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33 Sure Signs Your Husband Is Cheating

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I have a feeling my husband is cheating. Do I go with my feelings?

Have a feeling my husband is cheating. Do I go with my feelings? I have tried: Nothing. I think it was caused by: I guess it is sex

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The loss of your sex life in a relationship can be a physical complication like low testosterone and your husband may not be cheating. Look for other signs like unaccounted for time away from home and extra cash being taken out from the bank account or weird purchases on the credit cards. If you still feel that something is wrong, it is time to ask him why your sex life has changed and what can you both do to resolve the issue.

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I keep going back and forth on whether he is cheating or not?

I just got out of prison and he was there for me the whole time (that shows commitment right?), but now the anger is coming out for what I put him through. We have been together 15 years and have been secure in our relationship and have interests outside of each other. Now they seem to be morose. I need more attention because I've been gone so long, and his anger is keeping him away. He said he loved me up until about 4 weeks ago. Not to mention he's withdrawing from Suboxone and that is an excuse he's using. I cannot deal with this emotional roller-coaster. He denies cheating, but I don't know. I have tried: Confrontation, sneakiness ( I just don't like the insecure person I've become). I think it was caused by: Me causing financial problems and going to prison

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You both are under a significant adjustment period. You just got out of prison and he is withdrawing from prescription pain medications. Suboxone withdrawals can be extremely painful almost like if he was withdrawing from Heroin. If he is in a treatment program, he has been told to keep his relationship separate from his recovery process so that may be the reason for the withdrawal from you. This is a lot to handle right away. You get home and he goes into recovery. You both have grown emotionally apart while you were away and need to regain the connection again. Give him time to work on his recovery and then ask to slowly get back to when things were good between you both before you went to prison. There most likely is no cheating occurring but instead, just several serious life changes happening for both of you that he does not know how to handle currently in recovery. This VisiHow article titled Refresh your relationship has some great tips for renewing the love between couples.

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How do I confront him about cheating?

Since December there has been a big change in his behavior - he has started to shave (clean shave) fussy about his ties matching his shirts, needs at least 1hr to get ready, started to go to work late because of his too busy getting ready. hides his phones from me and never lets me have them, always kept it with him (work phone and personal). Never comes back from work on time saying there is so much work he has to got complete. Never comes to bed on time always pops next door the house we supposed to move into and is gone for hours - at this point I've fallen asleep. I have managed to check his personal phone in the morning as I wake up well before him and he has started to delete calls he has made, so it is only me or his dad showing, I've read his messages (which I think he forgot to delete) and he is talking to another woman - soppy messages, lots of babe, love you, buying her stuff, etc.... I checked his phone today and he has deleted her texts. I poured my heart out to him hoping for some reaction but nothing. I ask him whether he loves or misses me and nothing. he has even changed my phone name to ritzy instead of wifey. I've checked his emails and he is buying stuff which he is having sent to his work address, what shall I do?

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Move Forward After Infidelity is a VisiHow article that will help you to learn how to deal with the infidelity. At this point, you know he is cheating. You need to determine if you want to work on the marriage or walk away. He will have to agree to also work on the marriage and stop whatever he is doing with this other woman. You can't overcome infidelity in a marriage if only one partner is willing to do the work.

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You need to find a marriage counselor and see them either by yourself or as a couple. Marriage counseling is a phenomenal way to rebuild trust and learn that his cheating had absolutely nothing to do with you. Hold your head up high and do not let his horrid behavior ruin your self-esteem. Consult with a divorce attorney to see what steps you need to take to at least file a formal separation to protect assets gained in the marriage.

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I want to know where my marriage is heading?

Hi I am 19 and my husband is 31, its an arranged marriage, and from the time we were married (5 months now), I have only been crying. I feel miserable staying with him because intimacy does not exist between us, we both were in a relation before marriage but something is not clicking between us. He tells me that he married me because he wanted to get me out of the mess I was in (previous relationship) and he even tells me that everyone was surprised when he said yes to me as he only likes thin girls and I'm on the fatter side. Sexually I personally feel he does everything for the heck of it. When we are between family and people we are like the ideal lovers but alone we are like strangers. The little touches, little compliments, and appreciation is never there from his side, and he always shows as if it is my fault for every possible thing

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He has something called the "Savior Complex". He thinks that what he did by marrying you was the greatest gift because he saved you from horrible misery. People with this complex will push aside the other person after they are "rescued". They also will only see the other person as weak. You are both now married and yet he plays a game in public of devoting you then tears you down in private. This arrangement sounds as though it is not going to work unless something changes. For now, you need to back away from him. This does not mean move out necessarily. Build a life that does not involve him. Join a club or organization and volunteer your time. Hang out with friends in the evenings and weekends. Deny his sexual advances. Instead, when you do spend time together ask that it only be done with him in the right frame of mind wanting to get to know you. Do nothing sexual for 30 days. After a year if things do not improve it would be best for you to move on from this arrangement. Otherwise, you will be miserable for the rest of your life with someone who does not value you the way that you should be.

