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3 years in and something feels wrong. How do I get his attention?
HI he committed to do some things for me last week that we needed to work on together. I said let's meet. Then he called me the next evening was not sure of his schedule and he'd call me back. He never did. I had a really bad dream that night a premonition of things going wrong. I wrote him and said I can't sleep, no response. As the issues were work related I tried to reach him a day later. No response. Finally Friday, he called apologized said he'd had issues, but thanks for doing the work he thought it was great, started to tell me about some of his problems and then I overrode him with mine which was selfish. I said yeah no worries me too, and then he said he had to go and I stupidly texted afterward "let's meet I'll help make your problems feel better" to which I got no response, I was feeling hmmm so I texted again later. No response. He did send me some work suggestions the next day, but nothing, absolutely nothing private. He likes other people stuff on Facebook, but with me, he is totally silent. We've been "friends" for 3 years now and in the last 3 weeks, it's been a little like that. All over me in private, but the minute I am gone barely acknowledging me not calling/writing. I don't understand because like last weekend he called me to go out I said sure, we had an awesome time together and now he is just gone and I don't know how to repair my needy emotions of the weekend and get back control and I still want to say his behavior is not OK though. I am so confused. Help.
It sounds like he feels conflicted with you. He may not know whether to start a relationship with you or end the friendship. He also could just have been caught up in the moment when he was physical with you and now regrets it or is feeling embarrassed. Stop chasing him down. Perhaps he has started to see someone and not sure how to tell you. Either way, it is best if you move on. If he contacts you to hang out, don't cancel any plans you already have previously made. As for work, you want to stay professional. Speak with him when necessary and that is it.
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