Ascertain if You Have a Borderline Personality Disorder

Edited by Ermin, Graeme, Eng, Lynn and 7 others

Borderline personality disorder - ermin2.jpg

Do you find yourself experiencing inner turmoil and you're not sure why? Do you find yourself participating in unsafe sexual activity because you don't truly care about yourself or anyone else? If you find that these things are true or that you sometimes contemplate suicide because you feel worthless, these could be clues that you have a borderline personality disorder. To find out if you have this mental disease, you may want to read the following information below. This will help you ascertain if you have a borderline personality disorder.

Was this helpful? Yes | No | I need help


What is borderline personality disorder?

Borderline personality disorder (BPD) is a serious emotional disease, which mainly focuses on a person's unstable and unpredictable mood swings. The term "borderline" comes from the evaluation in the 1940's that the disease was on the border between two mental conditions, psychosis and neurosis. At present, the understanding is no longer relevant to borderline personality disorder. Symptoms or signs of BPD may start in early adulthood. It is characterized by turbulence, negligence, impulsiveness, rapid mood swings, identity problems, suicidal attempts or self-inflicted injury, job instability, marital issues, severe feelings of hopelessness, and fear of being alone. These are somewhat similar to the symptoms and signs of bipolar disorder.

Was this helpful? Yes | No | I need help

Differences between borderline personality disorder and bipolar disorder

More often than not, people are confused by the two terms. Borderline personality disorder refers to the person's emotions and personality, while bipolar disorder refers to the person's thought processes. This is a huge difference between the two terms. BPD is believed to be developed by how the person was brought up. He or she may have experienced childhood abuse. Thus, these experiences are thought to be the major risk factors for borderline personality disorder. The cause of bipolar disorder is due to genetics, while BPD can be or not be due to a family history of BPD. A person with BPD may suffer more severe depressive emotions and attempt habitual suicidal acts and self-mutilation. BPD does not have different episodes, unlike bipolar disorder. However, symptoms and signs of depressive episodes in bipolar disorder are similar to BPD. Now, more and more people are diagnosed with borderline personality disorder than bipolar disorder.

Was this helpful? Yes | No | I need help

The truth about having a borderline personality disorder

If you have not yet been diagnosed with BPD, this may be the right page for you to ascertain if you have a borderline personality disorder. Below are a few signs and symptoms of having BPD:

  1. 1
    Extreme fear of being alone and becoming lonely.
    When a person with BPD feels extreme loneliness and thinks that he or she is neglected, he or she may do things that are inappropriate, like throwing or breaking things due to anger and fear.
    Was this step helpful? Yes | No | I need help

  2. 2
    Engaging in unsafe sexual activity.
    A person with borderline personality disorder can be careless when it comes to sexual acts. That is why he or she is prone to STD or sexually transmitted disease.
    Was this step helpful? Yes | No | I need help

  3. 3
    Threatening other people who are close to them.
    A person with BPD may threaten people who are important to them, so that they won't leave him or her.
    Was this step helpful? Yes | No | I need help

  4. 4
    Committing suicide or self-mutilation.
    If a person with BPD thinks that he or she is going to be neglected, he or she may commit suicide or mutilate himself or herself. A person with BPD does not want to live alone and if he or she does, there is a big chance that he or she will think of putting an end to his or her life.
    Was this step helpful? Yes | No | I need help

  5. 5
    Unstable relationships with other people.
    A person with BPD unpredictably changes his or her mood. He or she may become aggressive and easily get angry and irritated. This situation makes other people around him or her misunderstand the condition. They will think that the person is going insane, and thus they are going to leave him or her.
    Was this step helpful? Yes | No | I need help

  6. 6
    Feeling of extreme guilt.
    A person with BPD may feel extreme guilt after hurting somebody. When he or she gets annoyed, he or she may hurt somebody through punching him or her. Afterwards, he or she may then feel guilty and offer an apology.
    Was this step helpful? Yes | No | I need help

  7. 7
    Uncontrollable emotions.
    A person with BPD does not know how to control his or her emotions. Whatever he or she thinks, he or she will do it on the spot without thinking of the outcome first.
    Was this step helpful? Yes | No | I need help

