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He is not my boyfriend but a friend. I want to put some lines in my status which must imply for him for neglecting me by telling me he is busy?

He is my friend, close best friend, he used to talk everything with me. One day we spoke, we shared everything about us but suddenly he stopped talking to me by telling me that he is busy, no time, and all. I really miss him a lot.. I asked whether I had hurt him but he said no, so I wanted to tell him indirectly about this now as a last try. I have tried: I asked many times to talk to him. I think it was caused by: He indirectly approached me, but I said I don't believe in love and all, and he said he will miss me a lot, for that I said I knew about this, so sometimes I thought of avoiding you, after that he started avoiding me but I never avoided him

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A suggestion for Facebook status for a friend who suddenly seems to be avoiding you might be: A great friend should never be too busy for a heart-to-heart with his best friend." Another suggestion would be: "I miss my best friend and no matter what happens in life, I will always make time to spend with him", thus implying that you would do for him what he is not doing for you. However, what is of more concern is that it seems that there was something you said in that conversation that made him decide not have any more contact with you and reflecting on that might go a long ways in helping you say just the right thing so he will connect with you again.

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Why is he so busy? This is becoming so frustrating?

He is always busy with work, so when he gets off work he prefers to spend time with his friends instead, as he has known them for longer, they always seem to be inviting him to things! What do you advise me to do? I don't want to seem too pushy / forcing him to cancel seeing his lifelong friends, but at the same time he never introduces me to them and rarely speaks into any details about them. I feel like I am not a part of his life in a way I would like to. I understand this is only early days but he will never get to know me if he only spends time with me once a week or even once in every two weeks! Please help!

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The bottom line is that when somebody is in love with you or thinks you are the one, they will drop everything they are doing to spend time with you. He is making you a low priority on his list of things to do. He knows from your texts that you will wait on the back burner for him, until he is ready to schedule a date at his convenience. The next time he suggests going out together, make him wait for the answer. Make him wait at least six hours after texting him: "Let me check my schedule and see what I am doing." or just simply "I will decide later." That lends the impression that you have a better option than him, and this might have him stop taking you for granted.

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My boyfriend ends up hurting me?

My boyfriend ends up hurting me every time.. He knows I'm sensitive by nature yet he expects me to start fresh after every fight.

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First of all, exclude the possibility of your boyfriend hating you (the article applies to both husbands and boyfriends). If this is not the case, then find out whether he is bored, being indifferent to you, does not value you, or just does not understand how you feel. Find out the reasons that he initiates the quarrels and write them down. Analyze the paper after several episodes and find out ways how to eradicate that. See if the reasons reoccur even with your eliminating the causes. If he expects you to start fresh in the morning, then he may just have emotional outbursts that have to be kept in check by changing the situations that cause the stress (for example, his work is very stressful; and he is being bullied at work: as a result, his nervous system fails at home). If there is no apparent reason, then get a relationship advice as soon as possible to keep your relationship going and not burn out emotionally. It is important that relationship is built on understanding, trust, and love.

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I can't understand my boyfriend true feelings, what does he want from me?

Me and my boyfriend were childhood friends then at the age of 16 /17 we got separated, his family moved. Now after 14 years he came looking for me, in this time he got married and have 3 kids, and I am still single. When we got together he told me he has always loved him, I was his love of life. After sometime now, I also fell in love with him. For a year he was so in love with me, gave me time, made long phone calls, texted me a lot. He told me, he wants to marry me, and looking for the right time, but now after a year and a half, he is a changed man, he never have time to call or text, never makes any plans and he even said that he loves me a lot he can't leave me, but he will not marry me. When I asked why is he with me, where do I stand in his life, he says I behave like a child. Whenever I say I am missing you, come and meet me, he never comes to meet me. Thing always happen his way. If he does not want something he will not do it no matter how much I ask for it. Please tell me what am I to him, what should I do? I love him a lot even he says he loves me and respect me a lot. HELP. I have tried: I have tried talking to him in every way but all the time he calls me drama queen, immature or child like. I think it was caused by: I have no idea, its like he is not the same guy anymore. He says he has not changed, this is how he is .

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What is the right thing to do when my boyfriend gets mad at me because I bother him when he is busy?

Because every time I text him, he gets mad

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My boyfriend do not talk to me properly?

He is at home and busy in different tasks, he does not reply my texts, I find so many changes in him, he always wants to say leave me, but when I become rude to him, he becomes more rude

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How to get my long distance busy boyfriend's attention back?

He says that he's busy nowadays and is working to be a good software engineer, he is in Canada, Toronto. He has gone for abroad studies after 12th class there. Now he's in the university, first year. I am not able to handle my feelings! I want to spend a good time with him. He says he can spend, but me and his studies together can be distracting for him! I think everyone can have free time! After all no man can work the whole day! he says he loves me a lot and I'm the only one he loves the most in his life. I love him too, but I want him to message me first, call me. Every time I have to message him first! When I message him he says that he's busy but will get time definitely after few months. I trust him a lot, but I want his attention too, what should I do?

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My boyfriend is a busy person, we meet once a week and when we meet he just wants sex?

