Cope with Being Alone at Christmas

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Why is "Home Alone" a classic favorite that people of all ages love to watch just about any day of the long Christmas season? Aside from Macaulay Culkin's boyish cuteness and savvy ways, and despite all the fun and wit of the movie, it never fails to send you a message - that no one needs to be alone on Christmas day, no matter how naughty you've been. After all, Christmas is all about sharing, loving, family, and traditions.

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With this mindset, people tend to feel sorry for others who have to spend the day alone. This makes being alone on a Christmas day seem like a big deal, even a wretched thing. What some people do not realize is that being alone can actually be something sought or desired, and that it can be a wonderful opportunity to discover something beautiful. And even if you do not like being on your own on such a special occasion, but can't do anything about it, remember you still have the power to make the day just as meaningful as you want it to be. Regardless of the reason, one thing is clear - you must know how to cope with being alone at Christmas.

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Christmas is definitely a time for traditions. Sadly, some of the common traditions are so deeply rooted that they become expectations that are sometimes hard, if not impossible, to fulfill. Traditions like gifting every person who matters in your life, or filling those stockings hanging from the mantle where Santa is supposed to land first from the chimney are sometimes just too expensive. Traditions like being with your family on this day can mean crossing hundreds to thousands of miles; that is not only expensive, but it can be very impractical too.

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If you decide you can't go home for Christmas, what are you to do? Regardless of whether you are alone and you hate it, or you are alone and loving it, you can always make it a special day. How? One way is by discovering how being alone can be a blessing. And another way, if you like to be surrounded by people, is to create opportunities and make those moments memorable.

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The Bliss of Being Alone

With all the hustle and bustle going on in your life, being alone for a day or two can be bliss. This can be a good time to do the stuff you have been missing for far too long. When you have but very little time to yourself, solitude is like a gift, which is quite fitting for the occasion, don't you think?

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Then the solitude can be welcomed, even enjoyed. To do this, forget about what is "supposed to be" for the day. Think of relaxation and de-stressing. Remember that a lot of people are under the weather at this time with too much stress – last minute shopping, endless cooking, entertaining friends and relatives who are dropping by, wrapping gifts, and reviewing lists of people and things to do. Whew! For a change, take advantage of being alone. Here are some things you can do to enjoy Christmas alone:

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    Bask in Solitude.
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    If you have been inadvertently or deliberately cut off from your family and friends, enjoy the solitude and the moment. What is a relaxing day for you? If it is about bringing on "sinful foods", then go out the day before and stock up on the foods you enjoy. If you are a movie addict, then buy yourself a bunch of DVDs for a movie marathon, plus a combination of gourmet and junk food you can dive into on a Christmas day. Christmas is all about indulging yourself without the guilt, so seize the day and eat to your heart's content.
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    Cut your backlogs.
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    If you are a workaholic, what could make the day happier than more work, and being productive? You can do "take home work" or finish some of those chores you have wanted to do around the house for months on end – start a project, do some repairs, etc. If your job entails interacting with customers and fellow workers, you are not really alone.
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    It's your chance to reflect.
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    If you are always busy, chances are you don't have the time to assess your life - what's going on and where it is leading. Why not focus on yourself and your life at this time? This is indeed a good time to give yourself a pat on the back and say, "You're doing great, buddy!" It is time to appreciate your blessings - good health, family and friends (even if they are away), a roof over your head and food to nourish you.
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    It is not too late; plan ahead.
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    When things are not going the way you want them to, there is no reason to be demoralized or depressed. Be positive. Christmas is also about hope and promise. While alone on Christmas day, look forward. Think and plan for better days ahead. This is the best time to take stock of your life, shift gears and work toward something positive.
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    Picking up where you left off.
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    Is there any hobby or artistic talent you have neglected due to lack of time? How about picking up your old paint brushes and dabbing some colors on a canvas to express your feelings? What about cooking yourself a dish that reminds you of home, friends, and traditions? This way, it will still feel like home.
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    Treat yourself to a relaxing spa day at home.
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    If you have neglected yourself lately, it is time to reward yourself with some much deserved rest and relaxation. Spoil yourself with the comfort of a spa in your own bathroom. Light an aromatic candle and sip a cup of a relaxing tea. Or you can curl up on a comfortable sofa with a book, hot cocoa, and some baked goodies and sweets. Read a novel by the warmth of the fireplace. Surely this is a gift of wonderful solitude like no other.
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    It is "mind over matter".
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    If it is circumstantial that you are in this situation – working or studying abroad or stranded somewhere because of bad weather – bitterness may swallow you up. If there is nothing you can do about it, why bother moping and licking your own wounds? First, let your mind rule over your emotions. They make the best out of the situation. Just yourself that there are so many lonely souls out there who are in, perhaps, a worse situation. Count your blessings.
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Seek Company and Share Time