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How to know if my man is cheating?

He spends more time with his family and me. I have tried: Nothing. I think it was caused by: Me quarreling

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Is my husband cheating or having an affair with another girl?

My husband and I are having a long distance relationship. He works abroad for 1 year. I just want to know if he's having an affair with another girl. I have tried: He gets angry on just little things. I think it was caused by: He easily gets mad every time I checked on gum, why he wakes up late, or why he didn't call me.

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I think my boyfriend is cheating on me with a woman in China, how can I know for sure?

When my boyfriend came back from China he had some different moves in the bedroom. We used to give each other back rubs in the beginning of the relationship, then you move to the next level. Then all of the sudden he wants to start doing the oil rubs again out of the blue. That made me suspicious. I have heard him talking to her on the phone and overheard him tell her he loves her and can't wait to see her again, I asked him about it and he denied it. I have asked him to give me her phone number or email address so I can talk to her but, he refused. But in the next breath, he tells me he has nothing to prove. I tell him if that's true he shouldn't have a problem giving them to me. He tells me that I'm wrong and when he proves it I will be saying I'm sorry for the rest of my life. I'm still head over heels in love with him and told him if he tells me the truth I will forgive him.. I have tried: Just talking to him. Unlike other men, he likes to talk a lot. I think it was caused by: I have some health issues and there was a time that we couldn't be as intimate as we were in the past.

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My husband and we had a problem, in fact, he is cheating but if I ask him, he is turning cards back on me?

I asked him the day before yesterday if he is cheating or not, but he said no, then I called the girl she said he wants him and his behavior changed, what should I do, must I leave him or what?

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I am just wondering how can I know if he is cheating or if I'm being paranoid?

We've been together for almost six years and almost married a year. We have had our share of arguments but it seems like he is now so defensive, answers a question with a question or with smart remarks instead of providing an answer. I created an album of him and I and uploaded it to Facebook and when he saw the album he said to me "You should have consulted me about this before you put this up there". I tagged him to all the pictures and he hid them so that the pics wouldn't show on his wall. Then, recently he was gone to handle business but ended up with friends; however, he was gone the entire day and evening (for 15 hours). I got so mad that I left. It's like he didn't even care. He took his lock off of his cell phone but only because he acted so secretive with it and I kept saying something about it. However, I noticed when I looked in his pictures one day, that some of them appeared blocked or darkened so I grew suspicious. At times he is dishonest and I catch his inconsistencies but he tries to hurry and cover up. We are planning our wedding currently, but he hasn't helped with anything but choosing the venue. Cake tasting, searching for DJ services, picking out attire for the wedding party, etc.....I have been doing myself or either with the help of my mom or sister. He clearly seems to have some of the signs mentioned but is there any other ways to find out definitely?. I have tried: I've tried talking to him, asking him, and looking through his phone. He seems to not give a straight answer; instead, he asks "why are you asking me that" or he will say "really....you're asking me that...I'm not answering that because you should already know the answer". When I used to look at his phone, he always gave me the incorrect passcode. Now that the passcode is off, I think that he blocks and hides things so I won't be able to access certain conversations or pictures. Then there are some unidentified numbers in his phone as well. I think it was caused by: I have no idea. Like I said, we've had our share of arguments, but we try to have talked and start over but it seems to always go back to the same issues.

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Is he cheating with his ex-girlfriend? He is the most loving and caring husband ever

Whenever I annoy him, he calls other girls. My husband has a tendency of calling another person whenever we argue. It is annoying and hurts my feelings, but there no signs of him cheating whatsoever.. I have tried: I always ask him about it and he tells me the excuse that I annoy him that's why he talks to other people. I think it was caused by: It's always my fault because I have been doing stuff behind my back. The worst of it, he recently found out I was chatting with my ex behind his back

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I think my husband is secretly chatting with someone else?

