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33 Sure Signs Your Husband Is Cheating

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About my husband behavior, is he in love with another woman?

My husband cheated on me so many times, on 2012 he met this girl for 2 months, he hid this from me, one night he received a phone call and he didn't want to answer but when I saw that he tried to avoid the phone to answer, when I told him to answer, he picked up his phone and said wrong number. When I made him call back on the number shown, I confronted him after that I found out that the girl told me everything going on, he lied and denied and he is not over with his affair with her. I have to deal so much with him. He comes home tired, complaining about everything, never confessed about his lies. Everything he used to do when she was around been stopped, he doesn't talk, only important takes me for a late night drive, doesn't do anything with me, never have time, always find some excuse. My gut tells me something he is hiding if I try to ask him what is wrong, he gets mad and say I am crazy

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When you discovered that he was cheating, there was a crack in the wall of trust in your marriage. Your husband seems to still be acting suspicious which will not repair that crack in your trust foundation. The best thing to do would be to seek therapy for yourself. Discuss with the therapist about bringing your husband in for a joint counseling session. If your husband refuses then be honest with him and tell him that you are increasingly unhappy in the marriage because of the distrust that is dividing your marriage.

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His avoidance of you is mostly out of guilt. Every time he spends any time with you, he is reminded that he almost lost you when he cheated. He needs to come to terms with his guilt and shame about the affair for the both of you to heal and progress the relationship. If nothing is done about this, then eventually you will have no relationship left but an empty shell of the daily habitual life in a marriage.

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I need to know signs to know my real husband?

Three men are coming for my hand in marriage at the same time and all of them are serious. how will I know the real man?

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If you have to ask which one is best for you, then none of them are "the one" for you. It is not that a lightning bolt will descend from the sky when you meet the right person for you, but that person will make you feel secure and comfortable when you are with them. Right now, you have three people vying for your time. Because of this, it will be hard to determine your feelings about any of them individually. If you are serious about making the right decision then stop all contact with two of them to focus on one person at a time.

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What should I do, my husband deleted the message he and his baby mama text him that she still love him?

His Ex that they have kid together sends him her pics and texts that she still love him. He responded that she is the 1st woman whoever loved him and deleted the messages but I had already read them

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Sounds like you might just be a placeholder rebound relationship for your husband. If he did not fully get over his ex before jumping into a relationship with you, then there are previous feelings that never had closure in order to move on. They also share a child together. Sometimes a parent will say things to the other estranged parent to keep them happy so they have access to the shared child. This could be what he is doing but then he should be honest with you about his plans and behavior. You need to confront him and tell him that you saw the message before he deleted it. Then tell him that it really seems suspicious that he felt the need to delete those messages.

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My sister's husband was working abroad and now a women wrote her that he had an affair with her and he denied?

How could she know that her husband is telling the truth ?. I have tried: Nothing, just heard it. I think it was caused by: I can't think of anything now

That woman who wrote your sister was telling the truth. There would be no reason for some random woman to write your sister unless to tell her the truth. This was probably written out of anger and spite but that does not change the fact that your sister's husband was unfaithful. As her sister, offer her emotional support and possibly some financial support if she wants to leave her husband. You can't force her to leave though and be careful of what you say about her husband in the event that she tries to work it out with her husband. You can voice your opinions but do not force or pressure her to do anything. This is ultimately her decision as to what she should do next to save or leave her marriage.

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I started the relationship with my partner whilst he was still married. Now, I feel as though he is having an affair whilst living with me. But I have no evidence and it's difficult to track down?

I am completely lost - he has gone so cold in the last year. it's true that my 20 years old son has not simplified anything as he is lazy and socially awkward. I know that Carl felt betrayed by me as I was defending my son against what seem overreacting on his side - especially as he's not very good at doing chores himself.. Many of the 33 signs are correct when it comes to Carl but does it really mean 100% that he's having an affair. Can it just be because he's depressed, stressed by his high pressure job and some debts we accumulated with the mortgage on our house? Does it really have to be a proof of cheating?

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If you are disagreeing in how to treat your adult son then this is probably the issue in your marriage and not that he is cheating. You also mentioned that you have some financial stress currently in the marriage too. These are major red flags of impending disaster in your marriage. Blended families often have differences in how to parent their spouse's children. You can say "Thanks for your input" but the decision is ultimately up to you and your son's biological father. Drawing a clear and distinct line will be key for your marriage to survive.

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Am I being too jealous about my husband just talking when I as am aware what can transpire?

