good way to approach it.

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I want to write a letter telling someone that I want to marry her?

Guide me on how to write the letter to my special one I want to marry. I have tried: Because I don't kno how to write it

Awesome Ways Propose to Your Girlfriend is a VisiHow article that can give you some ideas. As a female, I have to warn that proposing via a letter is not the best way to go about it. There are few scenarios where sending a letter of a marriage proposal is deemed romantic enough such as if you are serving in the military and can't Skype or leave. If you are intent on planning it this way, I recommend you write a letter listing all the ways that she enriches your life. You can even add a plan for your future together. Then arrange for her to meet you on Skype when she opens the letter so that you can be there for the reaction. You could propose to her over video chat at that point. The right thing to do would be to speak to her parents first to ask for her hand in marriage. Although this is an antiquated tradition, if she lived near them, you could arrange for their help in the proposal such as getting flowers or a token of your relationship. You could also send them the funds to pick an engagement ring or purchase one online and mail it to her parents.

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My caution in this is that girls dream of their marriage proposal from very early on in childhood. You do not have to make it a big production but you do need to show that you put some effort and thought into the proposal.

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Hello, I need help on how to break up with my girlfriend?

We have been together for 5 years now, and she doesn't have time with me and she only comes to my house late at night every day and she always gives excuses when it comes to sex, so I'm tired of living in such relationship, and it's affecting me a lot. Please help on how to say goodbye?

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[Break up with your partner]] is a VisiHow article with advice on how to break up with the least amount of damage. Here is my advice based on your situation. Sex is not the be all end all of a relationship. As a relationship progresses, and you start a family or career, sex is often pushed to the side. If you really love someone, physical intimacy should be a bonus and not a deal breaker. If you feel that she has less time for you, then tell her honestly about how you feel lonely in the relationship. 5 years is a long time to invest in a relationship. Unless you are under the age of 25, you should already have decided on marriage or future plans with her. Perhaps her distance emotionally is that she feels that you do not take your relationship with her seriously. If you can't marry her right away, you can at least make a promise of commitment or perhaps suggest that she moves in with you.

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My girlfriend lied and said she had to go see a sick relative?

My girlfriend lied to me, said she had to go see her sick relative, I found out she did not go see this relative or other relatives she said she was going to see. I know she was cheating, I still love her, but I can not deal with the lies. Is it better to just tell her flat out I know? Or to let her do what she wants until she moves on? Well, I know she is cheating, but she does not know I know. So how do I go from here? I have tried: I asked her to tell me where she was and she lied. I think it was caused by: She is not happy with our financial situation and is looking for a sugar daddy, or so it seems from what I found in her purse.

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Do not ride this out with her and just wait for her to leave. Confront her with your knowledge of how she lied. She will not be happy that you went through her purse but ask for an explanation about what you found. If she does not come clean or give you an answer that you can live with, then break up with her.

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