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- 1.1 I cheated on my boyfriend with my ex and feel terrible about it. Will he ever forgive me and trust me again?
- 1.2 How to gain trust and forgiveness?
- 1.3 My boyfriend is ending relation with me after I hurt and cheated on him. What should I do to gain his trust back?
- 1.4 How can I get my ex-boyfriend to love respect and trust me?
- 1.5 How do I get my boyfriend to fully heal and trust me again?
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I cheated on my boyfriend with my ex and feel terrible about it. Will he ever forgive me and trust me again?
I've been with my boyfriend for two and a half years. But for the past few months, we've had several issues and we broke up once before because he wanted something different. We got back together a while ago but I made a huge mistake and cheated on him with my ex. I don't have feelings for my ex anymore and I regret what happened so much. I told that to my boyfriend and apologized for what I did so many times and even got to his knees and said I was sorry. He was really upset, said that he couldn't trust me anymore and can't see me the same way as before. I'm really broken up because no matter what happened I still love him and I feel terrible for what I did. I want to make things right for him and I want to talk to him but I don't know if I should call him or just give him some space.
This is so tough because you were honest with him. You have said your apologies. Now the only thing to do is give him some space. After a week of not hearing from him, send him a letter of your formal apology. Request a meeting for closure. That is the best that you can do at this time. It is now completely up to him on whether he can forgive you and this relationship move forward.
How to gain trust and forgiveness?
I had sex with my baby's daddy's brother years before I became pregnant. I decided to tell him once I found out I was pregnant, but the oldest brother told before me, or the one I had sex with did. How can I ever get him to forgive me and build our bond back stronger?
Your first steps will be to write an apology letter to your current partner, even though you are not guilty or do not feel guilty. This ensures that, be it you remain sincere in your apology and do not blame anyone but yourself, you may repair your relationship after some time passes (it may be years for some couples). Do not mention that you wanted to tell him the truth but were too late with that: this will change nothing but may make you look like as if you were covering yourself or trying to lie. Check how one should write an apology letter to your husband or your boyfriend. Do not forget to create an appropriate envelope. It might be a good idea to let him read it when he is away from you. Maybe either of you can be on a business trip or visiting parents. Give him time to process it and discover what his real feelings to you are. Maybe he will answer you in kind or call you up: just wait for his answer to see if he wants to be forever with you. If none of these options is possible, then the only solution will be getting relationship advice with or without your partner. With the help of a professional therapist and depending on the situation and your partner himself, all of the bonds and trust may come back.
My boyfriend is ending relation with me after I hurt and cheated on him. What should I do to gain his trust back?
My boyfriend's past and my past have been very bad. We've both been cheated in the past. And before us dating we promised each other to keep it real & we won't ever cheat on each other. But after dating the 4th day, I hooked up with another guy, I confessed it to him and he was really hurt about it. He told me how hurt he was. But then I sorted things out he forgave me and we were cool. Days passed by, everything was fine. But then again I lied to him and he caught me lying. I lied to him many times but then I again made it up to him and promised him I won't ever lie. But he just feels very hard to trust me back. He doubts me every time because I lied to him by roaming with other guys. He says it's very hard for me to trust you. I'm sick of it, just leave me alone I need time. I regret it a lot because I didn't want to hurt him again, and I don't want him to end our relation. He just doesn't trust me what do you do to gain his trust back again? He is sick of it and I don't want him to leave. I want us to be the happy couple again. I have tried: I have tried telling him I won't ever lie to you again. But he just feels it's hard for him to trust me. He says if you could cheat me once you could do it anytime. I promised him I won't ever do it again but he keeps doubting me because I have even lied to him and hurt him a lot. But I'm trying to gain his trust, I have tried texting him but he doesn't reply to my texts after reading. I think it was caused by: Its because of me, I wouldn't cheat or lie to him, we would have been the happiest couple. He hasn't cheated or lied to me ever but I have done. It's all my mistake
You are right in that this is your mistake. Both of you sustained damage in previous relationships. Perhaps you were not ready to be in a serious relationship. It is a learning experience in life, but you will need to walk away if he can't forgive you. Give him some space and perhaps he will come around. Work on yourself on what motivated you to hurt him like you have been hurt in past relationships. If you were lying to avoid feeling controlled then you need to realize that a happy relationship means being honest and working through an issue when honesty creates a problem. If you hang on to him and force him out of guilt to stay in this relationship, he will always resent you deep down inside. Dial down your texting to just once a week. If he does not respond, do not keep messaging him. This just makes you look desperate. He has not broken up with you yet officially so this is a good sign that he is just assessing what to do next and not making a rash decision based on hurt.
How can I get my ex-boyfriend to love respect and trust me?
I have cheated on him twice but believe me I really and would like to spend the rest of my life with him. I have tried: Try asking for forgiveness second chance so I could prove myself that I am a changed person. I think it was caused by: I think its way how he treated me he kind of neglected me in a way
Cheating because he neglected you, still puts you in the wrong. The correct action would be to express how you were feeling neglected to your boyfriend. This shows that your relationship had a major communication failure before you cheated. The fact that you cheated twice, now shows him that you are forming a habitual pattern of reaction. You need to tell him that you were completely wrong and not blame his neglect to him. This will only push him further away. He has chosen to not be with you. Take this time to work on yourself. Perhaps look into personal therapy to work out why you cheated. This way when you do get in a relationship again, you will not make the same mistakes. It is important for you to know as you can see even in the questions, that you are not the only one that has made this mistake. But you should go above and beyond to make sure that you have the correct coping skills so that you do not continue to repeat the cycle in other relationships.
How do I get my boyfriend to fully heal and trust me again?
When my boyfriend and I met, I was engaged to another man and he was in a committed relationship with another woman... we hooked up and then started talking, I ended my engagement because it wasn't right for me but he was.. I made a terrible mistake of getting revenge on my ex by cheating on him with not only my current boyfriend, but as well as four other guys.. I also had a tinder profile that I used to talk to other guys, but not actually hook up with them... my current boyfriend who I ended my engagement for and I are currently three months official, and last night he found out about my tinder profile and he forgave me, and after constant reassurance from me that I would never cheat on him and that I never have cheated, he kept telling me I needed to fix things, that I needed to be the one to help him heal, but I'm just not sure what to do. I cheated on an ex with my current boyfriend but all the shady stuff I did before my current boyfriend and I were even fully talking came to light and now he's hurt and I need to know how to fix it. I have tried: Constant apologizing and verbal reassurance that he's the only one for me and that I would never hurt him, and that I'm going to do everything I can to fix it. I think it was caused by: He and I spent the past week talking about our complete history and I didn't mention my tinder, (because it was gone, I never used it and it has no bearing on our relationship) but he wanted to see it so I showed him and he saw all the texts with guys that wanted to hook up with me, even though I always never did hookup with them... I didn't want to!
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