Escape the friend zone (for the guy)

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You really like her, want to date her, but the only problem is that the object of your desire thinks of you as a friend, even worse a brother! I won't lie; it's notoriously difficult to escape the 'friend zone'. First, lets examine the two ways that may have landed you in the friend zone.

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How you got stuck in the friend zone

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    First, there was that very initial attraction the first time you two met, but well, nothing was done about it.
    Now you are stuck wishing you had made a move the first time you laid eyes on her.
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    You have been friends since forever, but somehow one day you felt something in your heart, a burning desire and love for her.
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How to get out of the friend zone

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    Have a balance between being a nice guy and a bad boy.
    The nice guy approach seems appropriate, but girls are different. Some take the nice guys to be easy, soft and boring so they want the bad boy. The problem has sometimes been the good guy; you tend to make other people's feelings are of much importance than your own. You make it seem like your feelings don't matter at all. This reduces your self-worth. Try to find a balance between these two.
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    Realize whether or not she likes you.
    Take your time and figure out if she likes you or not. If you have been kept in the friend zone, it might not actually be your fault. Maybe she is not ready to get into anything serious.
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    Stop calling her Friend!
    By constantly referring her as your friend, she gets the signs that you see her as being nothing more than just a friend. She will suppress any feelings she might have had for you.
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    Touch barrier.
    Break it at all means. There are platonic ways to touch someone and more romantic ways. Hold her hands, shoulders and back. Touch her hair, if she doesn't like it, she will without doubt tell you. Touch is an effective way of letting someone know that you are attracted to them or rather you find them attractive.
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    Make her feel wanted.
    You think she has feelings for you, that's great! You now need to kick the flirting up a notch. Make her know how great and beautiful she looks, comment on her perfume, clothes, don't forget the new hairstyle, whatever you do make her feel like a girl. Make her feel wanted by you.
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    Tell her how you feel.
    Okay, if all the talking and acting doesn't work out, bring out the big guns. Tell her how you feel, this is the only way you will get out of the friend zone. You have laid your cards down on the table so be prepared for anything. There can be only two outcomes, you get the girl of your dreams or not.
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Other things to consider

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    Find another woman.
    If you are sensitive enough and you feel that she is not interested in you then find another woman. In which case, you will not be wasting your time waiting for her answer which is probably "No".
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    Court her for her to know that you are in love with her.
    You should put some effort for her to accept your love. If you confessed to her, you will easily know the answer for your question.
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    See to it that she is not taking advantage of you or your profession.
    Some of them only take advantage of boys because of their money and profession, but have no intention of loving the latter. Check if she is only using you treat her whenever she wants to. You can also feel it when she was only about to call for a date when she needs something. In this case, they are not in love with you but rather in your money and profession.
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    Try to not to show to her even for a couple of days.
    This technique is useful to know whether she will bother when you are not around or not. This is also to test her if she will be communicating with you when you are not around. When she does not do anything to find you then you don't have the opportunity to be with her since you are in her friend zone.
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    To know whether she cares for you, try to assist or being close other girls.
    When she reacts why you are close to other girls, try to think whether she cares for you or it's just about asking and searching for the question. You can also determine here whether she is jealous or not. If she doesn't react or even ask then there is no way for you because she doesn't care and never bother about you.
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Tips Tricks & Warnings

  • If she says no, well, it's pretty hard but you got to move one.
  • Stop thinking about her and enjoy the most out of life!.
  • If you have problems with any of these steps, ask a question for more help, or post in the comments section below.

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Recent edits by: Monica Leslie, Alma, Emmanuel M. Lardizabal

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