  8. 8
    Recurring stress-related paranoid thoughts.
    A person with BPD has repetitive stress-related paranoid thoughts. He or she may be pessimistic, although what he or she thinks is not factual.
    Was this step helpful? Yes | No | I need help

  9. 9
    Serious dissociative symptoms.
    Sometimes, a person with BPD is delusional and hallucinating. He or she may think or utter unusual topics that are not true. He or she may be losing connection with reality.
    Was this step helpful? Yes | No | I need help


The above are a few of signs and symptoms of borderline personality disorder. There may be other signs that are relevant to the disorder, but heightened emotions are a major sign that a person may have borderline personality disorder.

Was this helpful? Yes | No | I need help

Causes of borderline personality disorder

One thing is for sure, borderline personality disorder mainly develops due to environmental factors, for example, childhood experiences. A person may have undergone abnormal family relationships and child abuse when he or she was younger. Another cause is genetics. It is also believed that borderline personality disorder may be inherited from a family member who has the same illness or other types of mental disorder, such as bipolar disorder. BPD may get worse depending on how the person was brought up, social relations, and other environmental factors.

Was this helpful? Yes | No | I need help

Treatment for borderline personality disorder

Mental health professionals like psychotherapists may help a person with BPD cope with his or her emotions and thinking. A psychotherapist is a big help for a person with a mental disorder, because he or she can help regulate and control unpredictable emotions and mood swings. Apart from that, medications can also be helpful in reducing extreme depression. Medications may be antidepressants, but these cannot help regulate and control their heightened emotions. Self-help is another way of overcoming signs and symptoms of BPD. This is often overlooked by some mental health professionals. As a matter of fact, self-help methods can be very effective in combating signs and symptoms. A person with BPD should put himself or herself in society. He or she should learn how to get along with others to overcome some symptoms. People should also be supportive and helpful for a person with BPD. They can be a great help in decreasing the risk of borderline personality disorder.

Was this helpful? Yes | No | I need help

So, now you have learned the truth about borderline personality disorder. You may want to start asking for help from a professional psychiatrist and doing self-help methods to reduce the risk of the disorder. Signs and symptoms are quite uncomfortable. You can hurt somebody if you are provoked. Unsafe sexual acts and self-mutilation are uncontrollable behaviors during the depressive stage. These should be controlled in order not to hurt yourself and other people.

Was this helpful? Yes | No | I need help

Questions and Answers

Can my 18 year old BPD step daughter live alone?

My fiance lives in San Jose and I am in Seattle. He is going back and forth for a year and half now and he is tired of travel. Is she able to live by herself? We are not going to abandon her but my fiance is going crazy with her. Please help.

Was this helpful? Yes | No | I need help

As stated in the article, most people with BPD do not want to live alone. If the travel is becoming a burden to you and your fiance, you need to discuss with your step-daughter where she wants to live. It's possible that she is okay with living on her own, but it's also possible that you will need to give her a place to stay at your house. Do not pressure her into anything; let her make her own decision so she feels most comfortable with her life.

Was this helpful? Yes | No | I need help

What to do to help recover from BPD?

My emotions are very full on and I just want to isolate myself from the world

VisiHow QnA. This section is not written yet. Want to join in? Click EDIT to write this answer.


VisiHow welcomes all comments. If you do not want to be anonymous, register or log in. It is free.

Premier Author
47 Articles Started
1,286 Article Edits
29,110 Points
Ermin is a premier author with VisiHow. Ermin has achieved the level of "Lieutenant" with 29,110 points. Ermin has started 47 articles (including this one) and has also made 1,286 article edits. 588,000 people have read Ermin's article contributions.
Ermin's Message Board
Ermin: Hi, my name is Ermin.
Ermin: Can I help you with your problem about "Ascertain if You Have a Borderline Personality Disorder"?

Article Info

Categories : Health & Wellness

Recent edits by: VisiHow, Calob Horton, Afsaneh35

Share this Article:

Thanks to all authors for creating a page that has been read 3,270 times.

Do you have a question not answered in this article?
Click here to ask one of the writers of this article

Thank Our Volunteer Authors.

Would you like to give back to the community by fixing a spelling mistake? Yes | No