Get Your Boyfriend Forgive and Love Again After You Cheated on Him
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Cheating is often a deal-breaker in a relationship. Straying from your boyfriend for another breaks the bond of trust between the two of you, leaving him to deal with emotional trauma due to the betrayal, a blow to the ego and feelings of sadness, anger and resentment. You've made a huge mistake that ruined your character, but there's still hope for reconciliation. In some cases, it is possible to mend the relationship if you're willing to change and earn his love and forgiveness.
- 1 Earn Your Boyfriend's Forgiveness After Cheating
- 2 How to Rebuild Your Relationship
- 3 Tips, Tricks & Warnings
- 4 Questions and Answers
- 4.1 How long should you wait to stop talking to him and try talking to him again?
- 4.2 Will he forgive me after cheating?
- 4.3 Hi, my boyfriend asked me to find another man and due to his pressure I found someone and slept with him. Now he is mad at me and says I cheated on him?
- 4.4 Will my boyfriend ever forgive me or trust me?
- 4.5 I have cheated on my love, but I still love him. How do I get him to trust me again?
- 4.6 How can I get him back and forget everything in the past and let him start it all over again with me?
- 4.7 Can it work after cheating on him with my ex?
- 4.8 How do I tell my boyfriend that I think Talking about it as much is making it worse?
- 4.9 What words must I tell him to forgive me?
- 4.10 I cheated on him 5 years ago and we are still dealing with it, we have a 2 year old son and he's in the middle of it all?
- 4.11 He didn't believe because I am out of the country?
- 4.12 Getting my boyfriend back after breaking up for one month?
- 4.13 How to fix this situation with my boyfriend being upset with me?
- 4.14 I regret cheating on my boyfriend, but after 1 year and a half, he still hasn't forgave me or stopped bringing it up, is there hope?
- 4.15 Hello, how can I get him to talk to me?
- 4.16 I have a boyfriend, I can't tell him the truth, I've been married before because he told me if he found that I'm already married he will leave me, what am I supposed to do?
- 4.17 Hi, its been a month since we broke up and had a very serious fight and now he only talks to me as a human, will my relation patch up. or it is ended? He never talks by himself he only replies when I message or WhatsApp him?
- 4.18 How do I handle being away from him?
- 4.19 Girls have no rights and never get a second chance then you all people backbiting for her past?
- 4.20 How do we get back to the place we were in before this happened?
- 4.21 How to get my ex to want me back?
- 5 Comments
Earn Your Boyfriend's Forgiveness After Cheating
If your boyfriend is choosing to stay with you after you've cheated, consider yourself lucky. You now have the opportunity to take responsibility for your actions and prove to him that you're still a worthy partner that he can trust again. You'll need to put in a lot of effort to fix the relationship, but if you can get through this together, you might end up a stronger couple.
- 1Own up to your mistakes.Making excuses and blaming others for your behavior might make you feel like you're justified in your actions, but your boyfriend won't see it that way. There is never a good reason to cheat, so don't try to minimize what you've done. Even if you're not getting what you need from the relationship, now is not the time to place blame.Advertisement
- 3End the affair completely.If you want to work things out with your boyfriend, it's best to prevent any further damage to the relationship by cutting off all contact with the person you've had an affair with. Show your boyfriend proof that you've done this, whether you've done it by phone, text or email. Continuing to speak to or spend time with the other person only shows that you're not 100 percent dedicated to your relationship.
- 4Give him time to heal.
- 5Ask for forgiveness.If you're truly ready to change and do whatever it takes to salvage your relationship, ask him to forgive you. If he's not ready, continue your efforts to appease him, and give him as much time as he needs. It can take months for him to feel comfortable and secure enough with you to offer real forgiveness.
- 6Consider relationship counseling.
How to Rebuild Your Relationship
Even if your boyfriend forgives your infidelity, he won't forget it. Simply going back to the way things were before won't ensure a happy, loving connection that lasts, otherwise you probably wouldn't have cheated in the first place. You need to start fresh and create new memories to help replace the painful ones.
- 1Get to know each other again.Chances are, when you started dating, you were very attentive and showed genuine interest in each other. Explore hobbies together, go on dates, have long talks and take notice of each other's personal feelings. Not only will this show that you value each other as individuals, it also strengthens your bond as a couple.Advertisement
- 2Work on self-improvement.
- 3Lavish him with affection.Whether its preparing his favorite foods, sending him sweet notes or texts while he's gone or buying him a special gift, don't hold back from treating him well. He deserves your love, attention and affection.
- 4Restore your physical relationship.Advertisement
Tips, Tricks & Warnings
- Avoid spending time with people or in places that might tempt you to cheat again.
- Let your boyfriend know where you're going and who you're with. Send him a text or call while you're out to ease any worries he might have.