If you have more than a day or two to be on your own, you can't spend it all isolated when the whole world is celebrating. Just when you are on the brink of feeling lonely while remembering loved ones back home, get out and seek the company of other warm bodies. No matter where you are, there must be other souls around with whom you can have meaningful Christmas moments. This is a good opportunity to feel the real spirit of giving and sharing. There are many things that you can do and places you can go. Most people are just extra caring during holidays. Here are some great Christmas ideas that will allow you to share your time with others:

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    Can I be of help?
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    Have you ever done volunteer work to share your blessings with less fortunate? Doing good deeds during the Christmas season can be very uplifting and inspiring. It can truly give your Christmas a new meaning. You can perhaps help out in a soup kitchen for the homeless. If you like to be surrounded by kids, host a Christmas party for orphans. You can also buy or collect inexpensive toys for kids who are needy. How about joining others to give the elderly in a nursing home a warm Christmas celebration? The beauty of volunteering is tremendous. It will also ensure that you will not be alone on this day.
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    Hang out with friends.
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    This is a great alternative for people who are away from their families; to be with their friends who they also enjoy. Find out who among your friends who may be spending the day without any company as well, and you can arrange to spend it together at your place - plan some activities, food and drinks. This will indeed be a blast.
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    Singles' meet ups.
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    If you're single, isn't this a good time to look for a singles organization and have a great time with someone who is also looking forward to meeting another single? You can arrange and plan something to do on that day. Maybe you can even go out of town, participate in in-town get-togethers, or go to some singles clubs offering holiday packages.
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    Say "YES" to invitations.
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    Christmas is about sharing, and those people you talk to regularly at work or school must know that you are away from your family, so you will probably be showered with invitations. Perhaps you are alone because you have decided to take pleasure in being alone this time, but it is not too late. Maybe you can accept an invitation so you can join your host for a Christmas lunch or dinner. Call them and say you are ecstatic to be part of their tradition.
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    Social media is being with others too.
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    It can be a little different from how you used to spend Christmas at home, but if you are just wanting to talk and be with people, you will never run out of people to talk to on your Facebook, Skype or Twitter account. These can also connect you to family and friends back home. With some drinks and Christmassy snacks, you can have the fun of being "with others" too, even if is just online.
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    Call your family and friends.
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    Communication technology is so fantastic. You can call your loved ones, hear their voices and talk to them anytime during the day. Save enough time for this call so you can talk to them for as long as you want. Enjoy the moments together rather than make it a reason to feel more sad and miserable.
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If being alone is not your idea of a perfect Christmas, reach out. Wherever you are, even if you're in an airport terminal, there are other people there who also feel lonely. Talk to them, invite them for a cup of coffee, swap stories, call a family or a friend. You can go out where people go – parks, malls, restaurants, or festivals. Find a place where your spirit can be buoyed by the cheerfulness of the season.

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There you have it. If you have no choice but be on your own this holiday, remember there are many ways to cope with being alone at Christmas. You can take advantage of your single blessedness and make this day a quality in the books. Or get out and find yourself a meaningful way to spend Christmas with others. Either way, have a Merry Christmas!

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