Deal with a jealous girlfriend
Edited by Ephraim, Charmed, Reema, Mian Sheilette Ong and 5 others
A small amount of jealousy can add a little fire to a relationship. It strengthens bonds, helps boost communication, serves as a reminder of the physical appeal of your significant other and acts as a motivator for self improvement. That's a small amount. When you are involved with a woman who is extremely jealous, the entire relationship might go up in flames. There are obvious signs when someone is overly jealous. She'll check in on you too often. She'll text you too often. She'll check your Facebook page way too often. She'll call you too often, and if she hears a female voice in the background, she will question you - nay - interrogate you. "Who is she? What are you doing with her? What are you up to?" She is constantly questioning you about any and every woman in your life. Friend, co-worker, student, even your best friend's girlfriend. This girl wants to do everything with you. She doesn't trust you. Basically, she doesn't feel safe when you are out of her sight. Jealousy reveals a person who is insecure. She is afraid. Afraid you will leave her, afraid she isn't good enough for you, afraid you might like another woman better than her. Perhaps you don't tell her enough how important she is, and how much you care for her. Perhaps her fear is more of a projection, and she's actually worried another woman might be capable of doing what she has capable of doing in the past - poaching another woman's man. The worst thing about being untrustworthy, is you never really trust anyone else. There are a few things you can do to deal with your girlfriend's jealousy-fueled behavior. There are things you can do to put her fears to rest. Then again, if she continuously exhibits these annoying traits, even after you've done everything you can, it might be time to reconsider the relationship.
What Not to Do When Dealing with a Jealous Girlfriend
- 1Stop looking at other women when she's around.Advertisement
- 2Do not, under any circumstances, call her crazy.Questioning her mental health is only going to make her more angry and upset. Even if you didn't do anything wrong, refrain from calling her crazy, nuts, psycho - or anything like that.Advertisement
- 3Don't be secretive.
- 4Stop hanging out with or talking about your ex.Even if you're friends and she's a really awesome person, your current girlfriend won't appreciate it in the least, and she probably won't understand why you're not just dating your ex instead.
- 5Don't neglect your girlfriend.
- 6Don't make excuses.If you're out having a good time with your friends, don't send her a message telling her you're having a terrible time and you wish you were with her (unless it's true). She's unlikely to believe it, and more likely to think you're just trying to hide something.
- 8Don't suggest that she change her appearance.Even suggesting something as seemingly minor as changing her hair color can have unintended consequences. This is likely to make her feel insecure. She'll think you wished she looked like someone else, or that she's not good enough the way she is.
How to Deal with a Jealous Girlfriend
- 2Be more open with her.While it might feel more natural to close up when she's demonstrating jealous behavior, that's the wrong move. Avoid being secretive as much as possible. Accept her feelings and discuss them with her, without losing your temper. This will help ease her fears and avoid other problems in the future.
- 3Let your girlfriend know you're thinking about her when you're apart.
- 4Include your girlfriend when talking about future plans.Discussing future plans such as vacations or goals will make her feel more comfortable about her place in your future.
- 5Avoid behavior that brings out her jealousy.Advertisement
- If you have problems with any of these steps, ask a question for more help, or post in the comments section below.
Categories : Relationships
Recent edits by: Shelley, Monica Leslie, Eng