- If you're not willing to put in the time, energy and patience required to rebuild the relationship, consider breaking up. It's unfair for you to expect him to stay with you and forgive if you're unwilling to take responsibility and put in the effort to change.
Questions and Answers
How long should you wait to stop talking to him and try talking to him again?
I cheated on my boyfriend 6 times and I feel guilty.. and I started taking counseling for myself and we started working it out. but honestly its his friends that are getting the best of him instead of trying to work it out with me.
While there is no specific time frame for someone to heal from this type of betrayal, it can take 1 to 3 months for a person to recover enough to be ready to work on the relationship. Give him time and space, and be there when he's ready. In the meantime, don't do anything that might tempt you to cheat again. Check out the article above for tips. If you aren't willing to do that, it might be in your best interest to end the relationship.
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Will he forgive me after cheating?
There was this other guy I talked to on Skype, we would talk late. One day my boyfriend went through the chat and asked who it was, said a friend abroad and as he talked about long hours I talked to the other guy I freaked and disconnected the laptop charger.
There is no guarantee that your boyfriend will forgive you after cheating, but there are several ways that you can encourage him to. Check out the article above to see what you can do to rebuild your relationship.
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Hi, my boyfriend asked me to find another man and due to his pressure I found someone and slept with him. Now he is mad at me and says I cheated on him?
What should I do, I need to see him and tell him what happened
Even though your boyfriend told you to find another man, cheating on him while you were still together is still wrong. You both have a lot to work on in your relationship, so please read the article above to work on repairing your relationship.
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Will my boyfriend ever forgive me or trust me?
Well, one day my boyfriend's brother wrote to me on Facebook that he wanted to go out with me but I kept on making excuses saying ' I don't know when I can go out I'm working until 5" but I didn't want to go out with him. So my boyfriend saw the messages and he thinks I cheated on him while I didn't. He called me really bad names and everything. I was going to leave the house the day the problem happened, but he wanted me to stay and I did, but he always calls me names, ugly names.
He is still lashing out because he is hurt. Though you did nothing wrong, he still is trying to trust you again. Give him time and he will come around if you keep proving to him that you are loyal to only him.
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I have cheated on my love, but I still love him. How do I get him to trust me again?
I cheated on the love of my life with someone that never even mattered. He doesn't see me the same and has shut me out, but hasn't broken up with me. How can I regain his love and trust again?
Please refer to the steps above in this VisiHow article. He has not broken up with you so you do have a good chance to regain his love and trust.
How can I get him back and forget everything in the past and let him start it all over again with me?
At the very start of our relationship, I fail to give him all of me because I just recently broke up with my ex. I didn't mean to hurt him but it just so happened that my ex kissed me on the lips. I never want to lie to him even though we are in a long distance relationship so I told him everything. Months passed by, and I know how much pain he is carrying, until he's having fun with the other girls. I can't blame him for that 'cause I'm the one who cheated first and we are in a long distance relationship. We are a year and 10 months now. Recently, I found out that he is cheating on me. Again, I can't blame him. He is still asking and begging for me. He told me that he loves me and he wants me back, but after nights of fighting, he said he had enough of me and wants to break up with me. I know he is lying. We're still getting back together but the thing is, he can't still forget what I've done. I know he loves me but I cannot get back the man that was like before. What should I do? I don't want us to be over.
Yes you really can blame him for cheating on you. Not once but several times. He can't forgive you after almost two years and yet that is most likely an excuse to explain away his cheating behavior. The man he was before was the man he is now, however you were getting to know him in a long distance relationship. If you and he can both look past all the cheating and agree to settle down then you have a chance.
Can it work after cheating on him with my ex?
I just found out that my boyfriend has a baby with another girl a fourth one for that matter and only got to find out when the girl was in her 9th month, so I cheated on him with my ex and now we are trying to get back together.
Well any relationship can work if both parties are willing to put in the effort needed. Your situation is a whole lot of effort. He not only cheated but a child has come into the world and you in retaliation cheat with your ex. It really depends on you both working together to make your relationship stronger.
How do I tell my boyfriend that I think Talking about it as much is making it worse?
He is constantly talking about it. We keep trying to go out and have a good weekend but every time we do he brings it up and we get upset and our time is ruined. I need to know how to tell him without him getting upset and thinking that I want to sweep it under the rug. I do want to talk about it but at the same time, I need some time to think about why I cheated so that I can answer his questions. It has only been 1 week and I haven't had time to figure things out and he thinks that I'm not trying when I am. I love him I want this to work. Can you help me?
Give it time. This was a recent wound to your relationship and like physical wounds, the scab needs to fall off before new skin appears. He is asking for information which he needs for his healing process and you need to evaluate why you cheated on him. Give him answers and let him bring it up as much times as he wants until he is over everything and trusts you again.