I have a man who wants to marry me, and he is a busy person, but when we meet, he wants only sex. I have tried: I have tried to have time to go to the movie, he does not want that, he just wants to be in the house and cooking with him and doing sex after. I think it was caused by: I do not know really!

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Emotionally unavailable workaholic boyfriend?

I have been with my boyfriend for 6-months. When we first met, his work was very slow and we had plenty of time together. He did warn me that his work would get crazy, but he wanted to be in a relationship with me. We are both single parents raising teenagers. We live about 50-miles from each other. Surprisingly, we have been able to blend our families without any issues. Few months ago his work moved him to the night shift and he works 12 hours/day. I know he loves me, but he will rarely say it. We talk everyday and text, but I will go for weeks at a time without seeing him. We both agreed we are committed to making this work. But how can a relationship grow if we rarely spend time together? We have had a few conversations that we need to make it a priority to see each other at least once a week but it never works out with his schedule. I try not to add more stress to the situation by not saying anything - but I'm starting to feel distant when we have been so close before, I feel like he's not willing or able to make me or our relationship a priority and fearful this will tear us apart. Please - I need some advise on how we can make this work.. I have tried: We've talked about scheduling time together each week. But he works 10PM - 10AM most day and I work 8-5. He also works most weekends. Seriously there is no time!. I think it was caused by: His work.

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He is always busy and replies too pale. I don't want to lose him, what should I do?

He is living in another city. I need to fight with him to talk on calls. We always end up fighting at the end of the day. His temper is always high, so I can't argue else he will break up. He says he loves me. Its been 3 years, we are together and 2 years we are in long-distance relationship now. He never tells or informs me about his plans and dreams but shares all these with his friends (female mostly). I don't want to lose him. Suggest me something.. I have tried: I keep on asking him about his schedule, his interests. He gets irritate. He says I doubt him. I'm the only person who takes initiative and tries to talk about problems. I think it was caused by: His ignorance (intentionally or non-intentionally that I really don't know), try to ignore fights, behaving as if he is single, narcissism, over smartness, etc.

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When my boyfriend is busy I feel so much impatient?

It really hurts when he does not pick up my calls or replies to my texts (May be he is really busy) despite knowing that I am so impatient at those times. I want to know how can I make him care about me so much regarding this? My situation is a bit different because I am going through a hardship in my relationship which is affecting my entire life. And the main problem with my problem is he is not very direct and straightforward about his problems as I am with him. He is kind of inner minded type. Despite knowing that I am not well now, he goes to work and does not pick up my call (may be he is really unable) but then he should at least say that when I call him? I have tried: Well about trying, I made him understand that quitting or avoiding is never a solution, real victory people are those who try to manage everything simultaneously. Feeling ashamed to say, that I even begged and pleaded for his attention sometimes, ignoring my self-prestige. I think it was caused by: What he says, is like this; There was an exam some days ago which was important to him and he was looking towards it for over a year, and prepared for it a lot, but somehow the exam didn't go well for him, so he entered into a state of frustration and trauma after that. And that's the reason why he is so upset, and cannot give enough time to our relationship, because that initial charm of relationship is not coming due to mental absence.

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Is my on-off boyfriend cheating on me or he is just busy?

I have been together with my on again off again boyfriend for around 3 years. During the first year (or as we know, honeymoon phase), he was quite affectionate and we text most of the time. Then, first problem came and at that time, I was so arrogant and did not realize that he would give me such a big impact, so instead of handling the problem nicely, I told him to move on and forget about me. We found our way back and he starts to be different. He was secretive and did not talk that much. I was so fed up but everyone around him told me that he has always been like that, even his sister said that he is a type of person who never talk a lot. He was cheating few times as well, and I confront him and it seems like he still feel abandoned because of what I did to him at our first year and since then, he feels like he couldn't trust me. Long story short, after we broke up, he got a girlfriend while at the same time, still texting me. We know that we always have a thing to each other but it is hard for me to consider him as a boyfriend. The next was when he broke up and I was the one who got a boyfriend. He texted me again and say that he is a new person, but I ignore him and I stay with my boyfriend (now ex). Things went wrong in my relationship and it made me realize that I do still have feelings for him, that I was just trying to hide my feelings for the sake of my pride. So once again, we get back together, and indeed, I saw a lot of improvements in him. I know that he is trying so hard to meet my needs and I learn how to forgive and believing in him that he wouldn't cheat on me again. Things change when he got too busy at work (that's what he said), we texted once a day and I told him few times to always text me before he's going to work or when he finished and he didn't. I always believe no one would be really busy to spare 1 minute of his life just to catch up a bit and these days it just got worse, he told me he just got a lot of orders (he works in a food factory and it is festive period in my country), so he works at 10pm-10am everyday. I live my normal schedule and I know I have to be more patient of his "new life", he told me that he will get his normal life back in less than a month. I have always been supportive and telling him advice but I don't know what to do now. Should I trust him and giving him the benefit of the doubt that he is just busy? or should I worried that he got bored and cheat on me again? Please help! thank you so much

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