My husband has always been a gadget man, probably like most men. We have been married for three years and I have always trusted him, never had any doubts about our marriage. He works away all week and comes home at weekend. Recently he bought himself a second phone, and then a SIM for this phone. Again I never questioned it but over the last few months, I have caught him being shady with his phone. My attention was caught when he took a private call in our kitchen, normally he would tell me straight away who had phoned, but he didn't and he doesn't normally whisper, but on this occasion he did. When I asked him why he was whispering he said he didn't want to disturb me and told me it was his mate. Just that, raised suspicion in me for the first time ever I doubted him. I have asked him could I have his number for the new phone, just in case I cannot get hold of him if necessary on the usual number. He told me he doesn't use the phone so doesn't need to give the number out? And now when he is home he has his phone on silent, he acts shady in front of me, for instance, if I pass him, I have noticed he has a message box open, and when I pass he shuts it quickly. This has happened on several occasions and I have obviously challenged him. He denies he is talking to someone else. I asked him could I see his phone if he had nothing to hide and he points blank said no. I cannot get access to his phone because he carries it everywhere with him, which incidentally he never did before. We are now at loggerheads over this, I have told him what I think, he denies it, and I know he is being secretive with his phone. Of course, he tries to make me feel guilty for his behavior. I feel as though I cannot trust him anymore, this is the second marriage for both of us, my first marriage ended with my ex-husband doing exactly the same with his phone, he denied it and has since married the person he was messaging. Like I have said I never had any doubts before, but his behavior with his phone is just creating suspicion. He is trying to make out it is my imagination, we tried to sort things out, I tried to brush it under the carpet, hoping we could solve this, and within the weekend we spend together because of his work, it all started again, him getting messages after midnight, then telling me it was an update for the weather. Then disappears to the toilet for 20 minutes or more...with his phone. Then tells me he is going downstairs to make a drink and is gone for over an hour. When I questioned why it was taking so long to make a brew, he said he was feeling sick and would stay by the toilet downstairs so as not to disturb me (with his phone), which I found strange seeing as we have a toilet upstairs too. Please tell me I am right to be this suspicious because I am at a point where I just want to end the marriage, I don't want to go through all this pain and uncertainty again! I'm not sure whether it is different, but for this to happen in a second marriage is strange. I have tried: I have confronted him and tried to talk, he denies anything and then will not talk about it anymore, says he doesn't want to keep going over old ground. I think it was caused by: Just the fact that he is being secretive with his phone, he doesn't phone or message chat with me as much as he used to. That he is acting suspiciously with his phone

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Should I trust my gut? Is my husband cheating with the woman that has been taking up so much of his time and attention lately?

My husband has a female friend that he hid from me (until I caught him on the phone with her) for several months. The two of them are extremely close, and when I've tried to insert myself or be her friend (because I don't like feeling like the third wheel in my marriage) she doesn't really respond. They text and talk all hours of the day and night, he's given her over 00 that I know about to help her financially since she doesn't have a job, he sends her pictures and "checking in" messages that even I don't get, and he offers to buy her little things she likes, like milkshakes or hot chocolate. I've confronted him before but it always turns into an argument. My husband and I have a beautiful 1.5-year-old daughter and I just want our family to be happy, but it's difficult when this other woman (whom he talks about at least a few times each and every day) is kind of like a wedge, and he's said that he is going to continue being friends with her. Does it sound like cheating? I know it sounds like an emotional affair. How should I approach things?

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Why is my wife thinking that I am cheating on her, and I am not?

She is always on my phone looking for evidence and always around me when in the house while I am answering the phone to hear what I am saying and wants to know who are the people and who calls me on new numbers. I have tried: complained to her on the same. I think it was caused by: she always feels she is not beautiful for me and that, when I am given a chance, I will look for somebody else.

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She is being possessive, where her feelings to you as a person mix with the feelings to you as her own property that should be with her all of the time. Also, it might be her transferred feelings: some men and women are too jealous because they cheat and know how it might be not hard to do (please take a look at our article entitled "How to tell if your wife is cheating". These people take full control in their hands. You have to talk to your wife and let her realize that you have hobbies, that you have other friends and relatives with whom you might spend time, and that you want to have privacy to focus and relax sometimes. If you are controlled your entire life and you install a spy program on your smartphone, then it might be even worse. Business trips, relaxing with friends after work, and even staying late at work will reflect negatively on your relationship. All you have to do is get professional advice, preferably with your wife visiting the consultant as soon as possible.

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He been taking me he's wanted me all day now he can't get a hard on n normally after sex he can't get it up did he cheat on me?

He's told me I don't think I can get a hard on

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I've been married for 20 years. The past 5 years my husband has become very different... could he be cheating? And if so, how do I get him to confess?

My husband is out most days of the week until 2-3AM. I'm lucky if he gets home at all on a Friday or Saturday night. I've asked if he is having an affair and after 9 times avoiding the question he said no. 3 years back he started smoking. He has put us in over 000 debit on credit cards with his drinking (don't ask). But I can't think how to go about finding out if he is cheating. I have no access to his phone, computer, or car. I don't know 1 person in his friendship circle. Oh, I sound so dumb typing all this, you probably think I'm blind, I'm not, but how do I prove it?

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