What words must I tell him to forgive me?
I cheated on my boyfriend with my ex boyfriend, when he found out I first denied and today I am asking forgiveness
You have made the first step and owned up to the cheating. Use the steps in this VisiHow article to work on getting him to forgive you.
I cheated on him 5 years ago and we are still dealing with it, we have a 2 year old son and he's in the middle of it all?
I thought my boyfriend was trying to get back with his ex but I made the biggest mistake by sleeping with my ex and now we would be happy at one point and then we would go back to this dark place. He said he would never forgive me and we should go our separate ways but we have a 2 years old son and I just want to make our family whole again.
Both people need to want to be in the relationship. He has asked for a separation and perhaps he needs that to fully heal over the past.
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He didn't believe because I am out of the country?
Because I am out of country he think I am not myself?
A lot of times when someone is accusing you of cheating, they are guilty of cheating instead and projecting that guilt onto their spouse. He needs to trust you for things to work.
Getting my boyfriend back after breaking up for one month?
We did wedding with my boyfriend and that night he took my phone LED all messages and he found that I had abused his mum in a message with my sister and him I had abused him long time ago and he say photo I had gone with my friend to meet a certain guy who had requested me and my friend to go for dinner then it got too late and we went to his place and spent the night there following day we took photos with my friend and him then I sent them to my sister telling him I don;t like that man because I love my husband he got so mad about me and he said he can't forgive me after reading messages himself and he saw nothing I did with that man,I have written so many apology messages and he never took them positively and I have tried passing my apology to his best friends and he is not willing to forgive but I love him so much such that I can't date any other man,we have been together for 6 years and we meet when I was 21 years and he was 35 years and he was divorced with two kids we have been so close though our relationship is distance one because he lives in Europe I live Africa I have never cheated on him and I have been so faithful to him,our problem started last year after he joined school and he started saying that he regret marring a woman who is not of his class because he is underrate and he is pursuing his masters and I have diploma. he started accusing me of so may things and I was asking him where all that was coming from but he could not explain to me he started saying I was rude and after pleading him to explain he refused after sometime he started keeping quite for a week month and at that time he was commenting funny comment to ladies on Facebook and I felt so down since I love him know I need your help. I have tried: I have apologized to him and I have gone to his best friend and told them to tell him am so sorry and am sure I have changed and I won't repeat that mistake again and I love him so much. I think it was caused by: He was very abusive then I abused him indirect to my sister and he took my phone when I was sleeping and LED all my massages
Sounds like he is very insecure. He made a commitment to you so remind him that he needs to honor that commitment as you have honored it.
How to fix this situation with my boyfriend being upset with me?
I have cheated on boyfriend physically once, a year ago, and I have talked to other boys. He knows about all of them. In each conversation and argument, I start to shut down. I have told him over and over that I will do things better and different and each time when the conversation starts and when time comes to do things differently, I relapse and do things all the same so he doesn't trust me on my word or actions, to me it is hard to prove anything if he doesn't believe me but I don't expect him to believe me after what I have done to him but I love him and I want things to work out this time. Things were going well until the other day, I got a notification from twitter that an ex-boyfriend followed me back on twitter, I am almost never on twitter. Regardless, he got upset, I unfollowed and blocked him on twitter but it wasn't enough for him to be happy. When I told him that I did, to make sure he knew it, he said 'my friends are my friends' and he hasn't wanted to see me or talk to me since, this was one Wednesday night. I love him and I have messed up time and time again and I cannot get it right but I want to be with him so badly and I just love him a lot. He is a great guy and a great boyfriend. He has always believed in me and I have always let him down and I don't know how to make him not upset with me anymore.. I have tried: Within the two years of being together, I haven't ventured out much other than verbal reassurance and arguing until I get my way. This time, I have went through my social media and unfollowed a lot of people, he is unaware of that because I just did it today and he hasn't talked to me other than saying that I can't come over. I have told him over and over that I will change and do things differently like trust what he says his emotions are, or say how to fix the conversation, or truly take his advice. I am just constantly telling him how I will do things better and I have not yet but this time I tried to think about a conversation and I tried to come over and talk to him but typically every other time I have tried that, it ended badly so he didn't let me this time and I really want to patch it up and have us make amends about the situation..... I think it was caused by: Well, first the cheating, then the lying about it. I have constantly told him all of these promises and I have never gone through with them and now he doesn't trust me or my word because I haven't been able to do things I have said before. He says I act like a victim constantly in any situation and I act like a child too, I have said I will fix this but then I don't know how. it boils down to me saying things and doing the opposite so he can't trust me or my word.
He never really had an opportunity to gain trust with you. Wait a week and if he does not contact you, send him a message saying you miss him and want to work on things because he means everything to you.
