Deal with the Pain of Losing a Child

Edited by estrella sacragon, Eng, Lynn

Have you lost a child recently? Is the pain eating you up inside? They say the most painful thing a parent can go through is to outlive their child. Losing a child is very devastating. You mourn for the loss of your their life, future, and potential, and nothing will ever be that same again. But losing a child doesn't mean your life is over. Somehow, you can get through the pain and the grief and hopefully come out on the other side. Below are some tips on how you can deal with the pain of losing a child.

Was this helpful? Yes | No | I need help
Estrella sacragon death.jpg


How to Deal with the Pain of Losing a Child

  1. 1
    Help Yourself Grieve
    When you are grieving, allow yourself to embrace all your feelings and emotions. You have the right to whatever feelings may come up. Most of the times, you will experience intense anger, denial, guilt, fear, and sorrow. All these are just normal feelings for a bereaved parent. For years, we have relied on the notion that people progress through five different stages of grief, which starts with denial and ends with acceptance. However, throw out the timetable. There is really no series of steps you need to complete in the grieving process. Recent studies show that some people accept a loved one's death right from the beginning and eventually yearn more for the lost individual instead of having feelings of depression and anger.
    Was this step helpful? Yes | No | I need help
  2. 2
    Take time off from work, or not
    There are parents who find getting back to work a very unbearable experience, while there are those who prefer to throw themselves into their usual daily routines. There are companies these days that provide their employees with paid personal days. Have no fear of letting your company push you to come back to work even before you are ready.
    Was this step helpful? Yes | No | I need help
  3. 3
    Turn to your faith
    There are parents who find comfort in their teachings, beliefs and rituals. If you are one of them, turn to these things now to help you in your grief recovery. Although there may come a point when your religious beliefs are damaged after the loss of your child, all these are just normal. The time will come when you are able to get back to your faith.
    Was this step helpful? Yes | No | I need help
  4. 4
    Trust in Time
    They say "Time heals all wounds". This may sound like a nonsense and meaningless cliché, but truthfully, time can really help you in recovering from your loss in due time. Of course the memories (even the good ones) will linger every now and then, hurting you to your core. But the time will come when you will start to change and realize that every memory, both good and bad, are memories worth cherishing.
    Was this step helpful? Yes | No | I need help
  5. 5
    Get Enough Sleep
    For some parents, all they want to do is sleep. Then there are those who find themselves staring blankly at the TV or pacing the floors at night. Losing a child cannot only be emotionally tiring, but it can also be physically exhausting. Studies show that losing someone at this magnitude is the same as a major physical injury. Needless to say, you need to have adequate time to rest and sleep. When you feel tired, give in to the urge to have ample sleep.
    Was this step helpful? Yes | No | I need help

Recovering from the loss of a child will take a long time and you will never be truly whole again. As you grieve, do what feels right to you. After all, you don't owe anybody any sort of an explanation for the way you express your grief.

Was this helpful? Yes | No | I need help

Referencing this Article

If you need to reference this article in your work, you can copy-paste the following depending on your required format:

APA (American Psychological Association)
Deal with the Pain of Losing a Child. (2015). In VisiHow. Retrieved Mar 30, 2017, from

MLA (Modern Language Association) "Deal with the Pain of Losing a Child." VisiHow, Accessed 30 Mar 2017.

Chicago / Turabian "Deal with the Pain of Losing a Child." Accessed Mar 30, 2017.

If you have problems with any of the steps in this article, please ask a question for more help, or post in the comments section below.


VisiHow welcomes all comments. If you do not want to be anonymous, register or log in. It is free.

Ask the author

Premier Author
69 Articles Started
752 Article Edits
27,080 Points
Starbucks is a premier author with VisiHow. Starbucks has achieved the level of "Lieutenant" with 27,080 points. Starbucks has started 69 articles (including this one) and has also made 752 article edits. 221,000 people have read Starbucks's article contributions.
Starbucks's Message Board
Starbucks: Hi, my name is Starbucks.
Starbucks: Can I help you with your problem about "Deal with the Pain of Losing a Child"?

Article Info

Categories : Mental Health

Recent edits by: Eng, estrella sacragon

Share this Article:

Thanks to all authors for creating a page that has been read 682 times.

Do you have a question not answered in this article?
Click here to ask one of the writers of this article

Thank Our Volunteer Authors.

Would you like to give back to the community by fixing a spelling mistake? Yes | No