Exit a Conversation Without Being Rude
Edited by Vanessa Alexandra Avisado, Eng, Lynn, Donna and 1 other
You're trapped in a group conversation at your parent's wedding anniversary party. Some of your nosy relatives are grilling you about your private life, something you have no plans of sharing with anyone, let alone with people who thrive on gossip. You're starting to get anxious, your palms are getting sweaty, and then you remember the techniques used to exit a conversation without being rude.
- 1Try switching to another topic.Advertisement
- 2Politely excuse yourself and tell them you need to be someplace else.Advertisement
- 3Find a way to shorten the conversation.
- 4Introduce someone new.
- 5Be prepared with "emergency exits".
- 6If worse comes to worst, say goodbye in the nicest way possible.Other times they can be so rude (especially when they've already had one drink too many) that they simply won't drop it. When this happens to you and you are left with no choice, just say goodbye in the nicest way possible. "Hi, uncle Bob, it was really great seeing you again. Hope we can meet up some other time, but right now I really have to go."
Nice, but if the tables turn, what do you do when the time has come to plan your wedding and you need to discuss it with your families? Say your mom wants the reception at their country club, while your future father in-law wants it to be held in that fancy restaurant he owns? Maybe you and your fiancé want it to be at the romantic beach resort where the two of you first met. The discussion will likely begin to get a little out of hand. How do you end the conversation or have the last say without being rude?
TIPS on How to Have Grace Under Pressure:
- 1Decide to be a united front.Planning a wedding has the tendency of pitting people against each other, especially those you love and care about the most. So make sure you decide certain aspects of your wedding first, just the two of you, before discussing it with both your parents or the rest of your family. Even if your parents are going to shoulder the cost of the wedding, that does not give them the right to bully you into agreeing to every decision they make.
- 2Fine tune the interference.Determine beforehand the things that are important to you. A vintage dress? Yeah! A great R&B band? Whatever. Then discuss with your parents which of the aspects of the wedding they really want to have a say on. If they're helping with the bill, don't make them pay for everything, just specific items like the food and the band, so you will still have some control. Or maybe you can agree to take care of the ceremony and it's up to them to go all out and crazy with the reception to follow. Just stay sane by remembering the fact that you'll be able to do anything you want to do - after the wedding.
- 3Know where your loyalty lies.That is supposed to be with each other. Don't try to appease your family at the expense of your loved ones. It's your duty to protect each other - never reveal a confidence, expose insecurities, or plan something that you know is in direct conflict with those of your fiancé.Advertisement
Knowing how to exit a conversation without being rude can be a bit of a challenge, but it can be doubly hard when it involves your own kin. At a time when common courtesy is no longer that common, you need to learn to deal with situations with tact and grace, keeping solid composure amid the discomfort of dealing with difficult, inconsiderate, and sometimes downright rude individuals. Blow off steam somewhere else, avoid making a scene, and manage a graceful exit as often as you can. Otherwise, you're no different from these people you despise.
Questions and Answers
How can I exit a text conversation without being rude?
How can I get out of a text conversation without it seeming awkward or abrupt.. I have tried: I say good-bye but it seems abrupt or rude.. I think it was caused by: I am very busy and do not have time to prolong the exit out of the text conversation.
The best option would be end the conversation without answering sometimes. However, you can write that you are preoccupied with something that cannot be deferred. Depending on whether the previous messages were short or long, you could send a message reading either semi-jocular "Now, my work awaits! I apologize, but I have to disappear!" or "If you will excuse me, let me send you a message as soon as I am available. I have to finish my work on [write the basic outline of the preoccupation so that your partner knows that you care about him or her]".
- If you have problems with any of these steps, ask a question for more help, or post in the comments section below.
Categories : Relationships
Recent edits by: Donna, Lynn, Eng