Deal with my drug addict child
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What is drug addiction? Drug addiction is a mental illness. It's characterized by compulsive, uncontrollable, drug craving, seeking, and use that persist even in the face of extremely negative consequences. Factors that can contribute to making a person more vulnerable to drug addiction are family history of addiction, abuse, neglect, or traumatic experiences in their childhood, mental disorders like depression and anxiety, and early use of drugs. The methods used to administer the drugs, such as smoking or injecting a drug, may increase its addictive potential. Your genes, mental health, family and social environment play a vital role in drug addiction.
As a parent, I know that each one of us wants to give our child a better life, and hopefully far better than what we have. We love them, nurture them, and protect them from any harm. We send then to school because we dream that someday they will be successful. We pray that our child can finish college, get a good paying job, have his own family and children and live a normal life. But this wonderful dream of a parent for his child can be wiped out in just a blink of an eye if your child develops a drug addiction. What would you do if you found out that your child is an addict? Would you still hope for a miracle that they will change before your life on earth stops? Up to what extent can you give your child a chance? This article will answer these questions. And hopefully, it will help you on how to deal with your addict child.
Ways to Deal with Addict Child
- 1Find support.Help your child by getting someone to intervene. Family members, close friends, therapist, healthcare provider, people from your faith community, or a counselor. You need these people to hear and help with your situation -- people who will give you good advice.Advertisement
- 2Talk to your child.Let him or her feel that you are willing to offer a support and help. Be careful not to be judgmental with your child. It is best if addiction is treated early. Don't believe that you should wait for an addict to hit the rock bottom. Make a list of the denials and excuses of your child and be prepared to deal with them.Advertisement
- 3Don't attempt to punish, threaten, bribe or preach to your child.They don't need a preacher to tell them what's right or wrong. Don't threaten your child by saying that you will dump him or her if he won't stop using drugs. It will just make the child feel sorry for himself or herself, and the craving for drugs may arise. Don't even try to bribe them. For example, you will tell your child to give up using drug then you will give money or buy an expensive gift. That is not a good practice. Most of the addicts are also good liars. They can make you believe that they're already clean just for the sake of your bribe.
- 4Don't take over their responsibilities.Don't make them feel that they have no sense of importance or dignity. Let them feel that a lot of people around him are still counting on him. This will leave a note in his mind that he is still needs by other people especially his family.
- 5Never Cover up or make excuses for drug abuser.Never shield them with the negative consequences or problem of their behavior.
- 6Never argue with a person when they are high.If they are high tendency is they don't recognize you. They are blind with who's in front of them so beware if they are high. Don't start a conversation or arguments with them
- 7Don't take drugs with drug addict.It's like you are tempting them to use it with your permission.
- 8Don't merely believe when your child is telling you that he or she is already clean and not using drugs anymore.At the very bottom of this page, I will discuss when a person is using drugs.
How to Deal with a Teenager Drug Addict Child
- 1Set rules and consequences.Inform your child the consequences of using drugs. Be sure that you and your spouse can enforce all the rules that you set. Be prepared to follow through with these rules.Advertisement
- 2Teens' activities should be monitored.Be sure that you know who your child is with and where they hang out. Don't forget to check your child's belongings. They might hide drugs inside their backpacks, make-up cases, DVD cases, and even between books on a shelf. Inform your child that a lack of privacy is a consequence of him or her being caught using drugs.
- 3Involve your child in social activities.Encourage your child to join an outside activity like sports or other healthy hobbies. Your child might also enjoy using his or her extra time to learn new skills like crafting or cooking.
- 4Speak to your child.Ask your child what is the real issue behind him or her taking drugs. A major life change could be the reason. Your child might be having trouble fitting in to her or his new environment or other family issues such as divorce is causing him or her so much stress.
- 5Seek help.Teenagers are sometimes likely to turn their back from their parents, but there are other people who will give them advice or information about drug addiction. Sports coaches, drug counselors, family doctors, or therapists may be good people in authority to discuss the pros and cons of drugs. You child might listen to them.
Signs That a Person is Using Drugs
- 1There are often physical signs that a person is using drugs.You can see that they have bloodshot eyes, and the pupils are larger or smaller than the normal size. Take note of their weight, there might be a gain or loss of weight because of the change in their appetite and sleeping patterns. You may also notice that they look haggard. If they look like a mess, and there is a deterioration of their physical appearance and grooming habits, these can be indicators of drug use. The smell of the breath, body and clothes may be unusual. Impaired coordination, slurred speech, and tremors may also be noticeable.Advertisement
- 2There is also a change in the behavior of drug user.There may be a great drop in attendance at school or at work. They may be frequently involved with trouble such as fights, illegal activities or accidents. You might also find out that your child is hanging out with different set of friends, has found a different hangout place or taken on different hobbies. If your child keeps asking you for money, is having financial problems, or you find them stealing or borrowing money, then their money may be going to buy drugs.
- 3There is a psychological change in them.If their personality and attitude is different, or without any reason he or she appears to be paranoid, anxious or fearful, these can be signs of drug use. Other indicators may include that they seem to be spaced out, or they are lethargic and lack motivation. Mood swings are usually present in drug users. They get irritable and tend to have angry outbursts, and then there are times when they are hyperactive, giddy, and agitated.Advertisement
Questions and Answers
My son, 20 years old is on drugs?
My son, 20 years old is on drugs, for last 3 years we have taken him to 3 different rehab and nothing helped, he had a work but lost it because of steeling. He is now sitting at home and steeling all different things at home. About 6 mouths back we got him arrested for steeling money and tools from my garage, he was locked up for two weeks but this also did not help. What to do?
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