Help Family Members in Recovering from Death of a Loved One
Edited by Christian, Charmed, Monika, Anonymous and 2 others
"Death" a word that brings fear and sadness, fear for those who love their earthly life so much and sadness for those who experienced losing their loved one. It always brings tears and loneliness especially if he is your best friend, cousin and a member of your family. Like a thief, without expecting it will come to steal someone's life and face the final resting place. Only premonitions make us realize that they want to tell us something, their last goodbye trying to say that they will leave us. Sometimes I asked myself if the day before my final hours here on earth came, can I say sorry for those I hurt or go to confession to ask for forgiveness for all my sins here on earth? Maybe yes or maybe no, who knows? Only God knows and no one except Him. July 18, 2012, a new memorable date was added into my life, I lost my mother. We never expect that she will leave us on that day. I was far from them because of my job, I called her and while talking on the phone I never feel anything strange. When I received my brother's text message I can't explain how I feel about the news of her death. A bomb in my heart explodes, I was drowning in tears that I never cried before. While on my way home I prepared myself because I know it was not easy for all of us to accept the sudden death of my mother. My father and my brothers are waiting for me, we are all in grief sobering for that unexpected moment. In this hard time when every member of the family is in deep trial I learned important lessons and strategies for a fast recovery of each family member who are in deep sadness. Since I am the eldest, I need to comfort my father, my brothers and sister even we feel the same air of sadness and tears are hard to stop from falling.
Things to consider
- 1Pray and ask for guidance and strength.Advertisement
- 2Let them entertained by their friends.Advertisement
- 3Detachment.It is not easy not say the word "accept" on someone who lost his beloved, it takes a lot of time before we accept everything. Detachment and trusting God's will help you understand that this life is not ours, we have it now but we will surrender this borrowed life to the Creator. "For everything there is a season, and a time for every matter under heaven: a time to be born, and a time to die; a time to plant, and a time to pluck up what is planted; a time to kill, and a time to heal; a time to break down, and a time to build up; a time to weep, and a time to laugh; a time to mourn, and a time to dance; a time to cast away stones, and a time to gather stones together; a time to embrace, and a time to refrain from embracing"(Ecclesiastes 3:1-22). We all know that we will return to the one who created us ready or not, we must keep our faith that in God's time we will meet our loved ones because we know this life is temporary and we need to be detached.
- 4Take a vacation.Advertisement
Recovering from losing a loved one is same as recovering from a disease or illness. Medicine, therapy and regular monitoring or check-up is needed for a fast restoration of health of the patient. Medication will take a long time for healing if there is no acting nurse or doctor in the family to start vaccination for fast recovery of each family member.
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Categories : Relationships
Recent edits by: Eng, Anonymous, Monika