I am my husband's 4th wife. We've been married for almost 19 months. At first, I didn't notice him privately message other girls on Facebook, then I got upset when I wasn't included in the message about them meeting up to let the dogs play. I then found him messaging her calling her beautiful and asking if she was working. I was so mad I threw the phone. About 3 months later I see a message him asking her if she wants to play naughty plumber. Hell broke loose. I made him block her. Then he talks to a woman out of state they chat while I was sitting on the couch with him, the next day from the screen shots she sent me was their conversation along with pics. One that concerned me was his conversation saying he would have motive! He tried to cut her off saying he was done because he was in love with me but she thought different and sent me everything. I am on pins and needles every time he's on Facebook I'm nervous he will do it again. .

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The reality is, he is going to do this behavior on Facebook again. This is a habitual pattern for him which is why you are wife number 4. He is not going to change his habits and behavior and in fact, may have some form of sexual addiction. You have had numerous instances of catching him in the act of trying to cheat on you. Clearly he knows that you are aware and still won't stop doing this. It would be interesting to speak with his former wives because I would wager money on the fact that he did this with all of them too. So this is not about you but rather he has serious issues with being faithful and either confronts and gets help or there is no point for you to stay married to him.

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I have a feeling that my husband is having an affair, we fought out of nothing, we hardly have intimate, even when I touch him he refuses, as if he has lost interest in our marriage, he often sleeps before I do and refuses to awake, then I do so. We don't talk as usual!

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This sounds more like depression or andropause. Andropause is a male hormonal disorder that begins around the same time menopause does for a woman. Males will present with lack of energy or interest and no sexual desire. You are also mentioning signs of depression. The best thing you can do is encourage your husband to speak with his doctor about therapy or a mental health/hormonal check.

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If you found a strand of hair that is NOT yours in your own house. What is the sign?

I tried to confront my separated hubby with a strand of hair that is NOT belongs to me since I've got a chemo treatment last December so I don't have a strand of long hair but he kept denying and so Defensive and argues a lot then left the house without an explanation. (we don't live in the same house but he comes and goes from time to time for our son). He also announced that he won't comes for the Thanksgiving Dinner that he was supposed to be with our son that day). Even though I don't have any feeling for him anymore but I don't want him to bring an DNA from others into my home. But is it one of the signs that he's already have an affair with someone since last December when he doesn't comes around to help me to take care of our kid while I was on the treatment? He picks a fight a lot with little things while my health limited me to do the usual chores. Does a cheating partner feels guilty as charge while feeling Defensive about strand of long & dark hair that is NOT mine?

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If it was just one hair, that could be "transfer DNA". You or your son could have somehow come in contact with the strand and then it brushed off your clothing and landed on the floor. You are no longer together as a couple but if you do not want strangers in your home without your consent, you can change the locks on the doors and request that he respect your wishes to keep strangers out of your home. It is sad that you separated during your chemo treatment. That is when you need those that love you around you the most. His guilt could be from deserting you in your greatest time of need. Either way, draw clear boundaries about who is allowed in your home. Explain to him that your health is still compromised and you wish to restrict the access of new germs in your home. It is also a good idea to explain to him that this home is now yours exclusively and it is your rules that dictate who comes and goes. As for holidays, he may have other plans for Thanksgiving but either way, you need to think about your child and making the holiday about them and not your feelings regarding their father. Take this as an opportunity to gain new memories for your son.

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I am a cheater is studying this article guarantee me from my situations?

I am having two adorable wives one legally and one illegally but all with love!

Eventually no matter what you do, one of these women is going to find out about the other. You are risking losing one or both of them. It is best that you make a decision about who to be with be with because you owe one person your complete attention in order to be in a good relationship. This is not about love even though you tell yourself that to feel better about what you are doing. The only person you love is yourself.

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Does my husband want to see an old girlfriend or am I just worrying about nothing?

My husband ran into an old girlfriend 2 1/2 years ago, he asked her where she lives, he drives by her house every chance he gets, she is divorced. She has been showing up at events that my husband and I go to, she did not do this for the first 36 years of our marriage. Maybe he does not want her, maybe she is trying to get him back.. We have 4 children and they have all done very well for themselves. We always got along very well, we are farmers and are very busy, however, I feel that sometimes his mind is somewhere else. I have tried: I have told him that I know he is driving by her place, and he I said there is nothing going on. I think it was caused by: He met her at a friends funeral, he talked to her for more than an hour, I was not at the funeral, I had to work, when he came home he told me all this and I did not think anything of this until little things started happening, i.e. driving by her place, her started showing up at places where my husband and I go.

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This sounds a little like the movie Fatal Attraction. Why would your husband be driving by her house if it is out of his way? Suddenly she is showing up within your social circle and activities around town? Perhaps she is lonely but then you should offer to meet her for lunch. Make yourself vital to her life and you will be able to determine if she has interests other than friendship with your husband.

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