I regret cheating on my boyfriend, but after 1 year and a half, he still hasn't forgave me or stopped bringing it up, is there hope?
Well to start I am a recovering addict, and the time I cheated on him happened to be the lowest worst part of my life/addiction. He had gotten kicked out of my house and I had gotten high with my ex (my oldest daughters father) and one bad decision after another I had slept with him. (My boyfriend has been there for my ex's kid since she was a baby, and we have a 3 years old daughter together also) I felt so bad and after deciding to get clean and try and turn my life around I confessed to my boyfriend. Well he freaked of course, badly. I am sorry and love him so much, I don't do anything sneaky, he can go through my messages and texts I have nothing to hide now. But after so long he still brings it up after every little fight and throws it in my face when something irrelevant happens. He looks at me with hate in his eyes. I'm scared he may never forgive me. He says he loves me, but he thinks I don't show him I'm sorry and that I appreciate him. I am so confused..... I have tried: Apologizing. crying. writing him letters. Having threesomes couple times to make it up to him. talking about it. I'm not the best at expressing emotions, I guess it is why he doesn't think I'm sincere and really sorry and that I do appreciate and love him.. I think it was caused by: We were both strung out and in dark place when I cheated, we were fighting a lot and I was unhappy. Things have gotten better but he can't leave the past in the past....keeps bringing it up One of the steps in addiction recovery is to own your mistakes and ask for amends. Do not make the excuse of it was a bad time. Do not make any excuses. Own up to what you did and sincerely ask for forgiveness. He has stuck with you and hopefully once you own up he will begin to forgive.
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Hello, how can I get him to talk to me?
I fell in love last year with my Ex boyfriend. We were totally in love when my Ex stopped by my house unannounced. He thinks I cheated on him and refuses to speak to me. Now he has even blocked me from his phone.
You need to wait until he is receptive to hear from you again. Forcing the conversation will cause him to be defensive and shut down. Write him a letter and send it to him stating all the ways you need him in your life and how you would never cheat on him. Hopefully he will read the letter.
I have a boyfriend, I can't tell him the truth, I've been married before because he told me if he found that I'm already married he will leave me, what am I supposed to do?
What am I supposed to do, can you give me an advise?
Well if you want to marry him in the future you will have to show proof that your previous marriage was officially ended. Better to tell the truth now rather than later.
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Hi, its been a month since we broke up and had a very serious fight and now he only talks to me as a human, will my relation patch up. or it is ended? He never talks by himself he only replies when I message or WhatsApp him?
We broke up and I want him to be back in my life, how should I do It.. I have tried: Called him, cried a lot, fought with him and now ended as we will be good friends.. I think it was caused by: I used to fight a lot with him just because he never gave time to me. Some people are just meant to be friends and not in a romantic relationship. Since he wants to be friends with you, hopefully you can be in a romantic relationship again in the future.
How do I handle being away from him?
My problem is I have a boyfriend and we ran away together and now he is in jail and I am in foster care and the last thing he said to me right before he went to jail was please don't forget me what do I do... I feel like we are falling apart and I feel like he won't love me and I feel like he has forgotten about me Write to him. Give him your address and tell him that you want to regain a connection with him even though he is in prison.
Girls have no rights and never get a second chance then you all people backbiting for her past?
I had lots of friends; boyfriends, but now I want to live my life with him but people are talking about my past which effects our relationship, how to say to my life partner sorry to love me again and forgive my past.. I have tried: I want to make our relationship stronger, so no one can effect. I think it was caused by: I want to say sorry for my past, get upset him The only thing that matters in your relationship is what he thinks of you and not what others think. Whatever you did was in the past before him so there is nothing to apologize for. If he loves you, your past before him will not matter.
How do we get back to the place we were in before this happened?
A while back, when my boyfriend and I were arguing badly and were on and off for a while, I flirted with another guy multiple times and my boyfriend found out about this, and there is no trust there. He has met up with some friends and I told him how scared I was about the girls there and he said I cannot be scared because I cheated, we keep arguing and I don't know what to do.. I have tried: Talking it through calmly, meeting up more to spend more time together, going on a break. I think it was caused by: He has depression, I have anxiety. A lot of previous bad things happened before this which drove me to lean on another guy
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How to get my ex to want me back?
I cheated on my ex, he found out, but I really do love him a lot. He said he feels hurt a lot by what I did, he does love me a lot too. He messaged me saying how hurt he felt, but he said it is too late, damage is done. I really do want him back, what shall I do?. I have tried: I tried to explain that I still love him, I keep apologizing to him, but he said he won't believe me anymore. I told him I will give him time to move on. I think it was caused by: He didn't give me the attention I wanted. I did travel with my guy friend before and he did suspect I went out with guy
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